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Happy New Year to everyone!
A huge thank you for supporting 2Shades magazine in 2024.

Adishiri Chengappa and I have loved bringing you the latest features and interviews, and we cannot wait to bring you even more in 2025.

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Steven’s Viewz and Tales of a Middle-Aged Single Gay Man have found a new home at 2Shades and will continue, alongside our fantastic columnists Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE and counsellor Heidi Gammon.

Here we go with the first Steven’s Viewz of 2025:

The tragic death of Liam Payne .

Stop Looking for Fall Guys in the Tragic Death of Liam Payne
The death of someone like Liam Payne is a heartbreaking loss that demands empathy, understanding, and respect for the complexity of life. Rather than searching for a fall guy, it is far more meaningful to reflect on the broader, more nuanced issues that contribute to such a tragedy.

Addiction is an illness that often stems from trauma and other mental health issues. It is particularly prevalent in the entertainment industry and has led to many untimely deaths of stars. The tragic passing of any public figure due to addiction inevitably triggers widespread grief, speculation, and often, finger-pointing. Liam Payne’s death is no exception. While the public mourns, a darker trend emerges—the search for a “fall guy.” A fall guy is typically someone or something blamed for a tragedy, serving as a scapegoat to deflect responsibility from the true complexities of the situation. In Payne’s case, this search for accountability is not only premature but deeply misguided.

Having witnessed it firsthand at some showbiz events, I can attest to the anticipation surrounding the arrival of “Charlie”—code for cocaine. Naturally, it is too risky for the stars themselves to collect the drugs. Instead, minions, restaurant owners, waiters, and assistants are either prepared with supplies or dispatched to fetch them. There was even a well-known hairdresser (who has sadly passed) whose clients eagerly awaited him in Chelsea salons, knowing his dealer would arrive while he styled their hair. When something goes wrong and a star dies, the hunt for the fall guy begins. But ruining other lives won’t solve anything. Yes, involvement with drugs is dangerous, but is the waiter or friend who picks up the drugs truly to blame? Why not the dealer? Should we chase the manufacturer, the source of trauma that led to addiction, or perhaps the manager, agent, or pushy parent? None of this will bring anyone back.

It is essential to remember that the passing of someone like Liam Payne is, above all, a human tragedy. Behind the headlines are family, friends, and millions of fans who loved and admired him. The emotional weight of such an event should not be overshadowed by a rush to assign blame. While the desire for answers is natural, it is equally important to recognize the multifaceted nature of any person’s life and death. No simple explanation can neatly tie together the circumstances leading to such a loss, and the pursuit of a scapegoat often causes more harm than good.

Public figures like Payne live their lives under intense scrutiny. Every aspect of their existence—personal struggles, relationships, professional choices—is dissected by the media and the public. This exposure creates a paradox: it elevates celebrities to mythic status while simultaneously holding them accountable for every misstep. The relentless search for fall guys attempts to rationalize senseless events, but this mindset overlooks a critical point—blaming others won’t heal the pain or bring back the person we’ve lost.

Another issue is society’s tendency to compartmentalize celebrity lives. The public often forgets that stars like Liam Payne are human beings facing their own battles. Fame brings pressure, and the mental health challenges many celebrities endure are often invisible. The expectation to maintain perfection, fit a certain image, and constantly perform can push them into precarious situations that outsiders rarely understand. By seeking fall guys, we overlook the societal and emotional pressures that contribute to their struggles.

Moreover, focusing on blame detracts from vital conversations about mental health, substance abuse, and the need for better support systems. When tragedies like Payne’s occur, the emphasis should shift to understanding the systemic issues at play. Instead of fixating on blame, society must prioritize mental health resources, destigmatize seeking help, and foster environments where individuals—whether public figures or not—feel safe reaching out for support.

Ultimately, the death of someone like Liam Payne is a profound loss that calls for compassion and reflection. Rather than searching for scapegoats, it is far more valuable to address the broader issues contributing to such tragedies. In doing so, we honor the individual’s life and may even help prevent future losses.

Braian Nahuel Paiz guilty of people pleasing .

Let’s not place blame on his friend Braian Nahuel, whose only crime is being a people pleaser—a quality many stars are surrounded by. With time and experience, he will undoubtedly learn and grow.

Right Said Fred: Why we could all worryingly be heading towards an Argentine style government

Do not say you were not warned . A very likely prospect for Prime Minister Nigel Farage.

A shift towards Argentina’s political model could pave the way for Nigel Farage to gain power or, at the very least, co-leadership with the Conservatives.

Two years ago, I wrote about the pendulum effect—the idea that political climates can swing back to right-wing governance if we are not strategic. Unfortunately, we haven’t been. In my opinion, it was inconceivable that Labour could take over and fix the mess left by the Tory government. However, I never imagined that they could actually make things worse.

Argentina’s President Javier Milei has made significant progress in revitalizing his country by implementing bold economic reforms and addressing long-standing issues such as inflation, public debt, and government inefficiency. One of his key achievements has been reducing inflation through stringent monetary policies and fiscal discipline, restoring confidence in the national currency. By cutting unnecessary government spending and promoting privatization in struggling sectors, his administration has stabilized the economy and attracted foreign investment.

Javier Milei


Additionally, Milei’s focus on deregulation has encouraged entrepreneurship and fostered a more competitive market environment, creating jobs and boosting productivity. Infrastructure projects and public-private partnerships have revitalized the transportation and energy sectors, enhancing Argentina’s global competitiveness.

Efforts to renegotiate international debt have eased financial pressures, allowing the government to redirect resources towards social programs, healthcare, and education. This balanced approach has improved living standards for many Argentinians.

By promoting transparency, combating corruption, and streamlining bureaucratic processes, Milei has cultivated a more favorable climate for both domestic and international investors. These initiatives have collectively contributed to renewed economic growth, increased stability, and optimism about Argentina’s future. The country is now better positioned to navigate global challenges and sustain long-term prosperity.

However there is downside Milei’s policies has received criticism for their negative impact on climate change, the arts, and LGBTQ+ rights. His administration’s push for deregulation has led to reduced environmental protections, allowing corporations to exploit natural resources with minimal oversight. This has exacerbated deforestation, pollution, and carbon emissions, hindering Argentina’s climate change commitments.

Moreover, government cuts to cultural programs have significantly affected the arts community, leading to decreased funding for theaters, museums, and public art initiatives. This shift has marginalised artists and weakened Argentina’s rich cultural landscape.

In terms of social policies, Milei’s conservative stance has put LGBTQ+ rights at risk. Efforts to curtail protections and dismiss inclusive education initiatives have fostered a climate of discrimination and intolerance. Advocacy groups warn that these regressive measures could reverse years of progress in equality and representation.

Globally, money is the ultimate deciding factor in politics. As the phrase on the US dollar says, “In God We Trust,” but it often feels like money is what truly holds power. This reality helped Donald Trump secure victory in the US.

If Argentina positives have come at the cost of climate change initiatives and the arts. If the UK follows a similar path, LGBTQ+ rights and other social movements considered “woke” may face increased scrutiny.

I have only met Mr. Farage once, and all I can say is that he has a lovely girlfriend. Now is the time to think outside the box and stop prioritising issues that fail to resonate with mainstream voters. Rome wasn’t built in a day, but it took just one earthquake to bring it down. The right-wing wave approaching could set us back to 1933.

JK Rowling says ‘no child is born in the wrong body’


Harry Potter author insists there are ‘no trans kids,’ only adults believing in an ideology that will ‘wreak more harm than lobotomies.’

If this God fella allowed children to be born with all sorts of conditions, it’s just possible one or two might have been popped into the wrong body, JK.

I do wish JK Rowling would choose a more worthwhile topic to battle. She has every right to express her views, and I respect that.

As for my views on the topic—if a person has undergone two years of therapy and gender reassignment surgery, they should be recognized as their chosen sex.

A man in a nylon wig and skirt is not trans; they are a transvestite and should not have the rights of the opposite sex.

Children should not be forced into rigid categories but allowed to explore who they are. However, no surgeries should take place until the age of 21, when they have fully matured. But that is my view and.

at present we are all allowed it with out hopefully getting hysteical

An ideal gift .

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Does a Healing Touch Lead to Better Aesthetics?

Intensive care nurse Claire Sweeney.

Steven Smith meets intensive care nurse Claire Sweeney, who is bringing her unique touch to the aesthetics world.

My dear friend Nicki Rodriguez arrived for lunch looking stunning—and noticeably younger than when we last met a few months ago. Nicki, a former WAG and fellow PR professional, has since transitioned into a wildlife presenter at “Living Things.” She knows all the best beauty spots, especially in her stomping ground of Essex. I was determined to find out what was giving her that extra sparkle.

Nicki Rodriguez someone who not only looks beautiful . She knows the best in the business,

“I had a little freshen-up,” Nicki laughed, adding that it was honestly the best treatment she had ever received. Digging deeper, she revealed that everyone in Essex is talking about a woman who is not only brilliant at aesthetics but whose touch makes the process remarkably comfortable. “She just has this healing touch. You really feel she cares. It was the first time someone measured my face and pointed out what would make a difference and what didn’t need attention.”

The woman in question is Claire Sweeney, who runs a small aesthetics business in Brentwood, Essex—CM Aesthetics.

Claire has worked as an intensive care nurse for ten years. Nursing was her dream from a young age. A mother of three, Claire discovered the aesthetics field through a friend and felt it was a natural addition to her skill set. “I like to look good,” Claire said, “so I was fascinated by aesthetics.” Taking out a loan, she enrolled in a training course while continuing her nursing career.

Claire Sweeney on The Aston Avery show .

“I realised what was lacking in a lot of aesthetic work I had seen. Many practitioners weren’t looking at the whole face. I don’t just want to administer Botox—my technique is like sculpting or using fillers in  addition in the  right places can bring out the best results. Treating by area alone can have disappointing  effects.”

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When Claire began practicing, clients commented on how much time she spent discussing realistic outcomes. “You can’t turn a squirrel into a cat,” she joked. “My goal is to bring out the best version of someone, not make them look completely different. People leave wondering what they’ve done, but they simply look fresher and younger.”

Fresh lips created by Claire Sweeney ,

Clients frequently mention Claire’s healing touch. “Maybe it’s something I naturally have, or perhaps it’s the empathy I developed through nursing. I’m considering studying Reiki in the new year to enhance my craft. I wouldn’t claim that having healing hands guarantees better aesthetics, but many clients say their experience with me is less painful.”

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Aesthetics has given 45 year old Claire the freedom to manage her schedule, allowing her to spend more time with her children. “Making people feel good and look their best gives me immense satisfaction,” she concluded.

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Scouting Unique Artists in Bangalore: Ragini Chatterjee

Ever wondered about artists in Bangalore?
Ragini Chatterjee transcends one’s expectations and the universal need to put her art out for people, she lets her soul paint
Ragini Chatterjee

I’m always in search of unique art and now that I’m back in my home city, I wanted to explore the world of artists in Bangalore.

I found Ragini Chatterjee in the depths of an Instagram stalking session on a page that promotes young artists in the city.

I was blown away by her ability to not only make me wide-eyed at her work on first glance, but also draw me into the intricacies of her art.

Being away from home and in the UK for a couple of years sidetracked my memory of the rich talent that exists within my own people. I’m so glad my stalking, I mean, research skills led me to Ragini’s mind palace, one that seems to hypnotise me in an instant.

I still can’t stop looking; I had to know the heart behind this enigma. And so I asked her some questions to get know who she is for you and for me.

When did you first recognise your talent? What was your first ever painting?

I’m not sure if it was “talent” or simply my overactive imagination that led me to painting. I spent most of my classes doodling, but my first “proper” drawing, one I remember being proud of, was a sketch of Aang from The Last Airbender. I think I was around 9 years old.

What does your art mean to you?

Art is how I process the world around me. Whether it’s a book, series, or movie I’m captivated by, expressing my excitement through art brings me peace. On a deeper level, art allows me to visualise insights about life that resonate with me. Sharing these pieces is fascinating because others often interpret them in ways that reflect their own experiences, creating a unique dialogue between the viewer and the work.

If you could vouch for other artists, what would your message be to the world about the importance of self-expression?

To anyone who feels deeply—whether you’re an artist or not—self-expression is vital. Whether through art, music, fashion, or dance, it’s a natural outlet that should be embraced. Suppressing this instinct can feel overwhelming, and letting it out often creates something beautiful. In today’s fast-paced world, self-expression serves as a poignant reminder of our shared humanity.

A portrait called ‘Mommy’

There’s an abundance of extraordinary talent such as yourself in India. I’ve come across many who feel overwhelmed by the competition in the creative industry and settle into different industries to survive. What are your thoughts on this? Does survival overrule passion? Or does it depend on how one perceives it?

I feel fortunate to create for myself, but I’d be lying if I said recognition didn’t motivate me. However, I wouldn’t describe the creative industry as “competitive.” This perspective probably stems from my choice not to pursue art as a full-time career. By separating my livelihood from my art, I’ve been able to enjoy the process without the pressure of survival, allowing my passion to thrive independently.

Who or what has inspired you to create your pieces?

Life inspires me—everything from a captivating colour scheme to an idea I need to visualise. For example, I painted Behind the Kitten to challenge the misconception that cuteness equates to weakness. In college, I explored the myth of Icarus to reflect on self-discovery and freedom. During the pandemic, I delved into Pandora’s myth, and more recently, I created a piece about self-care inspired by the idea that you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Explain the creative process behind your work. Is it a cathartic journey? How does it make you feel?

My creative process begins with a need to express something—whether it’s an idea that’s been simmering for weeks or an immediate fascination with a book, movie, or series. Once I find a reference photo, I dive in, spending anywhere from half an hour to a week on the piece. While creating is cathartic, I’m often preoccupied with achieving aesthetic beauty, which makes it challenging to feel fully satisfied with my work.

What do you wish for people to experience through your work?

I hope my art evokes a sense of connection and invites viewers to appreciate its aesthetic qualities.

Tell us about a response you’ve received about your art that made you feel happy or seen.

There isn’t a single comment that stands out, as my satisfaction primarily comes from how I feel about a piece. However, I enjoy hearing reactions like, “Wow, that’s so pretty.” I also love when people share their interpretations of my work—it’s fascinating how their perspectives differ from my own.

You’re currently in Paris. Has the cultural shift played any role in the expansion of your vision? I believe life experiences can elevate one’s art. Tell us about your experience.

While my surroundings have changed, my art remains influenced by similar themes—my life experiences, books, movies, and shows. The cultural shift has enriched my perspective, but I wouldn’t say it has drastically changed the essence of my work.

How can someone find you, your work, and reach out to you?

I have a website where people can leave messages, but the easiest way to connect with me is through Instagram or email.

To reach out to Ragini, email her at raginichatterjee99@gmail.com

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2shades” Smoggie Queens.” Is bullying ever funny ?

Steven Smith takes a look at BBC’s Smoggie Queens . https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/m0024pgt/smoggie-queens

https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/m0024pgt/smoggie-queens

There is no doubt that “Smoggie Queens” has moments of comedic brilliance. However, the constant bullying by Dickie (played by Phil Dunning, whose drag persona is Tuna Baguette) of the younger queen Stewart ( Elijah Young ) makes for uncomfortable viewing.at times This theme runs throughout the entire series, becoming repetitive and embodying everything we do not want to see in contemporary LGBTQ+ storytelling or comedy .

https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/m0024pgt/smoggie-queens

Having been a young teenager treated similarly by an older gay man when I was simply seeking advice and desperate for acceptance, I could relate to the discomfort the series evokes. I recall being humiliated when the most attractive man at the bar approached me at 16, bypassing my own “Dickie.” Outside, I was punched and accused of making myself look cheap—pure jealousy. Sadly, the gay scene isn’t always the “We Are Family” utopia it’s often portrayed to be. Mean queens are a reality, and most cases, they’re not particularly funny.

Dickie, unfortunately, is where the show falters. Phil Dunning, the writer and creator, fails to bring much depth to the character, leaving him unlikeable. As Dickie’s former boyfriend Harrison aptly states, “I have really tried to love you, but you’re selfish, egotistical prick .” This sentiment defines how Dunning plays Dickie throughout the series, both in and out of drag. While Dunning’s screen presence is undeniable, it’s disappointing that he didn’t explore more dimensions of Dickie’s character. Even in the end, when Dickie shows a glimmer of empathy for his victim, it feels like too little, too late.

Dickie (played by Phil Dunning, whose drag persona is Tuna Baguette)

Where “Smoggie Queens” truly shines is in its brilliant supporting cast. Mark Benton as Mam is nothing short of phenomenal. Channeling the charm of greats like the legendary Marc Fleming, Benton delivers an award-worthy performance that leaves you in stitches from the moment Mam appears. While it would have been easy to play Mam solely for laughs, Benson’s portrayal is a masterclass in combining comedy with humanity, making Mam a character you simply can’t get enough of.

Alexandra Mardell as Lucinda, the ultimate “fag hag” on the lookout for love, teams up with Patsy Lowe as Sal to deliver comedy gold. Their beautifully understated performances result in side-splitting humor that elevates the show.

There are some notable guest appearances: RuPaul’s Drag Race star Michelle Visage plays the office spinster (and who doesn’t love her?). Plus, there’s a brilliant cameo by Steph McGovern. Notably, Michael Hodgson’s Nan is both menacing and camp.

While the series does have its merits, it also reinforces certain stereotypes about the LGBTQ+ community. Instead of challenging these clichés or providing fresh perspectives, “Smoggie Queens” sometimes leans into them, which feels like a missed opportunity in an otherwise promising show.

This is a show that will for sure be recommissioned. It is no “Will and Grace ” or “Gimmie, Gimmie . But it does a firm Mark Benton as comic genius and open the gates to a new talent in Elijah Young .

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Understanding the Dual Nature of Friendships

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In George Khoury’s words…
Friendships hold deep bonds, sometimes as deep as family bonds
But are friendships always good? Or are they also damaging if you don’t know yourself?

People come and go into our lives on a daily basis. Some we see everyday and others are months and even years apart. There’s a special connection that can make us feel that time never passed. Inside, you know that this person will always be in your life, no matter how much time apart you have. This is the beautiful part of true friendship and companionship. 

But what brings people together?

A common ground, family, employment, education, or through coincidental events that lead people to form a relationship. Mutual memories and shared experiences create a narrative that only they know and can share.

When it’s tied to a historical significance, it seals a feeling of forever that can never be downplayed or recreated. A story of friendship and joint paths. That somehow the universe had this written and the belief that one can’t exist without the other. A sense of belonging in a period of time.

If independence, self-love and self-control are seen as essential qualities, then are these relationships set up to eventually fail?

Everyone has their own lives. We can’t always be there through all the highs and lows our friends experience. We all have our own paths. These paths are directed by our life choices and events. They stem from our natural development and a change in priorities. 

How do we know when that moment comes?

When the show is over for a bond that once was and people part ways. Some friendships or human relationships last as long as necessary. They allow you to move on to the next stage of your life. It feels like good-bye to the version of you that connected to a version of them. We mutually and subconsciously decide to let go of those versions of us. We do this when the forces of life challenge us to evolve.

Ultimately a relationship with anyone other than family is based on the setting that you meet them in. A work colleague you see more or less every day may leave suddenly. It’s sad, but life continues. New people start working with you and this brings change and new connections. The old work colleague eventually becomes a distant memory. You may meet for catch-ups and go to each other’s birthday parties, wedding, or perhaps meet for dinner and drinks.

The moment you know it’s fading…

Time with them includes reminiscing about shared past memories. It also involves sharing funny anecdotes, reflecting, and updating each other on how everyone is doing. Life has continued and a reminder of the past becomes the only bond that you have with these people. Until the point that social media and the odd messages are all that connects these friends. They lose their glue and the only link that is shared are mutual experiences in the past.

Can work friends, become long-term friends?

People at work we see more or less everyday. We build relationships and maintain friendships during work time. I always say that I spend more time with colleagues than I do with family and friends and even with myself. We are brought together through coincidence. Unless you recommend a friend who starts working with you, everyone there are people you met because you applied for a job with the same company.

I have been extremely lucky enough to meet a colleague at work through a complete coincidence and because of an incident that took place. This person has become a rock and solid foundation in my life. I was there for them through the tragic loss of their mother and reminded them of their strength to get through the heartbreak and absence of their best friend and reason to keep living.

Similarly, they are the reason I am still here. In my lowest of lows, they were there to simply listen to me, vent it all out and we held each other up. When one is deteriorating, the other holds a safety net to catch the other to disintegrate any anxiety or self-doubt. They see similar traits and personality characteristics between me and their mother and I see myself in them. They bring a glowing and shining light into the world and people’s lives but they also carry the shadows of insecurities and self doubt that the world and loss has cursed them with. We are part of each others lives and they are in my heart and always make sure I have whatever I need to be George. Despite this there are times we may not have contact temporarily but we will always reconnect.

From strangers to best friends in a minute…

Some brief encounters feel like you have known the person for years and you share things about yourself that are deep and personal. It’s a shame that most of these will inevitably end. A random meet up, an online date, a shop worker, the person on the train going to work, a customer in the queue, or a person at the bus stop. These people match your mood, energy, and humour but there is nothing else to bring you together. You remain strangers when you part ways until a day that you may see them again.

The overwhelming fear of losing friendships as we grow

I fear sometimes that life will separate me even more from the closest few in my life. The friends I grew up with have evolved on to different paths now. They have children and their lives have completely changed to nurture, care and love their children. I’m always in their thoughts, we speak and meet up on certain occasions but ultimately things could never be the same as before.

I often felt left behind because of my sexuality and lifestyle. During my growth I have realised that I am on my own path that starts with me. I am at a point where I can count my true friends, choose where I go and with whom I want to spend time with bearing no guilt or the need to feel validated or accepted by pleasing others. There have been events that I was not invited to because I have no children. While the people I grew up with can meet regularly to catch up and share memories. I’m not included in this because my lifestyle is different from theirs so I may be over looked, or there is an assumption I may not want to go because there are children there. The truth is I could not think of anything better than seeing my friend’s children grow and seeing my friends in a parental light and the love they share as a family.

But when is it time to make this decision before life does it for us?

Some of us hold onto friendships and relationships because of a history of connections when in reality these people are unsupportive, toxic, and self-centered. Although the initial connection was true and genuine, life has pulled them into a different direction or changed their priorities and they keep you in their lives because of what you supply them with. A support mechanism, a non-judgemental companion that will always be there to vent to, and pick up the pieces every time they continue to make the same mistakes over and over again despite the outcome being the same.

There are genuine times you are there for each other through a loss, support with life issues, or to have a good time. But the outcome will still result in a complete separation either because one will realise they are being used or the other may feel exhausted giving constant advice only to be met with backlash or resentment.

When I was at my worst, I was able to discern between those who were there for me because they actually care about my happiness and those who needed me in their lives because it was convenient for them. By the end of it, the truth always comes out and a painful yet relieving decision has to be made. You start putting yourself first.

What is the role of friendship in our lives?

A friend or companion should make you feel empowered, strong, encouraged, and valued. They will always find time to ask how you are despite the pain they might be going through in their own lives and you do the same for them. They will never intentionally let you down, take you for granted, or use you to vent their anger and blame you for their mistakes in order to validate their own decisions that are wrong or damaging.

Moreover, they will never throw anything back at you that you have confided or shared with them in confidence. And they teach you the value of our choices, they teach you to forgive and move on.

With their support, I have now developed the courage and forward thinking ability to decide who is no longer part of my life journey. I had some amazing and memorable moments with them where we laughed, cried, supported each other and flourished. However, a realisation eventually kicks in, that we’re different people and they’re not healthy or positive to be around for my mental health or well-being. With some people I will never look back and would rather not know them anymore. With others they will always have a place in my heart and I would never rule out reconnecting and sharing good times if life has that in store for us. But it will never be the same as it once was. 

George Khoury walking towards a successful life and leaving the past behind

How to co-exist with a sense of self and friendship?

In order to continue to grow, we need to cut loose people that are not ready to move to the next stage of our lives. When you change, this disrupts the use you have for them and you will be held back and reminded of the old you that you are detaching from, and may receive hurtful comments and accusations that prevent you from moving forward. You will be caught in a never ending wheel of toxicity and negativity.

But take a breath and look around you to decide who really inspires you, makes you glow, shine, forego self-doubt, value your self-worth and uniqueness. Put yourself first and remove the barriers stopping you from reaching your goals and life purpose. You will see the benefits this will have in your life before you know it. You’ll realise that this is your life and you have the choice despite memories or connections. You’ve got this. See you on the sweeter side. 

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The Importance of Volunteer Service for Immigrants in America

In Cinzi Lavin‘s words
I’m an American of Anglo-European ancestry. My grandparents came to the U.S. in the 1930s, leaving everything behind to escape what they recognised as the omens of a devastating second world war
Unfortunately, they were correct. But besides having anticipated the coming of WWII, the other thing they did accurately was appreciating the value of volunteer service in their new country

One of my grandfathers engaged in charitable works for children who were affected by the Great Depression (1929-1939). On the other side of the family, my great-grandmother headed a ministry at her church in New York City benefitting members of the congregation, while my grandmother was one of the founding members of the volunteer ambulance corps auxiliary in our town.

Immigrants all, and heedless of any unwelcoming atmosphere, they proved themselves through devotion to others and won the respect and admiration of their communities. Often, they were the only foreigners in groups comprised of people who could trace their American roots to the country’s very foundation.

This was particularly true of the more affluent charity groups, but having lost their fortunes due to the vagaries of war, my ancestors had nothing but their time and their talents to offer.

Nearly a century later, the best tribute I can pay to their memory is to follow their example. For much of my youth and all my adult life, I have been engaged in charitable work in the various communities across the U.S. in which I’ve lived.

From making philanthropic donations to physically helping to build a house, serving on boards of directors or planning fundraising parties, reading stories in Spanish to non-English-speaking children or producing musical dramas with troubled inner-city teens, it has been my pleasure and my honour to work with these groups.

Among my cousins, the tradition of service has also remained strong. One went on to have a career as an official for FEMA (the Federal Emergency Management Agency) and even met with President George W. Bush in the aftermath of the September 11th tragedy.  

Being a follower of Vedanta (it’s a long story!), I have come to know many Indian immigrants. I’m infinitely impressed by their kindness, their resourcefulness, and their enthusiasm. I appreciate their ambition and their desire to realize the dream of building a prosperous life in America.

However, I fear they sometimes settle for a superficial definition of success. Granted, everyone wants to enjoy a comfortable lifestyle and be able to afford things like a house, car, and a good education for their children.

But we have a remark in America, to be “keeping up with the Joneses,” meaning one’s striving to compete with those who express themselves through what they buy, not what they are. Furthermore, some Indians who have taken me into their confidence said they endured scorn at the hands of successful fellow immigrants—sometimes even their own relatives—because they drove a non-luxury car, worked at a little-known company, lived in a less-prestigious neighbourhood, or some such criticism.

Meanwhile, these social critics flung themselves headlong into the hamster-wheel of American greed, focusing on little else besides amassing wealth, despite already having achieved a comfortable lifestyle.

I was friends with such a person, and tried explaining that having already achieved a modicum of prosperity, perhaps they could balance their lives with an investment in their community—for example, volunteering two or three hours per month with a worthy charity.

They were not interested. For all their intelligence and business acumen, they failed to see that the simplest of human acts—helping others—was the key they had overlooked to being more widely accepted in society.

Charitable organizations are a wonderful way to make friends in the community, to form personal bonds, and to learn valuable skills. Networking opportunities abound. A connection with a fellow volunteer could be forged within a few weeks which would otherwise take years in the less-informal business world, and such a connection could lead to unforeseen opportunities and support.

Furthermore, the circumstances at present are more favorable than ever for Indians and other immigrants to join boards of directors of nonprofit organizations. Many are actively looking to fill positions and—finally—have begun to realize the importance of diversity.

Individuals without prior board experience are usually very welcome as long as they are willing to learn, and often positions can be obtained simply by contacting the organisation and offering to serve on the board.

It’s also worth noting that board membership can sometimes be arranged even if one does not live or work in the area in which a charity operates; it’s common that board members can serve from anywhere in the country and attend meetings remotely.

America is a large country, and we have a wide variety of challenges. Indians are known for the strength of their devotion. I would encourage anyone interested in volunteering to ask themselves which condition or situation most strongly resonates with them, and then pursue a charity which serves that need.

Incidentally, volunteer work is becoming a more and more prized category on one’s C.V., so charity work may ultimately fuel career success. Also, it’s hardly limited to adults—there are opportunities for children and teens to get involved as well, which is an excellent way to prepare them for a life of empathy and consideration for others. I can’t think of any better way to ensure a child’s success.

If you are planning to emigrate, or if you are an immigrant, please make it a point to balance your career-work with volunteer service. Success is a many-faceted jewel. Your devotion may well produce results that were previously unimaginable.

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2Shades reviews “The Business of Murder ” and get to chat to one of it’s stars Gary Webster

The Business of Murder by Richard Harris at the Theatre at The Tabard
Can a murder play be both funny and tense at the same time? Well, The Business of Murder delivers just that.
https://tabard.org.uk/whats-on/the-business-of-murder/

Set in the 1980s, even the set design conveys that you’re dealing with true professionals, setting the mood even before the show begins. (The Tabard Theatre is wonderfully intimate, though the sight of a modern-day Marlboro Light did make me itch to replace it with a Rothmans.)

The set, designed by Lily Minores and Rob McKinley, effectively transports you to an era when the TV was always on, often showing the horse racing.

Stone (played by Miles Gallant) invites local police detective Hallett (Gary Webster) over to discuss his troublesome son, who is nowhere to be found.

After Hallett leaves, promising to return later, Stone then invites true crime writer Dee (Charlotte Hunter) to meet his wife. Yet the audience knows that Stone’s wife is dead. So why the invitation?

Gary Webster as Hallet.
r Miles Gallant as Stone and Charlotte Hunter as Dee https://tabard.org.uk/whats-on/the-business-of-murder/

You need to let your imagination run wild in the first half and simply enjoy the craft on display—it’s a rare treat to see an actor like Gary Webster perform on such an intimate stage. His portrayal of Hallett blends humor and drama seamlessly, making his character’s self-righteousness both entertaining and believable.

The drama student sitting next to me was in awe, and for good reason. If you’re studying acting, this performance is practically a masterclass. Webster’s ability to deliver witty quips while guiding the audience through the twists and turns is exceptional.

His character is not only charming and funny but also unflinchingly unapologetic, with an underlying ugliness that adds depth.

Gary Webster as Hallet https://tabard.org.uk/whats-on/the-business-of-murder/

Charlotte Hunter (Dee) also brings incredible depth to her character, avoiding the trap of one-dimensionality. Similarly, Miles Gallant delivers a strong performance, holding his own alongside the other two leads.

The only minor flaw in my opinion is the pacing in the second half. While it’s never dull, it does feel longer than necessary, leaving you wishing it would get to the point a little quicker. Even with such talented actors, some trimming would have benefited the production.

Here Steven Smith gets to chat to acting legend Gary Webster.

Tell us about The Business of Murder and why you chose to appear in it.


The Business of Murder is a great whodunnit—or rather, a great whydunnit! It is written by the legendary film, TV, and theatrical writer Richard Harris, so when the chance came along to audition for the role of grizzled cop John Hallett, I jumped at it.

Fortunately, the director liked what I could bring to the role, and I was cast. It’s one of the best roles I’ve ever had the chance to play, and I’m very thankful the show has been such a success.

One of your sons, Freddie, has gone into acting. What advice did you give him?

Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy. Take the work very seriously, but try to keep all the outside noise about what is deemed as success or failure at a distance. In the end, we are here to entertain and, hopefully, in some small way, make people’s lives better. I encourage both my sons to find something in life they love doing, whatever it may be and wherever it may take them.

Would you like to see Minder come back?

It would be great fun to bring it back, with me in more of an Arthur role and a new Minder looking after Ray Daley. There are always rumors that plans are underway because it was, and still is, so loved. However, as with the Shane Richie version, I’m not sure the powers that be would include me in their thinking—which has always seemed a little strange to me—but nothing surprises me in our beloved profession!

You recently judged the Autism Hero Awards. What was that like?

As always, I am honored to be asked, and it is an inspiration to be part of the process. It really brings everything into sharp focus and perspective as to what is truly important in life. It’s lovely to be able, in a very small way, to honor those who do such fantastic and life-changing work.

Gary Webster with fellow judges Samantha Lee Howe 2Shades very own Steven Smith The man of the moment Heartstopper Bradley Richies and Dr Anna Kennedy OBE.

2Shades thinks you should run as an MP. Is that on the horizon?

I’m open to anything at my age! If I could change the country and the world for the better, and the only way to do that was by being an MP, I’d like to think I could give a voice to people who are struggling. Having gone through so much in my own life, I feel I can relate to their fight just to get through the day.

Your look in The Business of Murder is channeling either a ’70s football manager or the quintessential gay clone. We had quite a few gay men message us when your picture went online. Do you think attitudes have changed toward the LGBTQ+ community, and would you like to play a gay role?

I’d certainly like to think attitudes have changed. However, I’m also very aware that the fight for full equality for everyone is still not over. Given recent events in America, with a new administration bringing such archaic views towards the LGBTQ+ community, we must never be complacent. Everyone in the world has the right to identify as they wish and to demand the rights afforded to all without exception.

I can’t believe that in 2024 this is still a battle, but it is, and it will continue until full equality is achieved. I have no problem playing a character who is gay, straight, or bi. In fact, I’ve played characters such as William Tallon in A Princess Undone opposite Stephanie Beacham, where I portrayed the iconic “Backstairs Billy,” who worked for the Queen Mother for many years.

Stephanie Beacham in A princess undone .

A character’s sexuality—whether gay, straight, or bi—is just one aspect of them. In the end, we all experience love, heartbreak, passion, sadness, and joy in the same way. These are universal human experiences, regardless of sexual orientation, and it’s time the world fully recognized that.

What are you and your wife, Wendy, doing for Christmas?

Usually, we’d just stay at home, but as Wendy’s dad is now nearby in London, we’ll be at his flat, cooking a vegan Christmas dinner for us, the boys, and Brian. I adore Christmas—my dad did too. His legacy to me was huge in terms of the joy and magic of Christmas, so it’s a time of year I always try to enjoy. That said, I’m very much aware that, for many, Christmas is a difficult time. My thoughts are always with those who are struggling mentally, physically, or simply trying to find a place to live during this season.

Gary Webster and his wife Wendy Turner Webster .

What would you like for Christmas?

Good health for those I love, the coming together of people around the world to make it a safer place, and 9 points for Arsenal over the Christmas fixtures!

What does 2025 hold for you?

Good health, hopefully, happiness for my sons and wife in all they do, and maybe a lead role in a Marvel TV series. That way, when I’m old and infirm, I can still turn up to Sci-Fi and Comic-Con conferences as my character, earn a ton of money, and have a nice two-day getaway in Vegas—all expenses paid!

2Shades Steven Smith with Gary Webster . https://tabard.ticketsolve.com/ticketbooth/shows/1173651533/events/428615519
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2SHADES Backs Jane Moore For “I’m a Celebrity”

Why journalist, author, and TV presenter Jane Moore, best known for her work with “The Sun” and as a panellist on Loose Women, should be crowned Queen of the Jungle 2025 as 2Shades backs her
Here, Steven Smith gives his views
Jane Moore

When Jane Moore enters a room, you know it. Not because she is an exhibitionist or seeks attention, but because she exudes a natural energy that makes people take notice and want to know who she is (if they haven’t already met her). For those who do know Jane, they are always delighted to see her. Her quick wit and dry sense of humour are legendary.

I recall my first meeting with her many years ago. She had just come from interviewing the queer comedian and Madonna’s former best friend, Sandra Bernhard. The pair had clearly not hit it off

Bernhard accused Jane of having an attitude, Jane suggested that Sandra take a look in the mirror if she wanted to see attitude and then cut the interview short.

Jane was funny, attractive, and kind, as I had just arrived back in London. We shared a mutual friend in the late, great journalist Lester Middlehurst. Jane and Lester were like something from Will and Grace; an evening with the pair could leave you in stitches, especially on game night when the board games came out, and so did their competitive streaks. Lester would joke that even if a light was red and Jane decided it was green, then green it would be—a case of the kettle calling the pot black.

Jane Moore and the wonderful Lester Middlehurst rip

Jane is a huge supporter of the LGBTQ community and one of the most loyal people you could meet. Jane does speak her mind. At our last meeting, which was at the launch of Anthea Turner and Wendy Turner’s book, I arrived dressed in the latest trend—shorts and smart shoes, inspired by Paul Mescal.( I know who am I kidding ) In an almost Devil Wears Prada moment, Jane looked me up and down and then glanced back at my shoes. “What are you wearing?” she asked. “It’s the fashion!” I replied. The next day, I sent her a spread from Vogue featuring men’s shorts and shoes. It clearly amused her, as she replied, “Who knew?”

Just why should todays Dorothy Parker Win

1. Journalistic Wit and Intelligence

Jane Moore is known for her sharp mind and analytical skills. Her ability to hold intelligent conversations and bring humor to discussions could make her an engaging and entertaining campmate, winning over both viewers and fellow contestants.

2. Candid and Authentic Personality

Moore is renowned for being straightforward and genuine, qualities that audiences appreciate in the reality TV format. Her willingness to speak her mind and be authentic could resonate with viewers, helping her gain a strong fan base.

3. Experience in High-Pressure Environments

As a journalist and TV presenter, Jane is used to handling stressful situations with composure. This skill would likely translate well to the challenges faced in the jungle, where patience and perseverance are essential.

The amazing Jane Moore With Journalist Lester Middleurts actress and fellow loose Women Denise Welch , Pam Sharrock and me with hair cut 110 do

4. Empathy and Supportive Nature

On Loose Women, Jane often shows empathy and understanding, qualities that would make her a supportive and reliable presence in camp. Viewers often favor contestants who can build strong connections and foster camaraderie.

5. Sense of Humor and Storytelling

Jane’s sharp wit and ability to tell stories from her extensive career in media would provide entertainment and levity in the camp. This could help maintain morale among contestants and endear her to viewers who appreciate a sense of fun and relatability.

6. Versatility and Adaptability

Her career has spanned different aspects of media, showing her adaptability. This quality would be crucial when dealing with the unpredictable challenges of the jungle, from bushtucker trials to living in close quarters with others.

7. Public Recognition and Established Audience

Jane Moore already has a substantial following due to her work in journalism and television. Her existing fan base could provide a head start in public voting, giving her an edge over lesser-known contestants.

In conclusion, Jane Moore could be a well-rounded contestant who brings a mix of intelligence, humor, authenticity, and warmth to I’m a Celebrity… Get Me Out of Here! 2025, making her a strong candidate to win the show.

https://www.itv.com/imacelebrity. Start this Sunday the 17th of November at 9.00

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Heidi Gammon’s Christmas agony aunt column

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Happy Christmas, and it is cheer and  happiness for most but not for all. The festive season can raise the grinch and other family nightmares.

But do not fear! Good fairy agony aunt Heidi Gammon is waving her wand and will try to make it all better with her magical advice. 

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Hi Heidi,  

Happy Holidays. Can you help me? I have been seeing my boyfriend for a year now and we are in love. However, I have not introduced him to my family yet. One, he is very domineering (I like that) and never holds back on his opinions.  Two, he is covered in tattoos, hates dressing up and he is a drummer in rock band part time. My mum is super conservative and just about down with me being gay. She actually says that no one with tattoos are welcome in her home.   Mum rang the house, and he picked up and she invited him for Christmas! 

HELP please!!

Mike, Kingston.

Oh bless Mike, talk about being put between a rock and hard place. First of all, you should have dealt with this months ago if you care for boyfriend and mum. You say mum is just about ok with you being gay. Well, it sounds to me like she is making the right moves inviting your partner for Christmas.

If your partner loves you, it is time to sit down and tell him the issues about your mum. You say you like the fact he is dominant and opinionated. There is a difference between that and a narcissist. You let him be himself 364 days a year, but maybe he could think about you for one day, not be a different person but just tone it down a little. If he really cares about you and is not a narcissist he will understand. Until mum gets to know him, box clever and make this day about realising that you need some TLC in this area. Trust me, if he really cares he will work with you. If he can’t, I’ll tell you something he is not dominant, he is just not caring.

Next time you chat to mum, maybe give her a little pre-warning he might not be joining the conservative club any day soon. Just do some groundwork preparation before the big day. Remember: life is short and you need to be happy. Mike, those that say they love you should want the best for you, sometimes that means compromise. 

Happy Christmas my love, write and let me know how It goes. 

Dear Heidi, 

I like to party, but it is high days and low with me. Sheryl my fiancé loves it 24/7 but I am fine with that as she can go out with her gang, and I am not jealous or worried. We are having friends over for Christmas Day and we were going over the menu when she announced,  “I’ll get a few grams in for after”.  Honestly, I have had enough. The only White Christmas I want is on the ground. What do I say? 

Lisa, Chiswick.

Oh no Lisa, oh I have seen this so many times. The marching powder is no-one’s friend. Yes, there seems to be a honeymoon period for many who think it makes them invisible but like any false high, in the end there is always a price to pay. It destroys jobs, relationships and friendships,  not mention it robs your bank account. Once it gets its claws into you, for many there is no escape. Yes, there are those who partake on high and low days, who seem in control like yourself. But Sheryl sounds like she might be heading for a fall. You need to simply say no!  That’s not the Christmas you want. Make your views clear and it might give her a shock, or maybe she’s already hooked and this is the bit she is looking forward to on Christmas day. Then she may need help, but time to realise it’s a slippery slope, and you being an enabler won’t end well .

Hello Heidi, 

How are you, love the column. Now there is no excuse, but I kissed my best friend’s husband on a drunken outing when my bestie was away. It has been over six months I have not seen him or mentioned it to my friend. We are all spending Christmas together this year.  I have not seen my friend’s husband since. It is going to be super awkward. What should I do? Maybe call him and chat about what happened?

Dylan, Brighton. 

Sweetie, if it was just a kiss get over it. People are human and drink is horrible when it comes to making a fool of ourselves. Unless you’re not telling Heidi the whole story, move on and put it behind you. Or if the kiss meant more to you than you’re saying, maybe have word with yourself. He has not been in contact with you since the drunken kiss so perhaps he does not remember it. Take Heidi’s advice: do not do party postmortems and stop making a mountain out of a mole hill. Enjoy your Christmas xxx 

Happy Holidays, Heidi 

Dear Heidi,

My partner Alisha is just gorgeous and we’ve been together for six months. She came out as lesbian late in life, having been married for twenty years.  She has two teenage kids and they are coming for Christmas. Heidi I am terrified. I do not do kids and how do I act? They are very important to Alisha. 

Love Diana. 

Hi Diana, it is not a couple of hyenas coming for Christmas, it is two teenagers (perhaps more terrifying at times). No Diana, can I tell you how to handle it? Be yourself, treat them with respect and take an interest in them, listen and you will be surprised. Please have some basic structure of your expectations to staying in your home as you would with anyone coming to stay. But do not come over like a prison guard. Just try and have fun; they will be as worried as you! 

Love, Heidi

Heidi will be back in the New Year . You can also hear her on Gateway Radio https://www.gateway978.com/blogs/daytime/josie-gibson-reveals-the-most-mind-numbing-things-in-life Tuesday the 26th of November https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9UT6NDE0INI&t=4s and on Youtube.

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2Shades meets creepy crawly expert Tasha Lewis

Yes,”I’m A Celebrity” is back on the 17th of November
2shades got together with animal expert Tasha from Living Things https://www.living-things.co.uk/our-team/ and got the low down on some of the things the celebrities might be comforting in ” The bush trucker trails ” https://www.itv.com/imacelebrity/articles/im-a-celebrity-unpacked-is-coming-to-your-screens-this-autumn and other useful tips for the season.
1. How scared should we be of spiders?

Most spiders are harmless to humans and even helpful by controlling insect populations. While it’s natural to be nervous around them, especially large or unusual ones, very few are dangerous. A healthy respect rather than fear is all that’s necessary, and keeping distance is usually enough if you come across one.

2. If you came across a tarantula among your bananas, what should you do?

First, try to keep calm. Tarantulas are not aggressive unless threatened. Avoid touching it, place a container over it if you can, and contact local animal control or a professional to safely handle and remove it.

3. Rats in the jungle or anywhere terrify me. But I hear they make good house pet?

Yes! Domestic rats can make affectionate, intelligent pets and bond well with their owners. They’re usually very social and enjoy interacting with people, which makes them a great choice for those who may be wary of other pets. Just remember, like any pet, they require time, proper care, and space. Really one of the cleanest pets you could have.

4. Are the witchy grubs and insects on “I’m a Celebrity” actually good for you?

Many insects are indeed edible and highly nutritious, often rich in protein, fiber, vitamins, and healthy fats. They’re also more sustainable than traditional livestock, so insect-based dishes are becoming popular in some restaurants. However, they’re still a unique experience for most people!

5. Would a meerkat make a great Christmas present?

Though meerkats may be cute, they are not suitable pets. They are social wild animals, requiring a complex environment and social structure that can’t be replicated at home. Instead, you could look into sponsoring a meerkat through a wildlife charity, so kids can learn about them responsibly.

6. What is the responsible way to introduce a pet to your child?

Start by teaching kids about gentle handling, respect, and boundaries with pets. Choosing a low-maintenance, child-friendly pet is ideal, and involve children in pet care tasks to build a bond gradually. It’s also good to emphasize that pets are family members, not toys, and need long-term commitment.

7. How do you protect pets from fireworks?

Fireworks can be stressful for pets. To protect them:

  • Create a safe space indoors with familiar bedding and toys.
  • Muffle sounds by closing windows and playing calming music.
  • Give pets extra comfort and stay with them if possible.
  • Consider pheromone diffusers or consult a vet for other calming solutions.
8. What are you doing for Christmas?

Planning your Christmas can involve festive meals, spending time with loved ones, or engaging in your favorite seasonal traditions! Many also choose to volunteer or donate to causes, spreading a little extra holiday cheer.

9.If your child is asking for a pet for Christmas, it’s wise to approach it thoughtfully. Here’s a balanced way to think about it

The holiday season can be a stressful time for a new pet. The excitement, extra visitors, and unpredictable schedules can be overwhelming for both the animal and the family. Instead, you could start by giving your child a book on caring for their desired pet and a stuffed animal version to symbolise the responsibility they’ll take on. This allows them time to learn about pet care, setting a foundation for responsible ownership.

Then, once things settle down after the holidays, you can bring the actual pet into the home with the focus and calm it deserves. This approach also lets you and your child research and prepare your home properly, ensuring a smooth transition and a happier experience for everyone—including the new pet!

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