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YOU ARE LOVED

Keeping Robin Windsor’s Legacy Alive Through Love, Support and Community

I came out at the age of 15. One thing I have learned over the years is that being gay is not a choice, so why do so many families make their children and loved ones feel bad for simply being who they are?

Equality should mean exactly that — the same love, respect and support for a gay child as for a heterosexual child. Personally, I prefer to think of us all simply as human beings.

The knock-on effect of rejection can be devastating. In a world already struggling with a mental health crisis, many members of the LGBTQ+ community continue to face unique challenges. Sadly, issues such as substance misuse, alcohol dependency and risky behaviour are often not the root cause of the problem, but symptoms of people trying to cope with loneliness, discrimination, fear and a lack of acceptance.

What is perhaps even more troubling is that the LGBTQ+ community itself can sometimes be unwelcoming. Some of the most judgemental and homophobic attitudes I have encountered have come from other gay people. It is a reminder that kindness, understanding and compassion are needed everywhere.

The suicide rate among LGBTQ+ people remains deeply concerning. That is why I always say that no matter how successful, popular or outwardly happy someone may appear, it is important to take the time to check that they are truly okay. A simple conversation can make all the difference.

That is why I am delighted to introduce You Are Loved CIC.

The loss of Strictly Come Dancing star Robin Windsor sent shockwaves through the dance world, the LGBTQ+ community and the countless lives he touched through his warmth, kindness and generosity. Robin was far more than a talented dancer and television personality. He was a friend, mentor, advocate and source of comfort to many people who were struggling with life’s challenges.

I was fortunate enough to meet Robin Windsor through Anna Kennedy Online, a charity that is very close to my heart. As a Patron of the organisation, I had the privilege of seeing first-hand the kindness, generosity, and compassion that Robin brought to everything he did.

Robin was a tremendous supporter of the autism community and regularly gave his time to help others. He was involved with both Autism’s Got Talent and the Autism Hero Awards, where his warmth and genuine care for people shone through. Whether he was on stage, meeting families, or encouraging participants, Robin always made people feel valued and included.

He possessed that rare ability to light up a room with his smile, his energy, and his infectious enthusiasm. Yet beyond the public persona was a truly beautiful soul—kind-hearted, thoughtful, and deeply compassionate. Robin never underestimated the power of a kind word or a supportive gesture, and his impact on so many lives continues to be felt today.

Those of us who were lucky enough to know him will always remember not only his incredible talent as a dancer but also the love, friendship, and encouragement he gave so freely. Robin’s legacy lives on through the countless people he inspired and the communities he helped to support. https://annakennedyonline.com

Today, his legacy continues through the work of You Are Loved CIC, a remarkable organisation dedicated to supporting LGBTQ+ people facing mental health difficulties, loneliness, isolation, substance misuse and a range of other life challenges.

Founded in 2024 by social psychologist and researcher Marc Svensson, You Are Loved CIC was created with a simple but powerful mission: to ensure that nobody in the LGBTQ+ community feels alone when they need help most. The organisation is powered by a passionate team of volunteers who bring together a wide range of skills, expertise and lived experiences. What unites them is a genuine commitment to helping others and creating a safer, more connected community.

Following Robin Windsor’s passing, many of those closest to him wanted to find a meaningful way to honour his memory. Robin was known for his ability to reach out to people who were struggling, offering friendship, encouragement and understanding without judgement. His compassion left a lasting impression on everyone fortunate enough to know him.

It was this spirit of kindness that inspired the creation of Ask Bobby, named after Robin’s much-loved nickname. The platform stands as a living tribute to the man who dedicated so much of his life to supporting others. More importantly, it continues the work that Robin cared about deeply: helping people before they reach a point of crisis.

Over the past year, Ask Bobby has grown significantly. The platform has been rebuilt and improved to make it easier for people to access support and find organisations that can help with their specific needs. Whether someone is experiencing loneliness, mental health difficulties, addiction issues or simply needs someone to point them in the right direction, Ask Bobby serves as an invaluable gateway to support services across the United Kingdom.

For many LGBTQ+ individuals, asking for help can feel overwhelming. Feelings of isolation, stigma and fear can prevent people from seeking support until their situation becomes critical. Ask Bobby helps bridge that gap by making information accessible and connecting people with organisations that can offer practical assistance and emotional support.

The impact of this work cannot be overstated. Every day, people across the country are facing challenges that leave them feeling disconnected and alone. By providing access to trusted resources and support networks, Ask Bobby offers hope, reassurance and a reminder that help is available.

However, like many charities and community organisations, You Are Loved CIC now faces a significant challenge.

Despite its success and growing reach, the organisation is almost entirely volunteer-led. Funding remains one of the biggest obstacles to sustaining and expanding its services. To continue developing Ask Bobby and ensure it can support even more people, the charity is seeking to raise £10,000.

This funding would enable the organisation to further improve the platform, add an additional 1,000 support organisations from across the UK and recruit two part-time team members dedicated to maintaining and growing the service. These developments would significantly increase the platform’s reach and effectiveness, helping thousands more people access the support they need.

For those involved, this campaign is about much more than technology or infrastructure. It is about people. It is about ensuring that someone experiencing loneliness at three o’clock in the morning can find help. It is about providing support before a crisis develops. Most importantly, it is about continuing Robin Windsor’s legacy of compassion, kindness and unconditional support.

Robin’s life touched countless hearts, and through Ask Bobby, his influence continues to make a real difference every single day. Every donation, no matter how large or small, helps keep that legacy alive.

At a time when mental health support and community connection are needed more than ever, You Are Loved CIC is proving that love, kindness and understanding remain powerful forces for change.

Robin Windsor believed in helping people. Through Ask Bobby and the work of You Are Loved CIC, that belief continues to inspire hope, build connections and save lives.

To find out more about the campaign or make a donation, please visit the You Are Loved website and help ensure that Robin’s legacy of love and support continues for generations to come.

SUPPORT ROBIN WINDSOR’S LEGACY

You Are Loved CIC is raising £10,000 to help expand Ask Bobby, the LGBTQ+ support platform created in memory of Strictly Come Dancing star Robin Windsor.

The funding will help:
• Add 1,000 additional support organisations across the UK
• Improve and develop the Ask Bobby platform
• Recruit two part-time team members to maintain and grow the service
• Ensure more LGBTQ+ people can access help before reaching a point of crisis

Every donation, no matter how small, will help continue Robin’s legacy of compassion, kindness and support for those facing mental health challenges, loneliness, isolation and other life difficulties.

To make a donation, please visit:

https://youareloved.org.uk/donate

“A simple act of kindness can change someone’s life. Help us keep Robin’s legacy alive.”

Johnny says he is ok

By Steven Smith

Johnny says he is ok. Johnny is bright – he dazzles and is always the life and soul of any party He is kind and caring, always one to lean on, and is everyone’s friend we all know his name.

Johnny says he is ok. He smiles and gives you that wink. It looks like the world is at his feet.

Johnny says he is ok. It looks like he wears his heart on his sleeve. But you see what he wants you to see. A cleverly crafted mask camouflages the pain and sadness, often caressing his soul as trauma becomes his good friend.

Johnny says he is ok. He touches you, makes you feel good and tells you are going to be alright. not to worry and that he is here for you to talk.

Johnny is going to be ok. You see Johnny’s eyes sparkle with love and, as you walk away, you know in your heart he is always happy.

Johnny all ok as he dances home alone, looking at the stars and the moon. They wave and ask him if anyone really knows who Johnny is? Does anyone feel his hurt or see the darkness covering him as he smiles and entertains?

Johnny says he is going to be ok as he turns the key to his flat. Loneliness waits as the darkness flies in before him. They both beckon Johnny; they know who Johnny is and if he just takes their hand, it will all be ok. The pain will go away.

`It is so simple open the bathroom cabinets and take the pills. Hey, let’s celebrate. We can wash it down with alcohol. Come, says the darkness. Lay down with me. Loneliness is just leaving. Close your eyes, sleep in my arms. I promise you at last Johnny you will be ok.

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All You Need Is Your Love Tonight

Steven meets SUMZ the Dj you are all going to love .

Patron of Anna Kennedy on line Steven Smith Dr Anna Kennedy OBE with DJ SUMZ At The Firepit gallery https://annakennedyonline.com

2Shades Meets DJ SUMZ

2Shades Magazine would like to thank the incredible DJ SUMZ, who generously donated his time and talent to support Anna Kennedy Online at a special fundraising event held at The Firepit Gallery on 23rd May. He showed his love that night .

Performing under the newly launched media platform Soundtrax, SUMZ is a London-based DJ and journalist with a passion for independently produced music, art, film, and culture. His mission is to shine a spotlight on underrepresented artists while creating memorable musical experiences for audiences around the world.

Fresh from his appearance at the Firepit Gallery, we caught up with SUMZ to talk about music, Pride, travel, weddings, and the future of the music industry.

Sumz with one of the celebrity guests Vicki Michelle

What is your earliest memory of music?

There are pictures of me wearing large DJ headphones at the age of one! However, from my own memory, I remember hearing a mix of Bollywood, Bhangra, and R&B in my living room as a toddler. I also recall singing Bollywood songs in front of my family at about five years old!

Growing up, who were your biggest musical influences?

My taste has largely been influenced by my older siblings and cousins. I always loved music that was before my time, including 70s funk and soul and 80s new wave and hip hop. Movie and video game soundtracks largely shaped my long-term tastes. Whether it was the score to Bollywood movies such as Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge, the rapper-backed playlist of Space Jam, or the synth-pop radio stations of GTA Vice City, these soundtracks have left a lasting impact.

We are loving the crossover vibe of South American music blending with jazz and house. If you could visit one country purely for its musical culture and atmosphere, where would it be and why?

There are so many countries I would love to explore for this reason. I’ve been lucky enough to visit Bolivia, Colombia, and Mexico, plus Brazil which helped deepen my understanding of Latin American musical culture. Next, I’d love to venture to Japan, where there is an incredible fusion of jazz, hip hop, R&B, and pop. I’d love to experience that first-hand.

Actress Vicki Michelle , actress Denise Welch author Steven Smith socialite Pam Sharrock loved Sumz sets

If you were getting married on a beach — or performing at a wedding — what song would you choose, ruling out the traditional Here Comes the Bride?

Eres Tú by Carla Morrison would be a great choice. It’s a song my wife and I bond over, and it strikes a perfect balance between romantic and unique. The Spanish vocals and calm strings create a peaceful and heartfelt atmosphere.

It is Pride Month, and from the disco sounds of the 1970s to artists such as Freddie Mercury and George Michael, LGBTQ+ culture has helped push musical boundaries. If you had to choose four iconic songs for the ultimate Pride party playlist, what would they be?

Music is an incredibly powerful vessel for expression. It breaks barriers both internally and externally. Karma Chameleonby Culture Club has long resonated with me when it comes to themes of identity and self-expression. George Michael’s Freedom would be another essential choice.

For pure dancefloor energy, I’d add Madonna’s Vogue and Queen’s I Want To Break Free. It’s hard to narrow it down to just four songs, but those would certainly be among my first picks.

When people hire a DJ, music is a two-way street. What advice would you give clients about the information they should share with you to help create a truly successful event?

While attentive DJs always adapt to the dancefloor, it helps enormously to understand the tastes of both the host and the audience. Sharing genre preferences can provide a smooth starting point. Letting the DJ know about birthdays or special occasions also allows for personal touches, such as dedications and shout-outs.

Is there any type of music that you are not particularly fond of?

I’m a big believer in not boxing music. While I naturally listen to some genres more than others, I genuinely believe there is a place for all sounds.

Have you ever had anything go dramatically wrong while performing?

Thankfully, no! But it’s something I always think about, which encourages me to prepare thoroughly for every possible scenario.

When you are not performing, what is your favourite way to relax and switch off?

I love writing, learning about history, and watching football. Travelling is another passion of mine. Exploring different countries helps keep me inspired both creatively and personally.

How do you see the music scene evolving over the next century?

I think there will be a significant counterculture to AI-generated content. People will increasingly value live experiences, raw talent, and genuine human creativity. Combined with the rising cost of major concerts, I believe smaller local music events could enjoy a real resurgence in the years ahead.

2Shades Magazine once again thanks DJ SUMZ for supporting Anna Kennedy Online and helping to make a memorable evening even more special.

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“Enough for the Men too “

https://enoughwellness.co.uk

The image of fitness and art Piluca and me behind her . https://www.pilucaworld.com

Steven Smith looks at the supplement company taking the UK by storm

Made for women, by women. But good news, fellas — you can nick it too when she’s not looking, because it turns out it works rather well for us as well.

There is no one I know who better embodies the words fitness and health than the artist Piluca When she is not painting something extraordinary, she is usually in the gym, lifting weights, stretching, or somehow making the rest of us feel mildly guilty for cancelling leg day.

So, imagine my curiosity when I spotted her creatine — or as I lovingly call it, the powder of the gods. Only this was not the rather dull, masculine tub I am used to seeing in greys and blacks with promises of “extreme performance” shouted across the packaging. No, this came in a rather stylish bright blue pack that looked far more exciting than mine.

Naturally, being me, I had to have a nose.

Checking the ingredients, I found myself genuinely impressed. This was not simply another supplement jumping onto the wellness bandwagon with flashy branding and very little substance. The formulas appeared considered, clean, and thoughtfully put together.

Then there was the collagen powder — beautifully packaged in pink, easy to reseal, and surprisingly elegant for something designed to be stirred into your morning routine. More importantly, if Piluca’s glowing skin is anything to go by, clearly something is working. Quite frankly, if looking fabulous is the side effect, sign me up.

The company behind the products is Enough Wellness, a female-founded British supplement brand created with one very clear mission: to help women feel stronger, healthier, and more confident at every stage of life. Founded by women who became frustrated with confusing health messaging and supplements that often felt more gimmick than science, the brand was designed to simplify wellness rather than complicate it. Their aim is refreshingly straightforward — products backed by research and created for real women navigating real lives.

https://enoughwellness.co.uk

Now before the men stop reading and assume this is all about collagen, glowing skin, and conversations involving “hormonal wellness” over herbal tea — hear me out.

What intrigued me most was their creatine.

For years, creatine has been unfairly labelled the territory of young men in string vests grunting aggressively beside squat racks. Yet increasingly, women are embracing creatine for strength, recovery, energy, and even cognitive wellbeing — and frankly, the rest of us can benefit too.

I decided to give it a try.

https://enoughwellness.co.uk

Now, before anyone writes in accusing me of suddenly becoming a fitness influencer, let me be clear: I am not claiming miracles. I did not wake up looking like a Marvel superhero after one scoop. But what I did notice was this — I felt better.

There was more energy in the gym, better recovery, and a sense of feeling stronger rather than depleted. As someone who exercises regularly, fasts, and tries to take care of himself without becoming obsessed, I genuinely noticed a difference. It felt clean, easy to take, and perhaps most importantly, it slotted effortlessly into everyday life.

The collagen, too, deserves a mention. Increasingly popular for skin, joints, hair, and overall wellbeing, collagen has become something of a quiet revolution in wellness circles. Enough Wellness has built much of its identity around supporting women through changes in energy, skin, confidence, and ageing — not with scare tactics or impossible promises, but with the rather refreshing idea that ageing can be embraced positively.

What also struck me was the branding. Supplements have changed. Gone are the days of dusty tubs hidden in kitchen cupboards. Wellness is becoming more accessible, more stylish, and — dare I say it — more fun. Enough Wellness understands that people want products that feel approachable rather than clinical. It is wellness without the intimidation.

So, ladies, congratulations. Yet again, you have discovered something fabulous before the rest of us.

And gentlemen? Here is my advice — if you happen to notice a bright blue pouch or elegant pink collagen pack sitting on the kitchen counter, perhaps quietly borrow a scoop when no one is looking.

Just don’t blame me when she notices it running out faster than usual.

Because this woman-focused supplement company may well have accidentally created something the boys want in on too.

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2026 Autism &Art Show entries

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This year’s much-anticipated Autism & Art Show, taking place on 24th July 2026, promises to be a powerful celebration of creativity, individuality and artistic expression. Presented by Anna Kennedy Online, in collaboration with Firepit Art Gallery on London’s vibrant Greenwich Peninsula, the exhibition will once again shine a spotlight on the incredible talents of autistic artists and their allies.

More than simply an art exhibition, The Autism & Art Show is a platform for voices to be heard, stories to be told and creativity to flourish. Through painting, sculpture, photography, mixed media and contemporary works, visitors will experience a diverse collection of art that reflects the unique perspectives, imagination and lived experiences of its artists.

Presented by Anna Kennedy Online, a charity dedicated to supporting autistic people and their families, the exhibition also plays an important role in raising vital funds to help continue its life-changing work. By supporting the show, visitors are not only discovering extraordinary talent, but also helping champion inclusion, opportunity and understanding within the autism community.

Held in partnership with the much-loved Firepit Art Gallery, renowned for championing emerging and independent creatives, the exhibition promises to be an inspiring, uplifting and unforgettable event. Whether you are an art lover, collector, supporter of the autism community or simply curious to discover fresh creative voices, The Autism & Art Show 2026 is set to be one of the summer’s most heartwarming cultural highlights.

Lana Mitchell

21 Lana, who lives with autism, once feared unfamiliar environments. In 2024, she began volunteering at Shelter Crystal Palace, where her uniqueness was embraced and her creativity blossomed. She now designs themed window displays and has performed at Autism Got Talent .

Art By Connor £100

Connor is 18 years old and profoundly autistic. Although he cannot tell us where his incredible talent and passion for drawing come from, his artwork speaks for itself. Drawing entirely from memory and using only the inner cartridge of a biro pen, Connor creates stunningly detailed pieces with extraordinary focus and precision, his pen rarely leaving the page. His favourite subject is churches, and while we do not know what first inspired this fascination or how he recalls such remarkable detail, each drawing reflects a unique gift and an extraordinary way of seeing the world. Through his art, Connor expresses what words cannot, sharing his creativity, dedication, and exceptional talent with everyone who views his work

Cosmic Kat from 300

Cosmic Kat is a self-taught artist based in Hucknall, Nottinghamshire who grew up in N.Ireland. Her work features bright colours, alien worlds and fantastical creatures. She was late diagnosed Autistic aged 30 and her work explores the themes of grief, unmasking and identity that this entails.



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Loveartpix (Dez)

Loveartpix , a self-taught AudHD (Autism + ADHD) artist from Manchester, uses creativity as a vital outlet for mental health and self-expression. Diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, Autism, and ADHD, he began his art journey in 2018 as therapy. His vibrant work often reflects the spirit of Manchester and the experiences of neurodivergence

Sun flowers by Angelo Kennedy £500

Angelo, 33, is autistic and lives with significant sensory processing disorder. On display is a vibrant painting of sunflowers he created at just 10 years old. Angelo enjoys cooking, bowling, and continues to work hard on his independent living skills. His brother, Patrick, is also on the spectrum and works at Pinewood Studios

Blanky from £50 each

Alastair Blaster Artz

Alastair McEwen, also known as BlasterArtz, is a full-time carer for both his disabled parent and autistic son. Through art, he finds a way to manage emotions, connect with loved ones, and reflect on mental health. His heartfelt piece Blanky, created with friend and writer Steven Smith, has moved many and embodies the power of art as a lifeline.

XLVII is a leading figure in the UK urban art scene, renowned for his distinctive graphic style and iconic character, SNAMUH. Combining bold pop-culture influences with the energy of street art, his work explores themes of identity and freedom of expression through vibrant colours, strong character design, and striking visual storytelling. A regular participant in painting jams, gallery exhibitions, and live art events across the country, XLVII has established himself as one of London’s most prolific contemporary urban artists. Now exhibiting at The Fire Pit Gallery, he is generously donating his featured artwork to help raise funds for Anna Kennedy Online, supporting autistic people and their families. Follow his work on Instagram: @xlvii.

Nazaraptor (NAZARAP7OR) is a highly respected figure in the UK urban art scene, known for her energetic style and iconic character, MUCHE. A member of renowned graffiti collectives including CBM, GPC, and ACC (All City Crew), her vibrant work can be seen across the UK, from city streets to galleries and public spaces. Her bold use of colour, expressive handstyles, and unmistakable visual identity have earned her a strong reputation within both street art and contemporary art circles. Currently exhibiting at The Fire Pit Gallery, Nazaraptor brings the energy and creativity of graffiti culture onto canvas. Demonstrating her commitment to giving back, she has generously donated her artwork to help raise funds for Anna Kennedy Online, supporting autistic people and their families. Follow her work on Instagram: @nazaraptor.

Sam Bickerton

Sam, diagnosed with ASD and dyslexia, demonstrates resilience in the face of social and emotional challenges. From early Lego builds to his love for origami, mask-making, and boxing, Sam’s creativity offers a safe space for self-expression and calm. His journey is one of strength and self-discovery through art.

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CALLING ALL AUTISTIC ARTISTS: SUBMISSIONS NOW OPEN FOR THE SECOND AUTISM & ART SHOW 2026

CALLING ALL AUTISTIC ARTISTS: SUBMISSIONS NOW OPEN FOR THE SECOND AUTISM & ART SHOW 2026

Following the overwhelming success of its debut event, The Autism & Art Show returns for a second inspiring year, opening on 24th July 2026 at the much-loved Firepit Art Gallery, London — and organisers are now calling for autistic artists across the UK to submit their artwork for inclusion.

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Presented by Anna Kennedy Online, in collaboration with Firepit Art Gallery, the exhibition celebrates the extraordinary creativity, individuality and talent of autistic artists and their allies, while helping raise vital funds to support the charity’s ongoing work with autistic people and their families.

For many people on the autism spectrum, art is far more than a hobby — it is a powerful form of self-expression, communication and therapy. Through creativity, artists can tell stories, explore emotions and connect with others in meaningful and inspiring ways.

Anna Kennedy OBE, charity patron Steven Smith, and Firepit Gallery founder Marcus Jake are inviting autistic artists to step forward and showcase their work as part of this unique and uplifting exhibition.

Anna Kennedy OBE and some of the team behind Autism &Art Patron Steven Smith Artist and celebrity photographer Anne-Marie Bickerton and Alistair Blaster

“Art has the power to give a voice to feelings, experiences and perspectives that words alone sometimes cannot express,” said Steven Smith. “We are incredibly proud to celebrate neurodiverse creativity and encourage autistic artists to share their talent with the public.”

The Autism & Art Show promises to be a vibrant celebration of creativity, resilience and individuality, showcasing an exciting tapestry of work from autistic artists from all walks of life. Each artist brings a unique story and artistic voice, making this exhibition a moving tribute to the richness of neurodiverse talent.

Event Location:
Firepit Art Gallery CIC
No.2 Upper Riverside,
10 Cutter Lane, Ground Floor Unit,
Greenwich Peninsula,
London SE10 0XX

Artists interested in submitting work or learning more about the exhibition are encouraged to get in touch and be part of this very special event.

Closing date for entries July the 10th

Contact Steven Smith at spman@btinternet.com

Or 07969106222 for more details. 

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Denise Welch Nearly Drowns in the Love at The Mighty Hoopla

Denise Welch Nearly Drowns in the Love at Mighty Hoopla

It might have been “Raining Men” with Denise Welch at Mighty Hoopla on Saturday — but the actress, presenter and beloved LGBTQ+ ally had little idea she would be positively drowned in love by thousands of adoring festival-goers.

Temperatures were soaring as the glamorous, fabulous and utterly gorgeous descended upon London’s much-loved Mighty Hoopla festival, held in Brockwell Park. Yet somehow, despite the blazing sunshine, the energy only got hotter as crowds gathered for one of the UK’s most joyful celebrations of pop culture, inclusivity and self-expression.

For those unfamiliar, Mighty Hoopla has grown into something of a cultural phenomenon since launching in 2017. Originally conceived as a playful, pop-loving alternative festival, it has blossomed into one of the UK’s biggest celebrations of queer culture and music, welcoming everyone from pop superfans to families, drag artists, celebrities and festival lovers under one glitter-covered umbrella. It sits somewhere between Pride, a giant theatrical daydream and a fabulous summer carnival — not quite Pride itself, but absolutely driven by the same spirit of love, acceptance and freedom.

The audience is wonderfully eclectic, as are the performers. Think A Midsummer Night’s Dream with sequins, cocktails and singalongs.

Celebrity spotting alone was worth the ticket price. Among those mingling were RuPaul’s Drag Race UK winner Tia Kofi, EastEnders star Natalie Cassidy, the ever-divine Kate Thornton accompanied by her lovely mother Sandra, and Smoggie Queens star Phil Dunning — who, quite frankly, deserves a BAFTA. Vanderpump Rules favourite Scheana Shay also added a touch of Hollywood sparkle to proceedings. That, however, was merely the tip of the star-studded iceberg.

People-watching at Mighty Hoopla deserves five stars in itself. From feather boas to outrageous glitter looks and fashion statements that could stop traffic, every corner offered a visual feast. Though the heat was relentless, I managed to find a shady sanctuary with my bestie Pam Sharrock, where we enjoyed a cocktail or two. A small warning — drinks are certainly not cheap — but beautifully made and served by wonderfully friendly staff.

With Pamela Sharrock she neves says no to a big Gregg’s vegan sausage roll at the Mighty Hoopla one of the sponsors .

Then, just before six o’clock, something shifted in the atmosphere.

You could feel it.

Presenter GK Barry took to the stage, jokingly warning of incoming “weather warnings” as excitement rippled through the crowd. Suddenly, phones were raised skywards, screams erupted and people began jumping up and down in delight.

The reason?

Denise Welch had arrived.

Styled impeccably by Ryan Kay, Denise looked sensational in a striking red coat, flanked by semi-clad dancers as she launched into a spirited rendition of the 1982 classic It’s Raining Men. And my goodness — did the crowd go wild.

It genuinely felt as though the festival had suddenly burst into full bloom.

Denise, now 68, was visibly emotional as she addressed the audience, telling fans: “I will always be an ally of the LGBTQ+ community and I will fight with you.”

In one of the most touching moments of the set, she paid tribute to her late father, the much-loved Vin Welch — a heterosexual Whitley Bay drag performer known as Raquell. Denise fondly recalled how, while other drama school students were being treated to McDonald’s, her father would instead take her to London’s legendary Black Cap in Camden to watch drag shows.

“How I’m not gay is beyond me,” she laughed to huge cheers from the crowd.

By the end, Denise appeared genuinely moved by the reception.

Denise and her amazing Dad Vin ,

One thing is certain — Denise Welch may have arrived as a surprise guest, but she left Mighty Hoopla absolutely drenched in love. backstage was husband 53 year old Artist Lincoln Townley. Taking a brief break from filming, her west end star son Louis Healy, 26, and Loose Women producer Mattie Jameson were amongst those waiting to congratulate her . Big shout out to Denise incredible manager Bex Elliff .

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Dr Anna Kennedy OBE and Gateway Radio’s Aston Avery Bring Sparkle to the Autism Hero Awards

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There are few things more dangerous than an awards ceremony that forgets the audience. We have all been there. The initial excitement, the pre-dinner drinks, the photographs, the promise of an entertaining evening celebrating a worthy cause. Then suddenly, halfway through a bread roll, you begin wondering whether to butter it — or hit yourself over the head with it to relieve the boredom. Endless speeches, presenters milking their fifteen minutes of fame, technical pauses that feel longer than a Netflix series, and a room full of people quietly counting the minutes until they can politely escape.

Thankfully, the 2026 Autism Hero Awards proved the complete opposite.

Held on Saturday 9th May at the stylish Holiday Inn London Regent’s Park, the annual event in aid of Anna Kennedy Online was a masterclass in how to host a charity awards evening properly. Dr Anna Kennedy OBE and Gateway Radio presenter Aston Avery delivered a show that was heartfelt, slick, emotional, entertaining and — most importantly — never once lost the audience.

Aston Avery and Stacey Moore

From the moment guests arrived, there was a genuine warmth in the room. That is the magic of Anna Kennedy Online. This is not simply a charity event where people turn up out of obligation, smile for photographs and disappear before dessert. There is real love here. Real loyalty. Real community spirit. Anna Kennedy has spent years building an organisation that supports autistic people and their families while celebrating achievements that too often go unnoticed by mainstream society. That atmosphere of kindness and inclusion filled every corner of the evening.

The elegant surroundings of the Holiday Inn Regent’s Park provided the perfect setting, with the hotel staff helping the event run seamlessly from start to finish. The evening opened with a vibrant performance from PPAS Dance and Performing Arts School, immediately setting the tone for a night that balanced celebration, inspiration and entertainment beautifully.

Following a warm welcome, guests were introduced to the judges for the 2026 Autism Hero Awards. The judging panel included broadcaster and author Wendy Turner Webster; international bestselling author Samantha Lee Howe; journalist and author Steven Smith; GB News presenter Nana Akua; author Tess Eagle Swan. Sadly, beloved actress and national treasure Vicki Michelle and artist Dez LoveArtPix were unable to attend this year’s ceremony, although both remained very much part of the spirit of the event.

Some of the judges take to the stage with Anna Kennedy OBE Nana Akua ,Tess Eagle Swan Steven Smith Samatha Lee Howe Wendy Turner Webster , picture Terry Scott

Then came the main part of the evening — and this is where Dr Anna Kennedy and Aston Avery truly shone.

Hosting an awards ceremony is far harder than people imagine. It requires timing, warmth, discipline and instinct. Too often presenters either rush emotional moments or indulge themselves for far too long. Anna and Aston got the balance exactly right. They moved the evening along effortlessly while still allowing every winner the dignity of their moment. Acceptance speeches were heartfelt and genuine, with several leaving the audience in tears — but never dragging beyond the point where emotion becomes uncomfortable. The pacing of the show was impeccable.

Picture Terry Scott of GBNEW presenter Nana Akua

Even a few minor technical hiccups were handled with professionalism and humour, proving that experienced presenters do not panic under pressure. Instead, they keep the audience engaged and relaxed, which Anna and Aston managed throughout the entire evening.

One of the most moving highlights of the night came when singer Kieron Lee received the Charity Supporter of the Year Award. Kieron, who appeared on the BBC programme The Assembly and famously performed for Nicola Sturgeon, delivered a deeply emotional performance that left many guests visibly moved. His beautiful singing brought the room to silence and reminded everyone exactly why evenings like this matter so much.

A super star in the making Keiron lee with Anna Kennedy OBE picture Terry Scott

Television and acting royalty Gary Webster also took to the stage to present one of the awards, bringing charm and warmth to the evening. Meanwhile, internationally bestselling author and patron Samantha Lee Howe announced that she will dedicate her upcoming film festival next year to supporting the charity — another touching example of the loyalty Anna Kennedy inspires in those around her.

One the judges and patron of the charity Samatha lee Howe and Autism’s and Art Piluca artist , Both presented awards on the evening .

Another hugely popular moment came when Emmerdale actor Bradley Riches received the Celebrity Role Model Award. Bradley, accompanied by his husband Scott Johnston, was also announced as an official patron of the charity, receiving huge applause from the audience. His openness, visibility and support for the autistic community have made him an important role model for many young people, and his warmth throughout the evening was genuinely lovely to witness.

Acting legend Gary Webster with celebrity. Doctor Khan and podcaster Lesley Reynolds winner Jack Roberts

Television personality and celebrity doctor Dr Khan, alongside his wife Lesley Reynolds, not only presented an award but were also among the evening’s sponsors. Their support once again highlighted the broad range of people and organisations coming together behind Anna Kennedy Online and its important work.

What made the Autism Hero Awards particularly special was that the focus never drifted away from the winners themselves. Too many award ceremonies become showcases for celebrities or the presenter but here the spotlight remained firmly on the extraordinary individuals, families, carers, businesses and community champions making a genuine difference within the autism community.

Among the evening’s winners were Anais Meaker with Misha, who received the Human Animal Bond Award; Charlie Byford, winner of Sibling of the Year; Charlotte Faulconbridge, who won the Creative Arts & Media Award; and Evan Barnwell, named Young Person of the Year.

Jack Roberts received the Personal Achievement Award, while Ty Bowring was honoured with the Outstanding Community Award. Jonathan Andrews received the Lifetime Award in recognition of his ongoing dedication and contribution, and Javanna Jack-Blake was celebrated with the Parent/Carer Award.

Anais Meaker with Misha, and Anna Kennedy OBE picture. Terry Scott

Other winners included Craig Henderson, who received the Leading Business Award; Danny Yates, honoured with the Outstanding Education Award; and Aimee Bradley, who won the People’s Autism Hero Award. Dr Carol Stott was also presented with a Special Recognition Award for her outstanding contribution and support.

Each winner brought their own story, emotion and inspiration to the stage, reminding everyone in the audience why the Autism Hero Awards continue to grow in importance every single year.

Perhaps the greatest compliment that can be paid to Dr Anna Kennedy OBE and Aston Avery is this: the evening never felt like hard work. It flowed naturally, it entertained, it inspired and it respected the audience’s time — something surprisingly rare in the world of charity galas and award ceremonies.

By the end of the evening, there was still plenty of time left for guests to dance, socialise and celebrate together. People were smiling, emotional, energised and already talking about next year’s event.

In a world where some award shows have become bloated, self-indulgent affairs, the Autism Hero Awards reminded everyone what these evenings should really be about: community, kindness, recognition and joy.

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE and Aston Avery showed exactly how it should be done — and they did it with heart, humour and genuine class. I, for one, cannot wait for next year.

All of this would not be possible with out the true life time achievement who works quietly behind the scenes Lisa Robins a huge thank-you .

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Hair Gain The future ?

“Hair today… might be gone tomorrow.”
Steven Smith looks at the face of the future in haircare.

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OK, I am 65 and have been blessed with a good head of hair—still very much my crown and glory. Sure, it’s not quite the huge bush it once was, but I still get the comments, and in our world, that counts. While many of my male peers have been quietly losing theirs—or not so quietly dashing off to Turkey and various clinics—my highlighted blonde locks have, thankfully, stood the test of time.

Me at 20 meets the 65 year old me and I still have a good head of hair

That said, I don’t take it for granted. I’m often asked, “How do you look after your hair?” and the truth is, there’s no mystery or magic potion—just consistency and good habits. Like your skin, your hair reflects how well you treat it. As a former celebrity hairdresser, I was always drumming this into my clients: invest in proper haircare. It doesn’t have to be extortionate, but it does have to be good.

Early in my career, I trained with René Furterer, the Paris-based pioneer who was years ahead of his time. Long before the explosion of hair clinics we see today, he offered detailed scalp analysis and bespoke treatments tailored to the individual. It wasn’t just about washing and styling—it was about understanding the scalp as living skin. In many ways, it was the equivalent of a facial, but for your hair. That philosophy has stayed with me throughout my career.

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Equally, Philip Kingsley has built a reputation as one of the most trusted names in hair health. Their clinics and products are grounded in trichology—the science of the hair and scalp—and they’ve been quietly delivering results for decades. These are not fads; they are foundations.

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One piece of advice I gave repeatedly—and still stand by—is to change your haircare routine every six to seven months. Even if it’s just for a short period before returning to your favourites, it allows the hair to reset. I’ve always found that hair can become overly accustomed to one product, and the benefits can plateau. Think of it as a holiday for your hair—it comes back refreshed.

There are, of course, exceptions. Watermans, for example, recommends consistent use of their shampoo and elixir several times a week, and I have seen very good results with clients who follow that regime properly. The key, as always, is consistency and choosing the right product for your specific needs.

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Now, let’s address the elephant in the room: hair loss. If you are experiencing noticeable or sudden thinning—whether you’re male or female—your first step should never be the internet or a miracle cure. It should be a doctor or a reputable clinic. Blood tests can reveal a lot. Hormonal imbalances, stress, nutritional deficiencies, or underlying health conditions can all play a part. Too often, people skip this crucial stage and jump straight into expensive treatments that promise the world but deliver very little .

And let’s be honest—there are plenty of so-called “solutions” out there that border on modern-day witchcraft. Expensive, persuasive, and ultimately ineffective if the root cause isn’t addressed. If your hair loss is genetic or medical, you must deal with that first. Otherwise, you’re simply throwing money at the problem.

For men in particular, it’s worth remembering that less can sometimes be more. We all know a few incredibly attractive bald men. Jason Statham springs to mind immediately, as does Grant Mitchell. Confidence carries more weight than any follicle. A well-cut, closely cropped style can often look far sharper and more intentional than desperately holding onto thinning hair.

Jason Stapler

That said, treatments have come a long way. PRP—Platelet-Rich Plasma therapy—is one I’ve experienced personally, under the expert care of Iryna Stewart. The process involves taking your own blood, spinning it to concentrate the platelets and growth factors, and then reintroducing it into the scalp to stimulate repair and growth. It sounds clinical, and it is—but it works. My hair felt stronger, healthier, and more responsive for months afterwards. The downside? It’s not a one-off. You need maintenance sessions every three to four months.

PRP with Dr Iryna Stewart https://aestheticartclinic.co.uk/offers/

Stem cell treatments are also gaining traction, though they are still evolving, and results can vary. Hair transplants, of course, are the big-ticket option. Some are incredibly successful—but I’ve also seen cases where the results don’t hold, and people find themselves back at square one within a couple of years. It’s a personal choice, but one that should never be rushed.

So, once you’ve ruled out underlying issues and considered your options, it all comes back to routine. A solid haircare regime is your best defence. Simple touches, like finishing with a cold rinse before applying conditioner, can make a noticeable difference—helping to seal the cuticle and boost shine.

If you’re looking for tried-and-tested haircare, the names mentioned earlier will always serve you well. However, I recently came across a newer brand that genuinely caught my attention: Hair Gain. And I have to say, I was pleasantly surprised.

Their now-famous little pink mousse bottle was my introduction, and the results were immediate. My hair looked fuller, thicker—almost as if I had twice as much. Not in a theatrical, over-the-top way, but in that subtle, “you look good, what have you done?” way we all secretly love.

In a market saturated with bold claims and empty promises, the Hair Gain range feels refreshingly grounded. It takes a holistic approach, combining supplements with topical treatments to support hair growth from both the inside and out. It’s not about chasing miracles—it’s about building healthier hair over time.

At the heart of the range is nutrition. Strong hair depends on the right internal support—biotin, zinc, and essential vitamins that promote keratin production and overall follicle strength. These are the fundamentals, and Hair Gain understands that. By feeding the hair at its root, it creates the conditions needed for real, sustainable improvement.

The little miracle in a bottle

On the outside, the shampoos, conditioners, and serums focus on scalp health—something that is so often overlooked. Ingredients such as caffeine and plant extracts help stimulate circulation and energise the follicles, encouraging growth and improving overall texture. The difference isn’t just visual—it’s tactile. The hair feels healthier, stronger, and more alive.

What I particularly like is the accessibility. This isn’t an intimidating, clinical system. It’s something you can incorporate into your daily routine without fuss. No extremes, no drama—just consistent, thoughtful care. And that, in my experience, is where the real results come from.

Hair Gain doesn’t pretend to be an overnight fix, and that honesty is refreshing. Hair takes time. It grows in cycles, and any meaningful improvement requires patience. This range leans into that reality, positioning itself as a long-term investment rather than a quick win.

For anyone noticing thinning, lacklustre strands, or simply wanting to elevate their hair game, it offers a modern, balanced solution. One that respects the science, supports the process, and delivers visible results when used properly.

And from someone who has spent a lifetime in the hair business before stepping into the world of writing, I don’t say this lightly—this little pink miracle may not cure baldness, but if my hair is anything to go by, it will certainly turn heads.

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‘” Money Matters ” with Richard Andrews .

Money Matters with Richard Andrews

In uncertain financial times, the questions that land in Richard Andrews’ inbox are a telling reflection of modern life. They go far beyond pounds and pence, touching on family dynamics, relationships, aspirations, and the everyday pressures of simply trying to stay afloat. From rising fuel costs to the hidden price of holidays, from supporting children to protecting inheritances, and even turning hobbies into income, this week’s column offers grounded, practical advice with a human touch.

Dear Richard, my dad is going mad about the price of petrol. Without making it political, is there any end in sight? What can we do? Aston Basildon

This is a very good question and one many households are asking right now. The reality is that global supply issues have played a major role in pushing up fuel prices. With key shipping routes now reopening, there is some cautious optimism, but it won’t be an overnight fix. Oil and gas supplies take time to stabilise, so realistically we may not see prices return to previous levels until late June or early July. In the meantime, it’s about managing what you can control. Ration your driving where possible, combine journeys, and consider alternatives. A bike, for example, is not only a cost-saving option but also a great way to improve your fitness—just make sure the upfront cost doesn’t outweigh what you’d spend on petrol over the next few months.

Dear Richard, we’re all trying to get away, but what sounds like a cheap holiday often isn’t. Getting to the airport from London can cost as much as the trip itself. Are there any cost-cutting tricks?

Steven Canada Water

Travel to and from the airport can indeed cost a small fortune, and it’s often overlooked when budgeting for a holiday. One of the simplest ways to reduce this cost is by thinking carefully about your flight times. If you can choose flights that align with public transport schedules, you may be able to avoid expensive taxi fares altogether. It’s also worth considering whether you really need to take an express train service or if you have time for a slightly longer journey at a lower cost. Booking in advance is key, as last-minute fares for trains and coaches are typically much higher. Another option to explore is airport parking. It may sound counterintuitive, but for longer trips it can sometimes work out only slightly more expensive than return taxi fares, while offering greater convenience. And of course, there’s always the option of asking a friend for a lift—just remember to return the favour. Do be mindful, however, of drop-off charges at airports, which can add an unnecessary extra cost.

Dear Richard, my teenage son has dropped out of university and says he’s going back next September. He’s on a gap year but currently doing very little and claiming benefits. Is it wrong of me to insist he pays rent, or should I tell him to leave?

Pauline Southend

This is a difficult situation and one that requires a careful balance. My biggest concern is that if your son doesn’t use this time constructively, he may struggle to return to university at all. A year without structure can easily lead to a loss of motivation, and that could have long-term consequences for his education and future prospects. Rather than issuing ultimatums, I would encourage you to focus on guiding him towards making better use of his time. Whether that means finding a job, doing some study to stay in the academic mindset, or developing new skills, the goal is to keep him engaged. Asking him to contribute financially to the household is not unreasonable and can help instil a sense of responsibility. However, telling him to leave could create more problems than it solves and may be something you later regret. Encouragement and support, combined with clear expectations, are likely to be far more effective.

Dear Richard, my daughter has been left £10,000 by her grandmother, with the condition that it is saved until she is 21. She’s currently 16. What is the best way to invest this money?

Margaret Islington

Locking this inheritance away for five years is a sensible and disciplined approach. Fixed-term savings bonds are an excellent option in this scenario, as they offer competitive interest rates while ensuring the funds cannot be accessed prematurely. This not only allows the money to grow but also removes the temptation to spend it too soon. There are a number of providers on the market offering five-year bonds with varying interest rates, so it’s important to shop around and compare options carefully. Always check the terms and conditions to ensure they align with your needs. If your daughter remains in full-time education and has little or no income during this period, the interest earned may also be tax-free, which is an added benefit. By the time she turns 21, she could have a substantial sum to support her future plans.

Dear Richard, I supported my partner financially while he was at university, and now he’s working, he still contributes very little. He wants to get married, but I’m concerned about finances. Should I ask for a prenuptial agreement?

Mark London

Supporting your partner through university was a generous and admirable thing to do. However, now that circumstances have changed, it’s only fair that financial contributions are reassessed. Before considering marriage, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation about how household costs are shared. The rising cost of living provides a natural opportunity to revisit this discussion and ensure things are more balanced. Marriage should not be used as a way to gloss over existing concerns, as it can add further complexity to the situation. A prenuptial agreement can be a sensible option if there is a significant difference in assets, but it does require careful handling. Both parties should seek independent legal advice, and the agreement should be made well in advance of the wedding to avoid any suggestion of pressure or coercion. That said, addressing the imbalance in day-to-day finances may resolve your concerns without needing to go down the legal route.

Dear Richard, I’d like to open a small market stall once a week now my eldest is at university. I make jewellery and crafts, and my friends think they’re great. I’ve no idea where to start but want to do it properly. Any advice?

This is a wonderful idea and a great example of turning a passion into a potential income stream. My advice would be to start small and build gradually. Begin by selling to friends or hosting a small jewellery and crafts gathering at home. You might also take commissions, creating bespoke pieces to order. This approach keeps your initial costs low, as you won’t need to invest heavily in stock upfront. If you find there is strong demand and you’re generating a steady income, you can then look at taking a pitch at a local market. Be aware that this will involve additional costs, and availability may vary depending on your area. It’s worth checking your local council’s website for information on market pitches and how to apply. You’ll also need to consider practicalities such as public liability insurance and, depending on your setup, product liability cover. Organisations like the National Market Traders Federation can provide helpful guidance. With careful planning and a measured approach, your hobby could grow into something both rewarding and profitable.

As ever, the common thread running through these questions is that money is rarely just about finances. It’s about choices, relationships, and the future we’re trying to shape. Whether you’re navigating rising costs, supporting loved ones, or taking your first steps into business, a thoughtful and balanced approach will always serve you well.

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Agony Aunt Heidi Gammon is back .

Dear Heidi: Secrets, Scandals and Saying It Straight

Life rarely arrives neatly wrapped. It tends to crash in—uninvited guests, complicated families, late-night worries, and questions that don’t come with easy answers. This week’s inbox is a heady mix: secrets hovering just beneath the surface, friendships being quietly tested, and the kind of family drama that would make even the most seasoned soap writer raise an eyebrow. From Pride-season dilemmas to Ibiza invasions, from hoarding chaos to the emotional minefield of a changing will, one thing is clear—when life gets messy, honesty may not fix everything, but it’s usually the best place to start. As ever, Heidi is here to cut through the noise, call it as it is, and offer a little perspective—with a knowing wink when needed.

Dear Heidi,
It’s Pride season coming up, and I’m a big ally. I’m attracted to the same sex, though I’m engaged to a lovely girl. My best pal dates girls, but nothing ever comes of it, and he’s very good-looking. I’ve noticed him looking at guys, and I think he may be gay. However, he’s Catholic, so coming out might be an issue. I feel that, as his best friend, I should have that chat. How do you go about it?
Steven, Ilford


Heidi:
Slow down, Agony Uncle—this isn’t your grand reveal to orchestrate. I know you mean well, but you don’t get to pull back the curtain on someone else’s life, no matter how sharp your “eagle eye” might be. Sexuality is not a group discussion, and it certainly isn’t something to be gently cornered into over a pint.

What you can do is far more powerful—and far less intrusive. Be the friend who makes it obvious, without fanfare, that you’re open, accepting, and entirely unshockable. Talk naturally about LGBTQ+ issues, share your own experiences honestly, and remove any sense that there’s something to fear in being open. That quiet reassurance often speaks louder than any “big chat.”

And don’t underestimate the weight of his background. Faith, family, culture—these things can create a knot that takes years to untangle. If he is struggling, the last thing he needs is to feel observed or analysed. So step back, be kind, and let him lead. If he chooses you as the person to confide in, that’s a privilege. Until then, your job is simple: be safe, be steady, and—occasionally—be silent.

Dear Heidi,
I’m living a nightmare. My mother is a hoarder, and I’ve been forced to move in with her after losing my job. My friend says hoarding is an illness. What can I do about it? It’s driving me mad and affecting my mental health.


Vicky, Raleigh
Heidi:
Nightmare is exactly the word—and yes, your friend is right. Hoarding isn’t just a bad habit or a refusal to tidy up; it’s a recognised mental health condition, often tangled up with anxiety, loss, or trauma. That doesn’t make it any easier to live with, of course—it just explains why a few stern words and a skip outside won’t magically fix it.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth: you cannot solve this for her. You can support, encourage, and gently nudge—but you cannot force change, and trying to will only exhaust you. So before anything else, protect yourself. Claim a space that is yours alone, however small—a room, a corner, even just a desk—and keep it clear. That’s not selfish; it’s survival.

Encourage her to seek help, but do it without judgement. A GP is a good starting point, and there are specialist services that deal specifically with hoarding behaviours. But timing matters—push too hard, and she’ll dig in further.

And you? You need support too. Living in that environment is emotionally draining, and it’s entirely reasonable to say, “This is affecting me.” Whether it’s a friend, a counsellor, or simply time out of the house, find ways to protect your own mental health. You can care about her without sacrificing yourself in the process—and that’s a boundary worth holding.

Dear Heidi,
My best friend and I are going to Ibiza—we’ve been pals since high school. Out of the blue, one of her friends from the salon she works in is coming too. She didn’t even ask if it was OK; it was more like, “Great news—Danielle’s coming, and she’s got her own room.” I don’t want this. What can I do?


Dawn, Basildon
Heidi:
Ah, Ibiza—the land of sun, cocktails, and the occasional friendship reality check. Let’s be clear: this wasn’t “great news,” it was a decision made without you, and you’re absolutely entitled to feel put out. Holidays, especially ones rooted in long friendships, come with expectations—and one of those is mutual respect.

Now, before you start mentally reassigning sun loungers, have the conversation. Not a dramatic showdown, just a calm, honest moment. Tell your friend you were really looking forward to it being your time together, and that being told—rather than asked—has knocked you sideways. That’s not being difficult; that’s being honest.

This isn’t about banning Danielle or creating an awkward triangle—it’s about balance. Suggest carving out time that’s just for the two of you, and time when the three of you can all get along. Most situations can be salvaged with a bit of clarity and a dash of compromise.

But here’s the thing: if your feelings are dismissed or brushed aside, don’t ignore that. Ibiza might come and go, but how someone treats you in moments like this tends to stick. Consider it less a holiday hiccup and more a helpful insight.

Dear Heidi,
I’m in a terrible state. My 18-year-old son goes out at all hours, and I’m almost certain he’s taking drugs. The problem is, he has a job and his grades are good at college. When I tell him it’s not on, he threatens to move out. I don’t know what to do about the drugs—what should I say?


Ann, Uxbridge


Heidi:
Welcome to the tightrope of parenting a young adult—where control slips through your fingers just as your worry ramps up. It’s a tricky place to be, because technically he’s an adult, but emotionally—and practically—he still needs guidance.

Charging in with accusations will only push him further away. At 18, independence is currency, and if he feels policed, he’ll spend it elsewhere. So the strategy here is softer, but smarter. Choose a calm moment—no raised voices, no dramatic entrances—and speak from a place of concern. “I’m worried about you” lands very differently from “I know what you’re doing.”

Focus on safety, not morality. The reality is, if there is drug use, the risks are real, and that’s where your concern should sit. Keep the door open, even if the conversation doesn’t go perfectly. Sometimes it’s not about winning the argument—it’s about keeping the connection.

And don’t carry this alone. There are support services for parents dealing with exactly this situation, and seeking advice doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you’re taking it seriously. The goal isn’t to control him; it’s to stay close enough to guide him when it matters.

Dear Heidi,
My sister has suddenly reappeared in our lives as our mother is dying. Mum hasn’t seen her for five years but has welcomed her back like the prodigal daughter. Now she’s changing her will to include her again. My brother and I are furious—what can we say to them both?
Samantha, Bromley


Heidi:
Ah, family—the one arena where history, emotion, and timing collide with spectacular force. I can hear the hurt in this, and it’s completely understandable. Someone disappears for years, returns at the eleventh hour, and suddenly the script is rewritten—it’s bound to sting.

But here’s the part you won’t like: it’s your mother’s decision. Her money, her will, her sense of closure. That doesn’t mean your feelings don’t matter—it just means you can’t dictate the outcome.

What you can do is choose how you respond. Marching in with anger will only entrench positions and risk turning a painful situation into an all-out war. Instead, opt for calm honesty. Tell your mother how this has made you feel—hurt, confused, perhaps even overlooked. Keep it about your feelings, not accusations about your sister.

As for your sister, this may not be the moment for a full reckoning of the past. Sometimes, timing matters more than being right. There may be conversations to be had later—but right now, with emotions heightened and time possibly limited, a degree of restraint might serve you better.

You may not get the outcome you want, but you do have control over how you carry yourself through it. And when all is said and done, that dignity will matter far more than winning an argument that can’t truly be won.

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