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ARTIST LOVEARTPIX TO BE AN AMBASSADOR OF ANNA KENNEDY ON LINE.

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Steven Smith joins Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE in Manchester to invite one of its leading artists, Dez, to become an ambassador of Anna Kennedy Online.
https://annakennedyonline.com

In addition, this amazing artist has agreed to exhibit one of his incredible pieces at Autism & Art on May 22nd in London at the Fire Pit Gallery, generously donating the proceeds of the sale to the charity. Steven chats with the man everyone is talking about.
https://www.firepit.art

Dez, known professionally as Loveartpix, is a self-taught Audhd artist and advocate from Manchester, England.

Diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder in his twenties and receiving late diagnoses of Autism and ADHD in his forties, Dez has navigated a complex mental health journey, also undergoing therapy for Complex PTSD. Art became a lifeline during this time, helping him process heightened emotional states and giving voice to his experiences.

Since fully immersing himself in art around 2018, Dez has used his creative work as both personal therapy and a platform for advocacy. Through his distinctive pieces — often centered around Manchester life and neurodiversity — he promotes the therapeutic power of art as a daily coping strategy. Sharing his creations widely under the name Loveartpix, Dez aims to raise awareness about neurodivergence in a largely neurotypical society.

His work is featured across the Northwest of England, including Manchester, Blackpool, and Cumbria, as well as internationally at the Normandy Memorial Trust in France. A passionate supporter of community initiatives, Dez regularly donates art to charities, raising thousands of pounds at auction.

In 2023, he won his first Autism Hero Award, recognizing his contributions to neurodiversity advocacy. He also launched the UK’s first Neurodivergent Art Focus Group, piloted at HMP Manchester with outstanding success.

For the past 3 years, Dez has been filmed for a documentary chronicling his late-diagnosis journey and the role of art therapy in his life. In March 2025, Loveartpix launched his debut Art exhibition where he also shared his platform collaborating with other neurodivergent artists. ‘A Neurodivergent Art Exhibition’ by Loveartpix showcased in Spinningfields, Manchester.

At 45, Dez sees himself as only just beginning to truly understand his conditions. He considers creativity not just a passion, but a vital tool for self-regulation and connection — and he remains dedicated to sharing his journey to inspire and support others.

https://loveartpix.co.uk/about/

Anna Kennedy says “We are thrilled to have Dez as an ambassador. I have followed him over the past few years and watched his passion and confidence grow through his creativity and digital artwork, especially after winning the Autism Hero Awards in 2023. As a self-taught autistic artist creating wonderful digital pieces, he will be a great role model for our charity. Dez can also share how his artwork has helped him through personal struggles, inspiring other autistic individuals to do the same.”

Steven chats to Dez .

https://loveartpix.co.uk

1. Hello, what does it mean to you to become a patron of Anna Kennedy Online?

Hi Steven,

Becoming a patron for Anna Kennedy Online (AKO) is such a privilege and an honour — not to sound too cliché! I have been involved with AKO for a few years through art donations, small projects, and also by winning the Autism Hero Award for Creative Arts and Media with them in 2023.

Since my late autism diagnosis in 2021 (at the age of 41), I have thrown myself into understanding my condition the best I can — not only to help myself, but to help others too, as I know there are so many people out there like me. Having been nominated for six awards in such a short time through my contributions in art donations and raising awareness, winning the AKO award was a major highlight for me.

Fast forward two years, and now being asked by Anna to be an ambassador just fills me with pride.

https://loveartpix.co.uk/about/

What made you start creating art?

I have always had a creative flare but really started to focus on it when I was going through my autism assessment. It was a very difficult and disruptive point in my life processing such an epochal event. Stuggling a lot at night, using the Picsart app on my phone really fitted in, being the least disorderly. Any art piece I create, I really submerge myself into the topic and it gives my erratic thoughts focus. Realising that the art I was creating resonated with many people I decided that I wanted to use it as a tool to promote understanding and awareness as much as possible.

What artists inspire you?

To be perfectly honest, I don’t really get inspiration from artists — probably more from people. I am a naturally creative person, so when I look at life, I feel inspired by topics that intrigue and affect me, or by things I am passionate about. I am then drawn to create around those themes.

Being a self-taught artist, and because I use art as a tool for self-help, I haven’t formally studied art; I simply use it to process my emotions. It’s something I turn to when I’m struggling or when I need to focus my thoughts. I don’t feel like a traditional artist in the usual sense.

That said, I do follow many artists and art profiles on social media, and there are so many amazing artists out there. One artist I really like is @deanevansart on Instagram. His work is so vibrant and thought-provoking. If you get the chance, definitely check out his profile!

If you had to take someone out in Manchester, what one place would you take them to?

If I had to take someone to Manchester, it would have to be the Nag’s Head pub. The Nag’s Head is a true Manchester landmark, and I’m proud to say that, among the 4,000 images of the beautiful city I call home, I have two of my pieces in their collection.

One is a tribute to highly decorated war hero Harry Billinge MBE LdH — the largest piece in the building. (I had the honour of meeting Harry before he passed away and still stay in touch with his family.) The other is one of my ‘Bees About Town’ collection, displayed in the front window.

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What does love mean to you and how important is it in your life?

Love is many things and shows itself in many forms. Helping and supporting people to make things better is love — depending on your personal feelings.

For me, putting myself in harm’s way to help others is a huge form of love. Missing out on events with my son due to my condition, but then being happy just spending time with him afterward — even though I felt upset about missing the event — is love.

Knowing that I would put my life in front of my family’s without hesitation, and valuing their lives far more than my own, is love. Self-sacrifice is love. Pain is love. Seeing others happy is love.

I actually find this a difficult question to answer, as there are so many variables to what love means.

https://loveartpix.co.uk/about/

They say “Big boys don’t cry” — do you think this is true?

I think this is such a harmful quote from a bygone era that still has a massive negative impact on society today — especially on the male suicide rate.

Crying is a way to process emotions. It’s part of being human. We all do it, and I find it such a bizarre notion that somehow suppressing it makes you tougher or better at dealing with life.

Being able to express yourself and be open about your emotions is, in my opinion, a very strong thing and speaks volumes about a person’s character. Yes, there are times when you have to deal with situations that require mental and physical strength, and you have to push through and fight — but I am really against this phrase.

No, I definitely do not think this quote is true.

How important is it to you to inspire and help others who want to create?

Art for me is the tool to understanding and processing things I struggle with. I know the positive impact it has first hand from my own experience. Obviously art comes in many forms too. Last year I piloted the first of its kind neurodivergent art focus group for prisoners in HMP Manchester which was a huge success. Art was the tool I used to get the prisoners to explore how their condition affects them in the hope of supporting rehabilitation. Some of the prisoners used words and created poems, some preferred to paint, and others liked to draw. I then collated what was created by each individual and edited the final pieces on the Picsart app to create a unique collection – which I will be displaying at a later date. It’s well documented the power of creativity and art therapy so for me I try to promote this at every chance I get.

What would you like to achieve next?

On a personal level, I would like to achieve a sense of mental contentment and balance. For me, this would mean understanding my condition much more deeply. Although beginning to understand it has already helped me so much, I still struggle and fight daily. I want to continue striving to be a good parent and family member.

In my career, I have a lot of projects in the works, so I will continue to develop these and, hopefully, help many more people and bring about positive change. I guess my main goals are to be a good role model, help others, and continue turning what I go through into something positive — oh, and now, to be a good ambassador for AKO!

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“Everything You Need to Know About Headshot Photography”

With celebrity photographer Annemarie Bickerton by Steven Smith

https://www.annemariebickerton.co.uk

https://www.annemariebickerton.co.uk

A great headshot can open doors — whether you’re an actor, a creative, or a professional. Choosing the right photographer, preparing properly, and understanding the process can make all the difference.
In this guide, I answer some of the most common questions about headshot photography, share tips from my personal experience, and offer advice for anyone considering a career behind the camera.

https://www.annemariebickerton.co.uk

1. What should I look for when searching for a photographer to do my headshots?
Recommendations and word-of-mouth referrals are a great place to start.
Always review a photographer’s previous work by browsing their website and social media profiles. Pay attention to the style and quality of their photography.
Check if they specialize in headshots or if they have broader experience in different types of photography — both can be beneficial.
Most importantly, ask yourself: Do you like their work? Trust your instinct and choose someone whose style resonates with you.

2. If I am an actor looking to use the headshots for my “Spotlight” profile, are there specific rules I should follow?
Yes, there are a few important guidelines to keep in mind:

  • The photograph must look like you — authenticity is key.
  • It should be a close-up of your face, typically from the shoulders upwards, and usually in portrait orientation (standard size is 10”x8”).
  • Submit a selection of no more than six images, showcasing slightly different looks — for example, hair styled up and down, smiling and serious expressions. There’s no need for exaggerated acting in your photos.
  • Keep makeup minimal and natural. Simple is best.
  • Your headshot should invite the viewer to want to know more about you, sparking curiosity.
  • If you have facial hair, it’s a good idea to show options both with and without it, helping casting directors visualize you in various roles.
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3. Is there anything I should avoid before a photoshoot, like spray tans or getting a new haircut?
Absolutely!
Avoid making drastic changes to your appearance just before the shoot.
Skip the heavy spray tans or any extreme fake tanning — you don’t want to look “Tango’d”!
Stay true to your natural look, as the photos need to reflect how you appear in person.

4. What should I do to prepare before the shoot?
Stay in touch with your photographer beforehand. They can offer advice on what clothes to bring and what styles work best.
Connecting with the photographer ahead of time will also help you feel more relaxed and confident on the day.
Plan your journey carefully. Know your route and allow plenty of time so you can arrive calm and not rushed.

https://www.annemariebickerton.co.uk

5. On the big day, how should I arrive at the shoot?
Aim to arrive early.
Give yourself time to settle in, organize your clothes, and make final choices about what you’ll wear.
The more prepared and calm you are, the better your photos will turn out.

6. If I’m not used to posing for the camera, do you have any tips?
Yes!
Most importantly, trust your photographer.
Follow their guidance and instructions — they know how to get the best out of you.
Relax and be yourself. A good photographer will help you feel comfortable and confident.

https://www.annemariebickerton.co.uk

7. How did you become a photographer?
I went straight from school into studying photography at college. After graduating, I joined a small business studio in Victoria called The Downstairs Studio, where I quickly gained valuable experience in headshots and corporate photography.
At just 18 years old, it was both challenging and exciting to find myself covering press releases and presentations, even venturing into the House of Commons!
I made a point of looking up to photographers whose work I admired and started assisting them to gain real-world experience.
Soon after, I joined a studio full-time, using every opportunity to learn about lighting, observe different shoots, and build my own portfolio.
At the time, it was common practice to take your physical portfolio to magazine picture editors and pitch yourself directly.
My first commission came from The Mirror Magazine, and from there, many doors opened.
That was over 30 years ago — and the journey continues!

Annemarie Bickerton in the studio at work https://www.annemariebickerton.co.uk

8. Do you have any tips for those wanting to get into photography?
Assisting established photographers is one of the best ways to break into the industry. Learning directly from professionals is invaluable.
Working as a studio assistant is another great way to meet photographers and build connections.
Be enthusiastic, be helpful, and ask lots of questions!
These days, you also have an incredible range of online resources at your fingertips. Platforms like YouTube offer endless technical guidance.
Research photographers whose work you admire and learn from their approach and style.

https://www.annemariebickerton.co.uk

9. Which photographers do you admire?
David Bailey — an incredible inspiration, especially his approach to portraiture and fashion.
Henri Cartier-Bresson — a master of capturing moments in time and a true storyteller through reportage photography.
Helmut Newton — I loved how he challenged norms and pushed boundaries through his striking portraits.
Of course, there are many others, but these are some of the greats who have shaped my vision.

https://www.annemariebickerton.co.uk

10. You are exhibiting at “Autism and Art” in May. Are you looking forward to it?
Absolutely!
Photography and art offer wonderful ways to communicate and express oneself.
They can also be incredibly therapeutic.
Exhibitions like “Autism and Art” are so important because they inspire others to challenge themselves, find their own creative outlets, and perhaps discover a new passion.
I’m very excited to be part of it and to see how art can continue to open doors and touch lives.

Contact Annemarie https://www.annemariebickerton.co.uk
07968 178885

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Wine tasting at the most talked about gallery in London ?

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Sip wine and dine at the most talked about gallery in London https://www.firepit.art

Steven’s Out and About

To many, I might seem like the life and soul of the party, but in reality, I’m quite shy. Outside the familiar setting of events and friends’ parties, the thought of going to bars or clubs fills me with anxiety and dread. Like many, I want to meet new people, try new things, and expand my social horizons. After the passing of my former partner, I’ve struggled more than I care to admit—even to those closest to me.

Saturday nights are usually spent writing or watching a box set, feeling safe in my own space. But this year, I resolved to change that. The question was: how?

2Shades agony aunt Heidi Gammon suggested that instead of heading to the buzzy clubs and bars of Soho and Vauxhall, I should try something different. My tastes have always been eclectic, so I took her up on the challenge.

It wasn’t long before I found the perfect option—one that ticked all the boxes: a wine tasting with dinner. Of course, I couldn’t go alone, so I brought along 2Shades beauty editor Clare Mc Sweeney and her beloved teddy bear coat (don’t worry, no teddy bears were harmed in the making of it!).

The wine tasting was hosted at one of London’s most talked-about galleries—Firepit. Located on the Greenwich Peninsula, right by the banks of the Thames, Firepit is an experimental and forward-thinking artist collective, making it the perfect setting for an evening of culture, conversation, and, of course, fine wine.

Held on the last Saturday of each month, the wine-tasting masterclass is hosted by former restaurateur and sommelier “Charlie” Young, a man renowned for his deep knowledge and infectious passion for wine. Charlie’s reputation precedes him—his expertise is matched only by his ability to make learning about wine both engaging and thoroughly enjoyable.

Doors open at 5:30 PM, giving guests a half-hour to settle in, mingle, and explore the gallery’s latest exhibitions before the tasting officially begins at 6:00 PM. The setting itself—Firepit, a cutting-edge artist collective on the Greenwich Peninsula—adds an extra layer of creativity and intrigue to the evening.

Charlie pours the wine and chats .

Now, if you’ve ever attended a wine tasting where the host droned on endlessly, more focused on their own cleverness than on making the experience enjoyable, you might be wary. I’ve been there. In fact, I once attended a tasting where even my endlessly patient and sophisticated friend finally snapped, exclaiming, “FOR F—’S SAKE, JUST POUR IT!”

https://www.firepit.art

Thankfully, Charlie’s approach was the complete opposite. He made a point of ensuring the evening was lighthearted, interactive, and fun—without ever compromising on substance. He didn’t just educate; he entertained. And judging by the lively atmosphere in the room, he had a gift for bringing together a wonderfully diverse and genuinely lovely group of people.

The tasting featured six carefully selected wines, each with its own story and character. Gallery owner Marcus Jake was also on hand, standing by with a bucket for those who wished to spit or discard their samples—though, let’s be honest, few took him up on that offer. His primary role for the evening? Acting as Charlie’s glamorous assistant, which, in reality, mostly involved keeping everyone’s glasses generously topped up.

The wine tasting flies by in just over an hour, but the evening doesn’t end there. Charlie stays on for the dinner portion, offering expert advice on wine pairings and sharing fascinating insights in his signature engaging style.

Celebrity photographer Annemarie Bickerton with Charlie and me https://www.firepit.art

Dinner is served in the gallery itself, creating a relaxed and sociable atmosphere. Guests—many of whom started the evening as strangers—naturally connect over a two-course meal, exchanging thoughts on the wines, the artwork, and life in general. The sense of camaraderie is undeniable, making it feel more like an intimate dinner party than a formal event.

2Shades Clare Mc Sweeney and Annemarie Bickerton with friends join the fun https://www.firepit.art

For those who prefer just the wine tasting experience, tickets are available separately, with no obligation to stay for dinner. However, gallery curator Matthew warmly encourages guests to linger, explore the artwork, and enjoy another drink at their leisure.

“We want people to experience the gallery, to feel at home in the space,” Marcus explains. “That’s why we keep ticket prices as low as possible. The wine tastings and dinners have been a real success, bringing people together in a way that feels effortless and enjoyable.”

And a success it certainly was. 2Shades will definitely be back.

Date and time

Saturday, April 26 · 6 – 10:30pm GMT+1. Doors at 6pm

Regional French Wine Masterclass with optional two-course dinner

An informal and exciting wine masterclass featuring six premium wines from the Loire Valley, Madiran in the Southwest, the Rhone Valley and Provence. Presented by Vinoteca founder Charlie Young

There are two tickets:

Masterclass £16.50 per person, 6:00pm to 7:15pm

Two-course dinner £16.50 per person, 7:30pm to 10:30pm

Communal two-course dinner, with glasses or bottles of the wines featured in the Masterclass from £6 per glass

Regional French Wine Masterclass with Charlie Young

Anjou Blanc ‘Large Soif!’ 2020 – Terra Vita Vinum, Anjou, Loire (white)

Chinon Clos de la Bonneliere 2020 – Chateau de la Bonneliere, Chinon, Loire (red)

Pacherenc du Vic Bilh Sec 2021 – Domaine Laplace, Madiran, South West

Madiran ‘Aydie l’Origine’ 2021 – Domaine Laplace, Madiran, South West

Côtes du Rhone Vieilles Vignes 2018 – Famille Gras, Rhone South

Coteaux de Béziers Chardonnay Prestige 2022 – Chateau Preignes Le Neuf, Provence


Two-Course Dinner

Main course

Cider-braised roast ham hock with Jersey potatoes and spring peas

Dessert

Hot cross bun bread & butter pudding

Vegetarian/vegan options available on request

All masterclass wines available to buy by-the-glass or bottle

A Note from Firepit.

We have a challenge 25 policy. So please bring ID that proves you are over 18, if you are lucky enough to look under 25!

Masterclass starts at 6:00pm, you are welcome to come earlier and enjoy the gallery space.

Marcus with two of the fabulous guest Stephen . https://www.firepit.art

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2Shades Magazine Presents the Aesthetics Queen, Clare McSweeney

Clare Mc Sweeney

Clare’s monthly column will bring you expert advice, the latest beauty and aesthetics news, and, of course, a few fun insights into everyone’s favourite Essex girl—Clare herself!

I’m Clare McSweeney, and I’m absolutely thrilled to be launching my first column in 2Shades Magazine! Most of the time, I run a small, exclusive aesthetics business built entirely by word of mouth—CM Aesthetics, based in Brentwood, Essex. Many of my clients say I have healing hands, perhaps because I spent ten years working as an intensive care nurse. Nursing was my dream from a young age, but as a mother of three, I needed more flexibility.

I discovered the aesthetics industry through a friend and instantly felt it was a natural extension of my skill set. I like to look good, so I was fascinated by the world of aesthetics. Determined to make it work, I took out a loan and enrolled in a training course while continuing my nursing career. Honestly, I’ve never looked back. Helping people feel their best is my passion, and when I’m not doing that, you’ll probably find me enjoying a bit of ballroom dancing—it’s my guilty pleasure!

Clare chats to client Pam Sharrock

Now, let’s get started! So many people ask me how to get holiday ready. While aesthetic treatments and beauty procedures can enhance your look, poor planning can actually ruin your holiday. Here’s what you need to know before you jet off.

Clare’s Top Holiday Prep Tips

1. Schedule your treatments in advance
Aesthetic treatments take time to settle, and last-minute work can leave you feeling less than fabulous.

  • Botox: If you’re considering Botox (and yes, boys, this one’s for you too!), schedule it at least a month before your holiday. If needed, get a top-up two weeks before departure. Nobody wants sweaty underarms ruining their crisp linen shirts on a night out so boys get Botox for under the arms .
  • Make it last: Want your Botox results to last longer? Use a high-factor sunscreen and keep your face out of the sun as much as possible. A little fake tan can work wonders without aging your skin.
  • Lip filler & dermal filler: Never, ever get fillers right before a holiday! Ideally, have these done at least a month before to allow any swelling or bruising to settle. You’d be shocked by the number of people I’ve had to correct just before they fly out. Aesthetics is not like a trip to the hairdresser—even with hair, I always recommend going a few weeks before your holiday to let the colour settle.

2. Clare’s Holiday Must-Haves
These beauty essentials will help keep your skin looking fresh and flawless while you’re away.

  • A silk pillowcase & travel silk pillow: Most skin damage happens at night, so a silk pillowcase (like Fresh Face Pillow) is an absolute must. If you’re staying in a hotel, pop a silk slip over the pillow provided—it makes a hugedifference! A small travel silk pillow is also a game-changer, reducing static and being much gentler on your face while you sleep.
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  • Elizabeth Arden 8-Hour Cream: This cult beauty product is a celebrity favourite for a reason. It has multiple uses—you can apply it as a lip gloss, moisturizer, or even a tiny bit in your hair to tame frizz. Absolute holiday essential!
  • Avon Skin So Soft: Swap your usual shower gel and body spray for this miracle product. It’s budget-friendly, smells amazing, leaves your skin feeling silky smooth, and best of all—it repels mosquitoes! Even the US Army reportedly swears by it. Pro tip: Start taking Vitamin B12 and garlic supplements two weeks before your trip—mosquitoes hate it!
  • DO NOT GET BURNT! A good high-protection sunscreen is essential. Gradually building your tan is far better than frying on day one. Slow and steady wins the race for a glowing, healthy holiday tan.

I hope these tips help you feel and look your best for your next getaway. I can’t wait to answer your questions in future columns, and don’t forget to tune in to me on Gateway Radio!

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Heidi Is Back – Ready to Dish Out Advice!

Yes, Heidi is back, and she’s raring to go! As the agony aunt for 2Shades and Gateway Radio, she’s here to tackle your dilemmas head-on. This month, she’s bringing sexy—or not-so-sexy—back, offering advice on issues between the sheets.

From the film Fifty Shades of Grey .

Dear Heidi,
I hope you’re doing well. My fiancé, whom I love dearly, and I got into the whole Fifty Shades scene. At first, it was exciting and fun, but now he doesn’t seem interested in making love without some form of role-play or pain involved. I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he just laughs it off and tells me to relax, insisting that it’s great. The problem is, this isn’t what I want long-term, and we’re getting married in September. What should I do?
Suki, Pimlico

Heidi’s Advice
Oh, Suki, you’ve come to the right place! First off, Heidi is all about fun in the bedroom and never one to judge. Fantasy and role-play can be exciting, but before opening Pandora’s box, you both need to talk and make sure you’re on the same page. It’s crucial to set clear boundaries and expectations. Kinks and role-playing should enhance intimacy, not replace the emotional connection that comes from simply making love or cuddling without the extras. From what you’re describing, it sounds like your fiancé’s interest in this particular dynamic may be moving beyond fun exploration and into something more habitual.

When a fetish becomes a necessity rather than a choice, it can create an imbalance in a relationship. That’s when it stops being healthy and can become an addiction—and that’s never good. You need to have an open and honest conversation with him—without letting him brush off your concerns. Let him know how you feel and why this isn’t sustainable for you. If he truly respects and loves you, he should be willing to find a balance that works for both of you. Since you’re about to get married, this is an important issue to address sooner rather than later. If necessary, consider speaking with a professional sex therapist or couples’ counsellor to navigate this together. Role-play should be something you both enjoy, not something you feel pressured into. Wishing you the best of luck—hope you get it sorted!


Love, Heidi

Dear Heidi,
Gosh, this is embarrassing—I’m a big boy. My mates at the gym joke, “Here comes horse boy,” and I even have to be careful about what underwear I wear. The real problem is meeting a girl. Everything seems fine until we go to make love, and then they can’t handle it. Will I be single for the rest of my life?
Darren, London

Heidi’s Advice
Darren, you’re not alone, and many men have these concerns—I hear it a lot. Penises come in various sizes, and sometimes, a longer or thicker penis can make sex uncomfortable—or even painful—for the person being penetrated. The good news is that there are ways to prevent discomfort and ensure sex is as enjoyable for your partner as it is for you.

Communicate and Check In
Good communication is key. Since you can’t read minds, ask your partner how they’re feeling throughout. Always listen, respect their boundaries, and prioritize mutual pleasure. Let your partner know that you’re bigger than average—not all vaginas are the same.

Prioritise Foreplay
Foreplay is essential. Activities like kissing, touching, sharing fantasies, fingering, and using sex toys help increase arousal. This is especially important for people with vaginas, as arousal enhances natural lubrication, making penetration more comfortable.

Use Lubrication
Lube is a game changer. It reduces friction and makes penetration smoother. While vaginal arousal increases natural wetness, adding lube can enhance comfort.

Take It Slow
Pacing matters. Going slow allows your partner’s body to adjust to penetration. You can also take breaks when needed—just make sure to communicate openly about what feels good and what doesn’t.

Experiment with Positions
If a longer penis is causing discomfort by pressing against the cervix during vaginal sex, try different positions that give your partner more control over depth and angle. Small adjustments can make a big difference. Good luck, lovely!
Love, Heidi

Dear Heidi,
I am a married woman with two sons, aged 18 and 19. My husband and I rarely have sex. Lately, I’ve developed a crush on the fitness instructor at my gym, who is a woman. To be honest, I’ve had crushes on women all my life. A month ago, I started chatting with the instructor, and we went for a drink. One thing led to another, and we ended up at her place—where I had the best sex of my life. Do you think I’m a lesbian? What should I do now, Heidi?
Sahara, Southend

Heidi’s AdviceHeidi’s Advice

Well, Sahara, first of all—take a deep breath. It is never too late to embrace your true self, but only you can determine what that means for you.

Sexuality is complex, and labels like lesbian, bisexual, or pansexual don’t always fit neatly. Some people discover their true preferences later in life, while others have always known but never explored them. Your feelings and experiences are valid, and there is no rush to define yourself.

You mentioned that you’ve had crushes on women all your life, which suggests that this isn’t a sudden change, but rather something that has always been there. The key question now is: what do you want? Do you want to continue seeing this woman? Do you feel like this experience was just a one-time moment of exploration, or does it reveal a deeper truth about your desires and identity?

What You Can Do Next

  1. Talk to the Instructor (If You Feel Comfortable)
    If this woman is someone you can trust, it may help to have an open conversation with her about your feelings. She might offer guidance or insight based on her own experiences.
  2. Reflect on Your Feelings
    Take some time to explore what this experience means to you. Are you emotionally drawn to women, or was this more about physical attraction? Are you happy in your marriage, or do you feel like something has been missing?
  3. Consider Counseling
    This is a big moment in your life, and speaking with a therapist—especially one experienced in LGBTQ+ topics—could provide support as you navigate your emotions and possible next steps.
  4. Read Up on Other Women’s Experiences
    Coming to terms with your sexuality can be both exciting and overwhelming. You’re not alone in this journey, and hearing from others who have been in your shoes can be incredibly reassuring. Here’s a guide that might help:

Women’s Coming Out Guide

Hello Heidi,

My best friend is madly in love with her husband and sees him through rose-tinted glasses. However, behind her back, he keeps making passes at me. Whenever we’re all together, he acts like the perfect straight husband, but when she’s not around, it’s a different story.

Last week, they came over for dinner. While my friend was in the bathroom, I went to the kitchen, and he followed me. He pushed himself up against me and was erect he  whispered that he’d be over soon and that I had better be a “good boy.”

I don’t want to hurt her—she’s so happy—but I also don’t want to be in this situation. What should I do?

Andrew, Wandsworth

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Heidi’s Advice Oh, Andrew, as a city gal who has spent plenty of time around the boys, I’ve heard this story before. You’d be surprised how often seemingly straight men engage in secretive same-sex encounters while maintaining a completely heterosexual façade.

First and foremost—do not tell your best friend. I know that might sound counterintuitive but hear me out. If she’s deeply in love with him, chances are he will manipulate the situation and convince her that it’s all lies. Worse, he may turn it around and claim that you made a pass at him. And trust me, she will believe him—because she wants to believe him.

If she’s under his spell, she may not wake up and smell the coffee for years—possibly even decades—especially if he’s a skilled manipulator. The fallout could cost you your friendship, and he may even try to retaliate by accusing you of slandering his name.

What You Should Do

  1. Set Clear Boundaries. Confront him firmly but calmly. Tell him directly that you are not interested, and that his behaviour is unacceptable. Do not engage in threats or aggression, as these situations can turn nasty fast.
  2. Stay Away. If possible, limit your interactions with him. If you must be around him, avoid situations where you are alone together.
  3. Whatever You Do—Do Not Give In. Do not sleep with him. These types of situations almost always end in heartbreak, and in most cases, men like him do not leave their wives or partners. Instead, they continue their double lives, leaving a trail of emotional damage behind them.

This is a tricky, frustrating, and unfair position for you to be in, Andrew, but your priority should be protecting yourself. Hopefully, one day, your friend will see him for who he really is—but for now, you need to make sure you don’t get dragged into his mess.

Stay strong and take care.

Love, Heidi. https://www.counselling-foryou.co.uk



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Steven’s Viewz: Four Must-Have New Beauty Products

Having been a creator in the beauty industry before becoming a writer, my eagle eye is always on the latest hot products to keep us looking our very best.

As spring approaches, I thought it was the perfect time to share my top four picks that will bring out the best in you.

1. Enough Wellness Collagen – Created by Women for Women (But Men Can Use It Too!)

“Beauty comes from within.”

Enough Wellness Collagen is a highly effective supplement that combines 10,000mg of two types of high-quality bovine collagen with vitamins C and D to enhance absorption and maximize benefits. This targeted formula nourishes from within, making it an excellent addition to any beauty routine.

Why Collagen Matters

Collagen is a vital structural protein essential for maintaining the health and integrity of our skin, hair, nails, joints, and connective tissues. As we age, collagen production declines, leading to visible signs of aging such as sagging skin, weakened joints, and brittle hair and nails.

Adding a collagen supplement to your daily routine helps replenish these levels, promoting a youthful glow and overall well-being.

Premium-Quality Ingredients

Enough Wellness sources its hydrolyzed Swiss Bovine Collagen Peptides from grass-fed cows in Switzerland, ensuring purity and sustainability.

The formula is free from gluten, GMOs, artificial colors, flavors, fats, sugars, and carbs, providing essential support for:
✔ Radiant skin
✔ Strong hair and nails
✔ Flexible joints
✔ A healthy metabolism

Its neutral taste makes it incredibly versatile—you can add it to smoothies, water, juice, or even use it in baking. We loved it at 2SHADES!

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2 Re[Sens] – A Game Changer for Redness-Prone Skin

It’s not often that I get truly excited about a new skincare range—after all, I’ve seen just about every potion and lotion on the market. But when leading skincare expert Iryna Stewart suggested that my Celtic skin redness could be tamed and calmed, I was all ears.

And she was right. Re[Sens] is a game-changer for those of us prone to redness or flushed-looking skin.

The Philosophy Behind Re[Sens]

Made in Ukraine, this brand is deeply rooted in ancient Ukrainian traditions, bringing them into the modern world through the symbolism of the circle—a concept inspired by Trypillian culture. This symbol represents the eternal cycle of time, regeneration, harmony, and the connection between nature and cosmic rhythms.

But Re[Sens] is more than just skincare. It’s about rethinking beauty—where high-quality, effective products are created with sustainability in mind.

Breaking Down the Name: Re[Sens]

🔹 RE – Represents a moment of rethinking skincare, where both the product and its packaging are designed without harming the planet. The brand emphasizes that the earth needs care just as much as our skin, and failing to consider this leads to a loss for everyone.

🔹 SENS – Derived from “senses” and “sensitivity”, reflecting both the needs of delicate skin and the emotional sensitivity of an individual. Re[Sens] acknowledges that every element of life affects our well-being, offering a 360° approach to skincare.

A New Standard in Beauty: Slow, Thoughtful, and Effective

Re[Sens] embraces the philosophy of Slow Beauty, which is built on the idea that more is not always better. Just as multitasking can lead to burnout, overwhelming the skin with too many ingredients can cause stress and irritation. Instead, Re[Sens] focuses on:

✔ Mindful consumption
✔ Achieving results without compromising skin health
✔ Ethical and sustainable skincare

Rather than overloading the skin, Re[Sens] provides a balanced blend of anti-inflammatory, moisturizing, and soothing ingredients, ensuring effective care without overstimulation.

For those looking to adopt a conscious, holistic approach to skincare—one that nurtures both the skin and the planet—Re[Sens] is a must-try.

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Creator of the pillow Tracey Wooley with aesthetic and beauty expert Clare McSweeney

3 The Fresh Face Pillow – The Ultimate Beauty Sleep Essential SS15 will give your audience 15% off

If there’s one beauty product I can’t stop raving about, it’s the Fresh Face Pillow—even Contessa Sharrock loves it! This clinically proven pillow is a game-changer in the fight against sleep-induced wrinkles and creases—something even the best creams can’t fix. And the best part? You only need to buy it once!

What Makes the Fresh Face Pillow So Special?

✔️ Clinically Proven – Backed by science to prevent sleep wrinkles
✔️ Silk Pillowcase – Gentle on skin and hair, reducing dryness, bedhead, and breakage
✔️ Memory Foam with Cooling Gel – Supports neck posture while keeping you cool all night

Why Silk Matters

Silk pillowcases offer more than just luxury—they actively protect your skin and hair. Unlike cotton, silk reduces friction and irritation, helping to prevent wrinkles, dryness, and breakage. It’s also hypoallergenic and temperature-regulating, ensuring a comfortable and restorative sleep.

Your Best Defense Against Aging

Did you know that most aging happens while you sleep? The Fresh Face Pillow is designed to protect your skin overnight, ensuring you wake up looking refreshed and youthful.

If you’re serious about skincare, beauty, and better sleep, this pillow is a must-have!

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4 Watermans Red Light Mini Scalp Massager – A Game Changer for Hair Care

At 63 years young, I still get compliments on my hair, thanks to top colorist Heidi Gammon and my barber Mike Edde. While some of my mates are jetting off to Turkey for hair transplants, I have a secret weapon—Watermans shampoo and conditioners.

Now, they’ve introduced something even better—the Red Light Mini Scalp Massager. As someone who already swears by scalp massagers, I can confidently say that this new red light mini comb is an absolute game-changer.

Why You Need the Watermans Red Light Mini Scalp Massager

✔️ Boosts Hair Growth – Uses high-frequency vibrations and red light therapy to rejuvenate the scalp and encourage hair regrowth.
✔️ Enhances Serum & Oil Absorption – Designed to work with Watermans hair oil or serum, ensuring deeper penetration of nutrients for stronger, healthier hair.
✔️ Scientifically Proven – Red light therapy has been shown to combat hair loss and promote thicker, fuller hair.
✔️ Easy to Use – Simply squeeze the side pads to release oil or serum while the massager glides smoothly over the scalp.
✔️ Portable & USB-C Rechargeable – Take it anywhere—ideal for travel or home use.

How to Use for Maximum Hair Growth

1️⃣ Charge the Device – Ensure it’s fully charged for consistent performance.
2️⃣ Load with Oil or Serum – Use Watermans hair oil or serum for maximum benefits.
3️⃣ Activate Oil Release – Gently squeeze the pads to dispense product evenly.
4️⃣ Turn On & Massage – Select your desired setting and let the high-frequency vibrations & infrared light do the work.
5️⃣ Glide Over the Scalp – Use small, circular motions, focusing on thinning areas.
6️⃣ Relax & Enjoy – Feel the soothing effects as it stimulates blood circulation and nourishes the scalp.
7️⃣ Use Regularly – For the best results, use several times a week to see noticeable hair growth improvements.

Final Verdict

If you’re serious about scalp health and hair growth, this powerful yet easy-to-use device is a must-have. With its red light therapy, vibration technology, and precise serum application, it provides professional-level scalp rejuvenationat home. Plus, its compact, rechargeable design makes it perfect for on-the-go use.

💡 Whether you’re looking to prevent hair thinning or simply boost scalp circulation, this is the ultimate tool for vibrant, healthy hair!

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Spoiling It for the Others

Why “Dead Life” Will Seriously Affect Us All

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IyPhuLb4EZQ Peter Tatchell fights for us all to be who we are .

We are living in an era where serious fraud is celebrated, and the tale of The Emperor’s New Clothes feels more like reality than fiction. If you dare to point out the truth—that the emperor is, in fact, naked—you might find yourself in court. It’s an utterly unhinged world we live in.

I am at a lovely lunch in the heart of Essex, a place synonymous with spray tans, hair extensions, Botox, and outrageously long lashes. To say the least, I fit right in. My gorgeous companion has abandoned extensions yet looks stunning, appearing even fresher and more youthful than the rest. She is what I would call real. When she did go the false route, she never told tall tales or passed them off as her own. She is genuine—in fact, we once joked about the extensions needing food parcels. If she had lied, I wouldn’t trust her.

So, when I recently noticed a trans woman using what I find to be the most troubling and manipulative card of all—the “Dead Life” card—I was deeply concerned. And now, everyone is expected to either accept her version of events or face being sued. This isn’t a joke—it’s a serious issue.

For those unaware, the “Dead Life” concept allows individuals who have transitioned to rewrite their past. Not only can they change their pronouns (I am totally with)  but in some cases, they can craft entire fictional histories for themselves—transforming their previous existence into something entirely unrecognisable. A bit like The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, where a whole new world is created from imagination.

Now, let me be absolutely clear: I have had the privilege of knowing many incredible, talented, and brave trans women. They have undergone their journeys to become their authentic selves, and in my eyes, they are now—rightfully—women. Interestingly, none of them have resorted to the “Dead Life” tactic. Instead, they have spoken openly about their lives, their struggles, and their triumphs, offering guidance and inspiration to others. One such example is the incredibly lovely India Willoughby, newsreader and presenter.

Gorgeous and talented India Willoughby and asset to us all and role model for the trans community.

However, let’s consider a different scenario. Suppose I told you that, at 16, I was an astronaut and had a torrid affair with Madonna. That would be an outright lie (all but  an amusing one). At 16, I was, like many others, just a regular teenager experiencing life. But here’s the difference: if I were to publish a book claiming such fabrications as fact, people would rightfully call it out as nonsense.

Madonna called for you to “Express yourself ” not lie .

So why is it that a trans woman can write a memoir claiming that, at 17, she was a stunning young woman having an affair with a well-known pop star (now deceased)—when, in reality, at that time, she was a 17-year-old boy with acne? The claim that she auditioned for a well-known girl band when she would have needed a good shave for that is also questionable. But what’s really worrying is the superimposition of pictures of herself as a girl into family photos when, in fact, she was a boy.

How can publishers allow this and sell it to an unsuspecting public? It is deceitful. Should we sue?

Even newspapers are reporting such blatant fabrications as truth. It makes Trump’s propaganda look like child’s play. As a community are we not all up in arms about his lies ? 

Lies are not facts. Yet, we live in a time where, if The Emperor’s New Clothes were rewritten today, the boy who dared to shout, “He’s naked!” would be the one dragged into court. It’s insanity. Serious fraud is being rewarded, and if you speak out against it, you are painted as the villain.

Now, I am sure that many trans women who invoke the “Dead Life” narrative are simply living their lives quietly and not publishing books filled with fabricated stories. But as a community, we are in danger.

On 5 March, Legendary Children (All Of Them Queer) screened for the first time in London to a sold-out crowd. The screening marked the end of LGBT+ History Month and was followed by a Q&A with human rights campaigner, Peter Tatchell, who said he hopes the film inspires others towards activism.

Peter Tatchell made an incredibly insightful point. He doesn’t just work within LGBTQ+ charities; he also volunteers in a range of organizations, including those within religious communities that have historically been homophobic. By leading through example—by showing up, engaging, and being part of these spaces—he changes minds. That is real activism.

A humble hero Peter Thatchell

Many trans people do not wish to be part of the LGBTQ+ community, and that is their choice. However, for now, they remain within it. They are welcome. But honesty must remain at the core of any community. Without honesty, we lose trust, and once trust is broken, everything begins to crumble.

When a con artist exploits the “Dead Life” card to fabricate a fictional past and present it as fact, we all suffer. We need to hold individuals accountable. My hope is that someone exposes this person for who they truly are—so that they may serve as an example to others not to go down the same route,

Because, at the end of the day, she is spoiling it for the others.

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Good Customer Service is Alive and Well in the UK

https://www.greateranglia.co.uk/train-times/norwich-to-london-liverpool-street

Thank- You Nic Crowe and Jasmine Young of Greater Anglia . By Steven Smith

In this day and age, people are quick to complain about British transport in general. At the forefront of these complaints is often the rail network, and in many cases, the criticism is justified.

One of my New Year’s resolutions this year was to try and focus on positives rather than negatives. It’s my delight, therefore, to share a story that highlights just why we are lucky to still have people with incredible work ethics and a genuine commitment to customer service in the UK.

This story involves the team at Greater Anglia, the train line that covers the Norwich to London Liverpool Street route.

Liverpool Street London https://www.greateranglia.co.uk/train-times/norwich-to-london-liverpool-street

To protect privacy, I won’t use the real name of the passenger involved. However, everyone else in this story is real.

Every year, a dear friend of mine, who retired to sunny rural France, makes a trip back to the UK. Despite living abroad, he still enjoys the occasional visit to his old stomping grounds. However, his health has been deteriorating in recent years, and we were uncertain whether he’d be able to make the journey this time.

Imagine my joy when I learned he had landed on British soil! Though his voice sounded a little strained when we spoke while he was in Norwich, he assured me he’d be in good spirits by the time he arrived in London. We planned to meet up, enjoy some banter, and share a meal at our favorite spot—Balan’s in Soho.

I was all set, suited, and ready to pick him up on Friday, January 17, when I noticed a missed call. Returning it, I was distressed to find it was from the senior train conductor, Nic Crowe. My friend had fallen ill and was taken off the train at Ipswich. Nic sounded genuinely concerned and asked me to call him back.

Here’s what happened: an observant train host, Jasmine Young, had noticed my friend struggling as he boarded the train in Norwich. She approached to help with his bag and quickly realised he was unwell. Jasmine called first responders, and an ambulance was waiting at Ipswich to take him to the local hospital.

That could have been the end of the story. The train team could have handed the matter over to the medics and left it at that. However, Nic realised my friend was traveling alone and unfamiliar with Ipswich. When I called back, Nic suggested I meet the train he was on and then join the team on their way back to Ipswich so they could help me navigate the situation.

https://www.greateranglia.co.uk/train-times/norwich-to-london-liverpool-street

I cannot thank Nic and Jasmine enough. They truly went above and beyond. They put me on the next train, explained everything that had happened, with my friend and made sure I was well looked after. At Ipswich, another team member greeted me and introduced me to the efficient customer service staff.

After eight long hours, my friend, though still frail, was cleared to travel. With me accompanying him, the customer service team ensured everything went smoothly.

Having traveled extensively, I can confidently say you’d be hard-pressed to find better people than Nic and Jasmine when it comes to customer safety and service. Greater Anglia, you are incredibly fortunate to have them, and any passenger traveling on your trains can rest assured they’re in safe hands.

A huge thank you from 2Shades Magazine!

P.S. My friend is recovering well.

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Michael Edde looks at the top men’s hair styles at the GoldenGlobes 2025 .

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At the 2025 Golden Globes in Los Angeles, male celebrities showcased a variety of standout hairstyles that combined classic elegance with contemporary flair. We asked Leading London’s men hair stylist Michael Edde what are the top five men’s hairstyles from the event: By Steven Smith.

  1. Sleek Side Part: Many attendees opted for the timeless side part, exuding sophistication and complementing their formal attire. This polished look remains a red carpet favourite for its versatility and elegance. Our own 007 Danielle Craig sleek look took the crown 

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Classic Pompadour: The pompadour made a notable return, with several actors sporting voluminous, swept-back hair. This retro-inspired style added a touch of vintage charm to the evening’s fashion. Timothée Chalamet rocked the look brining style and class to the red carpet ,

    1. Buzz Cut: A few celebrities chose the minimalist buzz cut, highlighting facial features and offering a clean, bold statement. This low-maintenance style stood out amidst more elaborate coiffures.Jake Gyllenhaal really suits the look that is so popular and brings out his features/

    1. Curly Afro: Embracing natural curls, some attendees showcased well-defined afros, celebrating texture and individuality. This style added diversity and a fresh dynamic to the red carpet looks.  Tyler James Williams brings the ultimate style to the red carpet

    These diverse hairstyles at the 2025 Golden Globes highlighted personal expression and current trends, setting the tone for men’s grooming in the upcoming year says Michael Edde one of Londons leading barbers .

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    Does a Healing Touch Lead to Better Aesthetics?

    Intensive care nurse Claire Sweeney.

    Steven Smith meets intensive care nurse Claire Sweeney, who is bringing her unique touch to the aesthetics world.

    My dear friend Nicki Rodriguez arrived for lunch looking stunning—and noticeably younger than when we last met a few months ago. Nicki, a former WAG and fellow PR professional, has since transitioned into a wildlife presenter at “Living Things.” She knows all the best beauty spots, especially in her stomping ground of Essex. I was determined to find out what was giving her that extra sparkle.

    Nicki Rodriguez someone who not only looks beautiful . She knows the best in the business,

    “I had a little freshen-up,” Nicki laughed, adding that it was honestly the best treatment she had ever received. Digging deeper, she revealed that everyone in Essex is talking about a woman who is not only brilliant at aesthetics but whose touch makes the process remarkably comfortable. “She just has this healing touch. You really feel she cares. It was the first time someone measured my face and pointed out what would make a difference and what didn’t need attention.”

    The woman in question is Claire Sweeney, who runs a small aesthetics business in Brentwood, Essex—CM Aesthetics.

    Claire has worked as an intensive care nurse for ten years. Nursing was her dream from a young age. A mother of three, Claire discovered the aesthetics field through a friend and felt it was a natural addition to her skill set. “I like to look good,” Claire said, “so I was fascinated by aesthetics.” Taking out a loan, she enrolled in a training course while continuing her nursing career.

    Claire Sweeney on The Aston Avery show .

    “I realised what was lacking in a lot of aesthetic work I had seen. Many practitioners weren’t looking at the whole face. I don’t just want to administer Botox—my technique is like sculpting or using fillers in  addition in the  right places can bring out the best results. Treating by area alone can have disappointing  effects.”

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    When Claire began practicing, clients commented on how much time she spent discussing realistic outcomes. “You can’t turn a squirrel into a cat,” she joked. “My goal is to bring out the best version of someone, not make them look completely different. People leave wondering what they’ve done, but they simply look fresher and younger.”

    Fresh lips created by Claire Sweeney ,

    Clients frequently mention Claire’s healing touch. “Maybe it’s something I naturally have, or perhaps it’s the empathy I developed through nursing. I’m considering studying Reiki in the new year to enhance my craft. I wouldn’t claim that having healing hands guarantees better aesthetics, but many clients say their experience with me is less painful.”

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    Aesthetics has given 45 year old Claire the freedom to manage her schedule, allowing her to spend more time with her children. “Making people feel good and look their best gives me immense satisfaction,” she concluded.

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