Dr Anna Kennedy with the legendary John Lee Bird Gallery owner Marcus Jake .
In a city as vast and ever-evolving as London, it’s becoming increasingly rare to stumble upon a space that immediately feels like you’ve entered somewhere truly special. Tucked away on the Greenwich Peninsula, just a stone’s throw from the O2 Arena, The Firepit Gallery isn’t just another art venue — it’s a living, breathing community. The moment you step inside, you are immersed in a kaleidoscope of colour, creativity, and character. It feels like a sanctuary, a hive of inspiration and warmth, especially for those with an eye for flair, originality, and a desire for genuine connection.
Recently, Firepit Gallery played host to the closing night of The Autism & Art Show, a vibrant and inclusive celebration of neurodiverse talent. The event brought together an eclectic mix of artists and creatives, showcasing a dynamic range of work that broke boundaries and challenged perceptions. On hand to mark the occasion were some of the most exciting and diverse voices in the art world. Spanish-born street artist Piluca, known for her bold murals and graffiti-inspired work, joined celebrated photographer and artist Annemarie Bickerton. Also exhibiting was Alistair Blaster Artz, whose bold, futuristic pieces drew crowds.
Dt Anna Kennedy OBE with the acting royalty Vicki Michelle
The legendary John Lee Bird made a much-anticipated appearance, arriving just in time to greet Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE, a champion of autism awareness and inclusion. It’s moments like these — the spontaneous meetings, the shared laughs, the applause and admiration — that make the Firepit feel like much more than just a gallery. It’s a place where emerging and established talents mingle with activists, celebrities, and visitors from all walks of life. A kind of creative salon, echoing the golden age of artistic gatherings in Paris and London, where art wasn’t just displayed — it was lived.
Firepit is a home for Annemarie Bickerton celebrity photographer and artist .
I once described The Firepit as “the Willy Wonka of the art world,” and the comparison still holds true. There’s a sense of wonder in every corner, from the ever-changing exhibitions to the vibrant murals, installations, and sculptures that inhabit the space. It’s a gallery, yes, but also a home — one with a full-stocked bar, laughter in the air, and a real sense of belonging. It feels like stepping into a dreamscape where the lines between artist, viewer, and friend gently blur.
At the heart of it all is Marcus Jake, the visionary behind The Firepit Gallery. Marcus isn’t just the founder — he’s the soul of the place. Equal parts curator, host, mentor, and mischief-maker, Marcus has created something rare: a truly inclusive, vibrant, and welcoming environment where everyone feels seen. Whether you’re a collector, a curious wanderer, or someone simply seeking a safe and inspiring space, Marcus will greet you with open arms and infectious enthusiasm.
Gallery owner Marcus Jake
His vision for Firepit goes far beyond traditional art world boundaries. The gallery regularly hosts workshops, talks, performances, and community events. It’s a beacon of light for the LGBTQ+ community, a space where self-expression isn’t just accepted — it’s celebrated. From drag evenings to life-drawing classes, from vinyl DJ nights to panel discussions about mental health and inclusion, Firepit’s calendar is as diverse and electric as its art.
One of the gallery’s standout features is its monthly wine-tasting and dinner evenings. These events are less about formality and more about connection. Attendees gather around a long communal table, sampling wines and sharing stories while surrounded by stunning artwork. The conversations flow freely, from art and culture to politics, identity, and everything in between. These evenings have become a cherished ritual for many — a time to pause, reflect, and feel part of something bigger.
There’s also something very special about the way the gallery bridges the gap between high art and community. Too often, galleries can feel cold or elitist, but Firepit is the opposite. Here, art is accessible, emotional, and rooted in lived experience. Visitors are encouraged to talk to the artists, share their responses, and engage with the work on a personal level. Whether you’re buying your first print or attending your tenth show, you’re treated as part of the Firepit family.
The gallery’s physical space mirrors this ethos. With its industrial-chic aesthetic, vivid lighting, and rotating displays, it feels ever-changing yet instantly familiar. The bar is often the social centre of the room, where Marcus and his team are on hand not only to pour drinks but also to engage in meaningful conversation. There’s a nostalgia to the place — a reminder of the old salons and cabarets of Paris and Soho, where people came not just for the art, but for the dialogue, the inspiration, and the community.
Hanging out at The Firepitt with artists and friends
As London changes and gentrification continues to reshape its cultural spaces, The Firepit stands as a powerful counterpoint — fiercely independent, passionately inclusive, and gloriously vibrant. It’s a place where stories are shared, identities are embraced, and creativity flows freely.
In many ways, The Firepit Gallery is more than just a hidden gem. It’s a movement. A space that proves that art still has the power to unite, to challenge, and to heal. Whether you’re attending an exhibition, joining a wine tasting, participating in a workshop, or simply popping in for a chat, you leave feeling uplifted, seen, and inspired.
And perhaps that’s the greatest magic of all — not just what you find at The Firepit, but what it awakens in you.
So next time you find yourself near the O2, take a detour. Step into this creative haven where art, community, and a touch of magic collide. You may just discover your new favourite place in London.
The Firepit Gallery No.2, Upper Riverside 10 Cutter Ln, Ground Floor Unit Greenwich Peninsula London SE10 0XX 📧 info@firepit.art 🌐 www.firepit.art
There is no doubt that What It Feels Like for a Girl is one of the bravest, boldest, and most emotionally charged dramas the BBC has aired in recent memory. Dark, funny, and deeply moving, it doesn’t pull punches — and nor should it. In today’s climate, where LGBTQ+ rights are often politicised and marginalised, this series dares to dig into the raw truth of what it can feel like to grow up queer, different, and determined in an often hostile world.
At the heart of the drama is Byron — a teenager who doesn’t so much come out as leap flamboyantly out of the closet in heels and an acrylic wig. It’s a bold characterisation, and one that instantly divides viewers between admiration and concern. Byron is played with remarkable energy and vulnerability by the talented Elis Howard, whose performance captures both the sass and sadness behind a young person trying to define themselves on their own terms. Byron is no victim — he’s fierce, intelligent, witty — but the world he moves through doesn’t always treat him with the same kindness or understanding.
The series is packed with dynamic performances, but none more compelling than Jake Dunn as the chilling and unpredictable Liam. Liam is, quite frankly, terrifying — a young man full of rage, confusion, and violence, embodying a dangerous masculinity that feels all too familiar. Dunn’s performance is nothing short of remarkable, tapping into a deep well of menace and vulnerability. It would not be surprising to see this role lead to awards recognition — it’s a BAFTA-worthy turn from a young actor in complete control of his craft.
Jake Dunn as Liam has to be up for BAFTA
Just as striking is Michael Socha as Byron’s dad, Steve. Socha — one of the UK’s brightest acting talents, known for his powerful work in Big Boys Don’t Cry — brings incredible depth and complexity to a role that could easily have slipped into cliché. Steve is a working-class father trying to love and protect his child while also wrestling with his own fears, prejudices, and sense of masculinity. He isn’t perfect, but he tries — and that attempt, that effort to understand, is what gives the performance its emotional weight. Socha makes Steve both gruff and tender, occasionally heartbreaking, and always utterly human.
The supporting cast is also excellent, rounding out a story that never feels one-note. Each character serves as a window into different facets of LGBTQ+ identity, family dynamics, and the brutal realities of adolescence. The script, while occasionally unflinching in its language and choices, never feels exploitative. Instead, it invites the viewer to sit in discomfort, to examine their assumptions, and to witness the daily negotiations and dangers that queer teens may face.
However, it would be dishonest to pretend the series is perfect — or without controversy.
In a time where LGBTQ+ and particularly trans communities are under increasing attack — in the media, in politics, and in public life — there is a growing call for stories that offer more balance, more hope, and more variation. While What It Feels Like for a Girl is undeniably powerful, it risks reinforcing some deeply damaging tropes. The depiction of young gay men becoming involved in sex work or aggressively pursuing unavailable straight men plays into harmful stereotypes that many activists and members of the LGBTQ+ community have spent decades working to dismantle.
There is a danger that a show like this, no matter how well-crafted, could be misinterpreted by those looking for ammunition to further vilify queer lives. It’s a delicate balance — representing the reality of some without suggesting it’s the reality for all. And in this case, that balance feels slightly off. Yes, some young people do struggle in these ways. But others do not. Some grow up in supportive families, thrive at school, fall in love safely, and live joyfully. Those stories matter too.
In many ways, this series is a reminder of the importance of representation — and the challenges that come with it. Authentic queer storytelling is vital, but so is diversity within that storytelling. Not every queer teen is a tragedy, and not every narrative needs to be soaked in trauma. What we need now, more than ever, is nuance. The right to be messy, yes — but also the right to be happy.
Despite these concerns, What It Feels Like for a Girl remains compelling, necessary viewing. The direction is confident and unflinching, the writing brutally honest, and the performances — particularly from Dunn, Howard, and Socha — are unforgettable. The series asks difficult questions and offers no easy answers. And perhaps that is its greatest strength.
This isn’t a show that ties everything up in a bow or gives us a neat resolution. It leaves viewers unsettled, maybe even angry. But it also invites conversation. It asks us to sit in the discomfort of the truth and to consider how we might do better — as parents, as friends, as a society.
In the end, What It Feels Like for a Girl doesn’t pretend to speak for everyone. It tells one version of the truth — raw, messy, painful, and defiant. It may not be the perfect flag-bearer for LGBTQ+ representation, but it doesn’t need to be. What it does do is open the door. It gets us talking. It reminds us that behind every label is a life — complicated, beautiful, and worthy of understanding.
What a night! It is truly an honour to be the patron of Anna Kennedy Online. The team has become like family, and with great excitement, I stepped out on Saturday for the annual Autism Hero Awards.
The Autism Hero Awards 2025: A Night of Celebration and Inspiration
Red Carpet Ready GBNEWS Nana Akua and fiancé Stephen Gillian .
On March 15, 2025, the prestigious Autism Hero Awards, hosted by Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE, took place at the Holiday Inn Regents Park, London. Organized by the charity Anna Kennedy Online, this highly anticipated event honoured the remarkable achievements of individuals, organisations, and initiatives making a positive impact in the autism community. With inspiring award categories, special performances, and celebrity guests, the night was a spectacular celebration of talent, resilience, and advocacy.
Anna Kennedy surrounded by glitz and glamour towering above her Actor Matthew Blake and entrepreneur Richard Andrews
A Star-Studded Guest List
The event welcomed an impressive lineup of celebrities, including bestselling author Samantha Lee Howe, actress Vicki Michelle, actor Gary Webster, television personality Wendy Turner Webster.
Tiano’s Christopher Hamilton with Anna Kennedy OBE
Heartstopper star Bradley Riches, presenter Nana Akua, and fiancé author Stephen Gillian. 70 years In the business Frazer Hines danced till midnight . Olympic champion and patron Joe Luck was on hand ,
Award winning author and screen writer Samantha Lee Howe who judged the awards along with me Steven Smith
Adding to the glamour was singing sensation Tiano’s Christopher Hamilton. Actress and presenter Danielle Mason, Pink Ribbons’ Lisa Allen, and artist Piluca Camino Alcon also graced the event. The evening’s main hosts, award-winning presenter Aston Avery and youth theatre organiser Phillip Barnett, ensured the night flowed seamlessly with warmth and professionalism.
Model actress and presenter Danielle Mason joined the celebrities and crowd .
The Autism Hero Awards is more than just an event—it is a movement that recognises the incredible contributions of individuals and organisations within the autism community. Each category highlights a different aspect of support, advocacy, or achievement, celebrating efforts both big and small.
A night to remember
Award Winners and Highly Commended Recipients
Young Person of the Year Award Winner: Lucy Lovett Highly Commended: Jiya Rai, Chapman Shum
Outstanding Community Award Winner: True Colours Theatre CIO Foundation Highly Commended: Craig Henderson, Doncaster Autism Service
Terry Scott is ready to do his thing as Aston Avery presents and Nana Akua and Anna Kennedy present and award to True Colours .
Sibling of the Year Award Winner: Brooke Scaysbrook-Smith Highly Commended: Kayden Francis, Rosie Simmons
Parent/Carer of the Year Award Winner: Nicole Simmons Highly Commended: Amanda Inglis, Satia Rai
veteran acting royalty Frazer Hines .
The Lifetime Award Winner: Elspeth Jones Highly Commended: Annie Sands, Joely Williams
Leading Business Award Winner: Skye Stack Highly Commended: Pamela Capriglione, Hiyed CIC
People’s Autism Hero of the Year Award Winner: Blaise Heywood Highly Commended: Jenny Robinson, Rose Connelly
Two of the judges actor Gary Webster and presenter and author Wendy Turner
Creative Arts and Media Award Winner: Curran Dobbs Highly Commended: Libby Barrett, Amaya Edwards
Support Group of the Year Award Winner: Kim Drake – Little Hero’s ASD Support Group
Personal Achievement Award Winner: Thomas Howard Highly Commended: Amaya Edwards, Kelsey McInearney
Online Social Network Award Winner: Daniel Jones
The star of the night Vega
Human-Animal Bond Award Winner: Philippa Jane Sjoberg & Scrumpy Highly Commended: Sarah Allen & Patsy, Bobby Clark & Zeus
The judges Steven Smith Samantha Lee Howe Brad Riches , Gary Webster with Anna Kennedy OBE
A Night of Emotional Speeches and Performances
The night was filled with heartfelt speeches from winners and nominees, many sharing personal stories of perseverance and triumph. One of the most touching moments came from Thomas Howard, who received the Personal Achievement Award for his relentless advocacy in making neurodiversity training mandatory in higher education. His emotional speech moved the audience, reinforcing the importance of awareness and inclusivity.
On hand celebrity magician Angus Baskerville entertained .
The Impact of the Autism Hero Awards
Events like these play a crucial role in breaking down barriers, fostering inclusion, and encouraging ongoing support for autistic individuals. Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE, the driving force behind the awards, delivered a passionate speech about the importance of community support, education, and advocacy. Her dedication continues to bring positive change and hope to countless individuals and families.
Looking Ahead
As the curtains closed on another successful Autism Hero Awards ceremony, attendees left inspired and determined. The event once again proved the importance of recognising and celebrating achievements within the autism community. With each passing year, the Autism Hero Awards grow stronger, touching more lives and expanding their reach.
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Anna Kennedy Online in Association with Firepit Art Gallery CIC Presents Their Inaugural 🎨 “AUTISM & ART SHOW” 🎨
VIP Red Carpet Launch: May 22nd, 2025 Exhibition Dates: May 22nd – May 27th, 2025
“For people on the autism spectrum, art is a powerful medium that encourages self-expression.”
Anna Kennedy Online, in collaboration with the Firepit Art Gallery, is proud to present the first-ever “Autism & Art Show.” This exciting event showcases incredible artwork from autistic artists and their allies, with all profits supporting the charity Anna Kennedy Online. Art is more than just a passion—it serves as a therapeutic outlet, offering solace and joy to many individuals on the autism spectrum.
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Chris Wilde one of the artist who work will be on show .
Last week, I joined some of the legendary children from the original Pride at the Curzon Cinema Bloomsbury to watch the powerful documentary Legendary Children (All of Them Queer), directed by Rob Falconer.
The film had its highly anticipated London premiere, playing to a an enthusiastic audience. Serving as the closing event for LGBT+ History Month, the screening was followed by an engaging Q&A session featuring renowned human rights activist Peter Tatchell.
Tatchell expressed his hope that the film would serve as both a historical reflection and a call to action for new generations of activists.
“I hope this film demonstrates that real social change is possible and inspires others to take up activism,” Tatchell stated. “It’s a story of then and now. I always say, even if you can’t be on the front lines, you can still make an impact—just by amplifying the struggles and voices of LGBT+ people across the world.”
His remarks followed a strong statement from the International Committee for LGBTQ+ History Months, a coalition representing 16 such initiatives globally. The committee issued a scathing condemnation of the U.S. government’s recent efforts to systematically remove LGBTQIA+ resources, educational materials, and visibility from schools.
“The erasure of books, knowledge, historical records, and community groups has never led to anything positive,” they wrote, warning that “the actions of the Trump administration are emboldening other governments and institutions to follow suit.”
Filmed over two years, Legendary Children chronicles the lives and activism of the pioneers who helped establish the first UK Pride in 1972. Director Rob Falconer reflected on the film’s profound relevance, not only in light of the growing wave of anti-LGBTQIA+ sentiment in the United States but also due to the loss of many of the trailblazers featured in the documentary.
“We won’t see their like again,” Falconer said, acknowledging the passing of numerous activists who fought to carve out a space for LGBTQ+ rights in Britain and beyond. The film stands as both a tribute to their courage and a reminder of the ongoing fight for equality—one that remains as urgent today as it was five decades ago.
The second film, The Fragility of Freedom, follows an inspiring group of humanitarian secondary school students from Essex, Suffolk, and Vancouver, Canada, as they participate in The Dora Love Prize 2024.
Since its inception, The Dora Love Prize has engaged over 1,500 secondary school and college students in Essex, Suffolk, and beyond in a unique, youth-driven human rights initiative. Inspired by Holocaust survivor Dora Love, the project continues her lifelong mission to educate young people about the atrocities of the Nazi Holocaust. Dora’s goal was simple: to empower students with this knowledge so they could challenge identity-based prejudice, discrimination, marginalization, and violence in today’s world.
Founder Rainer Schulze explains, “The Dora Love Prize provides young people with knowledge beyond the school curriculum and the confidence to create positive change in the world around them. We invite you to ‘see the world differently.’”
Dora Love
I am not always on the same page as the wonder that is Peter Tatchell, but I am in awe of him and his work. His speech about stepping into other organizations and being a shining light is so important that 2Shades has decided to print it as a landmark speech.
Peter Tatchell – March 5, 2025, Curzon Bloomsbury, London
*”To start with, I’d like to say that I had a very difficult choice tonight. I was also asked to speak at the U.S. Embassy in the solidarity protest with Ukraine and against Donald Trump’s withdrawal of aid from that country’s battle for self-determination.
What we are witnessing now is the rise of Russian and U.S. imperialism in alliance with each other to carve up Ukraine. Putin wants the territory; Trump wants the minerals. That is the new imperialism.
For LGBT+ Ukrainians, a Russian victory would be a devastating blow. It would mean the imposition of Russian-style laws on LGBT+ Ukrainians, never mind all the other civic and political repressions that would follow. The trade union movement in Ukraine would be dismantled, women’s rights campaigners would face severe repression, and so on. This is a critical moment where we must show the kind of international solidarity that the Gay Liberation Front demonstrated in the early 1970s. Back then, we stood with the people of Vietnam against U.S. aggression, with the people of Greece battling the Colonels’ junta, and with the people of Spain fighting the Franco dictatorship.
We saw our struggle as international, not just limited to LGBT+ rights but part of a broader democratic human rights movement.
So, to go back to your question—history shows that if you care about something, don’t just care, do something. Action equals life; silence equals death. We must get organized.
For young people who feel passionate, get involved with an organization that is making a difference. Many groups across Britain and around the world need financial support, online campaigners, and solidarity. Some young people I know make a point of attending Pride parades in repressive European countries like Georgia, Hungary, and Poland. They do this to show their support, and no one should underestimate the power of solidarity.
For people living under dictatorship or repression, knowing that others care is a massive morale boost. It’s psychologically uplifting.
The other thing I’d say is—don’t feel confined to LGBT+ movements. A lot of my work isn’t LGBT+ focused. I support the liberation movements in Indonesian-occupied West Papua, the Balochistan freedom struggle against Pakistan’s occupation, and the fight of the Arab Ahwazis in Iran against subjugation by Tehran. I don’t do this for LGBT+ reasons—I do it because they have a just freedom struggle, just like the people of Ukraine, Palestine, or anywhere else.
Because I’m openly gay, my support has forced many people in these communities to rethink their attitudes toward LGBT+ people.
Take Balochistan—it’s a very tribal, patriarchal, and, frankly, ‘backward’ society in terms of LGBT+ rights. But because I’ve been one of the champions of their freedom cause for the last two decades—getting them huge media coverage—I’m now well known there. Many people have told me, ‘I used to hate homosexuals. I believed all the propaganda. But you stood with us, and now I’m rethinking my attitude.’
That’s incredibly important.
The same applies across the board. I’ve been campaigning for 50 years in support of Palestine’s right to a homeland. Again, as an openly gay man, I’ve had countless Muslim people tell me, ‘I used to hate gays, but your support over the decades has changed my mind.’
So, if you’re young, get involved in these movements as an openly LGBT+ person. Show that we stand with them. At first, they may not stand with us, but if you persist, not only will you be supporting a just cause, but you’ll also be changing hearts and minds along the way.”*
We are living in an era where serious fraud is celebrated, and the tale of The Emperor’s New Clothes feels more like reality than fiction. If you dare to point out the truth—that the emperor is, in fact, naked—you might find yourself in court. It’s an utterly unhinged world we live in.
I am at a lovely lunch in the heart of Essex, a place synonymous with spray tans, hair extensions, Botox, and outrageously long lashes. To say the least, I fit right in. My gorgeous companion has abandoned extensions yet looks stunning, appearing even fresher and more youthful than the rest. She is what I would call real. When she did go the false route, she never told tall tales or passed them off as her own. She is genuine—in fact, we once joked about the extensions needing food parcels. If she had lied, I wouldn’t trust her.
So, when I recently noticed a trans woman using what I find to be the most troubling and manipulative card of all—the “Dead Life” card—I was deeply concerned. And now, everyone is expected to either accept her version of events or face being sued. This isn’t a joke—it’s a serious issue.
For those unaware, the “Dead Life” concept allows individuals who have transitioned to rewrite their past. Not only can they change their pronouns (I am totally with) but in some cases, they can craft entire fictional histories for themselves—transforming their previous existence into something entirely unrecognisable. A bit like The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, where a whole new world is created from imagination.
Now, let me be absolutely clear: I have had the privilege of knowing many incredible, talented, and brave trans women. They have undergone their journeys to become their authentic selves, and in my eyes, they are now—rightfully—women. Interestingly, none of them have resorted to the “Dead Life” tactic. Instead, they have spoken openly about their lives, their struggles, and their triumphs, offering guidance and inspiration to others. One such example is the incredibly lovely India Willoughby, newsreader and presenter.
Gorgeous and talented India Willoughby and asset to us all and role model for the trans community.
However, let’s consider a different scenario. Suppose I told you that, at 16, I was an astronaut and had a torrid affair with Madonna. That would be an outright lie (all but an amusing one). At 16, I was, like many others, just a regular teenager experiencing life. But here’s the difference: if I were to publish a book claiming such fabrications as fact, people would rightfully call it out as nonsense.
Madonna called for you to “Express yourself ” not lie .
So why is it that a trans woman can write a memoir claiming that, at 17, she was a stunning young woman having an affair with a well-known pop star (now deceased)—when, in reality, at that time, she was a 17-year-old boy with acne? The claim that she auditioned for a well-known girl band when she would have needed a good shave for that is also questionable. But what’s really worrying is the superimposition of pictures of herself as a girl into family photos when, in fact, she was a boy.
How can publishers allow this and sell it to an unsuspecting public? It is deceitful. Should we sue?
Even newspapers are reporting such blatant fabrications as truth. It makes Trump’s propaganda look like child’s play. As a community are we not all up in arms about his lies ?
Lies are not facts. Yet, we live in a time where, if The Emperor’s New Clothes were rewritten today, the boy who dared to shout, “He’s naked!” would be the one dragged into court. It’s insanity. Serious fraud is being rewarded, and if you speak out against it, you are painted as the villain.
Now, I am sure that many trans women who invoke the “Dead Life” narrative are simply living their lives quietly and not publishing books filled with fabricated stories. But as a community, we are in danger.
On 5 March, Legendary Children (All Of Them Queer) screened for the first time in London to a sold-out crowd. The screening marked the end of LGBT+ History Month and was followed by a Q&A with human rights campaigner, Peter Tatchell, who said he hopes the film inspires others towards activism.
Peter Tatchell made an incredibly insightful point. He doesn’t just work within LGBTQ+ charities; he also volunteers in a range of organizations, including those within religious communities that have historically been homophobic. By leading through example—by showing up, engaging, and being part of these spaces—he changes minds. That is real activism.
A humble hero Peter Thatchell
Many trans people do not wish to be part of the LGBTQ+ community, and that is their choice. However, for now, they remain within it. They are welcome. But honesty must remain at the core of any community. Without honesty, we lose trust, and once trust is broken, everything begins to crumble.
When a con artist exploits the “Dead Life” card to fabricate a fictional past and present it as fact, we all suffer. We need to hold individuals accountable. My hope is that someone exposes this person for who they truly are—so that they may serve as an example to others not to go down the same route,
Because, at the end of the day, she is spoiling it for the others.
The incredible Boy George and 2hades favourite David Hoyle a star .
2Shades meets husband and husband team Tiano. The London cabaret duo of Christopher Hamilton and Shimi Goodman
It is an almost unthinkable scenario that Liberace and Pavarotti had secret love children, let alone that those children went on to inherit their fathers’ talents!
Described in one five star review
Then they met one another, fell deeply in love and married. Well, you would be forgiven for thinking just that, as married couple Chris Hamilton (Piano) and Shimi Goodman (Tenor) take to the stage to perform to a sell-out audience of dedicated fans
2Shades wanted to know more about the boys and we fired some questions at them.
What are you both doing for Christmas?
It’s all very glamorous! We will be performing on a six star luxury cruise ship called the Silver Muse sailing from Melbourne, Australia to Auckland, New Zealand. But before jetting off to the other side of the world we have our Christmas show at the Crazy Coqs in London which sold out pretty much minutes after we announced it during our last show there. We are so grateful to all the people who keep coming to our shows in London and elsewhere.
What four Christmas songs would you sing at a Christmas Concert and why?
Oh Holy Night – This song really fits our style of music as it is a classical song but has been covered by the likes of Mariah Carey, the Queen of Christmas. Shimi particularly enjoys singing it as it really taps into the classical genre which he loves.
All I Want for Christmas – Speaking of Miss Carey, this song is unavoidable during the festive period so although it’s done to death, it would be Scrooge like not to sing it.
All I Want for Christmas is for Someone to Cancel It – To counteract the Christmas schmaltz and to honour all grinches out there, Chris wrote this tongue in cheek, irreverent song himself. If you can’t make it to our Christmas show, you can hear this song on YouTube.
Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas – It’s such a bitter sweet moment when Judy Garland sings this beautiful song in the 1944 film Meet Me in St. Louis. It makes most people feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
When did you both know you loved each other?
We met at Guildford School of Acting in 2000 and it was something like love at first sight over a jacket potato in Cathy’s Cafe!
What is the most romantic gift you bought each other?
Shimi: Chris always wanted to go on the Orient Express. His birthday is in December and after a bit of research I discovered to my dismay that the train wasn’t active during the winter. I had to break it to him that it wouldn’t happen for a certain big birthday of his but then a few weeks before his birthday he saw an advert online saying that the Orient Express had started a winter journey. I quickly booked it and we travelled from Paris to Vienna overnight. The train was relatively empty and it was magical looking out of the window watching the snowy scenery whilst being treated like royalty! We had the pleasure of jamming with an amazing Italian jazz group until the early hours. Even the waiters started filming us! We stayed at the famous Sacher Wien hotel when we reached our final destination. We went to see an opera and walked around the Christmas markets. Very memorable.
Chris: I always knew how much Shimi loves the movie franchise Back to The Future or indeed anything to do with the 1980s, so for one of his birthdays following a tasting menu dinner (which I absolutely hate) at a brand new restaurant in Covent Garden I got us top tickets to the West End musical. He knew all the text by heart.
The festival of lights Hanukkah is a big holiday. How do you both celebrate that? Is there a song that jumps to mind?
Shimi: I love Hanukkah. We light the hanukkiah which is an eight stemmed candelabra. You light a candle for every day of the holiday and eat sufganiyot which are yummy jam doughnuts. My favourite song is Maoz Tzur or Rock of Ages as it is known in English.
When did you both last laugh together?
Every day. We have our own silly sense of humour and can find the humour in most situations.
What are your wishes for 2025?
There’s a lyric in one of our original songs which says: “Music can heal and make it a better day”. We truly believe that it can, so we wish for our music to reach more and more people around the world and to keep travelling and entertaining. We would love to perform in America. Chris did a series of cabarets in New York a while back so it would be good for Tiano to take the States by storm! We’re currently in talks to hopefully make this happen during the next couple of years.
Who would you most like to work with in the music industry?
Barbra Streisand and Shirley Bassey are two of our idols. It would be an absolute dream to perform with them. We also love a Welsh singer called Ellen Williams and would love to collaborate with her. One of our songs “It’s Not Goodbye” would be a beautiful duet for her and Shimi.
Who is the best cook?
Shimi does most of the cooking when we’re home. But Chris makes a mean chilli con carne named “the famous” because he only cooks it once a year but when he does people rave about it. Whether they’re raving about the dish or the fact he’s actually put an apron on is anyone’s guess….
Tell our readers what you can expect from a Tiano concert.
Every show we put on in London is different for a couple of reasons. Firstly, we owe it to our loyal supporters to present different music to keep each performance fresh. Secondly, it challenges us as artists to keep learning new material. For instance at Crazy Coqs in Piccadilly, London we’ve become known for presenting a ten minute medley at each show which is devoted to a decade (for example the 80’s), an artist (for instance Whitney Houston), or perhaps a movie musical (maybe Dirty Dancing which incidentally Shimi performed in in the West End). It’s always challenging arranging and rehearsing an intricate medley of songs with constant key changes and mood changes and then performing it for a live audience for the very first time without looking at lyrics or music. However, it’s so worthwhile because the audience has come to really appreciate this moment in the show. In the last two shows people loved singing along during our medley devoted to The Carpenters and at our most recent one, ABBA. We spend all that time on each ten minute set piece and only perform it once!
Chris is a multi award winning composer and lyricist so we always share music he has written which once again the audience usually loves. Chris recently released an album of his very mellow original piano pieces called Sempre Piano (you can listen to it on Spotify). It’s so gratifying to see an audience respond so favourably to these moments of calm when he shares one of these pieces during a show. Shimi has also co written a few songs with Chris, a couple of which are on their debut album Tiano which you can also hear on Spotify. They have become firm favourites with the audience.
We put so much thought into our programme with the hope of taking our audience on a real journey. You’ll laugh, cry, sing along and leave our show with a big smile on your face!
If there is one thing most people can agree on, it is that children need love, guidance and to feel safe. Now in 2024 we can acknowledge that this does not necessarily need to come from what has been seen as the traditional family of Mum and Dad. The face of the family does not always concur with the image of the Waltons or The Brady Brunch. It takes two Heterosexuals to make one of us as Boy George pointed out. Many have done a great job, but equally the horror and trauma many have left their children with after childhood are the story of Netflix shows.
In this day in age the family can be two dads, two mums, a single parent or two lots of parents after a divorce. The end goal is for the child anyone raises to become a happy confident adult, one who knows they are loved and gives back in return. This would make for a kinder society. But of course, not all agree, and the far Christian right still scream in horror at the idea of gay marriage, let alone gay people adopting or having children.
Steven Smith meets an LGBTIQQ hero Andi Ellis Smith who has adopted two children with husband Darren, and chats life and fatherhood.
Andi, how did you and Darren meet?
Darren and I met through a mutual friend on Facebook, but it turned out that we actually lived very close to each other.
When did you both decide you wanted to have children?
Darren had always been vocal about wanting children whereas I was a little quieter about it. Initially, I would brush it off or change the subject, but I have also always wanted children. As a young gay man, I just wasn’t sure that it was available to me!
Why go the route of adoption over surrogate or foster?
Due to our careers (Darren is a Headteacher and prior to working in media and advocacy my working history is within the local authority and schools) we were acutely aware of how many children were in the system that needed a caring and loving home, and we felt that we were able to provide this. It was always adoption for us. The loose UK laws around LGBTQ+ surrogacy (at the time) also put us off that route. We have seen first-hand how amazing foster carers can be and what a vital part in a child’s life they can play. This is something that we would possibly consider once our children have grown up.
How easy was it to get approved for adoption?
As you can imagine, there are lengthy checks by the adoption agency which include character references from friends/ family, DBS checks. employer checks / medicals and finance checks including many meetings with your social worker. In addition to this you will need to attend information and training sessions.
We believe that there is a misconceived understanding by many people that the adoption process takes years. In fact, the approval process in the UK usually takes around 6 months. The part that can take the longest is the family finding and matching, but this could mainly be due to how open the prospective adopters are to the type of care needs that they are willing to take on.
Do you feel that the BBC drama “Lost Boys and Fairies” is a good comparison to your experience?
To start off with the drama was a very good representation of the process, but I felt some of this got lost with some dramatisation in parts of the story, which is understandable. I personally would have liked storylines to be more child-centred and without the usual exaggerated cliches, but it was a good watch. The foster carer character was brilliant! Each adoption journey is different with twists/ turns and highs/ lows, so it would be good to see more representation of adoption on prime time tv.
What advice would you give to other LGBTQQ couples hoping to adopt?
Be open with your social worker and don’t hide anything, your social worker will end up knowing more about you than anyone else! I always say to people to be at a point in your life where you are able to give 100% of your time and focus to the process as it will take over your life.
One of the first highly published couples Linda Riley and Sarah Garrett have two children together and set up “The Alternative Parent show”. As well as massive support for the couple (who have since split up), the Christian Right were very vocal of their disapproval. What do you say to those who think children should have a Mum and Dad?
Sarah Garrett, right, organiser of the Alternative Parenting Show, with her ex-partner Linda and their twins Phoenix and Sophia. Photograph: Linda Nylind for the Guardian
Besides breast feeding, there is nothing that my children could get from a mother that they don’t get from their two dads. Let’s be honest about this, the majority of children in the care system come from families where there is a mum and dad. We did an article for publication about adoption when we first started our family; most of the comments were positive but there were a few archaic comments of ‘this child needs their mum’ ! I think some people are just very uneducated about it. Safeguarding thresholds in the UK are incredibly high and birth families are given many chances (sometimes too many) before children are removed, so to say that ‘every child needs their mum’ ….is just a bizarre statement.
I am proud to have been a part of the Modern Family Show for 3 years now, this is Europe’s largest family building event and helps inform LGBTQ+ on their options for parenthood. The show is coming to London on 28th September 2024. you can get
Once you have adopted, how much help in the following years is there for parents?
We have needed support for both of our children post adoption as we have seen a huge decline in services post pandemic. It is a bit of a myth that you can ask for support post adoption and you will just get it. The post adoption fund is available, but you do have to go through assessments and meetings to be able to access it and, like everything these days, there are long waiting lists which can be frustrating.
Adopted children (known as Previous LAC (Looked after children) can access certain support such as going to the top of admissions criteria for some schools (always check the policy!) and their educational setting will be able to access certain funding pots, so it is really important to be honest with the school that the child is adopted.
Your first child – your daughter – has numerous medical diagnoses. This must take up a huge amount of time. Were you aware of this at the point of adoption and is there much support for you around this?
Our daughter does have complex needs. We were aware that she may have some difficulties due to genetic conditions and from information that was provided to us pre-adoption. As time has gone on, we have received further diagnosis.
What is difficult is dealing with professionals not doing what they should, following up on appointments and fighting for the support for different services. The other part that can be tricky is people’s attitudes towards SEN and inclusion.
Has there ever been a point when one of your children ask why they have two dads? How do you explain this and what about when they are asked at school?
Our son is very inquisitive about everything! We always talk about different families and have lots of books featuring characters from all family background and cultures. I like his way of thinking; he flips it and asks why people don’t have two daddies or why do they have a mum!
I do think that a lot of children just accept things these days, of course there are exceptions to this. However, my children’s classmates have always known that they have two dads, even from when they have been at nursery from aged 2 and childminders. One child once said to my daughter’s key worker that he thought it was unfair she had two dads because he only had one!
Can you tell us how you are involved with Anna Kennedy online?
Earlier this year I became a Charity Champion for Anna Kennedy. We have done some fund raising and held virtual coffee mornings for the LGBTQ+ community, which is a safe space for people who belong to this group to come and chat to others. This can be other LGBTQ+ parents or those who are neurodiverse and LGBTIQQ+.
What do you two beautiful people relax or do to look after yourselves?
We love spending time with friends and family. We enjoy days out and lots of walks (or running after the children). As a couple we love outings to the theatre or concerts and we both try and get to the gym as and when we can!
The Vauxhall Tavern, Thursday 10th August 2023 through to September
5 stars xxxxx
A David Hoyle show is a truly unique experience and it is meant to be. I once described him as Kate Bush’s and Lyndsey Kemp’s love child. His talent is undeniable, and he asks his audience, as he narrates, to think out of the box with him.
As you look around the packed room, it mirrors “Warhol’s Factory. From the lady you feel sure may have been one of Warhol’s prodigy in her hay day with the bright pink hair, Trans adorned Hoyle’s congregations long before it became a topic of conversation. But it is not just the LGBTIQQ community that worship here. Men in suits that look like they have come from the city or just people who love art or good conversation can be found at David Hoyle shows.
” Everyone is beautiful in this room” David assures us all.
The atmosphere is electric before David even enters the room. If people-watching is your thing, part of the experience is to join liked-minded people before the show gets going. The excitement is mounting as a virgin David audience member whispers to me,
“I just love drag”.
“He is not drag”, I replied, well not in the traditional form: you won’t see Hoyle entering “Ru Paul Drag Race” any day soon. Certainly, he appears in tattered stockings and a night dress that had seen better days.
I would love to hear Michelle Visage questioning Hoyle’s sewing skills (I’d pay to witness his reply!).
Hoyle is simply art. You never know which David you’re getting and it reflects how he feels about the state of the world that night. One show he will walk on stage dressed like Frank N Furter meets Bowie’s Space Oddity, oozing glamour. The next show his hair will be in bunches like Violet Elizabeth, his tooth having fallen out, talking about poverty as an artist. Or he walks on with his face bare, a few nights after the Manchester bombing (his now home town), opening his heart to the pain we are all feeling.
He moves amongst us handing out autographed prints of his actual artwork. Hoyle uses his audience as his paint brushes. He asks those at the front why they have taken prime position if they did not want him to point them out.
Hoyle does not take cheap shots at people unlike so many that humiliate audience members. Even when confronted by the more difficult patron. To this day it still makes me chuckle to think about when he asked a slightly drunk man what he did. “I do what you do”, grandly the man replied.
Hoyle retorted, “Really! I had no idea I was generic!”
Hoyle will make fun of himself, asking if anyone fancies a 61-year-old homosexual with a bridge tooth, he chats about the difficulties of dating as an older gay man. David gives sermons on not fitting in the box, or on everyday life as an artist, or those that do not want to conform or those that do. He does not ask you to agree or disagree, but merely to think. This may not sound like a form of entertainment, but it is, and he packs out venues with those wanting to hear him.
Hoyle always finishes off by doing a portrait of an audience member. Again it could be ritual humiliation but instead the chosen one is always made to feel special, but the audience is in hysterics.
David is so very special , and it is a joy to walk away having seen someone so gifted who often bares more than his soul to his audience . Please go see this icon.
This article first appeared three years a go but just as current . The Church of Madonna by Steven Smith.
It’s a warm night in Athens and there is a gentle wind blowing through the Pictures Restaurant, which is lit by candles, making it a perfect atmosphere for dinner.
My weekend hosts have joined me: the divine Atticus (a self-confessed Greek Diva with oodles of style, wit and charm) and his partner Count Alex, a man you can describe in one word, “Class”: this, and he is a walking encyclopaedia. Plus, Adam, my best pal, had jetted in from Asia. He has just started a course on sex addiction to add to his qualification as a counsellor. You can guarantee that tonight is going to be packed with fascinating conversation, debate and humour and (hopefully) good food.
Nonetheless, it is not too long into the conversation before the M word comes up (NO, not monogamy). Madonna.
Madame X
She seems to have a way of popping into so many evenings as a subject in my life, and not just among my male gay friends. I have on occasion wanted to say, “LET’S NOT TALK ABOUT MADONNA” but how can we not, when so many of my friends are devotees of The Church of Madonna?
In fairness, Atticus has just managed to obtain a ticket to see Madonna, or her alter ego Madame X, at the London Palladium next year.
“I want to see the whites of my fans’ eyes and get up close and personal – give them something back,” she explained to presenter Rylan Clark on the BBC’s One Show, as an explanation for her choosing to do a theatre tour.
Atticus is sitting in great Royal Circle seats, but I enquire, “Will she be using binoculars to see the whites of your eyes?” He replies, “BITCH!’
A hint of jealousy on my part? No! To be honest I am thrilled for my friends who have tickets, but a little dig is always camp.
Awkward
The subject stays on Madonna and that rather awkward interview she gave on The Graham Norton Show. Madonna was not the only guest that evening. Director Danny Boyle and actors Lily James and Himesh Patel were also on to chat about their new film, Yesterday. They were on first, and to be truthful I couldn’t wait for them to finish and M to appear. But finally, she appears: the audience goes wild, as do I (though only in my front room).
Host Graham Norton with (seated left to right) Sir Ian McKellen, Madonna, Danny Boyle, Lily James, and Himesh Patel during the filming for the Graham Norton Show at BBC Studioworks 6 Television Centre, Wood Lane, London, UK on June 13, 2019. Photo by Isabel Infantes/PA Wire/ABACAPRESS.COM
But for once Madonna looks a little uncomfortable. Maybe it’s the fact she’s dressed as Madam X, complete with a Betty-Davis-inspired eye patch from the film The Anniversary,making her look like she’s arrived at a fancy-dress party and no one else has bothered to make the effort to get a costume.
She was obviously on to promote her ninth number one US album, Madam X. It is her fourteenth studio album and deservedly also her biggest critical success to date, but you have the feeling she wants to go home and change. This sense is fortified when Graham asks her to take a seat and she seems to have problems sitting down on the couch
“I am not used to sitting with this many people. Is there room?” Madonna asks.
Then there’s a problem with the actual costume. “Someone’s tied my corset too tight, my boobs keep popping up,” Madonna points out as she sits down, pulling her jacket over her breasts.
The interview does not go well, and she actually says, when asked “Do you ever get anxious?”:
“Yes, right now.”
It’s a mile away from the fun she seemed to have with Rylan Clark on the BBC One Show. Madonna seemed to adore him. She managed to cap it all by seemingly insulting our “national treasure”, Sir Ian McKellen, by asking what he did.
Exhibitionism
Though it has been misquoted (she asked what he did on his one-man show), she was vague and rather distant.
“She is an introvert really,” says Atticus, and Adam agrees. They go on to say you can be a performer and still be an introvert.
Yes, I have met many introverts whose drug of choice has been exhibitionism, making them look like extroverts.
Once the mask is dropped for a minute or they’re not comfortable, they can make for awkward conversation, or if in the public eye they can often come over as rude in interviews.
The singer Cher says Madonna is not the best singer or dancer and to quote her, “She has taken straw and spun it into gold”: a little harsh. Marlene Dietrich and Marilyn Monroe, both of whom Madonna takes inspiration from, were not the best singers or dancers but their images captured the time and a nation’s heart.
Madonna is a brilliant creative genius who has captured the moments of many of our lives and mirrored them in her songs and her imagery.
Whilst Cher’s songs are pleasant bubble-gum music (despite dishing Madonna she asked her to write for her), Madonna has something to say to us as quoted in the hit song “Express Yourself”. From “Papa Don’t Preach” (talking about abortion) to the current “God Control” (talking about gun control), Madge has never shied away from preaching to us and we have lapped it up.
Madonna has been in my life since my late teens and I have related to her more than most people, as she seemed to be thinking what I was at the most crucial moments of my adult life.
A stunning Amanda Lear performance at Heaven in the early eighties left me spellbound as she entered the stage in white leather on a chauffeured motorbike. Jumping off, she took off her helmet and let fall her thick blonde hair, shortly to be joined by leather-clad male dancers. It was spectacular.
A year later and someone I had never heard of was on at Heaven. Madonna was billed as a New York club-scene darling. She had two dancers and was cute and wore a hat, but she did not have her act polished and certainly seemed to lack the stage presence of Lear. Still, she had something, and she stuck in my mind.
Not that it really compares but I’d just qualified as a hairdresser and was also finding my way and not quite polished, so I guess when she burst into the charts and I recognised her, there was a feeling of “Well done girl”. And I began, like many, to champion her. There was something that she had that’s important in a star – the public related to her quickly. Girls (and some boys) emulated the look: she could be your friend, lover or sister. She was the naughty girl in class we all secretly admired.
Too often, if someone looks too unattainable or perfect, people shy away from them as idols. The critics favoured Cindy Lauper and mocked Madonna’s early performances as she dropped her tambourine or sang off key. Much as Lauper was fun, it was the Material Girl we all wanted to be with.
Debbie Harry
By 1985, I was a busy hairdresser living in Brighton and a huge fan of Madonna. The number-one hairstyle, due in part to the film Desperately Seeking Susan,was the Madonna look, and my gang saw it several times: the camera just loved her. Apparently, according to the recent Channel 5 documentary, she studied Debbie Harry (Blondie) and the greats Marilyn and Greta Garbo to get that screen look. Those of you who have seen Madonna’s early audition for the movie Fame can see the giant improvement in her technique.
January 1987. I had made it to L.A., California, and my career as a hairdresser had really taken off. People were open and friendly, and it seemed to take only hours before invites to parties arrived, thanks to meeting a man on the plane who lived in Malibu and (to quote him) “knew everyone”.
Madonna’s True Blue album was never off my car radio and Mexican food (something strange in the UK at the time) was fast becoming my favourite.
Having a partner, I stayed away from the Malibu and Laguna beach crowd as I knew it would spell trouble. The mention of a, b, c parties put me off.
We were lucky enough to make friends with a rancher called Very Magnusson, who made us welcome. His ranch grew avocados and he had a sweet, illegal Mexican ranch hand called Ernesto working there and living there. He had a one-room hut covered in Madonna posters. He was full of smiles and hope. I really felt for him, although he spoke no English.
Madonna had released Whose That Girl (the movie and soundtrack) and she was touring. I managed through a friend there to get two tickets, ten rows from the front, to her concert in Anaheim. My partner was not taken with Madonna. So, who to take?
I decided it would be great and a dream to take Ernesto.
Vern seemed shocked. “Are you sure??”
Latino
July 18th. .There I am, all excited with Ernesto for Madonna to come on. But there is a problem: the security has checked Ernesto’s ticket for the sixth time and not mine.
“HE IS WITH ME,” I snap. Some of the people in the row are giving looks too.
I am beginning to realise that there’s a real preconceived attitude towards the Latino community in the US.
This is cemented when the man from Malibu comes running up with two friends. “Honey, how fab to see you, who are you with?”
When I say with Ernesto, they actually back off and can’t wait to get away. (There was even a sneering, “How do you know him?”)
Bigotry or hate I cannot abide. Much as anti-LGBTQ behaviour was a day-to-day issue in my life, a person being treated like this because of their race and class had my blood boiling and it was around about the same time that Madonna started telling us all to love one another.
If she had seen how a young Mexican boy was being treated at her concert, she would have told them to do more than “Open your Heart” – the opening song to her Who’s That Girl concert.
Sadly, Ernesto got involved in a local gang and was found dead two years later.
June 1988, and I was in New York, sitting in the front row of the Royale Theatre, about to see Speed the Plow, a three-handed play starring Madonna. I never asked for the front row, but a PR friend booked the seats and thought it would be great.
I was studying acting at Adam Hill in Los Angeles in my spare time, so I was keen to see her stage work.
Madonna comes on with brunette hair, holding a tray. She is visibly shaking (as the glasses on the tray are moving) and it is not part of the play. She is incredibly attractive in the flesh, close up. Sadly, Madonna is like a first-year drama student doing a monologue full of promise but has not yet refined the craft. The critics were lukewarm at best.
But the play is good and a modern classic.
Still, apart from David Bowie when I was 17, it’s the only time I’ve waited to see a celebrity by the stage door. When Madonna came out, eventually, in a chic Chanel suit, she looked straight down and got into the limo. It did make me feel like a stalker. What was I going to say to her if she had stopped? “Fancy a drink, Madonna?”
Blonde Ambition
Later, on a US television interview, she says, “Why do we always listen to the one critic over those that praise us?” It is so true: ten people can say something nice and the one person who is negative or says something of a passive-aggressive nature, I’ll be thinking about for weeks to come.
I never got to see the Blonde Ambition tour live. Still, we all loved the 1991 film Truth or Dare or, as it was known outside the US, In Bed with Madonna.It’s the one where she apparently outs people and demonstrates with the aid of an Evian bottle how to give oral sex.
Her moving speech at the GLAAD Media Awards in May this year, wearing Elizabeth Emmanuel:
“I had no idea it was going to inspire so many gay men to, A, give blow jobs to Evian bottles, or, B, just have the courage to come out and be free and take a stand and say this is who I am, like it or not.”
Sadly, some of the dancers, in my opinion, betrayed her and once their 15 minutes were up, took her to court, as documented in the film, Strike a Pose.
We have all been there: you help someone and they turn on you. There is no doubt she is a taskmaster and a perfectionist, but what an incredible start for anyone in the business. She taught us to forgive and stuck with the format of hiring new talent.
The 1992 coffee-table book Sex had fans queuing up at book shops around the world. Though she came under fire from critics, many saying her career was over, the silver-foil-covered soft-porn book is still a collector’s item.
Much as fetish clubs in New York and London, such as Torture Garden, were springing up, showing us, “a different way to love”, S&M has been around since the start of time. She opened the way for people, and in particular women, to talk about fantasy sex. Though her song “Hanky Panky” from the Dick Traceymovie soundtrack “Breathless” said she just wanted to be spanked, later she retracted this, saying, “Just try it”.
Your correspondent in shorts with a sign that says SEX on it
She had us all talking about SEX though, encouraging us not to be afraid of our desires. I still have a framed Madonna Sex cardboard cut-out.
“Erotica” was one of the first tracks she performed at her concert The Girlie Show in London in 1993. My best pal Lester Middlehurst from the Daily Mailwas working on the now defunct Today newspaper and he had VIP press tickets for the show. “Darling, you have to fly over for the weekend at least.”
Not to be ungrateful, there I was in the VIP press area in the gods. I was still at the age, I guess, where I liked to see the whites of the eyes of the performers and be with the crowd. Bless my departed friend, I don’t think he even liked Madonna.
I could write for hours about my experiences relating to Madonna. The second part will have to wait till near her concert time.
Madonna the introvert, the exhibitionist, the good Catholic girl at heart, the mother or lover. There is one thing for sure – she keeps one eye well open at all times when it comes to everything she’s doing, and both feet on the ground.
Where other icons have failed and gone to heaven, you just know the material girl will keep Vogueing on ‘til she drops. Or maybe she will surprise us and “Take a Bow” after this tour.
It has been Brighton Pride this weekend sadly I could not be there but it is just amazing to even see online!
I could not be prouder of how 2Shades is appealing to all of the community and our ally’s Pride is something we all take seriously it is who we are at the core of the magazine.
Brighton Pride picture by Simon Dack
Such changed days, indeed, from the 1970s, when the only form of LGBTQ publication around was “Gay News”, which I use to smuggle into the family home as a teenage boy. Back then, for mainstream magazines or newspapers to feature gay people in a positive light could be the kiss of death for the publication. It was a time when openly gay actors could be blacklisted with in the industry. Even being suspected of being gay could see you thrown out of the armed forces.
I remember my mother, on discovering the hidden paper, standing and screaming, “There is no such thing as ‘Gay News’, just bad news.” At the age of 15, I was out, causing more than a little scandal at my school, and despair and outrage at home. Much as my mother is now a big advocate of LGBTQ, it caused considerable upset in the 1970s. Only my sister, who was 13 at the time, had a kind word. She had been told there had been a great family upset. Karen squeezed my hand and told me she always knew I was gay, and she loved me.
My parents’ answer was to take me to see the Samaritans, to meet a man who had been in the merchant navy and therefore “knew about gays”. I can still see him sitting there in his light-blue pullover, looking somewhat uncomfortable. His advice was that gay men did not all look like David Bowie or Marc Bolan. I pointed out that both were, in fact, bisexual. He continued, “If you go to Portsmouth, there are big, hairy men on bikes looking for and preying on young men.”
Once safely back in the car with my parents, I raised the question: “Where is Portsmouth and how do I get there?”
Sadly, it always seems to be a shock when someone comes out to the family. There are more negative stories than positive ones. Even a model friend of mine, whose son was never out of her high heels and frocks, seemed devastated when he broke the news. It raised the question, “What was she seeing all those years as he grew up?”
This is a question also asked in the brilliant drama series, “It’s A Sin”. Valerie Tozer, masterfully played by Keely Hawes, is a mother in denial as her son lies dying of Aids. She blames everyone she can find except herself. Sandra (played by Ruth Sheen), whose son also lies ill, asks just that question: “What were you looking at when he was six? Ten? Fifteen?”
Even still today, kids are thrown out of their homes for being LGBTQ, and even for many that are allowed to stay, their lives can be made miserable. Their only crime is being a human being who loves someone or is attracted to the same sex. These are the same kids whose parents happily hand toy guns to them and let them play war games. But – what horror in a kiss with someone of the same sex!
I cried when watching the superbly crafted “Heartstoppers” on Netflix. The character Nick tells his mother he likes boys and girls. Played beautifully by Olivia Colman, the mother calmly thanks him for sharing that with her and hopes he is okay. If only more parents acted that way, there would be so much less trauma within the LGBTQ+ community, and our mental health would be stronger.
Things might be getting better, but the LGBTQ+ community is still under attack every day. As with all wars, a good strategy is a key factor in survival. Education in schools is essential – using positive role models, and making kids feel safe who do not fit the masculine or feminine stereotypes. This is still going to take time, understanding, and some amazing people to give a strong voice.
Education is the key to most things, and this includes brilliant diversity role models going into schools and talking about their lives. It is important, in everyday life, that we are up to educating our children and spotting the difference between homophobia and mere ignorance in this woke society, where everyone seems easily offended. A woman said to me quite recently, when I was clearly channelling a butch moment, “You don’t seem that gay. My hairdresser Eduardo is gay. He’s a scream. He does drag on a Tuesday.”
Looking at her carefully, I pointed out that the Krays were gay, adding one or two other examples. She went deadly quiet, and after a moment, she apologised. She hoped I was not offended. Of course, I wasn’t, but I had made someone think.
Thankfully, we now have positive role models that people can identify with. Jake Daniels, the first openly gay footballer, made headlines last month, and we also have Gareth Thomas, the rugby player, and Tom Daley, Olympic gold medallist. The sad thing is, while there are many gay footballers, fear of losing endorsements or their peers’ reactions keeps them in the closet. It is tragic that this still makes headline news. It shows that society still does not really except such men.
Jake Daniels footballer
It is wonderful to see David Beckham come out and back Jake, but disappointing that he also backs the World Cup in Qatar, a country that still has the death penalty for gay people. We need our allies not to sit on the fence when it comes to human rights.
The gay community can be a homophobic place too. Often, the more flamboyant characters are not seen as the heroes. Gay men themselves sometimes fear being labelled camp or effeminate.
. But our tireless fights are not just for gay rights, but human rights. Quintin Crisp may have had some lapses in judgment, but he was a voice in the dark for people like me, Boy George and our generation. Bowie and Marc Bolan also showed us it was okay to be different.
Boy George a light for many
The truth is, if an alien landed and asked us to show them what a typical gay person looked like, it would be impossible. It would be like being asked to find a quintessential heterosexual – then going to Chelsea football ground in the company of an overweight man, with a pint and a Union Jack t-shirt, smoking a fag, and shouting, “This is what a straight man looks like.” There would be an outcry, and trust me, there are many gay men that look like that too.
I have often been asked “Why do you need ‘Pride’. There’s no straight Pride.” My answer is always, “Thank your lucky stars you don’t need straight Pride.” We have to be a voice and be seen, in order to hope that one day, no-one will blink an eye if I hold my boyfriend’s hand in public. We must also hope that one day, that teenage boy’s or girl’s mum and dad will hug them when they come out, and the world will be a safe place for the LGBTQ+ community. It’s getting better, but we still have a long way to go.
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