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Money Matters with Richard Andrews

Richard Antony coach .

Money Matters at Christmas

With Richard Andrews

  • 2Shades introduces Richard Andrews new column ” Money Matters ” He’s not a financial adviser — but with more than a decade in banking, years of coaching executives, and hands-on experience running his own business, Richard Andrews knows a thing or two about money. As households prepare for one of the most expensive seasons of the year, Richard shares his no-nonsense advice on spending smart, avoiding debt, and keeping Christmas joyful without breaking the bank.

“Finance expert is very kind… but let’s clarify that first!”

Q: Richard, you’ve been described as a finance expert. Is that fair?
A: “‘Finance expert’ is very kind, but I’m not a financial adviser. I did spend over ten years working for a high street bank, including as a business manager supporting small businesses. Today, I run my own company and coach executives and individuals to help them achieve the outcomes they want. All of that gives me plenty of real-world insight to share with your audience.”

The Cost of Christmas

Q: Why is Christmas such an important time to talk about money?
A: “Because we spend a lot of it. The average UK household will spend around £1,626 on Christmas this year. That includes £350 on food and drink and £181 on presents. But the biggest spend comes from the hidden extras — entertainment, wrapping paper, cards, batteries — all those little things that add up fast. If you’re not careful, the consequences can follow you well into January.”

Teaching children about the value of this is important even at Christmas .

Rule Number One: Don’t Spend What You Don’t Have

Q: What’s your core message for managing Christmas spending?
A: “Don’t spend money you can’t afford. I’m not suggesting a gloomy, ‘bah humbug’ Christmas — just decide what you can realistically spend and stick to it. Overspending without a plan leads straight to a miserable January.”

The Credit Card Trap

Q: Many people rely on credit cards at Christmas. What’s the danger?
A: “Most of us use them, but the issue is that people often add £250–£500 to their debt at Christmas. That £250 gadget can become £500+ once interest kicks in if you’re not paying it off quickly. Some instalment services like Klarna can help if you can afford them — but remember, they’re not free money.”

Black Friday: Bargain or Illusion?

Q: Are Black Friday deals worth it?
A: “Often they’re not. Some retailers raise prices beforehand to make the ‘discounts’ look dramatic. The best thing you can do is track the prices of items you genuinely want. Don’t fall for impulse buys — that’s dead money.”

Cost of Living vs Christmas Spirit

Q: In a cost-of-living crisis, how can people avoid overspending?
A: “Plan and budget. The UK will throw away almost £450 million worth of food over Christmas. Don’t get into debt buying food you’re going to bin. Freeze leftovers, plan meals properly, and remember that the real gift is time with loved ones. Debt in January is the fastest way to ruin the joy of Christmas.”

Managing Children’s Expectations

Q: How should parents handle kids’ wish-lists?
A: “Kids are smart and constantly targeted by influencers. Be honest, don’t promise what you can’t deliver, and don’t go into debt to keep up with the Joneses — that’s a race you can never win. Set realistic budgets, talk openly, and consider refurbished or discounted-return tech. ‘New to them’ is just as good.”

Short-Term Loans: A Firm No

Q: Are short-term loans ever a good idea during the holidays?
A: “Never. A £500 loan over six months can cost you £640 or more. These loans spiral quickly and trap people in a cycle of borrowing. No Christmas is worth that risk.”

Planning Ahead for Christmas 2026

Q: What’s the best strategy for next year?
A: “Start in January. Put aside whatever you can each month into a savings account. Christmas Club schemes can help, but make sure you’re not stuck with a single retailer. Buy gifts throughout the year if you spot a good deal and remember that adults don’t need expensive presents — thoughtful tokens count.”

The Real Gift

Q: Any final advice for a calmer Christmas?
A: “Christmas is stressful enough without money worries. Don’t add pressure you don’t need. Focus on an affordable, joyful Christmas with the people you love — because that is the true gift.”

Connect with Richard

You can find him on LinkedIn, or email him at:
RichardAndrewsCoaching@gmail.com

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Mike’s Tips for Great Men’s Hairstyles This Christmas

Expert barber Mike Edde

The festive season is calling — champagne receptions, late-night parties, and the kind of photos that live online forever. Whether you’re raising a glass at the office do, wrapping up warm for the Christmas markets, or stepping into the New Year in style, your hair deserves to look the part. Here’s how to stay sharp, confident, and camera-ready with seven expert tips from your barber.

✂️ 1. Get Your Christmas Cut Early
December is crunch time for barbers — and the best styles belong to the men who plan ahead. Get in early and give yourself room for a final tidy-up before the big night. A fresh fade or refined shape-up is the difference between “I just rolled out of bed” and “leading man energy.”

Style it up and look more James Bond than Brooke Bond

💈 2. Refresh Your Style for the Season
The holidays are the perfect excuse to evolve your look. Try a modern textured crop, classic side part, or sleek pompadour — timeless, confident, and effortlessly photogenic. Ask your barber to tighten the fade, add volume on top, or sharpen the outline. A small change can transform your entire presence.

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🪮 3. Keep It Clean and Conditioned
Cold weather is brutal on hair. Upgrade your routine with a hydrating shampoo and rich conditioner to combat dryness and static. A touch of argan oil or leave-in conditioner keeps everything smooth, polished, and party-ready. Healthy hair always styles better — no exceptions.

💨 4. Master the Blow-Dry
Great hair doesn’t just happen — it’s styled. Use a blow-dryer to add lift and structure before applying product. Always direct the air in the direction you want your hair to fall. It’s a small move that separates the men who “have good hair” from the men who know how to use it.

Champion make over by Mike ready for the holidays

🧴 5. Choose the Right Product
Your summer styling cream won’t cut it in December. Cold air, central heating, and long nights call for matte clays, pomades, or grooming creams with extra hold. Go matte for natural texture or add a hint of shine for an evening edge. Either way, make sure your product works as hard as you do.

🧔 6. Don’t Neglect the Beard
A well-kept beard is the ultimate accessory to a strong haircut. Keep it shaped, hydrated, and defined. Use beard oil for softness and a subtle, masculine scent — the kind people notice without quite knowing why. Precision is everything.

🥂 7. Style It Up for the Big Nights
The calendar’s closing parties call for extra polish. Add a little shine, slick it back, or go bold with volume — whatever gives you confidence. Remember: a great cut isn’t just about the hair. It’s about the energy you walk into the room with.

Final Word: Confidence is the best product in your grooming kit. A sharp cut, clean lines, and effortless style tell the world you’ve got it together — no matter how late the night runs.\

Michael’s Barber Shop, located at 54c Kenway Road, London SW5 0RA. It is a long-established barber shop known for its experienced staff and quality cuts at reasonable prices. You can contact them at 020 7370 6983. 

  • Address: 54c Kenway Road, London SW5 0RA
  • Phone: 020 7370 6983
  • Reputation: Known for being a leading barber in Earl’s Court with experienced and personable barbers
  • Details: The shop has a quaint feel and offers quality haircuts at reasonable prices 

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Let’s Include All Men – Men’s Mental Health Month 11.11.25

By Guest Writer Manchester based award winning artist and my friend  Loveartpix.

November is Men’s Mental Health Month, and as usual, I want to move beyond the usual catchphrases like ‘Talking Helps‘ as it’s far more complex than that. The question I keep returning to (because it’s personal) is this: does our generic, neurotypical framing of “men’s mental health “leave too many men like me behind?

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Campaigns, days, and months do matter – they reduce stigma by getting the much needed conversations going and remind us to check in on friends. But what is their impact if suicide rates are still just as high, and some of the men at greatest risk (neurodivergent men) are largely left out of the conversation?

We rarely say this plainly: autistic people face a much higher risk of suicide than non‑autistic people. A large Swedish population study found that autistic adults, especially those without intellectual disability, were around nine times more likely to die by suicide than their non‑autistic peers (Hirvikoski et al., 2016). 

Autistic adults without intellectual disabilities are, on average, more likely than non‑autistic peers to experience mental health conditions such as anxiety and depression. Factors that contribute include chronic camouflaging/masking, sensory overload, social mismatch and stigma, late or missed diagnosis, and barriers to tailored support.

In clinical samples, the picture is even starker: two‑thirds of autistic adults report lifetime suicidal ideation, and about one‑third report suicide plans or attempts (Cassidy et al., 2014). If the risk is this high, why isn’t this part of the headline of our November conversations?

And what about the many who are undiagnosed – men whose autistic traits are missed or misread due to lack of awareness? How many die by suicide after years of the wrong treatment, the wrong framework, or a string of mental‑health labels that never addressed neurodivergent needs in the first place? We don’t track this well enough to know – this, for me, is very worrying.

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I’m not speaking in theory. For more than two decades, I repeated the same words over and over, and the responses I received didn’t fit their box – so it was a continuous battle creating more mental health issues.

“Look Dez, you’ve taken every combination of medication we can offer you. What else do you want us to do?” – words you don’t want to hear from the psychiatrist in charge of your mental health and well being!

Even after my diagnosis, I’m basically begging for support in any way possible, but they still don’t have an answer. Right now, no services are willing to accept my case. That isn’t a lack of “talking.”It’s a system that doesn’t understand or accommodate neurodivergent needs.

“Talk to someone.” “Pick up the phone.” “Open up.” These messages are well‑meant—and sometimes they help. But they assume a neurotypical nervous system. When distress is driven by sensory overload, alexithymia (difficulty identifying and describing feelings), shutdown, or the aftermath of masking, being asked to “speak up” on a phone call, or in fluorescent‑lit rooms, with vague questions, can be not only ineffective but also actively dysregulating and even traumatic.

Personally, I often communicate better in text when I go into meltdown (and after), I need time to process, and rely on concrete, direct language and clear communication. Standard CBT delivered at a pace, full of metaphors and homework that assumes neurotypical cognition, doesn’t work unless it’s really adapted. Yet adapted therapy is patchy across the UK, and post‑diagnostic support for adults remains weak at best – if it exists at all! I’ve learned this the hard way: I’ve been “talking” for years. What’s missing isn’t the willingness to speak – it’s services that listen but don’t know how to respond to neurodivergent communication without pathologising it.

Diagnostic waiting lists have exploded. There are now well over one hundred thousand people in England awaiting autism assessments, with many waiting far longer than the 13‑week standard – often 12–24 months or more. Adult ADHD pathways are similarly overloaded. Late diagnosis isn’t just an administrative delay; it can mean decades of inappropriate treatment plans, missed adjustments at school and work, and a build‑up of trauma from being told to “try harder” in systems not built for your brain. Each missed or delayed diagnosis is a missed opportunity for prevention – especially when we know suicidality is elevated in autistic populations.

89% of autistic adults in the UK aged 40-59 are undiagnosed – Kings College London (2025)

This is why the generic approach to “men’s mental health” feels inadequate to me. Awareness months aren’t wrong – they are just incomplete. We can’t keep telling men to “open up” while offering only neurotypical doorways.

Here’s a truth I wish we’d say out loud: it’s a huge barrier when men are already “talking,” but the system still can’t understand what they’re saying. I’ve used the same words for more than twenty years. The approaches offered back haven’t matched my needs – and I am not a unique case! Even after my diagnosis, when I articulate my needs clearly, services have no adapted pathway, no training, or no remit that fits. At this moment, I’m not being accepted by any service. That isn’t impartial; it’s exclusion by design.

Neurodiversity, complex trauma, and racialised stress each demand deep, specific knowledge. Very few clinicians are experts across all three. That’s not a criticism of individuals; it’s a system‑design problem. Our pathways remain separated: autism/adhd/dyslexia over here, trauma/cptsd over there, “men’s mental health” somewhere in a campaign toolkit. Meanwhile, men sit on waiting lists, collecting labels, and learn to mask harder. Many still struggle to speak openly – especially when their experiences don’t match neat, neurotypical scripts of sadness, worry, and recovery.

Campaigns must reflect the facts: men are not all the same, and neither are their minds – neurotypical and neurodivergent. Put neurodivergent men on the list and on the panels. Highlight that autistic burnout is not laziness; that ADHD‑related rejection sensitivity can look like despair; that shutdowns and meltdowns are not misbehaviour. And tell men this clearly: if standard tools haven’t worked, maybe it’s the tool and not you! 

And let’s make the suicide data visible, not buried in academic journals. If autistic men face a dramatically higher risk, surely that belongs on the first slide, the first poster, and the first funding line?

We should admit where the evidence base is thin and choose humility. Research is (hopefully) accelerating, but we’re years from fully understanding these intersections. Until then, ‘specialists’ need to listen more to lived experience – with an open mind, and not through the generalised, stereotypical lens that turns nuance into “non‑compliance.” Ask what helps. Believe the answers. Adapt!

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None of this diminishes the value of awareness months; it actually refocuses them. If we want November’s messages to be more than posters and hashtags, we have to build services that fit all men, not the imaginary neurotypical everyman. The stakes are life and death. A system designed around the most complex needs will serve everyone better.

‘I have personally reached out to some well-known men’s mental health services and asked how they handle neurodivergent individuals, and I have been met with half-hearted replies and almost snubbed to my face’ – an all too common response in my experience. 

Acceptance has been central to how I navigate life now – there isn’t any help out there at the moment, as the research simply isn’t there. Acceptance hasn’t removed the struggle, but it has reframed it for me. I have been ‘speaking up’ for years. I don’t need another generic neurotypical catchphrase. I need services that recognise what I’m saying – and are ready and able to respond with understanding, compassion and a willingness to make reasonable adjustments. 

Sources for the statistics mentioned:

– Hirvikoski, T. et al. (2016). Premature mortality in autism spectrum disorder. A population‑based study in Sweden. Findings include markedly elevated suicide mortality, especially among autistic adults without intellectual disability.

– Cassidy, S. et al. (2014). Suicidal ideation and suicide plans or attempts in adults with Asperger’s syndrome attending a specialist clinic. Reports 66% lifetime suicidal ideation and 35% plans/attempts.

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2Shades Magazine Supports the Women’s Vegan Club

LONDON, ENGLAND - NOVEMBER 01: Victoria Featherstone Pearce and Karin Ridgers seen attending the Vegan Women's Club launch at 45 London in Shoreditch on November 01, 2025 in London, England. (Photo by Ricky Vigil M/GC Images)

Glamour, compassion, and a touch of Shoreditch sparkle at 45 London
By Steven Smith https://www.veganwomensclub.com/pricing

The Gorgeous Victoria Featherstone Pearce , with the glamours Karin Ridgers and Juliet Gellatley

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Glitz and glamour poured into Shoreditch on a rain-soaked Saturday night as 2Shades Magazine joined the celebration for the official launch of the Women’s Vegan Club at the ultra-chic 45 London Despite the downpour, nothing could dampen the excitement as guests in sequins, faux fur, and high spirits gathered to raise a glass — or rather, a coconut-rimmed cocktail — to compassion, community, and cruelty-free living.

The gorgeous Victoria Featherstone Pearce with 2shades Steven Smith at the launch of The Woman’s Vegan club

The event wasn’t just for women — men were warmly welcomed too — but it was very much a celebration of female empowerment and ethical entrepreneurship. The room shimmered with warmth and laughter as founders, patrons, and supporters mingled over divine canapés and cocktails, united by one shared passion: veganism.

In a world where being vegan can still attract raised eyebrows or outright discrimination — whether in the workplace, at the dinner table, or even in friendships — the Women’s Vegan Club has created a space where compassion is something to be proud of. This is a club about inclusion, not exclusion, and about supporting each other in living authentically and kindly.

Cake by Freya Cox

And what a line-up of women at its helm. Three of my favourite ladies are involved — one as an ambassador and two as co-founders — each an inspiring powerhouse in her own right.

Model, vegan activist, and lifelong animal rights advocate Victoria Featherstone Pearce is the embodiment of grace and grit. Best known for her tireless campaigning and for co-owning K-9 Angels, a charity dedicated to rescuing and rehabilitating dogs worldwide, Victoria has been a compassionate force for change in the animal welfare movement. As a VegfestUK blogger and campaigner for both PETA and Animal Aid, she has fronted numerous awareness initiatives encouraging a kinder lifestyle. A devoted mum to her seven rescue dogs, Victoria’s dream is to one day open her own animal sanctuary — a place where every creature has a home and a second chance. Her work reflects a lifetime of dedication to animal welfare and her belief that kindness should be the foundation of everything we do.

The other visionary behind the Women’s Vegan Club is Karin Ridgers, an award-winning entrepreneur, broadcaster, and vegan advocate of more than 30 years. Karin is the founder of MAD-Promotions PR and the creative force behind VeggieVision TV, an online platform championing vegan businesses and ethical living. Her energy is infectious, her passion unshakable. Karin has long been recognised for her dynamic public speaking and unwavering support for cruelty-free campaigns. Through her work, she continues to inspire and connect people across generations, proving that compassion and confidence go hand in hand. When Karin took the stage later that evening, her speech was electric — part rally cry, part love letter to the movement. Her words reminded us that veganism isn’t a passing trend, but a moral choice and a lifestyle built on empathy. As I watched her speak, I couldn’t help thinking she should be in Parliament — we need voices like hers there.

Representing the club as its ambassador is Wendy Turner Webster, a beloved British television presenter and producer best known for hosting the long-running UK show Pet Rescue. An award-winning animal rights campaigner, Wendy has dedicated much of her life to championing the ethical treatment of animals, both on-screen and behind the scenes. Her work spans decades of advocacy — from campaigning for cruelty-free beauty to promoting vegan living through her media appearances. Her passion is as genuine as her warmth, making her a perfect fit for a club that’s about real change, not just polished image.

Now, full disclosure — I’m not entirely vegan… yet. One of my best friends in Dubai is, and when I stay with her, I become a temporary convert. And I have to admit, I love it. So, as someone who flits between plant-based and pescatarian, I was fascinated to see how this night would blend style and ethics.

Vegan Bound when visiting my friend who is vegan I join in and love it , Marieanne Nason and me , https://www.veganwomensclub.com/pricing

From the moment I arrived, it was clear this was no ordinary launch. Guests were greeted with a warming vegan ginger and rum cocktail — the perfect remedy for a chilly London evening. The canapés were works of art: the standout being a delicate broccoli and black garlic bite that I’m still thinking about days later. The atmosphere was buzzing yet intimate. The crowd was a lively mix of media personalities, campaigners, and creatives — the kind of people who make you believe that small changes can truly change the world.

The Great British Bake off Freya Cox

Victoria’s speech was heartfelt and deeply moving. I’ve known her since our days moving in the same media circles, and what has always struck me about her is her honesty and kindness. Hearing her speak about her personal journey into veganism — the challenges, the triumphs, and the quiet conviction behind her choices — left more than a few misty eyes in the room. Then came Karin’s rousing address — part Emmeline Pankhurst, part stand-up charm — reminding everyone that activism can be elegant, and leadership can be laced with humour. https://www.veganwomensclub.com/pricing

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And then came a surprise highlight: an impromptu speech by Great British Bake Off’s own Freya Cox. Funny, humble, and full of life, Freya had the audience roaring with laughter — and soon queueing eagerly for a slice of the vegan cake she had created especially for the night. In true showbiz fashion, the cake even matched Victoria’s gown — a dazzling touch of edible couture. Imagine the jam roly-poly of your schooldays, only reinvented as a masterpiece of modern vegan patisserie.

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE with founder of the Woman’s vegan club Victoria . https://www.veganwomensclub.com/pricing

But it wasn’t all “let’s hear it for the girls.” Victoria’s dashing husband, Stephen Pearce, added his own twist to the evening’s delights by introducing his line of vegan honey — made not from bees, but from pine needles. The taste was rich, aromatic, and unexpectedly moreish. As Dr Anna Kennedy OBE declared while snapping up a pot, “Just wonderful!” (Watch this space for more on that.) Stephen also unveiled a range of mouth-watering vegan cheeses that had even the most sceptical guests going back for seconds

The party carried on late into the evening, the room shimmering with the glow of good company and shared purpose. People danced, laughed, swapped numbers, and made plans for collaborations and causes. What united everyone there wasn’t just veganism — it was the belief that kindness, creativity, and community can coexist beautifully.

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There was even an amazing musical moment with Annette Wardell who flew in from Italy for the occasion https://www.instagram.com/annette.wardell23?igsh=czlwZmw0Zmo1bWRp

Annette Wardell seduces the crowd with her magical voice .

By the end of the night, it was clear that the Women’s Vegan Club isn’t just a social group — it’s a movement. A space where women can support one another, promote sustainable change, and still look absolutely fabulous while doing it. As I left, rain still falling softly on the cobbles of Shoreditch, I couldn’t help but smile. Compassion has never looked so glamorous.

Follow the Women’s Vegan Club https://www.veganwomensclub.com Steven’s  Note: 2Shades Magazine celebrates women who lead with purpose, style, and heart — those who use their voice to make the world a kinder, brighter, and more inclusive place

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Heidi is Back. Gateways agony aunt and our own in house problem solver.

When they love a bad boy .

Dear Heidi
How are you? Please can I beg for your help? My best friend is driving me mad. She goes from one bad relationship to another. She loves the bad boy look — covered in tattoos and looking like they got out of prison last week. It’s always a car crash, and to be honest, my empathy is running low. It’s my birthday soon, and honestly, her whining on about her love life is not my idea of fun. Would it be wrong not to invite her?
— Nadine, Essex

Dear Nadine,
Oh, the endless bad-boy drama — I think we’ve all had a friend like this! It’s exhausting watching someone you care about drive straight into the same brick wall again and again, isn’t it? Here’s the thing: you can’t fix her, and it’s not your job to. If she chooses chaos, that’s her story to live — but you’re allowed to protect your own peace. For your birthday, surround yourself with people who bring joy, not stress. If inviting her will spoil your day, then don’t. You can see her another time when you have the energy to listen. Being a good friend doesn’t mean being a doormat — sometimes it means stepping back with love. Or be brave and tell her how you feel, that it’s draining you.
Love, Heidi

Dear Heidi
Really love the show. My husband has always been a bit homophobic. Six months ago, he liked my hair so much he wanted a few highlights. Knowing he’s not great about the gay thing, I suggested he shouldn’t go to my beautiful stylist — who is also a friend — but he insisted. His hair looked amazing, but a few weeks later I was shocked to find he’d been out for drinks with my hairdresser, and now they’ve become friends. He says it’s rubbish that he’s homophobic and that he enjoys the laughs they have together. There’s a lads’ weekend to Ibiza coming up — no ladies allowed, which is fine — but can you imagine my hairdresser going too? I asked him why, and he said he’s going anyway and will get them into a few clubs. What’s going on?
— Marieanne, Southend

Dear Marieanne,
Well, this is a twist! It sounds like your husband has discovered that friendship doesn’t have to come with labels — and that’s actually a good thing. Maybe getting to know your hairdresser has opened his eyes a little and softened his old prejudices. As for the Ibiza trip — I can see why your eyebrows are raised! But before your imagination books a one-way ticket to Jealousville, take a breath. This might simply be two people enjoying new company and shared humour. If your instincts tell you there’s something deeper going on, have an honest, calm chat. But don’t jump to conclusions — this could be the best thing to happen to your husband’s attitude. Who knows? He might come home with a tan, a hangover, and a new respect for your fabulous friend.
Love, Heidi

Dear Heidi
I am madly in love with this lad, and he’s only gone and asked my friend to the dance! Honestly, Heidi, I am fuming — and she knew I liked him. I’m fifteen, and she dresses like she’s a dancer, while my mum says no to lashes and short skirts. It’s not fair. I’ll probably never speak to her again. What can I do?
— Mandy, Basildon

Dear Mandy,
Oh sweetheart, teenage love can feel like the end of the world — but I promise, it isn’t. You’re fifteen, and your heart is still learning who deserves it. This boy clearly doesn’t, and your friend’s choices say more about her than they ever could about you. You don’t need lashes or short skirts to shine — confidence is far more magnetic than mascara. Let her have her dance; you focus on being you. One day soon, someone will see the real you and won’t want to dance with anyone else. For now, dry your tears, hold your head high, and remember — nothing burns brighter than self-respect.
Love, Heidi

Dear Heidi
I’m feeling really down. I’m so fat, my budget won’t stretch to fat injections, and the gym just leaves me flat. No girls like me, and I’m nineteen and not going out anymore. What can I do?
— Peter, Brighton

Dear Peter,
First, let me tell you this — you are not alone. So many young people feel exactly the way you do, especially with all the “perfect” bodies plastered across social media. But real attraction doesn’t come from injections or six-packs — it comes from self-worth, kindness, and confidence. Start small: walk, move, cook decent food, talk to people. Find one thing every day that makes you feel good — music, a hobby, helping someone, anything that builds you up instead of tearing you down. The more you value yourself, the more others will see your worth. Confidence isn’t something you buy — it’s something you grow, and it lasts far longer than any gym membership.
Love, Heidi

Dear Heidi
My husband has announced that his mother is coming for Christmas. She’s horrible — the most passive-aggressive, rude woman you could meet. We’ve never got on; she has a way of finding a cloud in every silver lining. She’s on her own, and honestly, that’s what she deserves. My husband says she’s not that bad. Should I tell him it’s me and the children or her — and leave home for Christmas?
— Sandra

Dear Sandra,
Ah, the mother-in-law Christmas horror — a timeless festive classic! I can hear the carols already: “Silent night? Not likely.” You clearly feel hurt and unseen by your husband, but issuing ultimatums rarely ends well. Instead, set clear boundaries. Tell him you’ll welcome his mother — but only if everyone treats each other respectfully. If she can’t manage that, then maybe she stays elsewhere next year. Remember, Christmas is one day. Don’t let her steal your sparkle — pour a glass of something festive, smile sweetly, and rise above her barbed comments. Nothing annoys a passive-aggressive person more than calm happiness.
Love, Heidi

Hi Heidi
Not really a problem, but how do you get to be a counsellor or agony aunt?
— Simon

Dear Simon,
What a lovely question! Becoming a counsellor or agony aunt starts with empathy — and you clearly have that. Training in counselling, psychology, or journalism helps, but life experience and genuine curiosity about people matter just as much. Start small: volunteer with support organisations, write advice pieces online, or train in active listening. The best agony aunts aren’t perfect — they’re just honest, compassionate, and willing to help others make sense of their messiest moments. And who knows, Simon — you might be writing your own “Dear Simon” column one day!
Love, Heidi

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Autism’s Got Talent 2025: A Night to Remember at London’s Mermaid Theatre By Steven Smith

Aston Avery. Phill Barnett Anna Kennedy OBE with the amazing OJ

The stars shone brightly at London’s historic Mermaid Theatre on Saturday, October 11th, 2025, as it played host to Anna Kennedy Online’s “Autism’s Got Talent 2025.”

Now a highlight in the charity’s calendar, this dazzling showcase once again celebrated the creativity, courage, and individuality of autistic performers from across the UK — and beyond. With one act even flying in from the United States, the night proved that talent truly knows no borders.

A Stage Alive with Talent
From the moment the curtain rose, the audience was captivated. Hosting the show with warmth and humour was Phil Barnett, youth theatre director and People’s Strictly finalist. His charm and easy rapport made every performer feel right at home. Alongside him was his co-presenter, Aston Avery — autistic, award-winning radio presenter and a true hero in his own right.

Joining them on stage was Dr Anna Kennedy OBE, founder of the charity and tireless advocate for autism awareness. Dressed in a sparkling black gown that “out-glittered the boys,” as Barnett playfully remarked, Dr Kennedy radiated pride and grace throughout the evening.

The show opened and closed with high-energy routines from Maggie Paterson’s PPAS Dance Performers, whose vibrant choreography, enthusiasm, and teamwork perfectly captured the inclusive spirit of the event.

“Autism’s Got Talent isn’t just a show — it’s a platform for hope, creativity, and inclusion.”
— Dr Anna Kennedy OBE

All that glitters compares Aston Avery . Phill Barnett

The Stars Take the Stage
With 21 acts performing, the line-up offered a kaleidoscope of creativity and talent. Among them was Xander Hall, whose soulful rendition of Simply Red’s Money’s Too Tight to Mention was, as the crowd agreed, not just good — it was simply brilliant.  OJ O’Neil  powerhouse vocals that filled the theatre with emotion and drew enthusiastic applause.

Xander Hall gives that simply special performance

Jessica Hamer  showcased confidence and individuality, while Kirk Cramer, a devoted fan of Les Misérables, brought the house down with a stirring rendition inspired by his favourite musical — the passion in his voice earning a well-deserved standing ovation.

Laughter filled the theatre thanks to Xena-Ivy Devenney and her mischievous puppet Polly, whose cheeky jokes and comic timing delighted the audience. Polly’s antics became one of the night’s most funny  moments, reminding everyone that humour can be its own form of artistry.

Oh no Charity patron Steven Smith is being eaten by the wonderful Polly let’s hope she does not get indigestion. . With comedy genus Xena

Dynamic duo David Sanchez-Ramade and Dani Cano brought rhythm and flair with their video that had people standing while Lucy Clewer, Bella Jackson, and Zoe Steede offered moments of reflection and grace.

George Pond, Chapman Shum, and Richard Stevens kept spirits high. Stevens, known for his fundraising walks for Anna Kennedy Online, swapped his walking boots for a microphone and delivered a performance worthy of the Rat Pack — smooth, confident, and full of charm.

Richard Stevens

Lucy Glennon and Joshua Fowler kept the energy flowing, paving the way for one of the night’s most unique acts: Lana Mitchell’s “Periodic Table Resistile.” Blending rhythm, science, and creativity, it left the audience in awe and earned thunderous applause for its originality.

Chirag and Mahendra Dodhi  brought love and peace to the evening and Daisy Hutchinson had everyone moved ,

Angus Baskerville, who began his magic journey with Autism’s Got Talent, returned to the stage not only as a bestselling author but also to enthral the audience with his unique act. Angus is now one of the charity’s champions .

Angus Baskerville brought Magic to the evening .

Glitter, Glamour, and Heart
Beyond the performances, the evening radiated a genuine sense of community and celebration. Families, friends, and supporters filled the theatre with warmth and applause.

Vicky Michelle pictured by Terry Scott

Celebrities including ‘Allo ‘Allo! star Vicky Michelle, GB News presenter Nana Akua, charity patron and author Steven Smith, BBC Smoogie Queens actress Ionica Adriana, and Sophie Cooper from Harley Skin Group were among those showing their support and presenting some of the acts — a reflection of how widely Autism’s Got Talent has touched hearts across the board.

The lovely Sophie Cooper from Harley Street skin Clinic one of the main sponsors

“Every performer tonight is breaking barriers and showing the world what’s possible through understanding and inclusion.”
— Steven Smith, Author and Charity Patron

A Global Stage for Neurodiversity
Each performer brought something entirely their own — whether music, movement, storytelling, or laughter. It was a night that celebrated difference as a source of strength, and every act shone with authenticity and courage.

Audience reactions were unanimous: uplifting, inspiring, and unforgettable. There were moments of laughter, moments of awe, and moments where the entire theatre simply glowed with pride.

Earlier showcases, such as Autism’s Got Talent Whitley Bay, have drawn similar praise for being “positive, emotional, and full of pride.” The 2025 London event more than lived up to that legacy — in fact, it may have been the most spectacular edition yet.

The Magic of Anna Kennedy Online
For over a decade, Anna Kennedy Online has been a driving force for autism awareness, education, and acceptance. Founded by Dr Kennedy after her personal experiences as a parent, the charity continues to empower autistic people and their families through advocacy, workshops, and creative projects.

Yet Autism’s Got Talent remains its shining jewel — a celebration of the many ways autistic individuals contribute to art, culture, and society. Every performance is a reminder that talent comes in countless forms, and every voice deserves to be heard.

“Together, we can make a difference — one talent at a time.”
— Dr Anna Kennedy OBE

He flow in from the USA  Kirk Cramer,

A Standing Ovation for Inclusion
As Maggie Paterson’s dancers returned for the closing number, the Mermaid Theatre rose to its feet. The applause was thunderous — not just for the performers, but for the families, volunteers, organisers, and, of course, Dr Kennedy, whose vision continues to change lives.

In a world that often talks about inclusion, Autism’s Got Talent shows what it truly looks like — joy, creativity, and community coming together under the spotlight.

Autism’s Got Talent 2025 was more than an evening of entertainment. It was a statement — a glittering celebration of individuality, expression, and belonging.

The show would not be possible without the talents behind the scenes — Fiona Shepard  and the invaluable Lisa Robins, the “glue” who keeps the team and talent together.

The wonderful Lisa Robbins and host Phillip Barnett

As the audience spilled out into the crisp London night, one thing was certain: when everyone is given the chance to shine, the world becomes brighter for us all.

Look out, 2026 — they’ll be back!

Please support: https://annakennedyonline.com

Pictures Terry Scott and Tally

Some of the Dream team behind Autism’s Got Talent that volunteer .
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KA-EX®: The Future of Sports Supplementation

Everyone who knows me can confirm that if there’s a new health trend or supplement, I’m all over it. Remember NAD+when it first arrived? Many laughed when I sat there with an infusion drip attached, determined to reap the benefits. Now it’s everywhere! With the recent revelations about my go-to protein bars, I found myself searching for something new — and how thrilling it would be if it not only boosted my workout but also helped me sleep. Last night, I joined a team offering something new including former The Only Way Is Essex star turned entrepreneur Jamie Reed for the UK launch of KA-EX®, the new supplement that promises exactly that. So, what is it?

Celebrity. Jamie Reed brining KA-EX to the Uk . with Roger Wilfinger and Florian

Innovation in a Bottle

In the ever-evolving world of athletic performance, innovation is the key to staying ahead. From advanced wearable tech to nutritional breakthroughs, athletes and trainers are constantly searching for the next edge. One of the most revolutionary developments to emerge in recent years is KA-EX®, a scientifically formulated recovery and performance system that has been quietly transforming the way professionals approach physical regeneration, mental focus, and long-term health. Far from being just another “energy drink,” KA-EX® is a functional beverage built on research, biology, and the science of recovery. Its creators have taken a holistic approach, targeting not only physical fatigue but also the biochemical imbalances that limit an athlete’s potential — specifically, stress hormones, inflammation, and cellular damage.

A glamours evening for the launch of KA-EX

Origins and Purpose: The Science Behind KA-EX®

Launched in 2017, KA-EX® began as a little-known secret among elite sports circles. At a time when recovery supplements were dominated by protein powders, amino acid blends, and carbohydrate-based drinks, KA-EX® introduced something entirely new: a formula designed to combat cortisol — the body’s primary stress hormone — while simultaneously supporting sleep, reducing inflammation, and enhancing cognitive clarity. Its founders understood that performance is more than physical strength. Stress, sleep deprivation, and oxidative damage can silently sabotage progress, especially in high-intensity sports. KA-EX®’s breakthrough came from identifying how these internal stressors hindered recovery and performance — and then formulating a natural, clinically supported blend to counteract them. Over time, this approach caught the attention of professional trainers, nutritionists, and elite athletes across Europe. Top football clubs, cycling teams, and endurance competitors began integrating KA-EX® into their recovery routines. The results were measurable: lower cortisol levels, improved muscle recovery, faster sleep onset, and higher daytime energy.

The KA-EX® Advantage: Beyond Conventional Supplements

Traditional sports supplements tend to focus on a single metric — building muscle, replenishing glycogen, or reducing soreness. KA-EX®, by contrast, is multidimensional, targeting the biological systems that govern energy, stress, and restoration.

Here are the key differentiators that make KA-EX® the future of sports supplementation:

Creater Pedro Schmidt

1. Cortisol Regulation

Cortisol is the body’s “fight or flight” hormone — essential in small amounts but detrimental when chronically elevated. Intense training spikes cortisol levels, which can impair muscle repair, suppress immunity, and reduce mental clarity. KA-EX®’s RECHARGE+ formula directly addresses this issue, making it the world’s first cortisol stress reducer for athletes. By balancing cortisol, the product allows the body to recover faster and prevents the catabolic effects that break down muscle tissue.

2. Enhanced Sleep Quality

Recovery begins with rest. KA-EX®’s ingredients are formulated to improve both the quality and duration of sleep, supporting the body’s natural regenerative processes. Better sleep means better hormonal balance, reduced inflammation, and sharper mental focus — the trifecta of elite performance.

3. Anti-Inflammatory and Antioxidant Support

Exercise-induced inflammation is a natural response, but chronic inflammation slows recovery and increases injury risk. KA-EX® incorporates anti-inflammatory and antioxidant compounds that neutralise free radicals and promote tissue repair without blocking the body’s adaptive processes. This balance supports long-term, sustainable performance.

4. Cellular Regeneration

Through targeted micronutrients and bioactive compounds, KA-EX® helps cells recover from oxidative stress. This cellular-level protection enhances endurance, reduces post-exercise fatigue, and maintains optimal function even under heavy training loads.

5. Mental Clarity and Focus

Athletic performance isn’t just physical — it’s also mental. KA-EX® includes nutrients that stabilise mood, sharpen focus, and improve decision-making under pressure. In sports where split-second timing and composure determine victory, this cognitive advantage is invaluable.

RECHARGE+ and BOOST+: A New Era in Recovery and Performance

Building on the success of its original formula, KA-EX® has introduced two next-generation products — RECHARGE+and BOOST+ — each designed to optimise a specific phase of the athletic cycle.

RECHARGE+: The World’s First Cortisol Stress Reducer

RECHARGE+ continues KA-EX®’s mission of redefining recovery. Unlike typical post-workout shakes that focus solely on protein and carbohydrates, RECHARGE+ actively supports hormonal balance, neurological restoration, and cellular repair. It’s particularly effective for reducing post-exercise fatigue and soreness, improving deep sleep and relaxation, enhancing immune function, and accelerating muscle and joint recovery. By targeting cortisol regulation, RECHARGE+ represents a paradigm shift in recovery. It acknowledges that the greatest barrier to progress for many athletes isn’t physical strain — it’s the body’s inability to recover from chronic stress.

BOOST+: The World’s First Creatine Workout Booster

BOOST+ complements RECHARGE+ by powering the performance phase. As the world’s first creatine-based workout booster designed for sustained energy without the crash of stimulants, it optimises ATP (adenosine triphosphate) production — the molecule responsible for muscular power. Creatine remains one of the most researched and effective ergogenic aids in sports science. BOOST+ elevates its benefits by combining it with synergistic compounds that enhance uptake, delay fatigue, and support mental concentration. The result? Cleaner energy, greater endurance, and enhanced output — without caffeine or artificial stimulants. Together, RECHARGE+ and BOOST+ create a 360° performance ecosystem, ensuring athletes are primed before competition and fully recovered afterwards.

Backed by Science, Trusted by Champions

What truly sets KA-EX® apart is its scientific validation. Unlike many supplement brands that rely on anecdotal claims, KA-EX® has undergone clinical trials showing statistically significant benefits in stress reduction, sleep quality, and inflammation control. This evidence-based foundation has earned KA-EX® credibility among sports scientists and medical professionals alike. Nutritionists within elite clubs have praised its efficacy, and its adoption by professional teams is a testament to its real-world impact. The brand’s success underscores a broader shift in sports science — from merely fuelling performance to optimising recovery and longevity. KA-EX® isn’t just a supplement; it’s a philosophy redefining what it means to perform sustainably at the highest level.

A Holistic Vision for the Future

Athletes today face unprecedented physical and psychological demands. Whether in professional sport or amateur competition, the pressure to perform has never been greater. Yet the human body’s capacity for regeneration remains finite. KA-EX® represents the next generation of sports supplementation — a science-led, whole-body approach that acknowledges the interconnectedness of mind, muscle, and metabolism. By restoring balance where modern training and stress create depletion, it paves the way for a new era of athletic resilience. The future of performance isn’t about training harder — it’s about recovering smarter.

Why KA-EX® Leads the Way Forward

In a market saturated with energy drinks, pre-workout powders, and synthetic boosters, KA-EX® stands as a beacon of intelligent innovation. Its commitment to scientific integrity, measurable results, and athlete wellbeing sets it apart. By tackling the root causes of fatigue — cortisol imbalance, inflammation, oxidative stress, and poor sleep — KA-EX® doesn’t just enhance short-term performance; it promotes long-term health and sustainability. As more athletes, trainers, and health professionals recognise that recovery is the real frontier of performance, KA-EX® is positioned not merely as a product but as a movement — ushering in a smarter, healthier, and more balanced era of athletic achievement.

KA-EX® isn’t the supplement of the future. It is the future is the claim , I will keep you posted as I try it .

Steven Smith spman@btinternet.com

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How to Grow, Maintain & Style Your Moustache

By Mike the Barber

Listen, up Mike is back . You’re thinking about growing a Moustache? Maybe for November  Good call. Nothing changes your look quicker than a solid ’stache. But here’s the thing: if you want it to look sharp and not like you’ve just crawled out of a cave, you’ve got to know how to grow it right, keep it clean, and style it like a pro. Lucky for you, I’m here to give you the lowdown . https://uk.movember.com

Step 1: Growing Your Moustache

Be patient

Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither is a proper Moustache. Depending on your hair type, it can take three to six weeks before it really starts to take shape. Don’t rush it — let nature do its thing.

Barber’s Tip: Forget that old wives’ tale about shaving making it grow back thicker. Doesn’t work. What does help? Eating well, getting sleep, staying active, and keeping your skin clean. Healthy body, healthy hair.

Grow the tach  first

Here’s the trick: instead of letting just the lip fuzz sit there looking lonely, grow your whole beard out. Once the mustache thickens up, then shave the beard. That way, you dodge the awkward “half-grown” look.

Invest in a trimmer

Trust me, a good trimmer is worth its weight in gold. Scissors are fine for touch-ups, but if you want precision, get yourself a rechargeable trimmer with adjustable guards. Or come see me once a week 

Celebrity client Nick Nevern

Define the shape

Most Moustaches run to the corners of your mouth and stop there. Keep the lip hair, shave the cheeks, chin, and jaw. Once you’ve carved out the shape, leave it alone and just keep the rest of your face tidy.

Keep it clean

Facial hair traps oil, sweat, and the crumbs from last night’s sandwich. Wash it a couple times a week with a mild shampoo and conditioner. Softer hair = less itch. If you’re fancy, a little beard oil won’t hurt. After all that tach can bring all the boys or gals to the yard but if it isn’t clean they will run right back 

yes thats 70’s who’s your daddy ? looks is back and Mike here to show you how to get it and maintain ,

Step 2: Maintaining the ’Stache

Keep it neat

Even the wildest Mustache needs a little discipline. Snip stray hairs with scissors or lightly buzz the ends with your trimmer. How often depends on your style — could be daily, could be weekly.

Wash and groom

A good foaming face wash in the morning and before bed keeps your skin clear and your mustache fresh. Nobody likes a greasy upper lip.

Train it with wax

If you’re going for anything beyond “basic lip rug,” you’ll need wax. Warm a little between your fingers, rub it through, then comb it from the middle outward. Beard combs work best — small teeth, good control.

Mikes work the ultimate in 1920s tach

Step 3: Styling Ideas

Now for the fun part. What kind of moustache guy are you?

  • The Pencil: Thin, sharp, clean lines. Think old-school film star or John Waters.
  • The Boxcar: A neat rectangle above the lip, stopping before the corners. Straightforward and tidy.
  • The Fu Manchu: Hair extends down past the jawline. Bold move — not for the faint-hearted.
  • The Handlebar: Grow it long, curl the ends up with wax. Victorian gent or modern hipster, your pick.
  • The Walrus: Big, bushy, covers the top lip. Think Teddy Roosevelt chopping wood.
  • The Selleck: Full, strong, classic. You’ve seen it a thousand times — it never goes out of style.

And here’s the truth: you don’t need to stick to just one. Mix, match, experiment. Worst case? You don’t like it, you shave it off. Best case? You find your signature look.

Looks like a star .

Final Words from the Barber’s Chair

A Mustache isn’t just hair on your face — it’s a statement. Take the time to grow it right, keep it clean, and wear it with confidence. Remember: a man doesn’t just grow a Mustache. He earns getting to ask “Who’s Your Daddy? “ 

Find Mike at .

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Heidi Gammon is Back

Heidi Gammon is BACK — and school’s in session!
Sharpen those pencils, unpack the lunchbox, and brace yourself — because whether you’re heading to high school, moving into halls, or just trying to survive term-time drama, I’ve got the answers you need. From messy roommates to holiday hook-ups, from bullies to big life changes — let’s crack open the advice book and dive right in.


Hello Heidi,
Love you and the show! I’m going to uni next month and sharing accommodation with my best friend. Over the summer, I realised that I’m gay and attracted to other women. Apart from telling my mum, no one else knows. I don’t fancy my best friend, so that’s not a problem, but should I tell her before we move in together in case she freaks out?
Amber, Southend


Heidi says:
Amber, the only “freak out” here would be if your friend suddenly forgot you’re still the same person you were last term. Your sexuality isn’t a warning label you have to stick on before move-in day. If you want to tell her, do it because you trust her, not because you’re scared of her reaction. And if she’s a real friend, she’ll be more interested in who’s nicking her milk from the fridge than who you fancy.


Dear Heidi,
This is awful. I’m not gay, but I’m friends with a guy who is what you might call “fluid.” We got very drunk on holiday, and I remember him performing an oral sex act on me. There’s no way it would have happened sober, and now it’s made it difficult to be friends. I tried to talk to him about it, but he just said, “What happens in Ibiza stays in Ibiza.” I have a girlfriend, and I’m terrified she’ll find out. What do I do?
Colin, Billericay


Heidi says


Colin, Ibiza clearly needs a new slogan: “What happens in Ibiza… tends to follow you home.” You’ve got a friendship issue and a relationship issue — and both need honesty. Tell your mate the boundaries from now on. As for your girlfriend, decide whether you’re confessing to ease your guilt or because it’s something she genuinely needs to know. Either way, learn your lesson: too much booze and fuzzy boundaries are a recipe for regret.


Hi Heidi,
How are you? Last year I shared uni accommodation with a great guy — honestly, we were like brothers — but sadly he’s moved to the States. A new guy is moving in, but I bumped into his old roommate who warned me: he doesn’t mind him personally, but apparently he walks around naked, smokes weed, and puts porn on openly. Plus, he’s messy and leaves everything for others to clean up. That’s my idea of hell! It’s too late to back out — what can I do?
Hunter, Basildon


Heidi says:
Hunter, sounds like you’ve been dealt the ultimate “uni flatmate bingo” card. On day one, set the house rules in plain English: no nakedness in shared spaces, no weed inside, and mess gets cleaned. If he ignores that, fortress your room — lock, headphones, maybe even a mini-fridge. And remember: it’s one academic year, not a life sentence.
What’s up Heidi,
I’m still at high school and I hate it. There’s a girl who bullies me so badly that my life is a misery, and I don’t want to go back. What can I do?
Stella, Brentwood


Heidi says:
Stella, no one should dread school because of one cruel person. Tell a teacher, a school counsellor, or your parents — and keep a record of everything she says or does. If it’s online, screenshot it. Schools are legally obliged to act on bullying. I promise you this: she is not as powerful as she seems. One day you’ll be out in the world living your best life, and she’ll still be stuck in her small one.


Heidi,
My girlfriend and I have been together for five years and we want to adopt a child — maybe two. How do we go about it? My mum says it’s a terrible idea and refuses to help.
Mandy, Brighton


Heidi says:
Mandy, if love, stability, and commitment are in place, you’re already halfway there. Start with your local council or an approved adoption agency — they’ll guide you through assessments, training, and matching with a child. It’s a long process, but worth it. most local authorities and agencies like pact do information evenings for people thinking about adoption these are great and informative and well worth going to

As for your mum, her approval would be lovely, but it’s not a requirement on the application form. Build your family your way.

https://www.counselling-foryou.co.uk

https://pinktherapy.com/therapist-directory/heidi-gammon/

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A Dream in Saussignac

Celebrating my best pals birthday was just a dream.

My best pals birthday in superb surroundings .

France’s Dordogne is no stranger to charm, but this tiny wine-soaked village might just be its best-kept secret

By Steven Smith

Five days in a southwest French village left me sun-warmed, wine-softened, and wondering how I’d lived this long without knowing Saussignac existed. This is rural France at its most painterly — all rolling vineyards, candlelit dinners, and the slow thrum of a life well-lived.

The Birthday That Changed Everything

When my best friend invited me away for her birthday, I braced for Dubai. Maybe Ibiza. Somewhere loud and expensive, where my idea of a lie-in would be drowned out by basslines and foam cannons.

Instead, she said, “Saussignac.”

The name meant nothing to me — until an artist friend described it as “wines of the gods, food like nectar, and a village so pretty it could be in a Merchant Ivory film.” He added, with a wink, “Some hotels feel like art galleries — all taste, style, and warmth.”

Two weeks later, we were landing at Bergerac Airport, a dinky 1960s gem that could double as a film set. In 10 minutes, we were in the hire car. In 20, we were in another world.

“Darling, you don’t do anything there. You immerse yourself in beauty.”

First Glimpse of a Slower Life

The drive was a moving painting: rolling vineyards, fields of wildflowers, terracotta-tiled farmhouses unchanged for centuries. Every curve of the road offered a new gasp-worthy view.

My Secret Sanctuary

While the rest of the party checked into the lively hub of the village, I chose a private B&B run by Dutch hostess Ingrid Leenders.

Her place is a pocket of peace: rustic gardens, a tiled pool, and rooms with open-plan bathrooms (romantics, take note). No TV, but strong Wi-Fi, a coffee machine, and a small fridge. Each morning at seven sharp, breakfast appeared — fresh bread, cheeses, eggs, and orange juice.

Ingrid herself? A doll. Always ready with tips, and never in the way.

📧 Bookings: ingridleenders@outlook.com
📱 WhatsApp: +31 622 796 060

The Social Set: Le 1500

Meanwhile, my friends took over Le 1500, a 12th-century building transformed into a boutique haven by retired businessman-turned-artist 58 year old Michael F. Rumsby and his husband, Lee McNeal.

Every room is a curated mix of antiques and art. A history room and library invite slow afternoons. Outside, the walled garden hides a pool, bar, and dining terrace that in summer becomes an event space — open-air films, long-table dinners, and the infamous Bad Boys Burger Night.

🌐 Website: www.le1500.rocks

Le 1500

Saussignac on a Plate

Our first evening was spent at Mélange, a family-run restaurant with stone walls, castle views, and a menu that changes weekly. Owners Melanie and Charlie are culinary magicians — especially for those of us with “difficult” diets. My pescatarian self and vegan friends were both spoiled.

🌐 Website: mélange.fr

The Dream Venue

If I ever marry, it will be at Château Lestevenie.

Owners Petrie and Jaco, both South Africans trained in the Stellenbosch winelands, host Summer Soirées so perfect they feel scripted: live jazz, vineyard sunsets, and rotating menus of Mexican, Indian, and French cuisine — all paired with their own sparkling Lestevenie Brut.

🌐 Website: chateaulestevenie.com

https://chateaulestevenie.com/our-story/

Wine with a View

Just a short stroll from the village, Château Fayolle offers 130 acres of vines and woodland, plus terrace lunches that must be pre-ordered.

Wine here is history: since 1254, Saussignac and Bergerac bottles have graced Europe’s finest tables. Today, owners Frank and Riki Campbell are taking it global.

🌐 Website: chateaufayolle.com

A Golfer’s French Fantasy

Some in our group opted for Château des Vigiers — a blend of fairways, fine dining, and château glamour between Bergerac and Saint-Émilion. It’s home to a championship golf course, a Michelin-starred restaurant, and a choice between historic suites or sleek relais rooms.

🌐 Website: vigiers.com

An Unexpected Spice Hit

In Bergerac, we found Jardin de Kashmir — hands down the best Indian restaurant I’ve ever eaten at. Flavours deep enough to make you close your eyes.

🌐 Website: kashmirbergerac.fr

Living the Slow Life

Saussignac isn’t about ticking off sights. It’s about strolling past shuttered stone houses, tasting wine under vine-laced terraces, and lingering until the sky blushes.

Bring a car — taxis are rare and expensive. Pre-book meals and flag any dietary quirks in advance. And then? Let the place work its quiet magic.

“By the end of the week my body was lighter, my mind calmer, my soul recharged.”

If You Go

Best time to visit: May–September for warm evenings and vineyard events.
Getting there: British Airways (London City) and Ryanair (Stansted) fly direct to Bergerac. Car hire essential.
Don’t miss: Mélange for dinner, Château Lestevenie’s Summer Soirée, Château Fayolle’s terrace lunch.
Pack for: Lazy afternoons, lingering dinners, and the urge to never leave.

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