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2025 UK LGBT+ History Month Finale: Legendary Children [All of Them Queer]

Last week, I joined some of the legendary children from the original Pride at the Curzon Cinema Bloomsbury to watch the powerful documentary Legendary Children (All of Them Queer), directed by Rob Falconer.

The film had its highly anticipated London premiere, playing to a an enthusiastic audience. Serving as the closing event for LGBT+ History Month, the screening was followed by an engaging Q&A session featuring renowned human rights activist Peter Tatchell.

Tatchell expressed his hope that the film would serve as both a historical reflection and a call to action for new generations of activists.

“I hope this film demonstrates that real social change is possible and inspires others to take up activism,” Tatchell stated. “It’s a story of then and now. I always say, even if you can’t be on the front lines, you can still make an impact—just by amplifying the struggles and voices of LGBT+ people across the world.”

His remarks followed a strong statement from the International Committee for LGBTQ+ History Months, a coalition representing 16 such initiatives globally. The committee issued a scathing condemnation of the U.S. government’s recent efforts to systematically remove LGBTQIA+ resources, educational materials, and visibility from schools.

“The erasure of books, knowledge, historical records, and community groups has never led to anything positive,” they wrote, warning that “the actions of the Trump administration are emboldening other governments and institutions to follow suit.”

Filmed over two years, Legendary Children chronicles the lives and activism of the pioneers who helped establish the first UK Pride in 1972. Director Rob Falconer reflected on the film’s profound relevance, not only in light of the growing wave of anti-LGBTQIA+ sentiment in the United States but also due to the loss of many of the trailblazers featured in the documentary.

“We won’t see their like again,” Falconer said, acknowledging the passing of numerous activists who fought to carve out a space for LGBTQ+ rights in Britain and beyond. The film stands as both a tribute to their courage and a reminder of the ongoing fight for equality—one that remains as urgent today as it was five decades ago.


The second film, The Fragility of Freedom, follows an inspiring group of humanitarian secondary school students from Essex, Suffolk, and Vancouver, Canada, as they participate in The Dora Love Prize 2024.

Since its inception, The Dora Love Prize has engaged over 1,500 secondary school and college students in Essex, Suffolk, and beyond in a unique, youth-driven human rights initiative. Inspired by Holocaust survivor Dora Love, the project continues her lifelong mission to educate young people about the atrocities of the Nazi Holocaust. Dora’s goal was simple: to empower students with this knowledge so they could challenge identity-based prejudice, discrimination, marginalization, and violence in today’s world.

Founder Rainer Schulze explains, “The Dora Love Prize provides young people with knowledge beyond the school curriculum and the confidence to create positive change in the world around them. We invite you to ‘see the world differently.’”

Dora Love

I am not always on the same page as the wonder that is Peter Tatchell, but I am in awe of him and his work. His speech about stepping into other organizations and being a shining light is so important that 2Shades has decided to print it as a landmark speech.

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Peter Tatchell – March 5, 2025, Curzon Bloomsbury, London

*”To start with, I’d like to say that I had a very difficult choice tonight. I was also asked to speak at the U.S. Embassy in the solidarity protest with Ukraine and against Donald Trump’s withdrawal of aid from that country’s battle for self-determination.

What we are witnessing now is the rise of Russian and U.S. imperialism in alliance with each other to carve up Ukraine. Putin wants the territory; Trump wants the minerals. That is the new imperialism.

For LGBT+ Ukrainians, a Russian victory would be a devastating blow. It would mean the imposition of Russian-style laws on LGBT+ Ukrainians, never mind all the other civic and political repressions that would follow. The trade union movement in Ukraine would be dismantled, women’s rights campaigners would face severe repression, and so on. This is a critical moment where we must show the kind of international solidarity that the Gay Liberation Front demonstrated in the early 1970s. Back then, we stood with the people of Vietnam against U.S. aggression, with the people of Greece battling the Colonels’ junta, and with the people of Spain fighting the Franco dictatorship.

We saw our struggle as international, not just limited to LGBT+ rights but part of a broader democratic human rights movement.

So, to go back to your question—history shows that if you care about something, don’t just care, do something. Action equals life; silence equals death. We must get organized.

For young people who feel passionate, get involved with an organization that is making a difference. Many groups across Britain and around the world need financial support, online campaigners, and solidarity. Some young people I know make a point of attending Pride parades in repressive European countries like Georgia, Hungary, and Poland. They do this to show their support, and no one should underestimate the power of solidarity.

For people living under dictatorship or repression, knowing that others care is a massive morale boost. It’s psychologically uplifting.

The other thing I’d say is—don’t feel confined to LGBT+ movements. A lot of my work isn’t LGBT+ focused. I support the liberation movements in Indonesian-occupied West Papua, the Balochistan freedom struggle against Pakistan’s occupation, and the fight of the Arab Ahwazis in Iran against subjugation by Tehran. I don’t do this for LGBT+ reasons—I do it because they have a just freedom struggle, just like the people of Ukraine, Palestine, or anywhere else.

Because I’m openly gay, my support has forced many people in these communities to rethink their attitudes toward LGBT+ people.

Take Balochistan—it’s a very tribal, patriarchal, and, frankly, ‘backward’ society in terms of LGBT+ rights. But because I’ve been one of the champions of their freedom cause for the last two decades—getting them huge media coverage—I’m now well known there. Many people have told me, ‘I used to hate homosexuals. I believed all the propaganda. But you stood with us, and now I’m rethinking my attitude.’

That’s incredibly important.

The same applies across the board. I’ve been campaigning for 50 years in support of Palestine’s right to a homeland. Again, as an openly gay man, I’ve had countless Muslim people tell me, ‘I used to hate gays, but your support over the decades has changed my mind.’

So, if you’re young, get involved in these movements as an openly LGBT+ person. Show that we stand with them. At first, they may not stand with us, but if you persist, not only will you be supporting a just cause, but you’ll also be changing hearts and minds along the way.”*

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Spoiling It for the Others

Why “Dead Life” Will Seriously Affect Us All

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IyPhuLb4EZQ Peter Tatchell fights for us all to be who we are .

We are living in an era where serious fraud is celebrated, and the tale of The Emperor’s New Clothes feels more like reality than fiction. If you dare to point out the truth—that the emperor is, in fact, naked—you might find yourself in court. It’s an utterly unhinged world we live in.

I am at a lovely lunch in the heart of Essex, a place synonymous with spray tans, hair extensions, Botox, and outrageously long lashes. To say the least, I fit right in. My gorgeous companion has abandoned extensions yet looks stunning, appearing even fresher and more youthful than the rest. She is what I would call real. When she did go the false route, she never told tall tales or passed them off as her own. She is genuine—in fact, we once joked about the extensions needing food parcels. If she had lied, I wouldn’t trust her.

So, when I recently noticed a trans woman using what I find to be the most troubling and manipulative card of all—the “Dead Life” card—I was deeply concerned. And now, everyone is expected to either accept her version of events or face being sued. This isn’t a joke—it’s a serious issue.

For those unaware, the “Dead Life” concept allows individuals who have transitioned to rewrite their past. Not only can they change their pronouns (I am totally with)  but in some cases, they can craft entire fictional histories for themselves—transforming their previous existence into something entirely unrecognisable. A bit like The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, where a whole new world is created from imagination.

Now, let me be absolutely clear: I have had the privilege of knowing many incredible, talented, and brave trans women. They have undergone their journeys to become their authentic selves, and in my eyes, they are now—rightfully—women. Interestingly, none of them have resorted to the “Dead Life” tactic. Instead, they have spoken openly about their lives, their struggles, and their triumphs, offering guidance and inspiration to others. One such example is the incredibly lovely India Willoughby, newsreader and presenter.

Gorgeous and talented India Willoughby and asset to us all and role model for the trans community.

However, let’s consider a different scenario. Suppose I told you that, at 16, I was an astronaut and had a torrid affair with Madonna. That would be an outright lie (all but  an amusing one). At 16, I was, like many others, just a regular teenager experiencing life. But here’s the difference: if I were to publish a book claiming such fabrications as fact, people would rightfully call it out as nonsense.

Madonna called for you to “Express yourself ” not lie .

So why is it that a trans woman can write a memoir claiming that, at 17, she was a stunning young woman having an affair with a well-known pop star (now deceased)—when, in reality, at that time, she was a 17-year-old boy with acne? The claim that she auditioned for a well-known girl band when she would have needed a good shave for that is also questionable. But what’s really worrying is the superimposition of pictures of herself as a girl into family photos when, in fact, she was a boy.

How can publishers allow this and sell it to an unsuspecting public? It is deceitful. Should we sue?

Even newspapers are reporting such blatant fabrications as truth. It makes Trump’s propaganda look like child’s play. As a community are we not all up in arms about his lies ? 

Lies are not facts. Yet, we live in a time where, if The Emperor’s New Clothes were rewritten today, the boy who dared to shout, “He’s naked!” would be the one dragged into court. It’s insanity. Serious fraud is being rewarded, and if you speak out against it, you are painted as the villain.

Now, I am sure that many trans women who invoke the “Dead Life” narrative are simply living their lives quietly and not publishing books filled with fabricated stories. But as a community, we are in danger.

On 5 March, Legendary Children (All Of Them Queer) screened for the first time in London to a sold-out crowd. The screening marked the end of LGBT+ History Month and was followed by a Q&A with human rights campaigner, Peter Tatchell, who said he hopes the film inspires others towards activism.

Peter Tatchell made an incredibly insightful point. He doesn’t just work within LGBTQ+ charities; he also volunteers in a range of organizations, including those within religious communities that have historically been homophobic. By leading through example—by showing up, engaging, and being part of these spaces—he changes minds. That is real activism.

A humble hero Peter Thatchell

Many trans people do not wish to be part of the LGBTQ+ community, and that is their choice. However, for now, they remain within it. They are welcome. But honesty must remain at the core of any community. Without honesty, we lose trust, and once trust is broken, everything begins to crumble.

When a con artist exploits the “Dead Life” card to fabricate a fictional past and present it as fact, we all suffer. We need to hold individuals accountable. My hope is that someone exposes this person for who they truly are—so that they may serve as an example to others not to go down the same route,

Because, at the end of the day, she is spoiling it for the others.

The incredible Boy George and 2hades favourite David Hoyle a star .

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STEVEN LOOKS AT THE BRITS 2025

The legendary Charliexcx

WHY I JUST LOVED THE BRIT AWARDS THIS YEAR

Yes, the BRIT Awards can sometimes be a cringe-fest, and let’s be honest—Jack Whitehall is no Ricky Gervais, no matter how hard he tries. But, without a doubt, he’s a far better choice than some of the past hosts. One thing is certain: the BRITs always pack a punch.

Who could forget 1996, when Jarvis Cocker crashed the stage during Michael Jackson’s Earth Song? Jarvis, who was arrested for the stunt, is sadly remembered more for that moment than his music. And Michael? Well… let’s leave that discussion for another time. Then, of course, there was Madonna’s infamous tumble off the stage in 2015—proof that even the Queen of Pop isn’t immune to a high-fashion mishap or falling iff her high horse.( we all love her )

But as I settled in to watch the 2025 BRIT Awards, it dawned on me just how much incredible talent we have in this country. How the hell do we not run away with the Eurovision crown every year? It took a Canadian to win last time, though, let’s be honest, the brilliant Sam Ryders  was robbed.

This year’s BRITs, however, were a whole new ball game. From start to finish, it was pure magic, and I realized just how out of touch I am with some of today’s hottest artists.

THE HIGHLIGHTS

JACK WHITEHALL—ACTUALLY FUNNY?

Two tea bags or three ? Jack Whitehall does a great job .you almost want to teabag him

Believe it or not, Jack Whitehall was actually hilarious this year. From start to finish, he nailed it. His monkey joke about snorting PG Tips? Priceless. And his parents on the red carpet? Pure comedy gold.

Equally amusing was Danny Dyer’s voice—so artificially butch you’d think he’d accidentally wandered into a gay orgy and slipped on the lube and was trying to convince everyone he was straight.

THE PERFORMANCES

The real magic, though, was in the performances. There wasn’t a single act I watched that didn’t blow me away—and I say that as someone with pretty eclectic taste in music.

The production was simply stunning. Kicking off with Sabrina Carpenter was a bold choice, even if she visually borrowed inspiration of 90% of her act from Madonna (who, let’s not forget, also did the kilted guards routine a while back).

Jade Thirlwall, after winning Best Pop Act, delivered an iconic performance of Angel of My Dreams. Though, who on earth thought turning her into Gemma Collins with a blonde wig was a good idea? It distracted from what was her first solo BRITs performance since stepping away from Little Mix.

Jade gives an iconic performance but ditch the blonde wig .

The undeniable star of the night was Charli XCX. I’ll admit, I only really knew of her because she’s engaged to George Daniel from The 1975 (don’t scream at me), but after doing some homework—wow. What an exciting and uniquely talented artist. Her album BRAT is already shaping up to be legendary. It’s a shame she didn’t perform, but honestly, watching her down espresso martinis, sip bubbly, and cuddle up to a hunk? A girl after my own heart.

An expresso martini and bubbly and a hunk on her arm my kind of gal Charliexcx

THE SHOW-STEALERS

Teddy Swims could wear his old bedding on stage, and I’d still be mesmerised by that voice. #Awesome. The award for humility, however, goes to Myles Smith—definitely one to watch.

Teddy Swims a mesmerising voice .

Stormzy who did not perform Ezra Collective delivered brilliant performance, proving yet again why they’re some of the best musicians out there. But guys, let’s dial down the God talk a bit—unless, of course, He can explain why Trump is still looming over the White House and why the world is in the state it’s in. A simple “ta” would suffice.

Sam Fender? What a Northern powerhouse. Pure talent, down-to-earth, and humble—just what we love to see. The Last Dinner Party also delivered an incredible performance, proving they are a force to be reckoned with.

And last, but certainly not least, a shoutout to the absolutely addictive Lola Young, who performed Messy—a song that will no doubt become an anthem for a generation. I truly cannot wait to see what she does next; she’s got me hooked.

A. Star is born Lola Young we are all addicted to you .

FINAL THOUGHTS

This year’s BRITs were, without a doubt, the best yet. A true celebration of the sheer amount of talent we have in this country. We are incredibly lucky to have these artists pushing the boundaries of music and performance.

Here’s to 2026!

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Steven’s Viewz

Steven’s Viewz this month looks at Kevin Spacey’s moral character reference and why we need to support Meghan—no matter what. She could be saving our prince. Just some of the topics
A good character reference?
Elton John highly a character reference when it comes to morals .

Having been out since I was 16, I am all too aware of how easily young gay men can be taken advantage of by older men. Listening to Kevin Spacey’s tale of woe on Piers Morgan Uncensored, I wanted to believe that, in some way, he was also a victim in all of this. God knows that many famous people are unfairly labeled with all sorts of accusations or thrown into the relentless churn of the rumor mill.

However, after watching Spacey Unmasked, the Channel 4 documentary, I found the testimonies of the men and boys who spoke out to have a disturbingly familiar tone—one that often accompanies stories of predatory behavior. Yes, there will always be those willing to drop their pants for a role, but many of the accounts felt genuine, resonating with a painful truth. As gay men, we are often hesitant to report such experiences because, more often than not, it doesn’t end well for us.

Oddly enough, for a brief moment during Spacey’s interview with Piers Morgan, I found myself almost swayed by his performance. He threw everything into his plea for sympathy—short of invoking a fire in an orphanage. But then came the real clanger: his choice of a character reference for morality—Elton John.

I couldn’t help but scoff at that. When I had just turned 16, I was invited to Elton’s Windsor home, where I was greeted with a gin and tonic upon arrival and many more . Let’s just say, Elton is no gentleman, and he is certainly not someone who should be vouching for another man’s moral standing. Perhaps birds of a feather do flock together.

But ultimately, my support is 100% with the victims—and with Guy Pearce. Guy doesn’t need to “grow up,” as Spacey has suggested. He has bravely spoken out, and that takes real courage.

The brilliant Guy Pearce .

https://www.channel4.com/programmes/spacey-unmasked

Why We Might Need to Back Off Meghan—She Could Be Saving Our Prince

There is no doubt in my mind that Meghan Markle is a needy actress who threw the Royal Family—and, by extension, the UK—under the bus. There she was, on Oprah Winfrey’s show, claiming she had never Googled the Royal Family before stepping into her new role, crown at the ready, as if preparing for a remake of The Princess Diaries. But let’s be real—Meghan’s generation reads reviews before trying a new coffee shop, so the idea that she never researched the most famous family in the world is preposterous.

Yes, there is an undeniable love between Meghan and Harry—let’s not question that. But let’s also acknowledge the possibility that she thought she was stepping into the role of a lifetime, only to find that reality fell short of her expectations. Like some theatrical personalities, who—much like Tinker Bell —wilt without attention, Meghan was never going to quietly settle into a domestic life in Santa Barbara.

Still, let’s hope that in five years, she isn’t back on Oprah, sharing a new tale of marital woes. If that happens, perhaps we, as a society, will take Harry back as the prodigal son, recognizing that many of his struggles were shaped by the world around him.

However, we may need to consider an alternative perspective—what if Meghan is actually Harry’s anchor? What if she is the one keeping him safe? There have long been whispers about Prince Harry’s struggles, and if he is indeed battling addiction, then Meghan could be the very thing standing between him and a downward spiral. For that, we should be grateful.

Let’s not forget—how could a man who was forced to walk behind his mother’s coffin as a child not carry deep trauma? The traditional British stiff upper lip no longer fits in today’s world, and while Prince William appears to be managing well (at least outwardly), we cannot know for sure what his mental health looks like behind closed doors. What we do know is that Harry has always been more emotionally expressive, and his struggles have been more visible.

If he is indeed living with addiction, we must remember that it is an illness—not something that can be cured, only managed. While rehab and 12-step programs can be effective, one of the most powerful factors in long-term recovery is finding love, stability, and commitment. Addicts often find strength in relationships where they can anchor each other, and if that is what Meghan provides for Harry, then we should acknowledge and respect it.

Yes, there is always the risk that if their relationship collapses, old demons may resurface. But for now, Meghan makes Harry happy. And perhaps, for all he has endured, we owe him at least that—to simply smile and wave, as I like to put it. After everything he has been through, doesn’t he deserve a little peace?

Review: Emilia Pérez – A Triumph for the LGBTQ+ Community

A huge shout out to for Emilia Perez

The Oscar-nominated film Emilia Pérez is a groundbreaking and empowering story that brings much-needed representation to the LGBTQ+ community. Blending crime, drama, and musical elements, the film tells a powerful story of identity, transformation, and redemption.

One of its greatest strengths is its nuanced portrayal of a transgender protagonist, offering visibility and depth rarely seen in mainstream cinema. With stunning performances, particularly from trans actress Karla Sofía Gascón, Emilia Pérezchallenges stereotypes and highlights the resilience and humanity of transgender individuals.

Beyond representation, the film is a testament to acceptance and self-discovery, making it a vital and uplifting piece of cinema for the LGBTQ+ community and beyond. It’s a must-watch for those seeking a film that is both socially significant and artistically brilliant.

Bob the Drag Queen is just mean .

With great power comes great responsibility
RU PAUL (AND, TO BE FAIR, OTHERS GOING AS FAR BACK AS THE FRENCH REVOLUTION!)

https://talesofasinglemiddleagedgayman.blogspot.com/2022/01/tales-of-single-middle-aged-gay-man_19.html

The way forward for LGBTQ people involves encouraging the media and LGBTQ figureheads to educate the public, inform them about our culture, and highlight our constant struggle for equal rights.

What an incredible job The Vivienne has done for the community! Many of RuPaul’s queens have raised the bar, and the younger generation can’t get enough.

However, I have been critical of Baga Chipz—when she had airtime, she often wasted it on crude comments rather than embracing Pride. Equally disappointing was Bob The Drag Queen, in USA’ The Traitors who came across as mean and unpleasant. He brought nothing to make you love him or challenge stereotypes. What a shame! His quick judgments on others’ clothing made for embarrassing viewing in an otherwise brilliant show.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/m002787p/the-traitors-us-series-3-1-let-battle-commence

RIP The wonderful Vivienne

In Loving Memory of The Vivienne

The world has lost a true icon with the passing of The Vivienne. As the first winner of RuPaul’s Drag Race UK, she captivated audiences with her wit, talent, and undeniable star power. A trailblazer in the drag community, she used her platform to inspire, entertain, and advocate for LGBTQ+ rights. Her humor, charisma, and flawless performances made her a beloved figure, not just in the UK but across the world. Beyond the glamour, The Vivienne’s kindness and authenticity touched countless lives, leaving a legacy that will shine on forever. Rest in power, queen—you will never be forgotten. 🌹💔

I am proud to be part of this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gKf1CT9vel4

LONDON Q&A video with international Human Rights campaigner PETER TATCHELL and director ROB FALCONER talking about LEGENDARY CHILDREN [ALL OF THEM QUEER].

The Pride 50 movie screens 5th March as the official closing event of LGBT+ HIstory Month 2025 at Curzon Bloomsbury cinema WC1. BSL Signed Performance. Peter talks to Gateway 97.8 Radio’s Aston Avery and Steven Smith about the film. Rob talks to the Lighthouse Cinema audience after its popular show there.

Peter and many of the cast will be attending the Curzon Bloomsbury show on March 5th in London’s West End. Showing with Legendary Children, The Fragility of Freedom (The Dora Love Prize 2024) meets astonishing school-age human rights defenders taking part in annual youth education project The Dora Love Prize, inspired by notable Holocaust survivor the late Dora Love. Both films also HoH captioned. 15 advisory. Closed Captions. Features music from the film by Tall Houses (courtesy Cat Likes Gravy Music 2025). #LGBTplusHM, #Pride, #LoveIsLove, #LGBTQ, #LGBTQIA, #LGBTQIA, #LoveWins, #Equality, #TransEquality, #LegendaryChildren, #PrideInLondon, #IntersectingIdentities, #LGBTQIA, #educateOUTprejudice, #winterpridemaspalomas, @TallHouses

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Saturn’s Return: Conversations with a Planet

This eerie planet changed my life. But what does Saturn have to do with anything?
Is it true what they say about Saturn’s Return and the transformation it brings?

If you know anything about astrology or retrogrades, you may be familiar with where I’m taking this. But for now let’s address the elephant in our solar system, the enigmatic Saturn.

Saturn is THE planet that shapes us into who we truly are and plays a role in our conscience for character development. These lessons come in mysterious forms and it’s upto us to catch it and break a pattern for the greater good.

However, if you don’t care for astrology, open your mind to the possibility that this work of fiction makes me a better human everyday.

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My conversations with Saturn:

I asked Saturn with its countless moons and icy rings, why must you pierce through my emotions so profusely? There’s only so much I’m allowed to feel in this civilised world or they will think I’m mental. For thinking too much and living too less.

Saturn whispered to me, “And who are they? Who are these people who made you think before you could act? Who’s stopping you from living?”

I choked at first, I felt uneasy that a voice in me cared to question me rather than defeat me. I said to him that it was the opinions given to me over the years by family, friends and lovers. My family struggles to take my personality out of the crib and I sought refuge from the devastating state of my family in my friendships and relationships.

Saturn corrected me and said, “As a child you take. As a child you respect those who take care of you and learn how to behave. Tell me, are you a child now? Will you continue to give your inner child the stage, or will you take the stage as an adult and create your own audience?”

I shuddered as the lifestyle I’ve lived so far seemed to be crashing at my feet. The inner child is my imagination. Am I holding on to the miseries of my past to justify the lack of effort in the present moment? 

I ask Saturn if the voices that linger in my mind are there to deceive me. Could they possibly be voices of others that are used on themselves as false wisdom?

Saturn smiled and said, “Who knows? Is it something you wish to know? Or forgo?”

Moments in my life where I understand what Saturn means when it says, let go. We live in a miracle

I was lost, am I just confusing myself? What is the point of knowing and how will I ever know? It’s all a silly guessing game and time spent worrying about minds that I can never read.

I’ve met some brave people along the way who embody the sayings, “Don’t worry be happy” or “Live your life to the fullest”. I feel grateful for these encounters because they show me that the path I’ve readjusted to seems to be working. And that my conversations with Saturn are real. 

It makes me wonder how they seem to do everything so effortlessly. How are they so live-laugh-love? I ask Saturn, what’s their secret?

Saturn answers plainly, “Today you could live your life to the fullest, tomorrow could be the worst day of your life. Be grateful for the day a light from the outside has been shown to you. On days when darkness takes over your speech, a simple memory of that light will bring back your words.”

I was in awe of the wisdom this mystical planet was inducing in me. It never felt like a voice that was trying to break me down to feel worthless, it was breaking down the unnecessary clutter in my mind to acknowledge my worth. 

As a person who loves decoding thoughts and emotions, judgement comes knocking on my door as a regular guest. But the kind of judgement I fear most is the one I have towards myself.

I worry that self-judgement is a silent epidemic which harbours resentment within oneself and blinds the vision enough to look at another as an object of gratification. Gratification of the seven deadly sins as they say.

With a curious mind I asked Saturn, is it even possible to overcome judgement of all kinds? Or must we learn to live with it and not allow it to yield its weapons?

Saturn agreed for the first time and added, “Judgement towards another is judgement towards oneself. Why step on someone’s toes when you fully intend to kick them on the chest? Either way, a spirit has been harmed, theirs and yours. And in the spirit of humanity, you have lost your way again. You find yourself ten steps behind but remember, forgiveness never keeps count and always moves forward.”

The funny thing about wisdom or guidance through any source is how one perceives it and implements it in their own lives. The intention which I write this article will never be reflected the way I wish for it to; but it will resonate with some, one or maybe none.

But perhaps that’s the journey of self-discovery. And Saturn, with its nonchalant advice, comes to teach you that and more if you care to listen carefully.

Here’s a lovely song by international pop-star, SZA who talks about her journey with Saturn.

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Heidi Gammon’s Agony Aunt Column – New Year Edition

2Shades is thrilled to have Heidi Gammon back with her beloved column, where she tackles your problems and answers your questions.

Dear Heidi,

Happy New Year!
I wonder if you can help me. A few months ago, I had a falling-out with a friend. I carefully explained in a letter why I was upset and added that we should leave things for now, as I might get over it in time.

Far from apologizing, they flew into a rage and began contacting everyone we both knew, berating me. Eventually, it became too much, so I confronted them. They claimed they had no idea why we had fallen out and asked me to resend the letter. By then, so much damage had been done. Now, I’m concerned about their mental health, but they are still tarnishing my reputation. How can I stop them?

Marcus, Edinburgh

Dear Marcus,
Oh, Marcus, how awful! It’s terrible when friends say, “Always tell me how you feel,” but when tested, things don’t run smoothly—or worse, they betray your trust.

First, no matter what they’re doing to blacken your name, your real friends will know the truth. Oscar Wilde once said, “There is only one thing in the world worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about.”

Second, it sounds like you’ve had a lucky escape from a friendship that wasn’t genuine. Ask yourself: Were you of use to them, perhaps?

As for what to do now:

  • You could take legal action and have a lawyer threaten them with defamation charges. However, that can be costly and may escalate things.
  • Alternatively, you could try appealing to them directly. But you have tried that and there is mental health issues to bare in mind .

My feeling is that they’ve likely done more damage to their own reputation than yours. Left alone, this will eventually become a distant memory. Take heart—it’s their loss, not yours.

Love and hugs, Heidi

Dear Heidi,

Can you help me?
Do you believe there’s someone out there for everyone? I’m a gay man and have been single for a long time. I don’t need a paper bag over my head—everyone keeps asking why I’m single because they think I’m a catch!

Danny, Brighton

Dear Danny,
Bless you! Sometimes, the most attractive and “perfect” catches can be the last ones to find a partner—they can seem less approachable.

While I haven’t met you, here’s some general advice for people who struggle in the dating world:

  1. Explore new places and mix with different people.
  2. Ask a friend to introduce you to someone.
  3. Take up a new hobby that involves meeting others.
  4. Look for LGBTQ+ social events or groups.
  5. Check your expectations—are you being too picky or letting minor issues deter you?
  6. Reflect on whether you’re genuinely looking for love or afraid of being alone. It’s important to know yourself first.
  7. Don’t be afraid to ask people out—rejection may sting, but it won’t kill you. Remember, you might have to kiss a few frogs before finding your prince!

I hope this helps. Good luck, Danny!

Love, Heidi

Dear Heidi,

I hope you’re well. I’m in my 50s and have been married for 25 years to a wonderful man. He’s a fantastic husband and still handsome. However, he rarely wants sex anymore, and when he does, he needs Viagra. I still love and need intimacy, but I’m thinking of seeing a professional or having an affair. Is that so wrong?

Vicky, Leeds

Dear Vicky,
Oh, Vicky, please listen to me. Talk to your husband—he clearly loves you! Tell him that intimacy is still important to you. Consider couples counselling or consult a doctor to work on your sex life together.

Turning to a professional or having an affair might seem tempting as a fantasy, but it comes at a cost and could ruin what you have. From what you’ve described, your marriage is still special. After 25 years, calling your partner “wonderful and handsome” is rare!

Try rekindling the spark—breathe some magic back into your relationship.

Love, Heidi

Dear Heidi,

I’m more comfortable around gay men. I’m 25, love hanging out with the boys, and often joke that I’m a “gay man in a woman’s body.” My bestie, Phillip, is gorgeous—if he were straight, I’d be all over him.

Imagine my surprise when I learned at New Year’s that he was once engaged to a woman. Better still, we shared a proper kiss at midnight! I can’t stop thinking about it. We’re going out this weekend—should I try it again? He hasn’t mentioned it. Help!

Lyndsey, London

Will and Grace

Dear Lyndsey,
You sound fabulous, but seriously, get a grip! While I understand the “gay man in a woman’s body” cliché (we’ve all been there), Phillip needs to come to you if he’s exploring a shift in his sexuality.

If you push for more, you risk losing a great friendship. New Year’s parties can be wild, and people do unexpected things. Don’t read too much into it.

Gay clubs are fun, but ask yourself: Are you using them to avoid finding love for yourself? Keep your options open and focus on what’s best for you.

Kisses, Heidi
 

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Thomas Farthing

Thomas Farthing Simon Barnes pictures .


Men’s Fashion Secret Thomas Farthing 

When I had  just turned 13, my mother took me and my sister on a trip to London for the first time. What made this journey so magical, apart from the bustle and excitement of the big city, was entering the doors of Barbara Hulanicki’s Biba store. From its elegant black and gold art deco logo to its amazing layout and stunning fashions, Biba bowled me over.

The New York Dolls were performing that night in the Rainbow Rooms at the top of the shop. The food court was full of exotic delights I’d never heard of and my mum treated me to an apple strudel, with its deep apple and raisin filling sprinkled with cinamon and covered in in spiral pastry.

I got my first man bag and a trendy vest and I felt like a million dollars. I imagined I was Marc Bolan, and I counted the minutes I could escape dull Whitely Bay to live in this electric city, somewhere I felt for the first time that I truly belonged.

I did move to London and have had many adventures along the way. But there have been very few shops that gave me the buzz that Biba did all those years ago. Much as I love shopping, these days the excitement is sadly lacking, as chain stores take over our high streets with their dull product ranges and uniform window displays. Everything looks the same, although there are some exceptions, of course, such as the Harrods food hall.

But now I’ve discovered a fashion store that gives me the same thrill I experienced when I entered Biba as a teenager.

A few weeks ago, I was told that I would be modelling at the Ideal Home Christmas Show and needed to be fitted at the Thomas Farthing http://www.thomasfarthing.co.uk/ store in Museum Street, right by the British Museum. So one chilly autumn evening, fellow model Frankie Holloway and I took ourselves off to Bloomsbury.

Entering Thomas Farthing is like going back in time to a more elegant era. From the penny farthing leaning against the shop window to the classy Edwardian interior, it has a magical feel, like entering the dream kingdom of Narnia and a world away from the depressing chain store experience.

It’s packed full of delights for the stylish man and has some lovely touches, from the quirky duck decked out in a bow-tie to a set of battered luggage you imagine might have accompanied a young man about town on his grand tour of Europe in a bygone century.

Frankie and I couldn’t wait to try on their amazing and unique designs, which are hand made to the highest quality and finish.

Run by Adam Skyner and his stunning fiancee, Jenna Louise Hardy, the shop has been open for a year. Judging by the eclectic clientele, including tourists seeking the Downton Abbey look, it’s going to be a huge success.

Jenna and Adam have a skilful eye and quickly dressed Frankie in a style that I can only describe as Downton Abbey meets Al Capone – the only thing missing was the violin case! But he looked amazing and loved the style.

It was my turn next and, being a 17 1/2 inch neck and 48 inch jacket, I am always a little nervous that I’ll look like a bulky bear if I have too many layers. That’s just how I felt on our first attempt at a fantastic winter tweed suit, but Jenna quickly jumped in as she realised I needed a more tailored look. She produced the most wonderful coat and Adam grabbed a shirt that fitted like a glove. It all came together and I just loved the finished look, which was topped off with a red bowler hat.

http://www.thomasfarthing.co.uk

Adam came from Stumper & Fielding in Portobello Road and he and Jenna clearly have a passion for what they do. Jenna even showed me how to wear my waistcoat with the last button undone, the traditional way it would have been worn by an Edwardian gentleman.

Needless to say, when we modelled Thomas Farthing’s clothes at the Christmas Ideal Home Exhibition for Angel Sinclair’s Models of Diversity http://www.modelsofdiversity.org/ the outfits had the audience applauding.

The store stocks classic Irish and UK designs, Loake, McGee, Gurteen, Peregrine, Hanan Fulton, as well as their own Thomas Farthing brand. 

Jack Eyers 

http://www.thomasfarthing.co.uk

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Good Customer Service is Alive and Well in the UK


https://www.greateranglia.co.uk/train-times/norwich-to-london-liverpool-street

Thank- You Nic Crowe and Jasmine Young of Greater Anglia . By Steven Smith

In this day and age, people are quick to complain about British transport in general. At the forefront of these complaints is often the rail network, and in many cases, the criticism is justified.

One of my New Year’s resolutions this year was to try and focus on positives rather than negatives. It’s my delight, therefore, to share a story that highlights just why we are lucky to still have people with incredible work ethics and a genuine commitment to customer service in the UK.

This story involves the team at Greater Anglia, the train line that covers the Norwich to London Liverpool Street route.

Liverpool Street London https://www.greateranglia.co.uk/train-times/norwich-to-london-liverpool-street

To protect privacy, I won’t use the real name of the passenger involved. However, everyone else in this story is real.

Every year, a dear friend of mine, who retired to sunny rural France, makes a trip back to the UK. Despite living abroad, he still enjoys the occasional visit to his old stomping grounds. However, his health has been deteriorating in recent years, and we were uncertain whether he’d be able to make the journey this time.

Imagine my joy when I learned he had landed on British soil! Though his voice sounded a little strained when we spoke while he was in Norwich, he assured me he’d be in good spirits by the time he arrived in London. We planned to meet up, enjoy some banter, and share a meal at our favorite spot—Balan’s in Soho.

I was all set, suited, and ready to pick him up on Friday, January 17, when I noticed a missed call. Returning it, I was distressed to find it was from the senior train conductor, Nic Crowe. My friend had fallen ill and was taken off the train at Ipswich. Nic sounded genuinely concerned and asked me to call him back.

Here’s what happened: an observant train host, Jasmine Young, had noticed my friend struggling as he boarded the train in Norwich. She approached to help with his bag and quickly realised he was unwell. Jasmine called first responders, and an ambulance was waiting at Ipswich to take him to the local hospital.

That could have been the end of the story. The train team could have handed the matter over to the medics and left it at that. However, Nic realised my friend was traveling alone and unfamiliar with Ipswich. When I called back, Nic suggested I meet the train he was on and then join the team on their way back to Ipswich so they could help me navigate the situation.

https://www.greateranglia.co.uk/train-times/norwich-to-london-liverpool-street

I cannot thank Nic and Jasmine enough. They truly went above and beyond. They put me on the next train, explained everything that had happened, with my friend and made sure I was well looked after. At Ipswich, another team member greeted me and introduced me to the efficient customer service staff.

After eight long hours, my friend, though still frail, was cleared to travel. With me accompanying him, the customer service team ensured everything went smoothly.

Having traveled extensively, I can confidently say you’d be hard-pressed to find better people than Nic and Jasmine when it comes to customer safety and service. Greater Anglia, you are incredibly fortunate to have them, and any passenger traveling on your trains can rest assured they’re in safe hands.

A huge thank you from 2Shades Magazine!

P.S. My friend is recovering well.

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Michael Edde looks at the top men’s hair styles at the GoldenGlobes 2025 .

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At the 2025 Golden Globes in Los Angeles, male celebrities showcased a variety of standout hairstyles that combined classic elegance with contemporary flair. We asked Leading London’s men hair stylist Michael Edde what are the top five men’s hairstyles from the event: By Steven Smith.

  1. Sleek Side Part: Many attendees opted for the timeless side part, exuding sophistication and complementing their formal attire. This polished look remains a red carpet favourite for its versatility and elegance. Our own 007 Danielle Craig sleek look took the crown 

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Classic Pompadour: The pompadour made a notable return, with several actors sporting voluminous, swept-back hair. This retro-inspired style added a touch of vintage charm to the evening’s fashion. Timothée Chalamet rocked the look brining style and class to the red carpet ,

    1. Buzz Cut: A few celebrities chose the minimalist buzz cut, highlighting facial features and offering a clean, bold statement. This low-maintenance style stood out amidst more elaborate coiffures.Jake Gyllenhaal really suits the look that is so popular and brings out his features/

    1. Curly Afro: Embracing natural curls, some attendees showcased well-defined afros, celebrating texture and individuality. This style added diversity and a fresh dynamic to the red carpet looks.  Tyler James Williams brings the ultimate style to the red carpet

    These diverse hairstyles at the 2025 Golden Globes highlighted personal expression and current trends, setting the tone for men’s grooming in the upcoming year says Michael Edde one of Londons leading barbers .

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    Happy New Year from Anna Kennedy

    Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE first Column of 2025

    Happy New Year! Let’s hope 2025 is a great year for us all. I’m busy with my team, as always. Among the many things we have lined up is The Autism Hero Awards, being held at the Holiday Inn, Regent’s Park, London on the 15th of March. You can find information on how to get tickets and sponsorship details at the bottom of this column.

    As always, we also have the amazing Autism’s Got Talent later this year—audition tapes are welcome now!

    In other news, our autism ambassador, Kieron Lee, is launching a neurodiverse musical education platform as his final major project for his BA (Hons) degree in Popular Music.

    We’re also thrilled to announce that our patron, Steven Smith, along with the incredible Annemarie Bickerton, will be hosting the first-ever Autism Art Show, featuring artists on the autism spectrum and supporters of the charity. Money raised will go directly to the charity. This event will be held at the sensational gallery, The Fire Pit (https://www.firepit.art), from May 22 to May 25, 2025.

    Dr Anna Kennedy OBE with one of her patrons Steven Smith ,

    Please keep your questions coming into 2Shades magazine. I’ve been thrilled to join such a diverse and exciting publication!


    Dear Anna,
    Trust you’re well. My family loves your column. We were wondering: What do you think are the most common myths about people living with autism?

    Dawn, Essex.

    Thank you, Dawn, for your kind comments. Sadly, there are still a lot of autism myths out there.

    Here is five common ones

    5 Myths and Facts About Autism


    Myth 1: Autism is caused by vaccines.

    Fact: There is no scientific evidence linking vaccines to autism. Numerous studies have thoroughly debunked this myth. Autism is believed to be influenced by a combination of genetic and environmental factors, but vaccines are not one of them.


    Myth 2: People with autism lack empathy.

    Fact: Many individuals with autism experience empathy deeply, but they may express it differently. Some may have difficulty recognizing social cues, but this does not mean they lack feelings or care for others.


    Myth 3: Autism only affects children.

    Fact: Autism is a lifelong condition. While symptoms might present differently as people age, autistic adults continue to experience challenges and strengths associated with autism throughout their lives.


    Myth 4: Everyone with autism has the same abilities and challenges.

    Fact: Autism is a spectrum, meaning it affects individuals differently. Some may have significant support needs, while others may live independently and excel in various fields. No two autistic people are alike.


    Myth 5: Autism can be cured.

    Fact: Autism is not a disease and does not need to be “cured.” The focus is on acceptance, support, and enabling autistic individuals to thrive by embracing their unique perspectives and abilities.

    Would you like to dive deeper into any of these points?

    Here is a link with more Myths and Facts on the Ambitious About Autism website:
    https://www.ambitiousaboutautism.org.uk/what-we-do/awareness/autism-myths-and-facts

    Hope this helps.


    Dear Anna,
    My daughter is being labelled disruptive at school. She’s been diagnosed with autism and severe learning difficulties. Despite discussing this with the headteacher, she’s suggested that Mary, my daughter, not return this term and instead find a school more suited to her needs. Anna, I feel lost—what can I do, or who can I turn to for help?

    Diana, Essex

    Dear Diana, I feel your frustration.

    Please do contact our charity website using our contact form at http://www.annakennedyonline.com. We can discuss the possible way forward. In the meantime, do some research on schools that may meet your daughter’s needs within an hour’s drive of where you live.

    You will then be in a more informed position on what is available in your area. You could visit a few schools to get a feel for the services and resources they offer.


    Dear Anna,
    How does someone become part of Autism’s Got Talent? My son is super talented at playing guitar. He’s a little shy and unsure about auditioning. He’s also worried about encountering a harsh judge.

    David, Edinburgh

    Hello David,
    Autism’s Got Talent is now in its 14th year and one of the highlights of our charity year.

    This is a showcase of talented individuals performing at The Mermaid Theatre, London. Autism’s Got Talent is not a competition.

    Please do watch our highlight videos on our charity YouTube channel.

    You could also come along to the show in October to experience the magic. Share the experience with the audience made up of parents, friends of the performers, and members of the public who are regular supporters. Feel the magic and be inspired. Then send a tape in of your son performing . love Anna

    Autism’s Got Talent.

    Dear Anna,
    My son is 19 and wants to start dating. He’s a lovely young man but has a stammer and lives with autism. I’m worried about how he’ll handle rejection. Is there a webpage or group where he can meet like-minded people?

    Brenda, Norwich

    Hello Brenda,
    There are many dating sites now for autistic individuals.

    Here are a few:

    https://www.undateables.co.uk

    https://autism.disabledmate.com

    A popular Netflix docuseries, Love on the Spectrum, showcases autistic individuals navigating the world of dating. One of our charity’s overseas ambassadors is featured in series one and two.

    In this romantic docuseries, people on the autism spectrum look for love and navigate the world of dating and relationships.
    https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/81338328

    Good luck!


    Dear Anna,
    I love your dancing! I’m 17 and want to learn to dance seriously. Living with autism has always made it feel challenging, but I’d like to get more involved. How did you learn?

    Love, Melanie, Brighton

    Hello Melanie,
    Dance is a great way to stay fit and boost your mood and well-being. I started tap dancing at age 6 and fell in love with dance then. It definitely keeps you feeling young.

    Join a local dance class and discover which dance style suits you best. There are also many dance classes online if this makes you feel more comfortable at first, then gradually progress to a dance studio.

    Good luck and enjoy!

    Anna Kennedy with her former Dance Partner Robin Windsor