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The Autism and Art show the 22nd of May at The Firepit Gallery London.

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“For people on the autism spectrum, art is a powerful medium that encourages self-expression.”


Anna Kennedy Online, in collaboration with the Firepit Art Gallery , is proud to present the first-ever “Autism & Art Show. “This exciting event showcases incredible artwork from autistic artists and their allies, with all profits supporting the charity Anna Kennedy Online.
Art is more than just a passion—it serves as a therapeutic outlet, offering solace and joy to many individuals on the autism spectrum. With great enthusiasm, Anna Kennedy OBE, charity patron Steven Smith, and Firepit Art Gallery founder Markus Jake invite you to celebrate and support these talented artists.
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📍 Event Location:
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No.2, Upper Riverside,
10 Cutter Ln, Ground Floor Unit,
Greenwich Peninsula London SE10 0XX
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The Autism & Art Show — 22nd May 2025

Join us for a celebration of creativity, resilience, and neurodiverse voices at The Autism & Art Show, showcasing a rich tapestry of work by autistic artists from across the UK. Each participant brings a unique story and style, making this event a powerful tribute to the talents of individuals on the spectrum.


Featured Artists

Angelo Kennedy

Angelo, 32, is autistic and lives with significant sensory processing disorder. On display is a vibrant painting of sunflowers he created at just 10 years old. Angelo enjoys cooking, bowling, and continues to work hard on his independent living skills. His brother, Patrick, is also on the spectrum and works at Pinewood Studios.

£500 pounds by Angelo Kennedy for offers contact spman@btinternet 07969016222

Lana Mitchell

Lana, who lives with autism, once feared unfamiliar environments. In 2024, she began volunteering at Shelter Crystal Palace, where her uniqueness was embraced and her creativity blossomed. She now designs themed window displays and, to celebrate her one-year anniversary, created a striking punk-style denim jacket.

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Collette Sherriffs

Collette, 47, from Kincardine, Scotland, has loved art since childhood. Despite working hard to earn a place at art school, her dreams were crushed when her mother told her she was “too stupid” to succeed. Heartbroken, she gave up art—until recently. One of the pieces on display is from her original portfolio, which her mother once threw away but was fortunately saved. Now a devoted mum of two, Collette champions her children’s creativity with pride and encouragement.

Offers over £250 inbox spman@btinternet.com

Niall Guite

Niall, 30, is an artist with autism, an intellectual disability, dyspraxia, and dyslexia. He gained international acclaim after raising funds for Special Olympics GB by selling his iconic stadium drawings. Niall has exhibited at the Royal Academy Summer Exhibition, delivered a TED Talk, and received an Honorary Doctorate from Sheffield Hallam University for his work promoting inclusion through art.

A collector piece offers over £250 inbox spman@btinternet.com

Piluca Artist

Piluca: Artist. Muralist. Fashion Visionary. Street Art Queen.
Born in Madrid and ignited by Brixton’s wild heart, Piluca is a published illustrator, muralist, fashion designer, and founder of I Am Here 2 Play, launching this May at Hypezeus, London.
Her vibrant murals and street art light up London’s iconic venues, turning the city into an open-air gallery.
A WinTrade Awards finalist, she moves effortlessly across fine art, fashion, and branding with fearless, raw style.
Piluca’s creative impact extends deep into communities—leading workshops, festivals, and campaigns with purpose.
From fashion to neuroscience illustration, her work defies boundaries—and London proudly wears her name.

Offers above £350

Chris Wild

Chris is an author, artist, actor, care home consultant, government advisor, youth advocate, and charity patron. A passionate voice for young people in care, Chris’s first book, Damaged, shares his personal story. His second, The State of It, challenges the systemic failures affecting vulnerable youth. Through art and writing, he continues to inspire change and awareness.

Chris Wild painting offers over £500

Artism by Jake

Jake, 20, finds joy in painting. As a young man on the autism spectrum, his artwork offers a distinct and captivating perspective. All profits from his prints are donated to charitable causes.

Offers over £150

Heidi Simm

At 17, Heidi is the creative mind behind Disco City, a fusion of Disney characters and her own original creations. With a strong, determined spirit, she uses her art to express herself, manage her mental health, and explore new techniques. Her inquisitive nature and unique imagination make her work stand out.

Fabulous fun £250 please inbox me at spman@btinternet.com

Dr. Ian Hale

Based in Bristol, Dr. Ian Hale is an author, poet, autism specialist, and certified Master of Photography. His book, Asperger’s, Autism and You: Is the Epidemic Real and Are Vaccines the Cause?, blends personal insight with clinical research. Ian, who is autistic himself, shares his journey through media, public speaking, and art. His photography — praised by brands like Chanel and Vogue — offers a profound glimpse into his neurodiverse worldview.

Offers over £200 please .

Loveartpix (Dez)

Loveartpix , a self-taught AudHD (Autism + ADHD) artist from Manchester, uses creativity as a vital outlet for mental health and self-expression. Diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, Autism, and ADHD, he began his art journey in 2018 as therapy. His vibrant work often reflects the spirit of Manchester and the experiences of neurodivergence.

Loveartpix with the wonderful art he will be showing offers over £1000 please .

Annemarie Bickerton

With over 30 years in photography and art, Annemarie specializes in editorial portraiture. As digital photography evolved, she pivoted toward headshot work, applying her skills to editorial, corporate, and artistic projects. Annemarie is also a proud mum to Sam, who lives with autism, and continues to champion neurodiverse creativity in all its forms.

£500 by Annemarie Bickerton

Sam Bickerton

Sam, diagnosed with ASD and dyslexia, demonstrates resilience in the face of social and emotional challenges. From early Lego builds to his love for origami, mask-making, and boxing, Sam’s creativity offers a safe space for self-expression and calm. His journey is one of strength and self-discovery through art.

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Jenny Robinson

Jenny is a self-taught digital artist and graphic designer with a love for Freddie Mercury. Her standout piece is a digital portrait of Freddie in a custom outfit inspired by the I Want to Break Free video. Although not included in her solo exhibition, Jenny has pledged to donate 100% of the sale proceeds to the Anna Kennedy charity. Diagnosed with autism a year ago, she now explores digital art as a core part of her creative identity.

Jenny Robinson £250 inbox spman@btinternet.com

Marcus Mason-Williams

Marcus is a multi-talented autistic artist and entrepreneur. As a founding member of The Lilac Review — a government-backed campaign spotlighting disabled-led businesses — Marcus uses his business, CoolArt2021, to share wildlife-inspired storytelling and merchandise. “Art and performing set me free,” he says. “Through my stories and performances, I connect with others and the world around me.”

Offers over £250 message Steven Smith 079069106222

AlastairBlasterArtz

Alastair McEwen, also known as BlasterArtz, is a full-time carer for both his disabled parent and autistic son. Through art, he finds a way to manage emotions, connect with loved ones, and reflect on mental health. His heartfelt piece Blanky, created with friend and writer Steven Smith, has moved many and embodies the power of art as a lifeline.

BLANKY offers over £200

Eddie Wells

Eddie grew up in East London, navigating life with undiagnosed ADHD and dyslexia. Creativity was his refuge. Following his father’s death in 2013, he realized that art wasn’t just an outlet — it was his salvation. His work reflects the inner world of someone living on the spectrum and overcoming silent battles through creative expression.

Offers over £2000. e-mail spman@btinternet.com

Shayla Curtis

At just 18, Shayla is already a passionate advocate for children with autism and complex needs. Diagnosed with autism herself, she struggled in most subjects at school — except for art. Encouraged by a supportive GCSE teacher, Shayla flourished creatively and now uses her skills to design activities that help young people express themselves, build confidence, and develop life skills.

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Tally Nothey

This piece is deeply personal. As the mother of an autistic child, Tally has faced days that felt overwhelmingly heavy—marked by worry, exhaustion, and the deep ache of feeling misunderstood. Yet, through every challenge, it has been the support of close friends that has carried her forward. Each woman represented in this work symbolizes someone who has stood beside her, held space for her fears, celebrated the smallest victories, and reminded her of her own strength when she struggled to find it.

This image reflects that journey. It acknowledges that while friendship may not solve everything, it makes the burdens easier to bear. Together, they have cried, laughed, and lifted one another—and because of them, she never walks alone.

work in progress £500 .

Darren Chapman – Actor & Artist

Darren Charman – Visual Artist & Storyteller

Darren Charman is a British visual artist and actor, originally from Hastings in Sussex. His creative journey began in the world of performance, training in the Meisner technique at The Actors Temple in London, where he developed a deep sensitivity to emotion, narrative, and human expression—qualities that now echo powerfully through his artwork.

Drawing on his background in character-driven storytelling, Darren’s art is bold, imaginative, and often laced with wit. Each piece invites viewers into a world that balances humour with poignancy, reflecting the layered perspectives of someone equally at home on a stage or behind a canvas.

Darren has received recognition for his work in comedy film, winning two DAFTA awards for The Fetishman (The Irishman Parody) and Living Dead (Living Parody). These accolades underscore his instinctive grasp of character, timing, and satire—all of which now inform his artistic practice.

Stunning bracelets by Darren £100 or above .

Gemma Lees is a Romany Gypsy, disabled and autistic fine art installationist, performance poet, comedian, facilitator and journalist from Bury. Her practise focuses on protest, advocacy, inclusion and telling the stories that no one else is.

Last year she worked with: Arts and Homelessness International, Traveller’s Times, Headteacher Update, SEN Magazine, ACERT, Queer Britain, Turnpike, Cartwheel Arts, BBC Radio Manchester, Triple C, Warwickshire Libraries, CultureDale, WOW Fest, Factory International, CIJ and CRIPtic.

A qualified post-compulsory teacher, she is a passionate advocate for GTRSB and neurodiverse inclusion in schools and wider education.


Sadie King is a 16-year-old student currently studying for her GCSEs.
She has a strong passion for character design and storytelling.
Sadie hopes to build a career in creating her own animated series.
Her work often explores original concepts and imaginative worlds.
She is eager to share more of her art and ideas with others.
Sadie welcomes feedback and is open to showing additional work

Offers over £200

John Lee Bird is a multi-disciplinary artist known for his global exhibitions of paintings, collages, and sculptural work.
His DOLLS project features over 2,000 hand-sewn textile sculptures celebrating idols, friends, and queer culture.
Inspired by film, drag, cult TV, and music, each 13-inch doll is crafted from felt, beads, buttons, and embellishments.
The project began during lockdown as a therapeutic return to textiles, starting with 69 David Bowie dolls.
It has since grown into a rich portrait series spanning pop culture icons and personal heroes.
John’s work is driven by obsession, emotion, and a deep love of music and storytelling.
He also creates sound and film, collaborating with artists such as Simon Fisher Turner and Xiu Xiu.
John co-runs the queer club night KNICKERS with musician Jemma Freeman.

Posters £25

PATRICK STEELE-BODGER
Patrick calls himself a “Media Wikipedia” and “the Sheldon of Media” – a nod to his incredible recall of screen and sound. From a young age, he’s expressed himself through TV, film, books and comics. He recreates the tiniest details, from split-second sound effects to hidden cameos. Patrick loves drawing characters, writing fan fiction, and exploring music from Louis Armstrong to Daft Punk. As the in-house artist for Meet The Pods, now becoming a toy range, his creativity shines. He also designs bespoke greeting cards – and if you ask his favourite word? It’s “EXCELSIOR!”

£100 each

The Autism & Art Show isn’t just an exhibition — it’s a statement. It’s about the strength of neurodivergent minds, the healing power of creativity, and the joy of self-expression. Come and be inspired by these extraordinary artists.

The story of BLANKY .

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Blanky

Art Alastair Blaster words Steven Smith  

“We are all born as blank canvases; hate, racism, and a lack of understanding are learned.”
How you choose to see the world and create the tapestry of your life is up to you.
Blanky is here to “Make Earth Safe Again.”


In another universe, under a different sun, there was a planet much like Earth called Alacritas. It was a world of lush tropical forests, crystal-clear lakes, and unpolluted seas. The people of Alacritas lived in harmony, where kindness and tolerance were deeply ingrained in their way of life. Their homes were built to exist in perfect balance with nature, and even in their cities, the air remained clean and pure.

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The Alacritans were far more advanced than humans. Meditation and self-healing were essential practices, and their very beings were composed of energy molecules, allowing many to heal themselves from illness. Some possessed extraordinary abilities, such as telepathy and body transformations, harnessing the sun’s rays to bring goodness to their planet and others. While there were occasional exceptions, as the saying goes, “one bad apple”—but that is another story.

You could say it was a utopia—until they arrived.

The people of Olethros came claiming peace, seeking to live in harmony with the Alacritans. But the sun did not welcome them. Almost immediately, it burned their skin a bright orange, making them stand out. Rumours spread that their own planet had been devastated by pollution, war, and slavery.

It soon became clear that the orange ones had not come as friends but as conquerors. They sought to strip Alacritas of its rich minerals, enslave its people, and channel their energy into restoring their own dying world.

The peaceful Alacritans were unprepared for battle. Their civilization, built on unity and respect, was nearly wiped out. Only a few survived—those who could transform or scatter their molecules to avoid detection.

The Olethrans ravaged the planet like ants devouring sugar. Within a year, there was nothing left. In desperation, one Alacritan, Blanky, used his powers to escape. Transforming into pure energy, he fled into the cosmos in search of help. But as he left, Alacritas could take no more. The planet exploded, sending Blanky hurtling off course.


100 Years Later

Planet Earth

London, Waterloo

Patrick was fourteen, tall for his age, and loved playing basketball. From the window of his small  ground floor apartment, he watched the other kids on the court, longing to join them. He knew he had the talent to be a star player. But his mother, protective as ever, rarely let him out alone. She feared he would be bullied or misunderstood because of his autism.

One Saturday afternoon, his mother had a friend over and asked them to watch Patrick while she ran errands in Stratford. With their eyes glued to The Real Housewives, they barely noticed Patrick, assuming he was immersed in his video game as usual.

But today was different. Quietly, Patrick put down the controller and crept toward the door. His apartment, on the ground floor, was only 200 yards from the basketball court. As he stepped outside, excitement surged through him. The sun’s rays warmed his face as he gently closed the door behind him and ran toward the court.

But then—he tripped.

As he hit the ground, something surrounded him, unlike anything he had ever seen. A strange, shifting cloud engulfed his body, sending tingles through his skin. As the mist dispersed, a small figure emerged.

Patrick couldn’t believe his eyes.

Before him stood a tiny being—completely blank, as if made of smooth, featureless clay. It pointed a stubby finger at Patrick’s baseball cap. Amused, Patrick handed it over. The moment the creature touched the fabric, the hat transformed into the same clay-like substance as its body.

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Then, to Patrick’s shock, the small figure spoke.

“I am Blanky. Your planet needs me, or it may suffer the same fate as mine.”

Patrick stared, wide-eyed.

“I need sunlight to regain my strength,” Blanky continued. “With your help, I can transform and protect those who are hated and discriminated against. I have chosen you, Patrick, because you are special. For now, my body is just a canvas. Put me in your pocket, and let’s go play ball.”

Patrick didn’t hesitate. He gently scooped up Blanky and tucked him into the pocket of his jacket.

“I’ll tell you more soon,” Blanky assured him.

Patrick knew he had just made a special friend—one he would have to keep secret for now.

What neither of them realised was that Blanky had maybe arrived years too late.

An Orange One had already landed on Earth. 

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CLARE MC’SWEENEY IS BACK

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CLARE MC’SWEENEY IS BACK Clare’s monthly column will bring you expert advice, the latest beauty and aesthetics news, and, of course she answers your beauty questions.

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Hello everyone,

Firstly, a huge thank you for all your wonderful questions and messages! I absolutely love hearing from you all. Sadly, I can’t respond to every single one personally — it’s been a whirlwind lately — but I’ve answered as many as I can below, and I hope this information helps.

It’s been incredibly busy at the clinic these past few weeks. We’re right in the heart of “Botox season,” and so many of you have been coming in, especially looking to define and enhance your jawlines. It’s been amazing to see such fabulous transformations and to help people feel their absolute best!

We’ve also had an exciting new arrival that I just have to tell you about: The Fresh Face Pillow. This incredible innovation has been a huge hit with my clients! It’s designed to support the face during sleep, helping to maintain smoother skin and reducing the risk of sleep wrinkles. Beauty sleep just got a major upgrade — and honestly, I can’t recommend it enough!

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On top of the busy clinic life, I’m also preparing for something very close to my heart — ballroom dancing! I’ll be heading up to Blackpool very soon to compete, and I couldn’t be more excited (and nervous!). Dancing is a huge passion of mine, and it feels wonderful to be able to throw myself into it alongside my professional work. Please keep everything crossed for me — your support means the world, and I’m hoping to bring home a trophy!

Thank you again for being part of this journey with me. Your trust, encouragement, and enthusiasm are what keep me inspired every single day.

Sending lots of love,
Clare


1. Botox Woes: A Frozen Look and Droopy Eyes
Danny Heat, Basildon

Q: I’m a huge fan of the column and I can’t wait to visit you My question is about Botox. I stopped getting it four years ago because my forehead is quite small and the treatment made my eyes droop. After about a month, it just gave me that dreaded frozen look. I’m now a blank canvas—what can I do to look younger and fresher without appearing frozen?

A: Dear Bonnie – Botox is indeed a powerful tool to reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. However, when not administered with precision, it can lead to exactly the issues you described.

The good news is that Botox can absolutely work for you again, especially with a more refined, tailored approach. For individuals with a smaller forehead, our experienced doctors use specific techniques to avoid heaviness or drooping. Most importantly, we can use a smaller dose to maintain natural movement and avoid the “frozen” effect. A personal consultation will allow us to determine the ideal dosage and placement to achieve a youthful, refreshed look—without compromising your natural expressions.


2. Winter Pounds: Help Me Lose the Weight
Debbie Newcastle

Q: Like so many others, lockdown left me feeling like everything’s falling apart—especially when it comes to my weight. I’ve put on a lot, and I’m desperate for help. What miracles can you offer to help me lose it?

A: Dear Debbie – You’re definitely not alone in this. The pandemic has affected many of our clients in the same way. The good news? We can absolutely help you get back on track.

Here are some non-surgical interventions that can support your weight-loss journey—provided they’re paired with balanced nutrition:

  1. High-Intensity Focused Ultrasound (HIFU): Targets larger areas of stubborn fat (e.g., abdomen and thighs) and works gradually over three months.
  2. Fat Freezing (Cryolipolysis): Ideal for smaller, more stubborn fat pockets like love handles or lower belly fat.
  3. Fat-Dissolving Injections: Suitable for relatively slim individuals with small, persistent pockets of fat that just won’t budge.

3. Recovering After winter bugs and flu Do Vitamin Drips Work?
Stacey Moore, Southend

Q: My whole family has had virus, and we’re feeling completely wiped out. I’m 58, my husband’s 59, and our daughters are in their twenties. I’ve seen celebrities using vitamin drips—do they really work, and could they help us bounce back?

A: Dear Stacey – I’m so sorry to hear your family has been through such a tough time. You’re right: after any viral illness, the body experiences significant nutrient depletion—minerals, vitamins, amino acids, and proteins are all used to support your immune system. That’s why fatigue and weakness are common after recovery.

Intravenous (IV) vitamin therapy isn’t a cure, but it can be an excellent way to restore those lost nutrients quickly. These drips are classed as supplements rather than medicines, but many people find they help improve energy and speed up recovery.


4. Jawline Goals: Trial Before Commitment
Sally Perkins Richmond Upon Thames

Q: Since lockdown, my fiancé has become really self-conscious about his appearance. He’s now obsessed with getting a jaw implant to square off his otherwise lovely face. Is there anything temporary he could try before committing to something permanent?

A: Dear Sally – It’s not unusual to become more appearance-focused in the age of social media, especially with the rise of the “perfect jawline” trend. While a defined, squared jaw is often seen as more masculine and attractive, surgery isn’t the only option.

Before considering a permanent implant, we strongly recommend trying Hyaluronic Acid (HA) filler, which can non-surgically contour the jawline. The results can last up to a year and are completely reversible, giving your fiancé the chance to see if the look is really for him—without the risks associated with surgery.

Clare Mc Sweeney

5 Sweating Struggles: A Fix for Underarm Sweat
Ray King, Clapham, London

Q: I start sweating under my arms about 20 minutes after showering—even with deodorant and a fresh shirt. My boyfriend waxes and says it helps, but I’m a big guy and don’t think smooth armpits are for me. It’s becoming quite embarrassing. Any advice?

A: Dear Ray – You’re describing hyperhidrosis, a common condition that causes excessive sweating—and you’re definitely not alone.

A highly effective solution is Botox injections in the underarms. This medical treatment temporarily blocks the nerves that trigger sweat glands, dramatically reducing perspiration. The effects typically last between 3 to 6 months and can be life-changing for many clients.

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No one wins in this High Court Ruling .

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No One Wins in This High Court Ruling
By Steven Smith

This week’s High Court ruling has left many people reeling—disappointed, divided, and more confused than ever. But one thing is clear: no one truly wins in the aftermath of this decision. Whatever legal boundaries were reinforced or redrawn, they’ve done little to offer protection or peace to the people affected most. If anything, the result is further division, and the human cost is growing.

Let’s start with a blunt truth. If there is a god who allows a child to be born with bone cancer—or worse—then perhaps, just perhaps, that same god may have placed a soul in the wrong body. It’s a difficult thought, but one that challenges traditional notions of perfect design and invites empathy over judgment.

In this debate, one group’s rights cannot come at the expense of another’s safety. Women—especially those who’ve suffered trauma at the hands of men—deserve dignity, privacy, and protection in spaces like bathrooms, hospital wards, and shelters. These are not just physical places; they are emotional safe zones, where healing and recovery often begin. To ignore the fear and anxiety many women feel about sharing intimate spaces with anyone who presents as male—even if that person identifies as female—is to ignore real, lived experience. We must listen with compassion, not condescension.

This isn’t a rejection of transgender people. On the contrary, I’ve known incredible trans women since I was a teenager. These are brave, passionate human beings who have committed to a long, often painful journey to live authentically. They undergo extensive psychological evaluations, hormone therapy, and surgery. Some reintegrate into society quietly; others become public figures or advocates. All of them, in my eyes, are women.

Which is why this ruling cuts so deep. Many trans people who have taken every step available to become their true selves now find themselves swept up in a storm of legal and cultural backlash. Instead of being seen as individuals with complex stories, they’re being lumped in with others who have not taken the same path—or who may not even identify as trans in the same way.

Part of the problem is ignorance. When I first heard the term “trans,” my mind went straight to “transvestite” or flamboyant characters like Frank-N-Furter from The Rocky Horror Picture Show. And while I adore a good performance, let’s be clear: wearing a dress and heels doesn’t make someone a woman. There’s a vast difference between performance and identity. A man in a frock might enjoy the expression, the character, even the fantasy—but it doesn’t make him female.

True transition is not about fantasy. It’s about becoming. It involves sacrifice, struggle, and a level of self-awareness many of us never have to face. For those who take that journey, they earn a place in the world as their authentic selves—and they deserve respect, not suspicion.

Children, too, are part of this complex conversation. Some express gender discomfort from a young age. These feelings must be taken seriously—but also approached with caution. Many people I know went through periods of gender confusion in their youth, only to feel secure in their biological identity as adults. Others continued to struggle, and those individuals deserve full support. But irreversible medical decisions should, in most cases, wait until late adolescence, when a person’s sense of self has had more time to develop.

Still, it bears repeating: having a penis does not make someone a woman. That is not a statement of hate—it is a statement of biology. If someone is transitioning, that’s a journey we can honor and support. But biology does matter, especially when it intersects with the rights and safety of others.

What’s heartbreaking is that this ruling, intended perhaps to draw clearer lines, may only deepen misunderstanding. Trans women who have undergone surgery, therapy, and lived experience are now at greater risk of being misjudged, targeted, and excluded. The backlash is likely to hit the wrong people hardest. We risk punishing those who’ve made the most effort to live honestly.

The public discourse on transgender rights is failing everyone. The messaging is chaotic, the tone often cruel, and the nuance lost in a sea of outrage. Education is vital. We need thoughtful, well-informed conversations—conversations that recognize the humanity in everyone involved. The issue of gender identity has been reduced to a political football when it should be a human rights discussion rooted in compassion and science.

One of the most shameful chapters in this saga was when President Donald Trump banned transgender individuals from serving in the military. Anyone willing to risk their life for their country has my full respect, regardless of how they identify. That level of courage transcends gender—it defines character. In my eyes, that’s the truest identity of all: brave.

As society evolves, we must also evolve our understanding of gender. It may be time to acknowledge a third, even fourth category of sex or gender. The binary system doesn’t serve everyone, and clinging to it may be doing more harm than good. The law should reflect the complexity of human experience, not flatten it into rigid boxes.

Ultimately, this ruling doesn’t protect anyone—it creates more confusion, more pain, and more opportunities for discrimination. Women’s safety is still not fully addressed. Transgender individuals are now more vulnerable than ever. And society, caught in the middle, is left with more questions than answers.

No one has truly won this week. But if we learn anything from this moment, let it be this: the path forward must include better laws, deeper understanding, and above all, compassion for every human being trying to live their truth.

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Steven’s Viewz: April“Go Mickey”

There is no doubt that Mickey Rourke has been the best thing to happen to Celebrity Big Brother this year. He is a fascinating mix of Victor Meldrew’s grumpy bluntness and Keith Richards’ wild, unpredictable charm. Arriving with no filter whatsoever and the wide-eyed confusion of Alice falling through the looking glass, he often seems unsure of exactly where he is. It’s not only comedy gold; it’s also a stark reminder of how hypersensitive our society has become — many ready to cry into their decaf almond milk lattes at the slightest provocation.

I had the pleasure of meeting Mr. Rourke many years ago at The Abbey Coffee Shop in West Hollywood, back when he was dating Carrie Otis. The Abbey, a famous LGBTQ+ venue, was buzzing as usual. Rourke, accompanied by his two beloved dogs, stopped me to ask about mine. We chatted briefly (I’ll admit I was a little starstruck — Angel Heart remains one of my all-time favourite films). My point is this: Mickey Rourke is not homophobic. He simply comes from a different time. The man is 72 years old. Perhaps, unlike some of the more publicity-hungry contestants, he doesn’t feel the need to self-censor or meticulously filter every word he utters.

My instinct tells me that JoJo might have handled the situation differently had she not been so consistently stunned — she often wore the look of a “rabbit in the headlights.” Fortunately, Chris Hughes, the charming and grounded contestant every parent would approve of, stepped in calmly to defend her. He restored order with dignity and compassion, providing a rare and refreshing moment of true humanity in a show increasingly dominated by outrage culture.

Chris Hughes the man you want your son or daughter to bring home

Let’s be honest: in the real world, prejudice and inappropriate comments are unfortunate realities many people will face. Mickey’s comments weren’t right, but they also didn’t merit his removal from the house. What’s needed is guidance and understanding, not instant condemnation and cancellation. We must be able to differentiate between malice and ignorance, between true harm and clumsy missteps.

Predictably, it wasn’t long before others saw an opportunity to capitalize on the situation. Donna Preston, a comedian by profession, was told by Rourke — while he lounged under an LED face mask — “You are what you eat.” Rather than respond with wit or humor, she ran crying to her team. For someone who makes a living out of comedy, it was a surprising reaction. Where was the banter, the quick retort that a seasoned performer should deliver with ease?

Donna Preston easily offended .

At this point, I began to feel genuinely sorry for Rourke. Things only deteriorated further when Patsy Palmer took offense at a mild comment about her cooking and ended up in tears. It begs the question: where has resilience gone? Life is full of difficult people who speak bluntly or unkindly. If we are reduced to tears by every offhand remark, how will we cope with the harsher realities that life inevitably throws our way?

Patsy non chewable broccoli leads to tears

As many know, I am a strong advocate for mental health awareness. I have faced my own battles with depression and anxiety. However, one of the most important lessons I have learned is the value of resilience. The only way to overcome bullies and unkind individuals is to develop inner strength. If we allow their words to break us, then they have won.

In my childhood, my imagination became my sanctuary. It helped me navigate bullying at both school and home, allowing me to rise above it rather than be crushed by it. Today, while mental health education is crucial, it is equally important that we teach children and young adults how to endure adversity. Bullying and cruelty will never disappear entirely. Learning how to manage, respond, and thrive despite them is essential.

Celebrity Big Brother has, perhaps unintentionally, become a mirror reflecting today’s cultural fragility. And frankly, it’s worrying.

We need a generation that can distinguish between genuine harm and an ill-judged comment. We need young people who can face challenges head-on, who can understand intent rather than automatically assuming the worst, and who can survive — and even thrive — in a world that will not always be kind.

Toughness doesn’t mean lacking empathy or kindness. It means having the inner strength to pick yourself up after a setback, to laugh off the jibes, and to rise above the noise. Without it, we risk raising a generation ill-equipped for real life.

Mickey Rourke’s stint on CBB might just end up being more than television entertainment. It might serve as a wake-up call about where we are heading — and a reminder of the resilience we so desperately need to reclaim.

Massive props to Danny Beard — he’s not just bringing the yeast to the bread, he’s practically baking a whole bakery at this point! As for Trisha… well, I’ll spare you the rant, but let’s just say Michael Fabricant and I are singing from the same hymn sheet.

Now, if Mikey manages to hang on much longer, he might just sneak a win — stranger things have happened! That said, my money’s still firmly on Chris or Danny to take the crown.

Danny Beard bringing the laughs to the CBB House .

https://www.itv.com/watch/celebrity-big-brother/10a5342

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Best buy for Summer FM London .

Steven’s Hot Tip https://fmlondon.co.uk/collections/underwear

https://fmlondon.co.uk/pages/about-us

No matter how good David Beckham looks in his BOSS underpants, there is absolutely no way I am paying £45 or more for a pack of three. Even if he personally delivered them to my door, it would still be a firm no from me.

It’s not that I’m being tight with money — far from it. I live a very busy and active life, constantly working out, dashing from place to place, and keeping on top of everything. For me, my underpants need to be practical above all else. They must offer strength, durability, and a feel-good factor against my skin. In short, they have to work hard and feel great at the same time.

From my personal experience, even some of the big-name designer brands don’t always deliver. In fact, some of them don’t last much longer than cheaper alternatives, and when you’re paying prices that rival the cost of a good pair of jeans, it’s hard not to feel resentful. I still want to look and feel good in my underwear, of course, especially with summer fast approaching. Warmer weather means I’ll be out and about a lot more, and let’s be honest — I’ll probably need to change my underpants at least twice a day.

https://fmlondon.co.uk/collections/underwear

Now, here’s the great news. Listen up, boys, girls, and everyone in between who loves staying up to date with the latest must-have fashion in men’s underwear. I have found the very best option out there — and it won’t break the bank!

Not only does it look fantastic on, but it feels absolutely incredible. Your body can breathe, the fit is spot-on, and you won’t believe the comfort. The brand you need to know about is FM London. Trust me, this is going to be the most talked-about brand very soon.

FM London started back in 2015 with three brothers who were completely fed up with paying ridiculous prices for basic clothing. They decided to do something about it and created a no-fuss brand that delivers real quality without the hefty price tag.

When it comes to men’s socks and underpants, these guys are truly onto a winner. Their underwear offers everything you could possibly want:

  • A stretchy, ergonomic fit
  • A cotton-rich blend that feels soft and breathable
  • Anti-chafing design for all-day comfort
  • Odour-fighting technology to keep you feeling fresh

This is my top recommendation for the summer — affordable, comfortable, and practical. Plus, they still look great enough to wear on a date night (whatever that is these days!) and bring a little bit of sexy back into your wardrobe.

So if you want to feel good, look good, and not spend a fortune, check them out. Trust me, your underwear drawer will thank you.

👉 Check them out here

https://fmlondon.co.uk/pages/about-us

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What a Night at Our 6th Annual AnnaKennedyOnline Charity Autism Hero Awards!

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE column in 2Shades magazine .. pictures by Terry Scott and Annemarie Bickerton

Presenter Aston Avery and Phillip Barnett with Dr Anna Kennedy OBE https://annakennedyonline.com

Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE Column in 2SHADES MAGAZINE

Hello everyone,

Apologies for the delay in sharing my column—my head has been spinning! It’s been such a busy time, with so many exciting things on the horizon that I can’t wait to tell you about.

First and foremost, a heartfelt thank you to everyone involved in last month’s Autism Hero Awards.

We had an unforgettable evening at the 6th Annual AnnaKennedyOnline Charity Autism Hero Awards.
✨ A huge congratulations to all our winners and finalists! ✨

Thank you to everyone who attended and supported the event—our incredible judgesVIP guestsfabulous performersEve Devenney and Angus Baskerville, and all our amazing charity supporters.

HUGE thank you and much love to all of my AnnaKennedyOnline volunteers. Your time, dedication, and support made this night a tremendous success. I couldn’t do what I do without you!

Vicki Michelle and Steven Smith with Dr Anna Kennedy OBE

Special Thanks:

  • 💫 Aston Avery and Phil Barnett  , our brilliant MCs for the evening – the AKO dynamic duo!
  • 💫 Lisa Robins, my PA and friend, who has stood by my side and worked tirelessly for nearly 15 years.
  • 💫 Tally Nothey, for creating our amazing programmes and marketing materials.
  • 💫 Maggie Paterson and her team of dancers from PPAS, who have supported our events for the past 14 years.
  • 💫 Steven Smith, one of our charity Patrons and a dear friend, for your unwavering support over the last 9 years. Your presence means the world to us.

📣 Check out the full list of our 2024/2025 Winners and Finalists:
👉 Click here to view

Lisa and I recently travelled up north to Whitley Bay to prepare for the next Autism’s Got Talent showcase. If you’re interested in participating in the London event, entries close on May 31st! You can find all the details here: https://annakennedyonline.com/autisms-got-talent/.

Whitley Bay play house https://www.visitnorthtyneside.com/activities/activity/playhouse-whitley-bay/

We’re also thrilled to announce our first-ever Autism and Art Show, taking place at the FirePit Gallery in London. If you’d like to have your artwork featured, please email: spman@btinternet.com. One of the incredible artists whose work will be featured is

https://www.greenwichpeninsula.co.uk/whats-here/firepit. COOL ART2021

And now—on to your questions!

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE

Dear Anna,

I live with autism, anxiety, and depression, which severely affect my ability to work in a mainstream job. I would love to work and have tried setting up various home-based businesses, but unfortunately, none have been successful.

Being in my 40s, my main source of income is Universal Credit, but they are now trying to take it away and force me into employment. I have explained that my day-to-day life is unpredictable, and committing to a job would be impossible, but they are not listening and say If I can go out and about I can go to work ,

What can I do?

Elizabeth, Brighton

Hello Elizabeth,

Thank you for your message. We have received many messages since the announcement of welfare cuts by the government recently. 

Universal Credit, a UK benefit system, can pose challenges for autistic individuals, potentially leading to pressure to work despite the difficulties you have mentioned. It would appear that some autistic people may face having benefits reduced or stopped if they don’t meet certain work related requirements. In my opinion the Universal Credit system may lack the flexibility needed to accommodate the needs of autistic individuals like yourself.

A good organisation to contact to ask for advice is Disability Rights UK or DAWN of which I am an Ambassador. www.dawnsupport.co.uk 

Sending you best wishes 

Anna 


Dear Anna,

My son is autistic, very active, and an absolute joy. He’s now 24, and my husband and I feel it’s time for him to gain independence by moving into his own studio or flat. However, he is completely against the idea and has a meltdown every time we bring it up.

Is there an advice board or resource that can help young autistic adults transition to independent living? What should we do?

Joe, Bradford

Hello Joe,

Thank you for your message and yes this can be a tough for all, the transition of moving home into independent living.

Planning and Preparation is key and to engage your son in the planning process. Start my talking and allowing them to express their preferences and needs. This will be a gradual process , a sudden shift can cause great anxiety. Research different housing options, including independent living, shared housing maybe an option or specialist housing to fit his needs.You will need patience and understanding , this is challenging all round.

A good link to check is Autism Central Living Independently http://www.autismcentral.org.uk

My son Patrick has been living in his flat for almost 4 years now. Small steps but we got there in the end.

Good Luck!


Dear Anna,

I am a huge fan and would love to see you have your own show!

I’m 16 and living with a variety of challenges. One thing that really depresses me is the thought that I may never get to meet someone special. It feels like the prospect of romance is zero for me.

Are there ways for autistic people to meet and build relationships?

https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/81265493

Clive, Barking

Thank you Clive for your kind words.

A good programme to watch on Netflix where my Overseas Ambassador Dani Bowman is taking part in is ‘Love on the Spectrum. ‘

There is also useful information on the Ambitious about Autism website. They offer a UK wide platform for autistic young people aged between 13 and 25 providing a safe online space to connect and understand your autistic identity. It also features ‘Relationships and Intimacy My way’ plus lots of resources.

Wishing you lots of luck in finding love x 

Anna

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MobLand REVIEW

No smoking guns here as Mob land falls very flat .

Hardy delivers a master class in acting in this mediocre show .

Mob Land undoubtedly cements Tom Hardy as one of the greatest actors of our time. His commanding presence on screen is astounding, delivering a masterclass in acting that is, unfortunately, the only real highlight of Guy Ritchie’s Mob Land.

As a long-time admirer of Ritchie’s work, it’s difficult to understand what he was aiming for with this series . Mob Landbrings nothing particularly new to the table. It feels as though Ritchie watched Gangs of London and thought, “I should have done that.” Ironically, Gangs of London was likely influenced by Ritchie’s own early work, Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels and Snatch—films that helped define the modern British gangster genre. However, Mob Land lacks the freshness, wit, and compelling storytelling that made those earlier films so iconic.

Tom Hardy is the film’s saving grace, but even his powerful performance cannot elevate the series beyond mediocrity. The rest of the star-studded cast delivers disappointingly lackluster performances, making for an underwhelming experience. Pierce Brosnan, despite being Irish, sounds as though he is forcing his accent rather than naturally embodying it. He brings no depth or nuance to his role as Conrad Harrigan, the ruthless patriarch of the crime family, and at times, his attempts to instill fear in his character come across as unintentionally laughable.

Even more disappointing is the legendary Helen Mirren, who plays Maeve Harrigan. Her exaggerated accent seems to have been plucked straight from Father Ted’s Mrs. Doyle, and her chemistry with Brosnan is virtually nonexistent. The two share as much on-screen rapport as Donald Trump and Volodymyr Zelensky—awkward, strained, and completely unconvincing. The rest of the family members are equally miscast, leaving audiences struggling to form any emotional connection with them. Rather than being immersed in their struggles and conflicts, viewers are left wondering if the cast were simply Ritchie’s friends having a casual get-together rather than dedicated actors committed to their roles.

Helen Mirren and Piers Bronson as much chemistry as Trump and Zelensky

Set in the dark underworld of London’s criminal elite, Mob Land follows the Harrigan crime family, once a formidable empire now teetering on the brink of collapse. Conrad Harrigan (Pierce Brosnan), the aging patriarch, is desperate to maintain his grip on the city’s illicit activities while facing threats from younger, more ruthless up-and-comers. His wife, Maeve (Helen Mirren), is the matriarch who attempts to hold the family together through sheer force of will, though her influence is waning.

Their eldest son, Michael Harrigan, is expected to inherit the family business, but his lack of cunning and charisma makes him an unfit successor. Meanwhile, his younger brother, Sean (a brooding but ultimately forgettable presence), wrestles with the moral implications of the life he’s been born into. As internal family tensions rise, external threats loom ever closer.

Not much of as family affair as the cast fail to connect .

Enter Tom Hardy as James “Jimmy” Callahan, a former enforcer for the Harrigans who has spent the past decade trying to escape his violent past. Haunted by his past actions, Jimmy is reluctantly pulled back into the fray when his younger brother, Danny, finds himself in the crosshairs of both the Harrigans and a rival gang. Jimmy’s return sets off a chain of events that pits old loyalties against new betrayals, forcing him to navigate a treacherous landscape where trust is a commodity in short supply.

The series attempts to explore themes of legacy, loyalty, and redemption, but it never quite commits to any of them in a meaningful way. The narrative meanders through predictable plot points, offering nothing particularly innovative or engaging. The action sequences, while well-choreographed, feel like recycled versions of better-executed scenes from Ritchie’s earlier works. Mob Land lacks the sharp dialogue, snappy pacing, and dynamic storytelling that made films like Snatch and The Gentlemen so enjoyable.

Ultimately, Mob Land is a series that suffers from a lack of originality, uninspired performances (aside from Hardy), and a script that fails to live up to its potential. The story is neither gripping nor emotionally resonant, leaving viewers indifferent to the fates of its characters. What you find yourself longing for throughout the series is a return to Hardy’s scenes—because only then does Mob Land show any real spark of life.

In the end, Mob Land feels more like a missed opportunity than a worthy addition to Ritchie’s filmography. Fans of the director’s earlier work will likely walk away disappointed, wondering what could have been if the series had lived up to its promising premise.

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Wine tasting at the most talked about gallery in London ?


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Sip wine and dine at the most talked about gallery in London https://www.firepit.art

Steven’s Out and About

To many, I might seem like the life and soul of the party, but in reality, I’m quite shy. Outside the familiar setting of events and friends’ parties, the thought of going to bars or clubs fills me with anxiety and dread. Like many, I want to meet new people, try new things, and expand my social horizons. After the passing of my former partner, I’ve struggled more than I care to admit—even to those closest to me.

Saturday nights are usually spent writing or watching a box set, feeling safe in my own space. But this year, I resolved to change that. The question was: how?

2Shades agony aunt Heidi Gammon suggested that instead of heading to the buzzy clubs and bars of Soho and Vauxhall, I should try something different. My tastes have always been eclectic, so I took her up on the challenge.

It wasn’t long before I found the perfect option—one that ticked all the boxes: a wine tasting with dinner. Of course, I couldn’t go alone, so I brought along 2Shades beauty editor Clare Mc Sweeney and her beloved teddy bear coat (don’t worry, no teddy bears were harmed in the making of it!).

The wine tasting was hosted at one of London’s most talked-about galleries—Firepit. Located on the Greenwich Peninsula, right by the banks of the Thames, Firepit is an experimental and forward-thinking artist collective, making it the perfect setting for an evening of culture, conversation, and, of course, fine wine.

Held on the last Saturday of each month, the wine-tasting masterclass is hosted by former restaurateur and sommelier “Charlie” Young, a man renowned for his deep knowledge and infectious passion for wine. Charlie’s reputation precedes him—his expertise is matched only by his ability to make learning about wine both engaging and thoroughly enjoyable.

Doors open at 5:30 PM, giving guests a half-hour to settle in, mingle, and explore the gallery’s latest exhibitions before the tasting officially begins at 6:00 PM. The setting itself—Firepit, a cutting-edge artist collective on the Greenwich Peninsula—adds an extra layer of creativity and intrigue to the evening.

Charlie pours the wine and chats .

Now, if you’ve ever attended a wine tasting where the host droned on endlessly, more focused on their own cleverness than on making the experience enjoyable, you might be wary. I’ve been there. In fact, I once attended a tasting where even my endlessly patient and sophisticated friend finally snapped, exclaiming, “FOR F—’S SAKE, JUST POUR IT!”

https://www.firepit.art

Thankfully, Charlie’s approach was the complete opposite. He made a point of ensuring the evening was lighthearted, interactive, and fun—without ever compromising on substance. He didn’t just educate; he entertained. And judging by the lively atmosphere in the room, he had a gift for bringing together a wonderfully diverse and genuinely lovely group of people.

The tasting featured six carefully selected wines, each with its own story and character. Gallery owner Marcus Jake was also on hand, standing by with a bucket for those who wished to spit or discard their samples—though, let’s be honest, few took him up on that offer. His primary role for the evening? Acting as Charlie’s glamorous assistant, which, in reality, mostly involved keeping everyone’s glasses generously topped up.

The wine tasting flies by in just over an hour, but the evening doesn’t end there. Charlie stays on for the dinner portion, offering expert advice on wine pairings and sharing fascinating insights in his signature engaging style.

Celebrity photographer Annemarie Bickerton with Charlie and me https://www.firepit.art

Dinner is served in the gallery itself, creating a relaxed and sociable atmosphere. Guests—many of whom started the evening as strangers—naturally connect over a two-course meal, exchanging thoughts on the wines, the artwork, and life in general. The sense of camaraderie is undeniable, making it feel more like an intimate dinner party than a formal event.

2Shades Clare Mc Sweeney and Annemarie Bickerton with friends join the fun https://www.firepit.art

For those who prefer just the wine tasting experience, tickets are available separately, with no obligation to stay for dinner. However, gallery curator Matthew warmly encourages guests to linger, explore the artwork, and enjoy another drink at their leisure.

“We want people to experience the gallery, to feel at home in the space,” Marcus explains. “That’s why we keep ticket prices as low as possible. The wine tastings and dinners have been a real success, bringing people together in a way that feels effortless and enjoyable.”

And a success it certainly was. 2Shades will definitely be back.

Date and time

Saturday, April 26 · 6 – 10:30pm GMT+1. Doors at 6pm

Regional French Wine Masterclass with optional two-course dinner

An informal and exciting wine masterclass featuring six premium wines from the Loire Valley, Madiran in the Southwest, the Rhone Valley and Provence. Presented by Vinoteca founder Charlie Young

There are two tickets:

Masterclass £16.50 per person, 6:00pm to 7:15pm

Two-course dinner £16.50 per person, 7:30pm to 10:30pm

Communal two-course dinner, with glasses or bottles of the wines featured in the Masterclass from £6 per glass

Regional French Wine Masterclass with Charlie Young

Anjou Blanc ‘Large Soif!’ 2020 – Terra Vita Vinum, Anjou, Loire (white)

Chinon Clos de la Bonneliere 2020 – Chateau de la Bonneliere, Chinon, Loire (red)

Pacherenc du Vic Bilh Sec 2021 – Domaine Laplace, Madiran, South West

Madiran ‘Aydie l’Origine’ 2021 – Domaine Laplace, Madiran, South West

Côtes du Rhone Vieilles Vignes 2018 – Famille Gras, Rhone South

Coteaux de Béziers Chardonnay Prestige 2022 – Chateau Preignes Le Neuf, Provence


Two-Course Dinner

Main course

Cider-braised roast ham hock with Jersey potatoes and spring peas

Dessert

Hot cross bun bread & butter pudding

Vegetarian/vegan options available on request

All masterclass wines available to buy by-the-glass or bottle

A Note from Firepit.

We have a challenge 25 policy. So please bring ID that proves you are over 18, if you are lucky enough to look under 25!

Masterclass starts at 6:00pm, you are welcome to come earlier and enjoy the gallery space.

Marcus with two of the fabulous guest Stephen . https://www.firepit.art

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2Shades Magazine Presents the Aesthetics Queen, Clare McSweeney

Clare’s monthly column will bring you expert advice, the latest beauty and aesthetics news, and, of course, a few fun insights into everyone’s favourite Essex girl—Clare herself!

I’m Clare McSweeney, and I’m absolutely thrilled to be launching my first column in 2Shades Magazine! Most of the time, I run a small, exclusive aesthetics business built entirely by word of mouth—CM Aesthetics, based in Brentwood, Essex. Many of my clients say I have healing hands, perhaps because I spent ten years working as an intensive care nurse. Nursing was my dream from a young age, but as a mother of three, I needed more flexibility.

I discovered the aesthetics industry through a friend and instantly felt it was a natural extension of my skill set. I like to look good, so I was fascinated by the world of aesthetics. Determined to make it work, I took out a loan and enrolled in a training course while continuing my nursing career. Honestly, I’ve never looked back. Helping people feel their best is my passion, and when I’m not doing that, you’ll probably find me enjoying a bit of ballroom dancing—it’s my guilty pleasure!

Clare chats to client Pam Sharrock

Now, let’s get started! So many people ask me how to get holiday ready. While aesthetic treatments and beauty procedures can enhance your look, poor planning can actually ruin your holiday. Here’s what you need to know before you jet off.

Clare’s Top Holiday Prep Tips

1. Schedule your treatments in advance
Aesthetic treatments take time to settle, and last-minute work can leave you feeling less than fabulous.

  • Botox: If you’re considering Botox (and yes, boys, this one’s for you too!), schedule it at least a month before your holiday. If needed, get a top-up two weeks before departure. Nobody wants sweaty underarms ruining their crisp linen shirts on a night out so boys get Botox for under the arms .
  • Make it last: Want your Botox results to last longer? Use a high-factor sunscreen and keep your face out of the sun as much as possible. A little fake tan can work wonders without aging your skin.
  • Lip filler & dermal filler: Never, ever get fillers right before a holiday! Ideally, have these done at least a month before to allow any swelling or bruising to settle. You’d be shocked by the number of people I’ve had to correct just before they fly out. Aesthetics is not like a trip to the hairdresser—even with hair, I always recommend going a few weeks before your holiday to let the colour settle.

2. Clare’s Holiday Must-Haves
These beauty essentials will help keep your skin looking fresh and flawless while you’re away.

  • A silk pillowcase & travel silk pillow: Most skin damage happens at night, so a silk pillowcase (like Fresh Face Pillow) is an absolute must. If you’re staying in a hotel, pop a silk slip over the pillow provided—it makes a hugedifference! A small travel silk pillow is also a game-changer, reducing static and being much gentler on your face while you sleep.
The Fresh Face Pillow – The Ultimate Beauty Sleep Essential SS15 will give you 15% off 

  • Elizabeth Arden 8-Hour Cream: This cult beauty product is a celebrity favourite for a reason. It has multiple uses—you can apply it as a lip gloss, moisturizer, or even a tiny bit in your hair to tame frizz. Absolute holiday essential!
  • Avon Skin So Soft: Swap your usual shower gel and body spray for this miracle product. It’s budget-friendly, smells amazing, leaves your skin feeling silky smooth, and best of all—it repels mosquitoes! Even the US Army reportedly swears by it. Pro tip: Start taking Vitamin B12 and garlic supplements two weeks before your trip—mosquitoes hate it!
  • DO NOT GET BURNT! A good high-protection sunscreen is essential. Gradually building your tan is far better than frying on day one. Slow and steady wins the race for a glowing, healthy holiday tan.

I hope these tips help you feel and look your best for your next getaway. I can’t wait to answer your questions in future columns, and don’t forget to tune in to me on Gateway Radio!

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Heidi Is Back – Ready to Dish Out Advice!

Yes, Heidi is back, and she’s raring to go! As the agony aunt for 2Shades and Gateway Radio, she’s here to tackle your dilemmas head-on. This month, she’s bringing sexy—or not-so-sexy—back, offering advice on issues between the sheets.

From the film Fifty Shades of Grey .

Dear Heidi,
I hope you’re doing well. My fiancé, whom I love dearly, and I got into the whole Fifty Shades scene. At first, it was exciting and fun, but now he doesn’t seem interested in making love without some form of role-play or pain involved. I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he just laughs it off and tells me to relax, insisting that it’s great. The problem is, this isn’t what I want long-term, and we’re getting married in September. What should I do?
Suki, Pimlico

Heidi’s Advice
Oh, Suki, you’ve come to the right place! First off, Heidi is all about fun in the bedroom and never one to judge. Fantasy and role-play can be exciting, but before opening Pandora’s box, you both need to talk and make sure you’re on the same page. It’s crucial to set clear boundaries and expectations. Kinks and role-playing should enhance intimacy, not replace the emotional connection that comes from simply making love or cuddling without the extras. From what you’re describing, it sounds like your fiancé’s interest in this particular dynamic may be moving beyond fun exploration and into something more habitual.

When a fetish becomes a necessity rather than a choice, it can create an imbalance in a relationship. That’s when it stops being healthy and can become an addiction—and that’s never good. You need to have an open and honest conversation with him—without letting him brush off your concerns. Let him know how you feel and why this isn’t sustainable for you. If he truly respects and loves you, he should be willing to find a balance that works for both of you. Since you’re about to get married, this is an important issue to address sooner rather than later. If necessary, consider speaking with a professional sex therapist or couples’ counsellor to navigate this together. Role-play should be something you both enjoy, not something you feel pressured into. Wishing you the best of luck—hope you get it sorted!


Love, Heidi

Dear Heidi,
Gosh, this is embarrassing—I’m a big boy. My mates at the gym joke, “Here comes horse boy,” and I even have to be careful about what underwear I wear. The real problem is meeting a girl. Everything seems fine until we go to make love, and then they can’t handle it. Will I be single for the rest of my life?
Darren, London

Heidi’s Advice
Darren, you’re not alone, and many men have these concerns—I hear it a lot. Penises come in various sizes, and sometimes, a longer or thicker penis can make sex uncomfortable—or even painful—for the person being penetrated. The good news is that there are ways to prevent discomfort and ensure sex is as enjoyable for your partner as it is for you.

Communicate and Check In
Good communication is key. Since you can’t read minds, ask your partner how they’re feeling throughout. Always listen, respect their boundaries, and prioritize mutual pleasure. Let your partner know that you’re bigger than average—not all vaginas are the same.

Prioritise Foreplay
Foreplay is essential. Activities like kissing, touching, sharing fantasies, fingering, and using sex toys help increase arousal. This is especially important for people with vaginas, as arousal enhances natural lubrication, making penetration more comfortable.

Use Lubrication
Lube is a game changer. It reduces friction and makes penetration smoother. While vaginal arousal increases natural wetness, adding lube can enhance comfort.

Take It Slow
Pacing matters. Going slow allows your partner’s body to adjust to penetration. You can also take breaks when needed—just make sure to communicate openly about what feels good and what doesn’t.

Experiment with Positions
If a longer penis is causing discomfort by pressing against the cervix during vaginal sex, try different positions that give your partner more control over depth and angle. Small adjustments can make a big difference. Good luck, lovely!
Love, Heidi

Dear Heidi,
I am a married woman with two sons, aged 18 and 19. My husband and I rarely have sex. Lately, I’ve developed a crush on the fitness instructor at my gym, who is a woman. To be honest, I’ve had crushes on women all my life. A month ago, I started chatting with the instructor, and we went for a drink. One thing led to another, and we ended up at her place—where I had the best sex of my life. Do you think I’m a lesbian? What should I do now, Heidi?
Sahara, Southend

Heidi’s AdviceHeidi’s Advice

Well, Sahara, first of all—take a deep breath. It is never too late to embrace your true self, but only you can determine what that means for you.

Sexuality is complex, and labels like lesbian, bisexual, or pansexual don’t always fit neatly. Some people discover their true preferences later in life, while others have always known but never explored them. Your feelings and experiences are valid, and there is no rush to define yourself.

You mentioned that you’ve had crushes on women all your life, which suggests that this isn’t a sudden change, but rather something that has always been there. The key question now is: what do you want? Do you want to continue seeing this woman? Do you feel like this experience was just a one-time moment of exploration, or does it reveal a deeper truth about your desires and identity?

What You Can Do Next

  1. Talk to the Instructor (If You Feel Comfortable)
    If this woman is someone you can trust, it may help to have an open conversation with her about your feelings. She might offer guidance or insight based on her own experiences.
  2. Reflect on Your Feelings
    Take some time to explore what this experience means to you. Are you emotionally drawn to women, or was this more about physical attraction? Are you happy in your marriage, or do you feel like something has been missing?
  3. Consider Counseling
    This is a big moment in your life, and speaking with a therapist—especially one experienced in LGBTQ+ topics—could provide support as you navigate your emotions and possible next steps.
  4. Read Up on Other Women’s Experiences
    Coming to terms with your sexuality can be both exciting and overwhelming. You’re not alone in this journey, and hearing from others who have been in your shoes can be incredibly reassuring. Here’s a guide that might help:

Women’s Coming Out Guide

Hello Heidi,

My best friend is madly in love with her husband and sees him through rose-tinted glasses. However, behind her back, he keeps making passes at me. Whenever we’re all together, he acts like the perfect straight husband, but when she’s not around, it’s a different story.

Last week, they came over for dinner. While my friend was in the bathroom, I went to the kitchen, and he followed me. He pushed himself up against me and was erect he  whispered that he’d be over soon and that I had better be a “good boy.”

I don’t want to hurt her—she’s so happy—but I also don’t want to be in this situation. What should I do?

Andrew, Wandsworth

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Heidi’s Advice Oh, Andrew, as a city gal who has spent plenty of time around the boys, I’ve heard this story before. You’d be surprised how often seemingly straight men engage in secretive same-sex encounters while maintaining a completely heterosexual façade.

First and foremost—do not tell your best friend. I know that might sound counterintuitive but hear me out. If she’s deeply in love with him, chances are he will manipulate the situation and convince her that it’s all lies. Worse, he may turn it around and claim that you made a pass at him. And trust me, she will believe him—because she wants to believe him.

If she’s under his spell, she may not wake up and smell the coffee for years—possibly even decades—especially if he’s a skilled manipulator. The fallout could cost you your friendship, and he may even try to retaliate by accusing you of slandering his name.

What You Should Do

  1. Set Clear Boundaries. Confront him firmly but calmly. Tell him directly that you are not interested, and that his behaviour is unacceptable. Do not engage in threats or aggression, as these situations can turn nasty fast.
  2. Stay Away. If possible, limit your interactions with him. If you must be around him, avoid situations where you are alone together.
  3. Whatever You Do—Do Not Give In. Do not sleep with him. These types of situations almost always end in heartbreak, and in most cases, men like him do not leave their wives or partners. Instead, they continue their double lives, leaving a trail of emotional damage behind them.

This is a tricky, frustrating, and unfair position for you to be in, Andrew, but your priority should be protecting yourself. Hopefully, one day, your friend will see him for who he really is—but for now, you need to make sure you don’t get dragged into his mess.

Stay strong and take care.

Love, Heidi. https://www.counselling-foryou.co.uk