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The School Bells ringing with Heidi Gammon

The queen of agony aunts is back answering your returning to school questions

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Dear Heidi,  

My son has always been effeminate and neither my husband or myself have tried to change that. When he wanted to not do football and take up sewing (and he is good) we fully encouraged him. Now he is 15 he wants to return to school this term as a girl, going from David to Danielle. Heidi can I be honest, I am terrified for him and his safety.  The school say it is ok but my husband is against it. We just feel he is too young still what can we do? 

Diana, Sheffield. 

https://mermaidsuk.org.uk/helpline-support-services/


Hi Diana,

Thanks so much for your question, I think it is great you have always seen David for who he wants to be and fully supported him.  As with everything that should not change, and your love and protection is the number one thing he counts on.

David has made what might be seen to many as brave decision to start to transition into Danielle, and it can be a confusing and frightening time for Danielle and for those that love her.  But it also can be liberating and a wonderful thing for those that feel they have been born into the wrong body.

First, get some help for the family and Danielle:  https://mermaidsuk.org.uk

Mermaids is a brilliant trans charity and will be help you all.  Equally counselling with a therapist should help https://www.onetherapy.london/transgender-counselling-london/

Please make sure you keep an open conversation with Danielle, so there are no secrets. If you feel the reaction at school to Danielle is hurting her, go to the school right away. It is so important not to react negatively as you have been doing but talk to her about safety and  life moving forward.

Here is hoping it all goes well 

Love Heidi 

Heidi hi, 

My mother is a super bitch and is all about how things look. I am 17 and going to college this year and as it is a boarding college it is brilliant as I can get away from her showing off. Heidi, she thinks she is coming to see me settle in. I know it sounds like I am being unfair but all that will happen is she will come and make the whole thing about herself,  flirt with people and it will be an embarrassment.  Honestly I do not want to go if she is coming.  

Brendan, Richmond upon Thames. 

Hi Brendan, 

The narcissist mum https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b00jm3ms

Oh, bless you,  I am sure she wants the best for you. Parents are only human too and as we grow older, we sometimes see flaws in them as in all humans. Equally it is a good idea to talk to your parents as humans. You are 17 now so maybe tell her you want to make the move in and settle in on your own. 

It may cause a row if she asks why to tell her you sometimes find her a little embarrassing.  It can go either way  but it may get mum thinking .

I feel as a parent myself you always want your child to be happy and safe, so it’s understandable that she wants to see where you are living. When you are ready, show her where you are residing and then possibly whisk her out for a mum and son lunch ! 

Good luck 🤞 

Love you Heidi and need your help,  

Having lost my virginity last year to an older boy at my school, it did not take long to realise that my preference is girls. Then in Brighton in June this gorgeous girl came on to me and that was that.  

It was only a week in when I found out she is starting work at my college this term. Now I am 18 so not jailbait, but she said it would be an issue . What do I do when I see her? I am in love. 

Kim, Worthing. 

Hi Kim,

Oh, my love I feel your pain. If she says she cannot be in a relationship, there may be strict rules against this. I think she sounds sensible and will have checked.

It is a very new relationship and if it is true love maybe in three years’ time when you leave it can be rekindled. 

But please do not be holding a torch for the whole time. My thoughts are she would be more impressed if you went on with your life, met new people and grow as a person. 

Best of luck. 

Hi Heidi. 

My boyfriend is super-hot, he plays rugby and is a Queen’s dream. The only issue is when we go out everyone flirts with him and I am invisible. The main problem is he flirts back and tells me it is just fun, that I am to get over myself and that I am his man.  But I dread going out socially, especially to gay bars.  We have been together for two years; I am a teacher and he is a doctor.  I do not want to say anything in case I sound jealous or drive him away.  

Paul,  Battersea.

Hi Paul, 

This might sound crazy, but many beautiful looking people have issues finding love and making people feel secure in a relationship with them. 

It feels like you’re being insecure and I feel for you. Sit him down tell him you’re feeling insecure and you need some reassurances. Even get some couples counselling.

Best of luck 

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Daring to Feel: A Neurodivergent Perspective in ‘The Programme’ by Sam Grierson

Actress Michelle Jeram from BBC's Granite Harbour with Filmmaker and writer, Sam Grierson
Filmmaker and writer, Sam Grierson breaks down barriers of assumptions about a neurodivergent individual’s inability to “feel”
Her work gives you permission to open your mind and her audaciousness as an artist is an invitation for you to dare to think differently
Michelle Jeram and Sam Grierson at the premiere of ‘The Programme’

Sam Grierson said, “After my best friend took her own life, I stopped writing. I couldn’t write anymore. I met Michelle and she told me to give myself a nudge. And I went on holiday a few weeks later, and I sat on a beach in Croatia. And I hear her in my head, give yourself a nudge. And I thought to myself, you know, I’m autistic.

We’re not supposed to have big emotions. But I was having massive emotions for Jenny taking her own life. And I missed her. She’d been my best friend since I was four. And I completely missed her. And I’m thinking, I am having colossal emotions here. How is it possible that autistic people don’t feel?”

I’ve had the honour of watching Sam’s short film The Programme which is set to release in November. Her writing and direction of this enterprise made me feel a thousand emotions at once.

It’s about a non-binary and autistic character called ‘Drum’ played by Granite Harbour actress, Michelle Jeram who is interviewed by an AI robot. The purpose of this film is for the AI robot to gather information on a neurodivergent individual’s feelings and emotions to navigate how to treat them in the future.

The conversation between the AI robot (played by Sherise Blackman) and Drum was a painful watch and in many ways, made me feel seen and a huge reminder of the empathy we lack as human beings. The urgency to separate what’s normal and abnormal in people through labels, assumptions and ignorance is the root of all the divide.

People often forget that the spectrum of neurodiversity is far too varied to be generalised. There’s a reason why people say “they’re on a spectrum” after being diagnosed or familiarising themselves with certain traits. With this context in mind, Sam’s work deeply reflects how feelings and emotions also lie on an infinite spectrum that cannot be classified.

Sherise Blackman (the voice of the AI robot) and Sam Grierson

Sam explains, “Autistic people are shut down and shut up so often. I just wanted them to be able to express themselves and just talk. So I wrote the film to talk about grief and loneliness because they’re big feelings we don’t talk about. And again, as a neurodivergent person, what does that look like for us? And Drum’s not trying to be every neurodivergent person, it’s just a story by a person. But by letting them articulate their feelings, big, deep feelings, I just wanted to let people sit without uncomfortableness”

The essence of discomfort Sam speaks of while watching any of her creative explorations is an attempt to free the mind and elevate us to all forms of acceptance.

How often, as human beings, do we come across a story, feel a rush of emotions based on our own life experiences and settle on an opinion? Or, in some cases, feel so unsettled that the world becomes a projection of our emotions?

However, that’s exactly what Sam tries to portray through her work, we’re all human and equally messed up, neurodivergent or not. We’re all invited to feel the emotions that we do in our own ways. The keyword being feel and to be courageous to sit with ourselves, allow the voices to speak to us and initiate transformation through self-acceptance.

Sam mentioned, “Liz and I run workshops, we start all the workshops on the left hand side of the room, we put flip charts up and we say, right, what does autism look like? What does grief look like? And then can you express your emotions, for example, right? So we’ll put these on flip charts. And then Liz will interview me a little bit about why I wrote the film and then we’ll watch the film. Then we purposefully take a break. We let people go to the loo or whatever and just sit with it for a minute. We bring them back in the room and we say, right, talk about the film for a bit. And before they go, we do the flip charts again but on the other side of the room. We say, right, what does autism look like? What does grief look like? And can you express your emotions?

Sponsor and Film Producer, Liz Crutchley with Sam Grierson now working on a new feature film, ‘Station’

Every single person who’s ever been to our workshops has transformed in that two hour period from what they wrote and thought when they came in, to what they wrote and thought when they left, because we have challenged people, we have moved people’s perception. And the reason that we were able to do that is because we’re telling the story. And we’re able to draw people into Drum’s world and see it through Drums’ eyes in a really personal way. And so for me, what do I want to achieve? It’s that. It’s taking people’s perception beforehand and coming out the other side and transforming it. I think most people who’ve seen the film said they needed to watch it again.”

I had to watch it two or three times myself, not to make sense of the character, but mainly to make sense of my own emotions. I went through a spectrum of thoughts watching The Programme because at times I felt the writing was peeling into my heart like a stranger breaking into my house but I allowed it to happen? 

At times I felt a wave of sympathy for Drum’s character for being dehumanised by the AI robot when they not only answered the questions, but also bravely articulated every ounce of their misery. Only to be shot down for digressing or being “vague”.

Sam has evolved to a state of living where she challenges herself to do things and think differently but also does everything her creative soul tells her to do. She has a wonderful community of people who share her vision to allow people to go beyond themselves and into themselves. 

Executive Producer, Claire Brown with Sam Grierson
Soundtrack writer and artist, Megan Black with Sam Grierson

She continues to represent the neurodivergent community through her storytelling but also wishes to create a space for everyone to feel safe to express themselves. She works selflessly to include all voices to have a platform through her projects to spread an important message. 

Sam said, “I’d like you to think differently, the other side of it. And I really want to hear from people. We’re going to put it out in November, free, because all my content is free. I really want to talk about neurodiversity. So I don’t charge for anything. It’s all self-funded. I just do it because I want to do it. I want to tell these stories. I’m going to put it out.

I really, really want people to get in touch with me and tell me what it did. What did it do? How did it make you feel? If you don’t like it, fine. Tell me why you didn’t like it. I don’t need you to like it. I don’t need you to love my film. But did it make you have some kind of emotional reaction? Yeah, that’s what I want to do. That’s what I want to do with all my audio plays, all my stories. I want to provoke an emotional reaction in people.”

And just like her audacious podcast, “Daring to be Different” Sam holds no grudge with criticism and opinions. When someone like herself enters a space of inspiration through service to the world and a community, it doesn’t matter what people think, it only matters what they feel and what they desire to share. 

She is in the works of another project set in Glasgow called ‘Station’ about a man in a train station having conversations with fellow travellers to explore a multicultural perspective to life.

Director of Photography, James Peakman with Samantha Grierson

What I will say about Sam’s work before you experience it for yourself is that she always ends it with a twist. A stomach-curling, pillow-grabbing and mind-bending twist that leaves you hungry for more. 

Her purpose towards people is to provide an outlet for limitless perception that without intention, without bias or any kind of expectation or outcome, re-programmes us to lead with our hearts.

Watch the trailer of ‘The Programme’ by Sam Grierson

For further information The Programme and Sam’s future work, go to https://www.crabandbull.com/

If you wish to contribute to their mission, click https://www.crowdfunder.co.uk/p/the-programme-short-film-neurodiverse-queer

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Gay Adoption ?


The Dadda & Daddy interview 

With Steven Smith at 2Shades magazine 

If there is one thing most people can agree on, it is that children need love, guidance and to feel safe. Now in 2024 we can acknowledge that this does not necessarily need to come from what has been seen as the traditional family of Mum and Dad. The face of the family does not always concur with the image of the Waltons or The Brady Brunch. It takes two Heterosexuals to make one of us as Boy George pointed out. Many have done a great job, but equally the horror and trauma many have left their children with after childhood are the story of Netflix shows. 

In this day in age the family can be two dads, two mums, a single parent or two lots of parents after a divorce. The end goal is for the child anyone raises to become a happy confident adult, one who knows they are loved and gives back in return. This would make for a kinder society. But of course, not all agree, and the far Christian right still scream in horror at the idea of gay marriage, let alone gay people adopting or having children. 

Steven Smith meets an LGBTIQQ hero Andi Ellis Smith who has adopted two children with husband Darren, and chats life and fatherhood.   

 Andi, how did you and Darren meet?

Darren and I met through a mutual friend on Facebook, but it turned out that we actually lived very close to each other.

  •  When did you both decide you wanted to have children?

Darren had always been vocal about wanting children whereas I was a little quieter about it. Initially, I would brush it off or change the subject, but I have also always wanted children. As a young gay man, I just wasn’t sure that it was available to me! 

  •  Why go the route of adoption over surrogate or foster?

Due to our careers (Darren is a Headteacher and prior to working in media and advocacy my working history is within the local authority and schools) we were acutely aware of how many children were in the system that needed a caring and loving home, and we felt that we were able to provide this.  It was always adoption for us.  The loose UK laws around LGBTQ+ surrogacy (at the time) also put us off that route.  We have seen first-hand how amazing foster carers can be and what a vital part in a child’s life they can play.  This is something that we would possibly consider once our children have grown up.

  •  How easy was it to get approved for adoption?

As you can imagine, there are lengthy checks by the adoption agency which include character references from friends/ family, DBS checks. employer checks / medicals and finance checks including many meetings with your social worker. In addition to this you will need to attend information and training sessions.

We believe that there is a misconceived understanding by many people that the adoption process takes years. In fact, the approval process in the UK usually takes around 6 months. The part that can take the longest is the family finding and matching, but this could mainly be due to how open the prospective adopters are to the type of care needs that they are willing to take on.

  •  Do you feel that the BBC drama “Lost Boys and Fairies” is a good comparison to your experience? 

To start off with the drama was a very good representation of the process, but I felt some of this got lost with some dramatisation in parts of the story, which is understandable.  I personally would have liked storylines to be more child-centred and without the usual exaggerated cliches, but it was a good watch.  The foster carer character was brilliant!  Each adoption journey is different with twists/ turns and highs/ lows, so it would be good to see more representation of adoption on prime time tv.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/m001wzp2/lost-boys-and-fairies

  •  What advice would you give to other LGBTQQ couples hoping to adopt?

Be open with your social worker and don’t hide anything, your social worker will end up knowing more about you than anyone else!    I always say to people to be at a point in your life where you are able to give 100% of your time and focus to the process as it will take over your life.

  • One of the first highly published couples Linda Riley and Sarah Garrett have two children together and set up “The Alternative Parent show”. As well as massive support for the couple (who have since split up), the Christian Right were very vocal of their disapproval. What do you say to those who think children should have a Mum and Dad?

Sarah Garrett, right, organiser of the Alternative Parenting Show, with her ex-partner Linda and their twins Phoenix and Sophia. Photograph: Linda Nylind for the Guardian

Besides breast feeding, there is nothing that my children could get from a mother that they don’t get from their two dads.  Let’s be honest about this, the majority of children in the care system come from families where there is a mum and dad.  We did an article for publication about adoption when we first started our family; most of the comments were positive but there were a few archaic comments of ‘this child needs their mum’ !  I think some people are just very uneducated about it.  Safeguarding thresholds in the UK are incredibly high and birth families are given many chances (sometimes too many) before children are removed, so to say that ‘every child needs their mum’ ….is just a bizarre statement.

I am proud to have been a part of the Modern Family Show for 3 years now, this is Europe’s largest family building event and helps inform LGBTQ+ on their options for parenthood. The show is coming to London on 28th September 2024.  you can get

tickets here :   https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-modern-family-show-london-2024-tickets-726689125737?discount=ADVOCATEANDI

  • Once you have adopted, how much help in the following years is there for parents?

We have needed support for both of our children post adoption as we have seen a huge decline in services post pandemic.  It is a bit of a myth that you can ask for support post adoption and you will just get it.  The post adoption fund is available, but you do have to go through assessments and meetings to be able to access it and, like everything these days, there are long waiting lists which can be frustrating.  

Adopted children (known as Previous LAC (Looked after children) can access certain support such as going to the top of admissions criteria for some schools (always check the policy!) and their educational setting will be able to access certain funding pots, so it is really important to be honest with the school that the child is adopted.

  • Your first child – your daughter – has numerous medical diagnoses. This must take up a huge amount of time. Were you aware of this at the point of adoption and  is there much support for you around this?

Our daughter does have complex needs.  We were aware that she may have some difficulties due to genetic conditions and from information that was provided to us pre-adoption.  As time has gone on, we have received further diagnosis.  

What is difficult is dealing with professionals not doing what they should, following up on appointments and fighting for the support for different services.  The other part that can be tricky is people’s attitudes towards SEN and inclusion.

  1.  Has there ever been a point when one of your children ask why they have two dads? How do you explain this and what about when they are asked at school?

Our son is very inquisitive about everything!  We always talk about different families and have lots of books featuring characters from all family background and cultures.  I like his way of thinking; he flips it and asks why people don’t have two daddies or why do they have a mum! 

I do think that a lot of children just accept things these days, of course there are exceptions to this. However, my children’s classmates have always known that they have two dads, even from when they have been at nursery from aged 2 and childminders.  One child once said to my daughter’s key worker that he thought it was unfair she had two dads because he only had one!

  1.  Can you tell us how you are involved with Anna Kennedy online? 

Earlier this year I became a Charity Champion for Anna Kennedy.  We have done some fund raising and held virtual coffee mornings for the LGBTQ+ community, which is a safe space for people who belong to this group to come and chat to others.  This can be other LGBTQ+ parents or those who are neurodiverse and LGBTIQQ+.

  1.  What do you two beautiful people relax or do to look after yourselves?

We love spending time with friends and family.  We enjoy days out and lots of walks (or running after the children). As a couple we love outings to the theatre or concerts and we both try and get to the gym as and when we can!

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The Church of David Hoyle

The Church of David Hoyle  by Steven Smith

“Atelier”

David is on next Thursday at The Royal Vauxhall Tavern

this is a review of a previous show

DAVID HOYLE’S THINK TANK

The Vauxhall Tavern, Thursday 10th August 2023 through to September 

5 stars xxxxx

A David Hoyle show is a truly unique experience and it is meant to be.  I once described him as Kate Bush’s and Lyndsey Kemp’s love child. His talent is undeniable, and he asks his audience, as he narrates, to think out of the box with him. 

As you look around the packed room, it mirrors “Warhol’s Factory. From the lady you feel sure may have been one of Warhol’s prodigy in her hay day with the bright pink hair, Trans adorned Hoyle’s congregations long before it became a topic of conversation. But it is not just the LGBTIQQ community that worship here. Men in suits that look like they have come from the city or just people who love art or good conversation can be found at David Hoyle shows.

” Everyone is beautiful in this room” David assures us all.  

The atmosphere is electric before David even enters the room. If people-watching is your thing, part of the experience is to join liked-minded people before the show gets going. The excitement is mounting as a virgin David audience member whispers to me,

“I just love drag”. 

“He is not drag”, I replied, well not in the traditional form: you won’t see Hoyle entering “Ru Paul Drag Race” any day soon. Certainly, he appears in tattered stockings and a night dress that had seen better days. 

I would love to hear Michelle Visage questioning Hoyle’s sewing skills (I’d pay to witness  his reply!).

Hoyle is simply art. You never know which David you’re getting and it reflects how he feels about the state of the world that night.  One show he will walk on stage dressed like Frank N Furter meets Bowie’s Space Oddity, oozing glamour. The next show his hair will be in bunches like Violet Elizabeth, his tooth having fallen out, talking about poverty as an artist. Or he walks on with his face bare, a few nights after the Manchester bombing (his now home town), opening his heart to the pain we are all feeling.

He moves amongst us handing out autographed prints of his actual artwork. Hoyle uses his audience as his paint brushes. He asks those at the front why they have taken prime position if they did not want him to point them out.

Hoyle does not take cheap shots at people unlike so many that humiliate audience members. Even when confronted by the more difficult patron. To this day it still makes me chuckle to think about when he asked a slightly drunk man what he did. “I do what you do”, grandly the man replied. 

Hoyle retorted, “Really! I had no idea I was generic!”

Hoyle will make fun of himself, asking if anyone fancies a 61-year-old homosexual with a bridge tooth, he chats about the difficulties of dating as an older gay man.  David gives sermons on not fitting in the box, or on everyday life as an artist, or those that do not want to conform or those that do. He does not ask you to agree or disagree, but merely to think. This may not sound like a form of entertainment, but it is, and he packs out venues with those wanting to hear him.

Hoyle always finishes off by doing a portrait of an audience member. Again it could be ritual humiliation but instead the chosen one is always made to feel special, but the audience is in hysterics. 

David is so very special , and it is a joy to walk away having seen someone so gifted who often bares more than his soul to his audience .  Please go see this icon. 

https://www.instagram.com/davidhoyleuniversal/?hl=en

https://linktr.ee/DavidHoyle

David is on next Thursday at The Royal Vauxhall Tavern .

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Taylor Swift: Lyrics I love as a neutral Swiftie

Taylor Swift at the Eras Tour 2024
I’m deeply sad I’ve missed my chance to go to the Eras Tour in London, but I’m not mad.
Her lyricism will stay close to my hopeless romantic heart but I wonder, do the haters even bother listening to her music before they attempt to annihilate her?

Unlike some people out there who drool over their screens with a fool’s smile to let their hatred towards her be known.

I love that Taylor Swift is so insanely popular, good on her for being a smart businesswoman but also an incredibly clever artist.

What must it feel like to achieve something so revolutionary through art that it brings you everlasting fame and wealth?

I feel slightly envious as an artist myself sometimes and I think we all do when we see her on our socials at least two times a day.

However, the jarring hatred she receives baffles me to bits. I wouldn’t call myself a hardcore Swiftie but I love her music, I can acknowledge an artist’s journey to this point and choose to be inspired rather than project my insecurities onto her.

I have a sense of humour and I’ll admit, some of the memes are actually funny. If it’s in good humour and the creativity of the shade makes me gag, I’ll have a laugh or two.

She has cats but that’s funny

But if it’s down bad cruel and insensitive, I fail to understand the purpose behind it. What’s worse, it comes from her own fans occasionally.

Social media has become such a hotspot for people to help someone rise to fame, be proud of them when they do but also find reasons to drag them down when they get “too famous’.

The irony is ridiculous. What do people really achieve when they type negative comments about someone, to express a moment of anger on a complete stranger and call it a job well done?

They actually don’t realise that their hateful interaction is probably adding more digits to her bank account so, continue I guess?

Taylor Swift has had a target on her back the day she turned famous. She’s heard it all, she abandoned country music for pop, she’s boy-crazy, she’s way too opinionated, her music is average and she doesn’t deserve the recognition she gets.

I’m coming from a neutral Swiftie perspective when I say so much of what the media has fed us has made us believe she’s not a worthy artist at all. Which is FAR from the truth.

It takes away from the beautiful songwriter and producer she actually is. Her remarkable vocals, captivating stage presence and how she never fails to put on a fabulous show for her fans.

I’ve watched videos of her performances and heard a lot about how thrilling she is on stage from a few friends who pounced at the opportunity to see her.

I admire the passion her true fans have for relentlessly standing by who she is. She knows how to provide for them and they receive all that she has to give with open arms.

Isn’t that the point of loving an artist anyway? Aren’t we all in some way shape or form emotionally attached to that one artist or band that we just want to see conquer the world?

My loyalty lies with Lady Gaga and always will but when I see artists like Taylor Swift who has a palm on the world, I’m thoroughly impressed by the sheer guts it takes to achieve such a thing.

I’m not a marketing expert to tell you what she’s doing and state the facts on how exactly she became a billionaire after the Eras Tour commenced.

But what I can say as a writer is the consistency of her talent in all her songs. She takes me on a journey from what was perhaps a sad portion of her life and makes me see how she struggled but prevailed in a just a few minutes.

Her songwriting dances on the fine line between, “Oh my god did this really happen? Who is she talking about?” and “Oh wow that must have been so painful and confusing but good for her breaking out of it.” She is a genius storyteller.

The sister albums, Folklore and Evermore made me completely fall in love with her artistry for life. I can’t begin to tell you how brilliant these two albums are in terms of variety as an artist.

She piqued my interest most when she entered her villain era with Reputation. I was re-introduced to her as an artist gone rogue and I loved it. The release she found through that album was I’m sure, cathartic for her but also for the confused teenage me.

Taylor Swift in her Reputation era. Picture credit: The Hollywood Reporter

And she just didn’t stop after that, did she? She recorded Lover, she had the drama with her toxic ex-producers mooching off of her. She re-recorded all of the songs from her older albums while simultaneously working on new material for Lover, Folklore, Evermore and Midnights.

She works HARD for her art and her brand. This is a woman who knows her worth and will fight tooth and nail to stand up for herself while delivering exquisite pieces of music. 

I didn’t entirely listen to the Midnights album but I have a few songs that I will listen to for the rest of my life. Anti-Hero being one of them that really helps me put things into perspective. When she says, “Must be exhausting always rooting for the anti-hero” that hits deep. I smile at the thought of being my own worst enemy so I truly ‘Shake It Off‘ and return to myself.

I’m still working on the Tortured Poets Department because let’s be real, 30 songs?? I love her but I don’t love her All Too Well (okay I’m going to stop with the Taylor puns).

I’m taking it day by day and listening to perhaps 1-2 songs, giving them all of my attention so I can fully take in what she’s trying to say.

But this is what I mean when I say, she feeds her fans and she feeds them WELL. I’ve never once heard a Swiftie tell me they’ve had enough. This woman is making her fans tweak the tectonic plates! That kind of energy is monumental.

I’ve had conversations with my Swiftie friends recently, we’re all kind of on the same page with how much we love her. We agreed that as much as we adore her, we want to see more and not just the break-ups or the boy troubles. For instance, when she spoke about how she dealt with her mum’s cancer in ‘Soon You’ll Get Better‘, that was an invite into another side of her vulnerability that we were aching to see. 

She goes into intricate details about relationships which could either be real or fictional, who knows? And the boy-crazy songs may not be entirely for me but the way she sees love and how she heals after a separation resonates with me on a human level. 

Ultimately an artist’s purpose is to feel seen through their work and hope for people to find themselves in it. Taylor Swift has done precisely that on an enormous scale and it was not overnight.

She has been around for over a decade, her growth was erratic but she continued to wear her heart on her sleeve. I mean let’s not forget she has 14 Grammys to her name.

Unfortunately the dark side of the internet will find reasons to dehumanise her relevance in the world. Scrutinising her relationships, the private planes, the snot coming down her nose and the list goes on. 

But this is a message from a neutral Swiftie who sees and appreciates her art for what it is and promises to not shame her for what I don’t know. 

She makes the teenage girl in me very happy and the woman in me sees the woman in her. She’s a girl’s girl but not just any girl, she’s a woman who stands on business and is a legend in her 30s, that’s pretty iconic to me.

Here’s a few of my favourite Taylor Swift lyrics that I appreciate as a fellow poet:

  • Song: Exile by Taylor Swift and Bon Iver. “I think I’ve seen this film before, and I didn’t like the ending. You’re not my homeland anymore, so what am I defending now? You were my town, now I’m in exile, seein’ you out.” (Excuse me miss Taylor and Bon Iver, you’re not allowed to know how I see separation, get out of my head but stay in my heart)
  • Song: My Tears Ricochet. “And you can aim for my heart, go for blood. But you would still miss me in your bones. And I still talk to you (when I’m screaming at the sky), and when you can’t sleep at night (you hear my stolen lullabies)” (Sobbing, I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this deep)
  • Song: Cowboy Like Me. “Now you hang from my lips, like the Gardens of Babylon. With your boots beneath my bed, forever is the sweetest con.” (How does she manage to take me on such a dreamy, romanticised journey and snaps me back to reality at the same time? It’s simply sensational)
  • Song: False God.“But we might just get away with it, religion’s in your lips, even if it’s a false god. (We’d still worship..) We might just get away with it, the altar is my hips, even if it’s a false god, we’d still worship this love. (I didn’t ask for this biblical sensuality but okay, take me to CHURCH)
  • Song: Guilty as Sin? “What if I roll the stone away? They’re gonna crucify me anyway. What if the way you hold me, is actually what’s holy? If long suffering propriety is what they want from me, they don’t know how you’ve haunted me so stunningly. I choose you and me…religiously.” (The way she makes biblical references is intriguing because that’s how much she views love, like a union of two souls praying for harmony against forces that try to tear them apart)

I might be a total Swiftie in denial but it’s against my morals as a little monster to exclusively call myself one.

The haters can hate all they want but Taylor Swift will continue to serve exceptional music, poetry, love, entertainment and pure talent as always and we will always be, ready for it. (I had to)

Here’s a link to the rest of her Eras Tour dates around the world if you can make it https://www.taylorswift.com/tour/

Don’t tell me about it, thank you.

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Don’t be a drag just be a doll

John Lee Bird with Mark Wardel at the 'You are a doll!' exhibition
John Lee Bird’s brings solo exhibition to The Crypt, London from 9th-29th August
This intimate display of John’s creative imagination through small-scale textile dolls will wow you.
‘You are a doll! exhibition by John Lee Bird

Tucked away in an underground pub is a doll exhibition by the genius, John Lee Bird.

I was greeted warmly by him before I could step into his lair of imagination. He was a piece of artwork himself with a campy-gothic paint dripping down his head. I could not wait to dive into his world of art, knowing the person behind it has such a lovely yet intriguing presence.

I may have taken five or six rounds to completely capture the essence of each doll in the exhibition. They were all dolls of friends and celebrity idols who are an inspiration to him.

I think my favourite would have to be the doll Scarlet Johansson’s ‘Under The Skin‘. I’m a huge fan and John’s doll is the perfect representation of such an underrated film.

It was then that I realised that each of the dolls had intricate details that told a story. Some were statement dolls, others were silly, goofy and absolutely out of this world. No really, there were aliens and predators.

The entire display was an enigma and the depths of John’s mind made me wonder, how does he do it? And why?

I asked him a few questions to understand the purpose behind his explorative, niche art.

  1. When did the creation of your dolls begin? What sparked the idea?

I had a little accident and slipped, ended up in hospital and diagnosed with a spinal problem. I could barely walk or do anything so confined to my kitchen table I looked down at my art/craft stash of materials and spotted some sheets of black and white felt and a ball of orange wool and for some crazy reason (or just because I’m a Bowie nut) decided I’d make a David Bowie doll; the look from the LOW album and THE MAN WHO FELL TO EARTH.

Twelve hours of messing around later it was done. All the little movements, reaching out to pick up cotton, stretch to grab some stuffing or some beads…it was a form of exercise and relief from the pain I was in. Plus hand stitching takes time so it filled the day of boredom trapped at home and distracted me from the pain I was in. So that night I ordered a whole bunch of felt. I’d made one Bowie so now I surely had to make 69, because he died when he was 69. Thankfully Amazon did next day delivery so my project was born. For 69 days I made a new Bowie doll each day. It was an excuse to dive deep into each album and outtakes and live recordings. To play things on loop as I stitched. I used stitching and Bowie as therapy.

  1. How long does it take to make one of them? 

About 12 hours of constant sewing. Minus quite a few roll-up breaks when my brain is boggling over how to fold or roll or cut a piece of felt to conjure it into an outfit. Working out tiny pattern cutting isn’t really a thing I’d done before. Problem solving tailoring conundrums sort of motivate me while I’m stitching the boring bits like legs and arms. The fun bit is at the end when all the details start flowing into place.

  1. Do you feel like this helped you find your calling as an artist? 

I still draw and cut lino prints and make music. But making these ‘doll’ sculptures does give me focus. It’s become a daily practice, something that had never been on the horizon for something I wanted to do. I actually still have no idea why it’s consumed me so much, other than those odd stretches and problem solving bits that I mentioned earlier. I guess it really is just about me being so locked away from socialising, so I’m trying to document my heroes and friends.

To show them how much I appreciate them and how they inspire and motivate me. It’s a way to say hi and remind people that they’re important. Dolling up my iDOLLS.

John Lee Bird captured by Suey Sue
  1. Which doll/collection of dolls do you have a deeper connection to? Any favourites? 

Bowie, Alien, Derek Jarman, Simon Fisher Turner, Xiu Xiu, the ones of my cabaret and performance friends. Especially the ones that I’ve roped in to bring their dolls to life at this exhibition.

The ones I’ve made silly videos for: there’s a whole playlist on my YouTube channel where I’ve recreated trailers or made little promo videos for songs. Silly, humble tributes. Fully felted from my heart.

  1. What do you hope for people to experience throughout this exhibition?  

I hope people will look at their own inspirations and idols. Mix it all up like I do. Place their family and friends in the same rightful position with their heroes of stage and screen. To work out their own web…and maybe point out some idols I may have missed from my own obsessions along the way. My fingers still need to be busy!

John has a wonderful community of friends who support him. I was invited to the opening night with performances by his dearest friends and icons Sukie Smith, Dusty Limits and Jemma Freeman and The Cosmic Something.

The energy in the room was friendly, warm and full of laughter. If you’re looking for a cozy bar with vibrant people and a mind-bending exhibition in London, this is your sign to be a part of John’s brilliant way of existing.

For tickets, visit https://www.ticketsource.co.uk/null/t-vvdokkz

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ART ATTACK

Let the power of art lift you up in these troubling times.

Re print from 2022 by Steven Smith.

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Art is subjective; arguably anything could be described as art. It has been said that as long as an artist says “what I have made is art” then it is art. Pulling a partially burnt door from the rubble of a derelict building and hanging it on your wall, then spray painting it, could pass as art. In fact, that’s exactly what one artist confessed to me that they once did, and it sold for a good price. But what makes a successful artist? 

Experts in the art world often say that, unless you are represented by a prestigious gallery and have sold your pieces at one of the reputable auction houses for a hefty price, you cannot begin to describe yourself as a leading British or international artist. But in these days of spin and false news, many artists grandly describe themselves as just that – even if it is just on their own web page. That is why an artist being represented by a leading gallery is so important, it protects the consumer and cradles the artist. It is like good management for actors.

Your correspondent with actor and Loose Woman Denise Welch supporting her husband Lincoln Townley art https://lincolntownley.com

For me, if I walk into an exhibition and instantly see that an artist’s inspiration is another artist then I am not excited about their work. I am fine with artists being influenced by other artists’ work but if an artist recognisably channels legends such as Warhol, Bacon, Tracey Emin and Damien Hirst perhaps they need to rethink …

Hearing a truly talented, unique artist’s voice call out from their work is what captures me. It can send goosebumps up my neck when a crafted artist’s work is powerfully on display.

Take inspiration from the masters by all means but when your art is the equivalent to an X-factor contestant belting out someone else’s song, and a poor version of it at that, a great artist you are not. You may well be on the path to becoming one as long as, like many in the craft, you dedicate yourself to finding your own voice.

This is usually my favourite time of year as Frieze comes to town and the best galleries from around the world showcase their finest artists. Held in Regents Park, you can submerge yourself in an orgy of talented modern artists. Along with Frieze Masters, it feels like Christmas has come.

Sadly, Frieze, like many other events has moved online, but has offered lectures and courses and hopefully further experiences for art enthusiasts. It is be back in its typical glory now when this is all over. 

The landmark Venice art festival “La Biennale” is still set to go ahead next year, with the British entry selected by the Hayward Gallery and British Art Council. Next year, we are represented by curators Manijeh Verghese and Madeleine Kessler, who are bringing a diverse range of art to the British tent. La Biennale shows every two years, with the last showing in 2019, represented by British artist Cathy Wilkes. It’s the cream of the art shows, and I was lucky to attend in 2017 as a guest of Israeli artist Michele Cole. I still get excited about my trip; it is a memory that will stay with me for life. It is well worth going.

At the 2017 Biennale – artist Michal Cole https://www.meijler.com/michal

The arts have suffered grievously during the pandemic, with many galleries and exhibition halls still closed. It was a ray of light to be invited by LGBTQ+ international artist, Pedro Sousa Louro, to the opening of START at the Saatchi Gallery. His work received rave reviews when he showed at the Kunstmesse art fair in Germany. Pedro, originally from Portugal, resides in Chelsea and has a studio in Wimbledon. Pedro was educated at the Chelsea College of Arts in London. Among his army of fans are celebrities such as Frankie Goes to Hollywood’s Holly Johnson. 

Holly Johnson (l) with Pedro Sousa Louro

Holly says of Pedro’s work “I like the fact that his art does not mean anything in particular. It is geometry for the sake of geometry “ 

Going into its seventh year, START showcases new and established artists, attracting international exhibitors, although the artists at START must pay to show their work. START gives voice to artists hoping to make a name for themselves on a global stage while providing the perfect platform for new collectors to discover talent that might otherwise have gone unseen. 

Included in this year’s programme is Korean Eye 2020, a teaser exhibition that gives an insight into the work of some of Korea’s most exciting young artists. 

START founders, David and Serenella Ciclitira, were determined to support artists and push ahead with this year’s show, despite many sceptics. They recognise the difficulties faced by the art world during these tumultuous times. They appreciate that many people are not ready to return to galleries amidst the ongoing pandemic. They have made START a world leader that combines both online and physical reality. The Ciclitiras are aiming to make START a leader in the ‘phygital’ world, which marries both the physical environment and the online digital world at the same time

‘Serenella and I are committed to playing our part in supporting artists and galleries, and in getting the art-world as a whole back open for business.’ 

David Ciclitira

2020 has been a challenging year, to say the least. It is a time when we must adapt and innovate; we must come together, united, for the greater good of all our fellow artists and galleries. 

The Saatchi gallery is one of the great London venues and brings a beautiful addition to the trendy Kings Road. My date for the open day was our Editor, Rob Harkavy. He was all suited and booted for the occasion. You can’t help but love the gallery the minute you walk in. For me, it is my dream home; it has been my fantasy to live in a gallery since I studied art as a teenager.

The celebrities were out in force. Anthea Turner was on hand to support David Bowie 20/20 Vision; a collection of photographs by Tony McGee, award-winning British photographer and friend of Bowie. This unique collection of never-before-seen images were hand-selected ‘on set’ by Bowie himself as a reflection of his own inner image, and are as powerful as they are poignant, beautifully capturing the essence of the shapeshifting, beguiling, enigmatic superstar. It blew me away. Anyone looking to buy me something for Christmas at £4k, one of these, please! 

Loose Woman and award-winning actress, Denise Welch, was chatting to people at her husband’s section, the former PR-man-turned-artist, Lincoln Townley. Welch’s son, Louis Healy (star of Emmerdale) was also in attendance. Michael Caine has previously shared that he is a fan of Townley’s work. 

The beautiful Gail Porter was also present and chatted to us. She was just charming.

START is well worth going to. The atmosphere is exciting, and there are one or two gems, depending on your taste. START also has a great bar on the third floor, where the Korean exhibition is, and there is some stunning work there.

Also open is the Brighton Museum; a hidden gem, but trust me, a must for everyone visiting the legendary gay seaside town. Among the exhibitions is Queer on the Pier. This community-curated display peers into local LGBTQ+ history. Celebrating the lives of the writers, artists, performers, activists and ordinary people who have made Brighton & Hove so fabulous, their stories are brought to life with film and photography, fashion and drag and oral histories. It is part of Be Bold, a series of collaborative exhibitions and events, programmed with Brighton & Hove’s LGBTQ+ communities.

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Art and soul. Meet global art sensation Pedro Sousa Louro.

Steven chats over coffee with art sensation Pedro Sousa Louro

Pedro Sousa Louro is one of the most talked-about LGBTQ artists at the moment. The Portuguese born painter is exciting the art world with his blend of styles and fresh take on painting.

Educated at the Chelsea College of Arts in London, Pedro’s work caught the attention of many at the prestigious Kunstmesse art fair in Germany last year.  He is also among the headliners at the START art show this autumn at the Saatchi Gallery. Our very own art connoisseur, Steven Smith, catches up with him at his studio in Wimbledon. 


Do you remember the first painting you ever did and what made you want to become an artist?

I was fascinated by Greek and Roman statues, especially the beauty of the naked form and the stillness from an early age. It caused quite a stir when my first drawing at school was a statue, and some teachers were not impressed, though others thought it was great. Of course, my style at the time was hardly refined, and to some eyes, it may have looked like mischief-making. 

Either way, art captured my imagination from an early age and creating images was something that excited me. So, becoming an artist was something that has always been at the forefront of my life.

Who in the art world influences you?

Francis Bacon and Picasso, as well as Dame Rachel Whiteread and Robert Rauschenberg. Art is always a personal thing, and these artists really speak to me. When I am looking at their work, it moves me and inspires me to create.

What training did you do to become an artist?

I graduated with an Arts degree from the Chelsea College of Arts in 1998. Two decades later, I graduated from the Kensington and Chelsea Art College in Abstract Expressionism and Abstract Vision. 

Your work has been shown all over Europe, and you are appearing later this year at START in the Saatchi Gallery London. Can you tell us a little about START and do your audiences differ from country to country?

It is my first time exhibiting at the Saatchi Gallery and START Art Fair in London. The timing could not be better. It is an honour to be a part of this prestigious event and a chance to network with new artists as well as established ones. The fair is a global gathering of artists and gives new talent a chance to show their work. 

Last year my work was shown at the fifth Kunstmesse art fair in Leipzig, Germany. I do not think that the audiences differ. In every show that I have been a part of, people have been enthusiastic and inspiring. 

https://www.startkx.com/exhibitions/

What advice would you give to a young artist starting out?

It is not easy at all to be an artist seeking recognition, especially in these modern ages, where social media platforms are making a colossal and gigantic difference in the careers of artists. I’m one of them! I want to be recognised by the public and by the established art scene. I want my artwork and my abstract visual language on our new modern living expressionism to be taken seriously as another important artist legacy and statement. The advice is only one. Don’t stop working even in times when it seems you aren’t going anywhere. If we don’t stop working, we’ll arrive somewhere, and that is inevitable. If you don’t stop creating you will arrive somewhere – a good place or a not-so-good place – but you’ll arrive somewhere!

How do you think COVID has affected the arts and LGBTQ community in general?

I have seen artists, where I have my studio, for instance, leaving their studios because they cannot afford the rent or because they have lost their other jobs, the direct income support of their lives. It is unfortunately sad, but on the other side, I have seen so many artists making sales over the internet and on social media platforms. Some of them did exceptionally well. 

Do you think that with apps like Grindr and Scruff being so popular, romance is dying?

Inevitably, yes. The technology of these sex and social apps on our phones completely eradicate so many vital personal elements of each one of us. From educational factors to responsible factors and so on, this new way of interaction between us has changed so profoundly that romance has become an old-fashioned item, not even vintage!     

Some of our best British artists have been LGBTQ, from Francis Bacon, David Hockney to sculptress Maggie Hambling. How much does your sexuality influence your artwork?

I have heard so many different views and opinions about my work being too connected with my sexuality. There are people from galleries from the art world itself, saying that it is 100% related to and influenced by my sexuality. I just let them talk and say what they want. 

I would say between 50% to 70% is undoubtedly associated with my sexuality. But there are quite significant elements which come from my art studies and the art research that I attach to my creativity.

How does your family feel about your work?

My parents still live in Portugal. My dad is the silent type, and my mum is vocal about her love of my art. They are both proud. My sister lives in Oxford, and she is a huge fan, I am hoping she will be at START. I am one of six children, and we are all proud of one another.

What would you like to see happening in the art world in the future?

I would like to see myself happening more, actually. I would like to see myself coming out as a more established artist, flourishing and gaining recognition worldwide. Yes, it’s all about me! Well, why not? 

QUICKFIRE ROUND

Your favourite restaurant in London?

Right now, Sexy Fish in Mayfair. Amazing Asiatic food.

The one thing you find to be a turn off in others?

Their selfish, cynical side that makes them think they can always get away without doing the work. 

The most romantic place in London?

I think London is a very romantic city, but for me, Chelsea Embankment is a more private environment. It is so romantic. 

What is one thing you would change about London if you were the mayor for a day?

As Mayor of London for just one day, I think I would want to make all galleries and transport free .

What is your favourite film?

Well, I used to have a favourite film, The Bridges of Madison County with Meryl Streep, but now I have so many. So, now anything with Cate Blanchett for me is a good movie. She is my new obsession! 

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A column that does not hold back.

My viewz and not of 2Shades brought to you bi -monthly a column that does not hold back

“Where to pee or not to pee, is that really a question?”

Trans. Trans, dear God has there ever been a topic that will have you cancelled simply for not agreeing and get so many hot under the collar? 

Now let us get this straight and to help the right-wing God squad: if your apparent higher power allowed a child to be born with bone cancer or deformed, is there not a chance he popped one or two in the wrong body too?  

For me, if a man or woman feels they have been born in the wrong body and have undergone two years of therapy and gender reassignment, as far as I am concerned, they are now the sex of their choice.

People who have had gender-affirming surgery have been in my life since I was 16. The Famous Julia / George dropped coffee all over my Fiorucci white jump suit at “Scandals” night club when she ran the coffee shop there. Strangely we became friends. From April Ashley to Tallulah, famous sex changes have been in the news. Many have played under the radar and of course with some there was the odd whisper, but all for most part got on with their new lives. Wonderful India Willoughby, whom I admire, campaigns for 

https://www.amazon.com/Just-Julia-Story-Extraordinary-Woman/dp/1852834811

rights and (just as important) educates. She is always approachable

if I have a question of anyone else for that matter on the topic .

The lovely India Willoughby https://x.com/IndiaWilloughby?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor

Transvestites who enjoy popping a frock on are not in that transgender category, however.

Nor is drag. Drag has been around since time began and in the theatrical sense it is a performance. So many people seem to be labelling drag artists as trans which, for the most part, they are not. Men that suddenly announce they are trans and pop on a frock, an acrylic wig and some false nails are not women.

Sure, some might be starting a journey towards being a woman. Others never will make that trip and must appreciate it is a dream and not expect rights as a woman.

Tim Curry in the incredible The Rocky Horror show is a sweet Transvestite not to be confused with gender reassignment https://rockyhorror.co.uk

Much as mixed toilets have been in many venues for years, the right for a woman or, when it comes to it, a man to go the toilet that is used by their own sex should be enforced. What many forget is some women are coping with trauma, having been raped or abused badly by men. They will find the idea of sharing a bathroom (where they are in a vulnerable state) with anyone with a penis utterly terrifying. Simply put, if you have a penis stay out of the ladies loo. 

What is bizarre to me and many of the trans is this “Dead Life”, i.e. if you are now identify as woman, your prior life is “Dead Life” and you can suddenly create a whole past as girl. One (who we all know) 

described how she slept with a variety of celebrities as a beautiful young girl – the issue here is she was a 17-year-old spotty boy at the time she claims it happened. It is just a lie, a “Fantasy Life” that to my mind is closer to criminal fraud. 

I certainly would have been trans back in my school years. I used to pray that I would wake as a girl because being a boy was pure misery for me. Today I love being a man, in fact after about 14 that desire to be a girl eventually passed. For many it does not, and they have my 

empathy and support to be who they want to be after a certain age.

Forcing kids into boxes i.e. boys like football and action and 

girls like Barbie and cooking is one of the unhealthiest things I can think of.  It is responsible for so many mental health issues in those kids who do not fit into society’s false expectations. But please do not let kids undergo surgery till they are fully matured and can decide if it is still what they really want.

Personally there would be no way I would even want a child of mine to have a piercing or tattoo until they were in their late teens. There are support groups such as Mermaids that help young people who feel they are struggling with gender

https://mermaidsuk.org.uk

Finally, practise what you preach. A lovely trans woman who I respected and addressed as a woman (even though they had not had surgery, or any work done), berated me for not eating what I was given at a dinner table (I do not eat red meat or pork).

 “In my day you ate what you were given!” she chastised me. 

Thank God for you it is not “your days” as you would be running for the hills dressed as woman. The problem is, if we expect people to accept us for who we are, it has to be reciprocal, not one-sided. 

Colin Farrell – a real man of action

As if we could not love Colin Farrell enough already, the actor and his son James have melted our hearts this month. Colin has been talking about his 20-year-old son James who lives with Angel Syndrome. 

 “I want the world to be kind to James. I want the world to treat him with kindness and respect.” 

The actor told People Magazine in the US. 

https://people.com

Angelman syndrome is genetic disorder that mainly affects the nervous system. Symptoms include a small head and a specific facial appearance, severe intellectual disability, developmental disability, limited to no functional speech, balance and movement problems, seizures, and sleep problems.

Farrell has started a foundation in honour of his son in the US. The Colin Farrell Foundation will provide support for adult children who have an intellectual disability through advocacy, education and innovative programs.

As for the foundation, for years Farrell has wanted to do something in the realm of providing greater opportunities for families who have a child with special needs, to receive the support that they deserve and the assistance in all areas of life.

“Once your child turns 21, they’re kind of on their own,” Farrell says. “All the safeguards that are put in place, special ed classes, that all goes away, so you’re left with a young adult who should be an integrated part of our modern society and often is left behind.” 

This is mirrored in the UK. Last year Dr Anna Kennedy OBE petitioned Number 10 Downing Street to help those living with autism to be aided after the age of 24 where government aid stops. “Who will look after my sons when I am gone?” is a question Anna has raised along with many parents of children with special needs.

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE and me delivering a petition to Number 10 downing street picture Terry Scott ,

Colin and Anna are real heroes and we need more of the likes of these two in this world. 

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Yet more bad news for the BBC as their top-rated show “Strictly Come Dancing” comes under fire for apparent bullying as previous contestants have been complaining.

Oh do get a grip. You go into a reality show and you are really expecting it to be plain sailing? 

These people complaining of bad treatment have agents and a 

right to walk out at any time. Stop, enough already. Do not go into a 

show like “Strictly” or “I’m a Celebrity” and expect back rubs and hugs.

Dance is a highly disciplined practice and anyone who has properly 

trained at the ballet or dance school will tell you it is not for the faint 

hearted.

To conclude .

When your bear friend has been taking Ozempic and asks if 

you have noticed any visible side effects on them…

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https://ukparachuting.co.uk.

Millions of people donate financially each year to charities.

However, many do not have the means to reach into their pockets and help. There are other ways to help from volunteering to raising funds by doing sponsored events like walking, cycling and even jumping from a plane. 2 Shades talks to someone who did exactly that, our columnist Dr Anna Kennedy OBE. 

1. Anna, what on earth made you want to do a sky jump?

To be honest it was the last thing on my bucket list. We were brainstorming ways to raise funds for my charity Anna Kennedy online. One of our Patrons Steven Smith mentioned he had sky jumped out of a plane to raise funds for Pancreatic Cancer charity a few years back. 

Three of the team, Steven, Aston Avery and Lisa Robins, decided they would all jump to help raise awareness. Quickly I made it clear that my contribution was to wave firmly on the ground. My fear of heights was too great to even think about doing it. Steven kept teasing me “You’re always getting others to do things outside their comfort zone, and they thank you for it”, and “Lead by example”. Thanks Steven I thought!

Dream team dive for Anna Kennedy on line

A few months ago, I spoke to Marie Hanson MBE (one of our Autism Hero Award judges) who had just jumped out of a plane and loved it so much that she was considering another challenge. Marie also had a fear of heights and said, “Go on Anna, you can do it!” So, I did! 

Alway supportive @spman631dbbf47d on hand to give his advice

2 Tell us about the location where you did the jump?

We travelled to Peterborough to “UK Parachuting” at Sibson Airfield https://ukparachuting.co.uk. It is about fifteen twenty minutes from Peterborough station and they really looked after us.

There is a great café, and they advise you not to jump on an empty stomach. Steven was gutted as new rules meant that if your over 100kg the insurance won’t cover you for the dive. He was 4kg over and was not allowed to jump. Our wonderful AKO volunteer Stacey Moore took his place what a hero she only came out to wave at us and was not allowed to jump.

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3. Did you think about changing your mind in the lead up to the jump?

Steven travelled up with me and was making me laugh. It helped as I was not thinking about the jump. In the lead up, getting sponsorship occupied my mind and it was exciting as funds came in, so it took my mind off the fact that I was going to be hurling towards the ground to raise the money. 

4. Was there training involved?

It was professional. After a weigh-in and registration there was a bit of a wait and time to grab a coffee. Then there was a class with the lead instructor who was clear and concise, so he kept you at your ease. They were not going to let you fly unless you had understood the whole process.

Just before you got on the plane, they went over any questions and were just brilliant and made it fun too.

5. Were you scared getting on the plane and taking off?

It would be a lie if I said, “No!”

Just prior there were a herd of elephants doing a Zumba class in my tummy. For sure the egg sandwich from the café though delicious seemed like a very bad idea. But the team spirit and the instructors once we got on the plane made me feel calm and excited. 

6. What was the jump like? 

The first few seconds of the jump and free fall were a little scary. Imagine being in a tumble drier that is also a freezer. Kind of “What have I done?!”

Once those few seconds were over, I thought ‘Anna get a grip’, then I began to enjoy the whole experience and the beauty of the environment. It was exhilarating. 

7. Were you relieved when you landed?

A little but so happy too that I had enjoyed the experience and immediately gave a short speech about the charity and our work. 

8. What did your family and friends say about you doing the jump? 

My son Patrick was worried and asked for reassurance I was not going to die or have a heart attack. I said we were in the safe hands of professional people who have been supporting the public for years who wanted to experience the skydive.

9. Would you do it again and how much did your raise?

Yes, I would love to do it again now I know what to expect! We were all so grateful to raise £3700. If you sponsored us, we really do appreciate it. We are only a small charity and every £1 counts. 

10. How do people donate?

Online at www.annakennedyonline.com

Ever supportive Dawn Avery was on hand to lend a hand and support everyone .

Help sponsor us by contacting press Steven Smith spman@btinternet.com or lisa.robins@annakennedyonline.com

01895 540187