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ARTIST LOVEARTPIX TO BE AN AMBASSADOR OF ANNA KENNEDY ON LINE.

https://loveartpix.co.uk

Steven Smith joins Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE in Manchester to invite one of its leading artists, Dez, to become an ambassador of Anna Kennedy Online.
https://annakennedyonline.com

In addition, this amazing artist has agreed to exhibit one of his incredible pieces at Autism & Art on May 22nd in London at the Fire Pit Gallery, generously donating the proceeds of the sale to the charity. Steven chats with the man everyone is talking about.
https://www.firepit.art

Dez, known professionally as Loveartpix, is a self-taught Audhd artist and advocate from Manchester, England.

Diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder in his twenties and receiving late diagnoses of Autism and ADHD in his forties, Dez has navigated a complex mental health journey, also undergoing therapy for Complex PTSD. Art became a lifeline during this time, helping him process heightened emotional states and giving voice to his experiences.

Since fully immersing himself in art around 2018, Dez has used his creative work as both personal therapy and a platform for advocacy. Through his distinctive pieces — often centered around Manchester life and neurodiversity — he promotes the therapeutic power of art as a daily coping strategy. Sharing his creations widely under the name Loveartpix, Dez aims to raise awareness about neurodivergence in a largely neurotypical society.

His work is featured across the Northwest of England, including Manchester, Blackpool, and Cumbria, as well as internationally at the Normandy Memorial Trust in France. A passionate supporter of community initiatives, Dez regularly donates art to charities, raising thousands of pounds at auction.

In 2023, he won his first Autism Hero Award, recognizing his contributions to neurodiversity advocacy. He also launched the UK’s first Neurodivergent Art Focus Group, piloted at HMP Manchester with outstanding success.

For the past 3 years, Dez has been filmed for a documentary chronicling his late-diagnosis journey and the role of art therapy in his life. In March 2025, Loveartpix launched his debut Art exhibition where he also shared his platform collaborating with other neurodivergent artists. ‘A Neurodivergent Art Exhibition’ by Loveartpix showcased in Spinningfields, Manchester.

At 45, Dez sees himself as only just beginning to truly understand his conditions. He considers creativity not just a passion, but a vital tool for self-regulation and connection — and he remains dedicated to sharing his journey to inspire and support others.

https://loveartpix.co.uk/about/

Anna Kennedy says “We are thrilled to have Dez as an ambassador. I have followed him over the past few years and watched his passion and confidence grow through his creativity and digital artwork, especially after winning the Autism Hero Awards in 2023. As a self-taught autistic artist creating wonderful digital pieces, he will be a great role model for our charity. Dez can also share how his artwork has helped him through personal struggles, inspiring other autistic individuals to do the same.”

Steven chats to Dez .

https://loveartpix.co.uk

1. Hello, what does it mean to you to become a patron of Anna Kennedy Online?

Hi Steven,

Becoming a patron for Anna Kennedy Online (AKO) is such a privilege and an honour — not to sound too cliché! I have been involved with AKO for a few years through art donations, small projects, and also by winning the Autism Hero Award for Creative Arts and Media with them in 2023.

Since my late autism diagnosis in 2021 (at the age of 41), I have thrown myself into understanding my condition the best I can — not only to help myself, but to help others too, as I know there are so many people out there like me. Having been nominated for six awards in such a short time through my contributions in art donations and raising awareness, winning the AKO award was a major highlight for me.

Fast forward two years, and now being asked by Anna to be an ambassador just fills me with pride.

https://loveartpix.co.uk/about/

What made you start creating art?

I have always had a creative flare but really started to focus on it when I was going through my autism assessment. It was a very difficult and disruptive point in my life processing such an epochal event. Stuggling a lot at night, using the Picsart app on my phone really fitted in, being the least disorderly. Any art piece I create, I really submerge myself into the topic and it gives my erratic thoughts focus. Realising that the art I was creating resonated with many people I decided that I wanted to use it as a tool to promote understanding and awareness as much as possible.

What artists inspire you?

To be perfectly honest, I don’t really get inspiration from artists — probably more from people. I am a naturally creative person, so when I look at life, I feel inspired by topics that intrigue and affect me, or by things I am passionate about. I am then drawn to create around those themes.

Being a self-taught artist, and because I use art as a tool for self-help, I haven’t formally studied art; I simply use it to process my emotions. It’s something I turn to when I’m struggling or when I need to focus my thoughts. I don’t feel like a traditional artist in the usual sense.

That said, I do follow many artists and art profiles on social media, and there are so many amazing artists out there. One artist I really like is @deanevansart on Instagram. His work is so vibrant and thought-provoking. If you get the chance, definitely check out his profile!

If you had to take someone out in Manchester, what one place would you take them to?

If I had to take someone to Manchester, it would have to be the Nag’s Head pub. The Nag’s Head is a true Manchester landmark, and I’m proud to say that, among the 4,000 images of the beautiful city I call home, I have two of my pieces in their collection.

One is a tribute to highly decorated war hero Harry Billinge MBE LdH — the largest piece in the building. (I had the honour of meeting Harry before he passed away and still stay in touch with his family.) The other is one of my ‘Bees About Town’ collection, displayed in the front window.

https://www.tripadvisor.co.uk/Restaurant_Review-g187069-d11969025-Reviews-The_Old_Nags_Head-Manchester_Greater_Manchester_England.html

What does love mean to you and how important is it in your life?

Love is many things and shows itself in many forms. Helping and supporting people to make things better is love — depending on your personal feelings.

For me, putting myself in harm’s way to help others is a huge form of love. Missing out on events with my son due to my condition, but then being happy just spending time with him afterward — even though I felt upset about missing the event — is love.

Knowing that I would put my life in front of my family’s without hesitation, and valuing their lives far more than my own, is love. Self-sacrifice is love. Pain is love. Seeing others happy is love.

I actually find this a difficult question to answer, as there are so many variables to what love means.

https://loveartpix.co.uk/about/

They say “Big boys don’t cry” — do you think this is true?

I think this is such a harmful quote from a bygone era that still has a massive negative impact on society today — especially on the male suicide rate.

Crying is a way to process emotions. It’s part of being human. We all do it, and I find it such a bizarre notion that somehow suppressing it makes you tougher or better at dealing with life.

Being able to express yourself and be open about your emotions is, in my opinion, a very strong thing and speaks volumes about a person’s character. Yes, there are times when you have to deal with situations that require mental and physical strength, and you have to push through and fight — but I am really against this phrase.

No, I definitely do not think this quote is true.

How important is it to you to inspire and help others who want to create?

Art for me is the tool to understanding and processing things I struggle with. I know the positive impact it has first hand from my own experience. Obviously art comes in many forms too. Last year I piloted the first of its kind neurodivergent art focus group for prisoners in HMP Manchester which was a huge success. Art was the tool I used to get the prisoners to explore how their condition affects them in the hope of supporting rehabilitation. Some of the prisoners used words and created poems, some preferred to paint, and others liked to draw. I then collated what was created by each individual and edited the final pieces on the Picsart app to create a unique collection – which I will be displaying at a later date. It’s well documented the power of creativity and art therapy so for me I try to promote this at every chance I get.

What would you like to achieve next?

On a personal level, I would like to achieve a sense of mental contentment and balance. For me, this would mean understanding my condition much more deeply. Although beginning to understand it has already helped me so much, I still struggle and fight daily. I want to continue striving to be a good parent and family member.

In my career, I have a lot of projects in the works, so I will continue to develop these and, hopefully, help many more people and bring about positive change. I guess my main goals are to be a good role model, help others, and continue turning what I go through into something positive — oh, and now, to be a good ambassador for AKO!

For more information https://loveartpix.co.uk/about/

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Best buy for Summer FM London .

Steven’s Hot Tip https://fmlondon.co.uk/collections/underwear

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No matter how good David Beckham looks in his BOSS underpants, there is absolutely no way I am paying £45 or more for a pack of three. Even if he personally delivered them to my door, it would still be a firm no from me.

It’s not that I’m being tight with money — far from it. I live a very busy and active life, constantly working out, dashing from place to place, and keeping on top of everything. For me, my underpants need to be practical above all else. They must offer strength, durability, and a feel-good factor against my skin. In short, they have to work hard and feel great at the same time.

From my personal experience, even some of the big-name designer brands don’t always deliver. In fact, some of them don’t last much longer than cheaper alternatives, and when you’re paying prices that rival the cost of a good pair of jeans, it’s hard not to feel resentful. I still want to look and feel good in my underwear, of course, especially with summer fast approaching. Warmer weather means I’ll be out and about a lot more, and let’s be honest — I’ll probably need to change my underpants at least twice a day.

https://fmlondon.co.uk/collections/underwear

Now, here’s the great news. Listen up, boys, girls, and everyone in between who loves staying up to date with the latest must-have fashion in men’s underwear. I have found the very best option out there — and it won’t break the bank!

Not only does it look fantastic on, but it feels absolutely incredible. Your body can breathe, the fit is spot-on, and you won’t believe the comfort. The brand you need to know about is FM London. Trust me, this is going to be the most talked-about brand very soon.

FM London started back in 2015 with three brothers who were completely fed up with paying ridiculous prices for basic clothing. They decided to do something about it and created a no-fuss brand that delivers real quality without the hefty price tag.

When it comes to men’s socks and underpants, these guys are truly onto a winner. Their underwear offers everything you could possibly want:

  • A stretchy, ergonomic fit
  • A cotton-rich blend that feels soft and breathable
  • Anti-chafing design for all-day comfort
  • Odour-fighting technology to keep you feeling fresh

This is my top recommendation for the summer — affordable, comfortable, and practical. Plus, they still look great enough to wear on a date night (whatever that is these days!) and bring a little bit of sexy back into your wardrobe.

So if you want to feel good, look good, and not spend a fortune, check them out. Trust me, your underwear drawer will thank you.

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What a Night at Our 6th Annual AnnaKennedyOnline Charity Autism Hero Awards!

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE column in 2Shades magazine .. pictures by Terry Scott and Annemarie Bickerton

Presenter Aston Avery and Phillip Barnett with Dr Anna Kennedy OBE https://annakennedyonline.com

Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE Column in 2SHADES MAGAZINE

Hello everyone,

Apologies for the delay in sharing my column—my head has been spinning! It’s been such a busy time, with so many exciting things on the horizon that I can’t wait to tell you about.

First and foremost, a heartfelt thank you to everyone involved in last month’s Autism Hero Awards.

We had an unforgettable evening at the 6th Annual AnnaKennedyOnline Charity Autism Hero Awards.
✨ A huge congratulations to all our winners and finalists! ✨

Thank you to everyone who attended and supported the event—our incredible judgesVIP guestsfabulous performersEve Devenney and Angus Baskerville, and all our amazing charity supporters.

HUGE thank you and much love to all of my AnnaKennedyOnline volunteers. Your time, dedication, and support made this night a tremendous success. I couldn’t do what I do without you!

Vicki Michelle and Steven Smith with Dr Anna Kennedy OBE

Special Thanks:

  • 💫 Aston Avery and Phil Barnett  , our brilliant MCs for the evening – the AKO dynamic duo!
  • 💫 Lisa Robins, my PA and friend, who has stood by my side and worked tirelessly for nearly 15 years.
  • 💫 Tally Nothey, for creating our amazing programmes and marketing materials.
  • 💫 Maggie Paterson and her team of dancers from PPAS, who have supported our events for the past 14 years.
  • 💫 Steven Smith, one of our charity Patrons and a dear friend, for your unwavering support over the last 9 years. Your presence means the world to us.

📣 Check out the full list of our 2024/2025 Winners and Finalists:
👉 Click here to view

Lisa and I recently travelled up north to Whitley Bay to prepare for the next Autism’s Got Talent showcase. If you’re interested in participating in the London event, entries close on May 31st! You can find all the details here: https://annakennedyonline.com/autisms-got-talent/.

Whitley Bay play house https://www.visitnorthtyneside.com/activities/activity/playhouse-whitley-bay/

We’re also thrilled to announce our first-ever Autism and Art Show, taking place at the FirePit Gallery in London. If you’d like to have your artwork featured, please email: spman@btinternet.com. One of the incredible artists whose work will be featured is

https://www.greenwichpeninsula.co.uk/whats-here/firepit. COOL ART2021

And now—on to your questions!

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE

Dear Anna,

I live with autism, anxiety, and depression, which severely affect my ability to work in a mainstream job. I would love to work and have tried setting up various home-based businesses, but unfortunately, none have been successful.

Being in my 40s, my main source of income is Universal Credit, but they are now trying to take it away and force me into employment. I have explained that my day-to-day life is unpredictable, and committing to a job would be impossible, but they are not listening and say If I can go out and about I can go to work ,

What can I do?

Elizabeth, Brighton

Hello Elizabeth,

Thank you for your message. We have received many messages since the announcement of welfare cuts by the government recently. 

Universal Credit, a UK benefit system, can pose challenges for autistic individuals, potentially leading to pressure to work despite the difficulties you have mentioned. It would appear that some autistic people may face having benefits reduced or stopped if they don’t meet certain work related requirements. In my opinion the Universal Credit system may lack the flexibility needed to accommodate the needs of autistic individuals like yourself.

A good organisation to contact to ask for advice is Disability Rights UK or DAWN of which I am an Ambassador. www.dawnsupport.co.uk 

Sending you best wishes 

Anna 


Dear Anna,

My son is autistic, very active, and an absolute joy. He’s now 24, and my husband and I feel it’s time for him to gain independence by moving into his own studio or flat. However, he is completely against the idea and has a meltdown every time we bring it up.

Is there an advice board or resource that can help young autistic adults transition to independent living? What should we do?

Joe, Bradford

Hello Joe,

Thank you for your message and yes this can be a tough for all, the transition of moving home into independent living.

Planning and Preparation is key and to engage your son in the planning process. Start my talking and allowing them to express their preferences and needs. This will be a gradual process , a sudden shift can cause great anxiety. Research different housing options, including independent living, shared housing maybe an option or specialist housing to fit his needs.You will need patience and understanding , this is challenging all round.

A good link to check is Autism Central Living Independently http://www.autismcentral.org.uk

My son Patrick has been living in his flat for almost 4 years now. Small steps but we got there in the end.

Good Luck!


Dear Anna,

I am a huge fan and would love to see you have your own show!

I’m 16 and living with a variety of challenges. One thing that really depresses me is the thought that I may never get to meet someone special. It feels like the prospect of romance is zero for me.

Are there ways for autistic people to meet and build relationships?

https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/81265493

Clive, Barking

Thank you Clive for your kind words.

A good programme to watch on Netflix where my Overseas Ambassador Dani Bowman is taking part in is ‘Love on the Spectrum. ‘

There is also useful information on the Ambitious about Autism website. They offer a UK wide platform for autistic young people aged between 13 and 25 providing a safe online space to connect and understand your autistic identity. It also features ‘Relationships and Intimacy My way’ plus lots of resources.

Wishing you lots of luck in finding love x 

Anna

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We are so thrilled that artist Alastair BlasterArtz has donated this out of this world statue to Annakennedyonline Art and Autism show

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He has collaborated with 2Shades Steven Smith who has written the words and here is why.

This little bit of art might be different even out of this world.

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Art Alastair Blaster words Steven Smith

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Art Alastair Blaster words Steven Smith  

“We are all born as blank canvases; hate, racism, and a lack of understanding are learned.”
How you choose to see the world and create the tapestry of your life is up to you.
Blanky is here to “Make Earth Safe Again.”


In another universe, under a different sun, there was a planet much like Earth called Alacritas. It was a world of lush tropical forests, crystal-clear lakes, and unpolluted seas. The people of Alacritas lived in harmony, where kindness and tolerance were deeply ingrained in their way of life. Their homes were built to exist in perfect balance with nature, and even in their cities, the air remained clean and pure.

The Alacritans were far more advanced than humans. Meditation and self-healing were essential practices, and their very beings were composed of energy molecules, allowing many to heal themselves from illness. Some possessed extraordinary abilities, such as telepathy and body transformations, harnessing the sun’s rays to bring goodness to their planet and others. While there were occasional exceptions, as the saying goes, “one bad apple”—but that is another story.

You could say it was a utopia—until they arrived.

The people of Olethros came claiming peace, seeking to live in harmony with the Alacritans. But the sun did not welcome them. Almost immediately, it burned their skin a bright orange, making them stand out. Rumours spread that their own planet had been devastated by pollution, war, and slavery.

It soon became clear that the orange ones had not come as friends but as conquerors. They sought to strip Alacritas of its rich minerals, enslave its people, and channel their energy into restoring their own dying world.

The peaceful Alacritans were unprepared for battle. Their civilization, built on unity and respect, was nearly wiped out. Only a few survived—those who could transform or scatter their molecules to avoid detection.

The Olethrans ravaged the planet like ants devouring sugar. Within a year, there was nothing left. In desperation, one Alacritan, Blanky, used his powers to escape. Transforming into pure energy, he fled into the cosmos in search of help. But as he left, Alacritas could take no more. The planet exploded, sending Blanky hurtling off course.


100 Years Later

Planet Earth

London, Waterloo

Patrick was fourteen, tall for his age, and loved playing basketball. From the window of his small  ground floor apartment, he watched the other kids on the court, longing to join them. He knew he had the talent to be a star player. But his mother, protective as ever, rarely let him out alone. She feared he would be bullied or misunderstood because of his autism.

One Saturday afternoon, his mother had a friend over and asked them to watch Patrick while she ran errands in Stratford. With their eyes glued to The Real Housewives, they barely noticed Patrick, assuming he was immersed in his video game as usual.

But today was different. Quietly, Patrick put down the controller and crept toward the door. His apartment, on the ground floor, was only 200 yards from the basketball court. As he stepped outside, excitement surged through him. The sun’s rays warmed his face as he gently closed the door behind him and ran toward the court.

But then—he tripped.

As he hit the ground, something surrounded him, unlike anything he had ever seen. A strange, shifting cloud engulfed his body, sending tingles through his skin. As the mist dispersed, a small figure emerged.

Patrick couldn’t believe his eyes.

Before him stood a tiny being—completely blank, as if made of smooth, featureless clay. It pointed a stubby finger at Patrick’s baseball cap. Amused, Patrick handed it over. The moment the creature touched the fabric, the hat transformed into the same clay-like substance as its body.

Then, to Patrick’s shock, the small figure spoke.

“I am Blanky. Your planet needs me, or it may suffer the same fate as mine.”

Patrick stared, wide-eyed.

“I need sunlight to regain my strength,” Blanky continued. “With your help, I can transform and protect those who are hated and discriminated against. I have chosen you, Patrick, because you are special. For now, my body is just a canvas. Put me in your pocket, and let’s go play ball.”

Patrick didn’t hesitate. He gently scooped up Blanky and tucked him into the pocket of his jacket.

“I’ll tell you more soon,” Blanky assured him.

Patrick knew he had just made a special friend—one he would have to keep secret for now.

What neither of them realised was that Blanky had maybe arrived years too late.

An Orange One had already landed on Earth. 

Copy Right Steven Smith 

Anna Kennedy Online in Association with Firepit Art Gallery CIC 
Presents Their Inaugural

🎨

 “AUTISM & ART SHOW” 

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Launching May 22nd with an Exclusive VIP Red Carpet Event

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 Exhibition Runs Until May 27th
“For people on the autism spectrum, art is a powerful medium that encourages self-expression.”
Anna Kennedy Online, in collaboration with the Firepit Art Gallery , is proud to present the first-ever “Autism & Art Show. “This exciting event showcases incredible artwork from autistic artists and their allies, with all profits supporting the charity Anna Kennedy Online.
Art is more than just a passion—it serves as a therapeutic outlet, offering solace and joy to many individuals on the autism spectrum. With great enthusiasm, Anna Kennedy OBE, charity patron Steven Smith, and Firepit Art Gallery founder Markus Jake invite you to celebrate and support these talented artists.

✨

 Featured Artists Include:
Annemarie Bickerton | Piluca Camino Alcon | Chris Wild | Alastair Blaster
Are you an artist on the autism spectrum or an ally who wishes to contribute? We welcome donations of artwork or a percentage of sales to support this meaningful cause. It is your chance to showcase your work at the most happening gallery in London.

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 To donate art or get involved, please contact:
Steven Smith – spman@btinternet.com

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 Get Your VIP Night Tickets Below!
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(Other exhibition dates are free to attend, but donations to the charity are greatly appreciated.)

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 Event Location:
Firepit Art Gallery CIC 
Firepit Gallery
No.2, Upper Riverside,
10 Cutter Ln, Ground Floor Unit,
Greenwich Peninsula London SE10 0XX

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 Learn More & Support the Charity

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Unleash Confidence through Acting: A Women & Non-Binary Workshop

Louise Osbourne is set to conduct an ‘Act As If You‘ workshop in Birmingham and London in March to bring a fresh perspective to acting
Who knew you could perform your way into reclaiming the real you?
Louise Osbourne with a student in her class, Acting For Screen in Birmingham

Actor and acting coach, Louise Osbourne has combined the art of acting with building self-confidence into a workshop called ‘Act As If You’ specifically for women and non-binary people.

The course focuses on nurturing the inner self and gathering communication tools to thrive in personal and professional environments.

Louise seems to have cracked the code with her expertise to empower women and non-binary people to find their voice through acting and improv.

Louise said, “For 14 years I’ve been doing acting classes in Birmingham for people from 16 upwards all levels of ability and what I noticed was that men and women but definitely mainly women would come to my class not necessarily to go down the path of trying to get an agent and trying to book acting jobs and auditions, but they had lost their identity. Whether that was from marriage or children, and Birmingham is a very Asian multicultural city so a lot of it’s from marriage and not working anymore, they’d have their children or their children would be a little bit older and they’d come to my acting class, not thinking about acting but actually because they gain confidence.”

Before she came back to Birmingham in 2011 to become an acting coach, she had a blistering career in the States as an actor and worked with several award-winning actors.

During this time she noticed that some pretty big names in Hollywood were still nervous first day on the set and found it interesting.

Louise said, “I’ve worked with Catherine Zeta-Jones and Warren Beatty and Diane Keaton and Goldie Hawn and everybody’s nervous, everybody! It was mind-blowing for me because I was like, there’s no way these seasoned Oscar winning actors are nervous but everybody’s afraid they’re not gonna be believable. I think sometimes it’s almost harder for them because they’ve got to do better than their last best show, because they’ve already reached a level and your next thing has to top it or else you’re gone.”

Louise Osbourne

This helped her identify that a more holistic approach was needed to uplift one’s confidence to play any role in life.

As a founder herself and an advocate for inclusion, Louise felt called to blend her experience to help women and non-binary people become strong leaders.

Her friend, Samantha Grierson, who has contributed generously through her art to the LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent communities in Birmingham, saw great potential in Louise’s mission to build a safe environment for women and non-binary people to express themselves freely.

She helped Louise bring her vision to life and continues to support and set up this acting workshop with her.

The primary aim of this workshop is to go beyond acting and dig deeper, let the soul’s voices dance and acknowledge the core identity. 

Louise added, “It’s not even about the acting it’s about taking the mind off the inhibitions and you can get that through playing say improv games, I’ll give them really interesting fun scenarios and I’d roll the camera, they’d have no scripts and they just have to play along. Sometimes at the beginning they’d be very quiet, let other people do the talking and then after a couple of weeks they’d find their place, find their voice and then they’d interject. And then I’d say to the rest of the class that improvisation is about giving and taking. You don’t need to fill every silence, silence is real life, let the silence be. Silence is where things brew from.”

Louise’ students in Birmingham

The last line couldn’t be more true as we all prepare in our silence to present our “best’ selves on various occasions.

It’s almost like an inner dialogue or conflict that needs to stretch out thin until our minds can finally be satisfied with a fitting approach. So much of this is caused by overthinking, social anxiety and in some cases, cultural upbringing and sexual identity as well.

Women and non-binary people have struggled to assert their voices in male dominant environments. They feel dismissed, overlooked and often forgotten. 

Louise’s workshop provides the perfect platform for participants to train their inner voice and not feel ashamed to speak up. And to become comfortable with the idea of voicing out their needs and wants to the fullest.

Louise continued, “We have had so much stuff holding us back as females and non-binary that it’s time to kind of step up and speak for ourselves. My belief is that if we all have that inner confidence that we do deserve a seat at this table and feel important from within, it won’t feel like we’re there just to tick a box.

I think that’s what we need to get our heads around, we need to make sure that we are not sitting at that table because they have promised the shareholders that they’re more inclusive. It’s like oh yeah we’ve got a non-binary, tick! We’ve got a woman, tick! But no voice? Screw that. We need to make sure that if we’ve got a place at the table that our voice is just as heard as everybody else around that board.”

Louise brings a rather powerful yet light-hearted approach to trigger a change that women and non-binary people can utilise as a launch-pad to acquire any position in our society or the corporate world.

Acting isn’t always a piece of cake but what is capitalism without a little performance? In the famous words of a TED talker I don’t remember, “You have to fake to not only make it, but become it.”

The art of performance is used to churn out versions of oneself that were suppressed, Louise intends to unwrap those gifts that reside within. 

By urging her audience to create their own compelling narrative, uniqueness comes to life with a little artistic direction, reassurance and a whole lot of fun.

Behind the scenes of Acting For Screen

Louise added, “There’s got to be a lot of laughs in my class, I want people to leave feeling confident but have fun. It’s also about using the fear, switching the fear to be excited about the story you want to tell. So you switch the fear to what you’re pitching about, what your journey is, why should I be telling this story. Why now? At the beginning of the classes I will definitely ask everybody what they want to get out of it and then work with them individually on creating a monologue that’s going to fit into their pitch about their journey. For the first half of the day it’s just going to be improv, it’s just going to be exercising, not thinking about business or anything.

In LA, I’d tell them yeah you’re a teacher, you’re the boys in the class, you’re casting for Matilda. And one of the little boys in the class nailed Matilda, he knew all the songs, he knew everything. He told me he wants to be Matilda but his dad doesn’t want him to be so and then I’ll just roll the camera and it’s really interesting because they have to act. Whether they feel that way or not they still have to go with it and take on that character. Afterwards there’s such a big sigh because it’s not who they are, it’s a different character. Sometimes I make them play two businessmen, and they both end up crying. It’s funny the stuff it brings up. They go, I can’t believe I was crying! A lot of stuff comes to the surface and then you’re way more relaxed and you get more involved in it. I think fear is something, if you switch it, it’s something that can be propelled by you.”

Louise Osbourne mentoring her students

As humans we have a tendency to overestimate the power of fear in our lives. We almost think it’s superior to us and without even trying, we admit defeat and live out our lives not knowing what could’ve been.

Acting as an art-form in general requires an individual to become friends with the chaos lingering inside. There’s a lot of emotional release; you laugh, cry, scream, howl and it almost becomes essential that you feel. 

Louise aims to purge all of these emotions out to make women and non-binary people rediscover themselves as leaders of their own lives.

The purpose of ‘Act As If You’ is to break free from the ordinary constructs of gender roles and eliminate the limiting voices that were given to them without their permission.

For more information about the workshop, go here: https://www.actasifyou.com

A glimpse into Act As If You
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Men’s Fashion Secret Thomas Farthing 

When I had  just turned 13, my mother took me and my sister on a trip to London for the first time. What made this journey so magical, apart from the bustle and excitement of the big city, was entering the doors of Barbara Hulanicki’s Biba store. From its elegant black and gold art deco logo to its amazing layout and stunning fashions, Biba bowled me over.

The New York Dolls were performing that night in the Rainbow Rooms at the top of the shop. The food court was full of exotic delights I’d never heard of and my mum treated me to an apple strudel, with its deep apple and raisin filling sprinkled with cinamon and covered in in spiral pastry.

I got my first man bag and a trendy vest and I felt like a million dollars. I imagined I was Marc Bolan, and I counted the minutes I could escape dull Whitely Bay to live in this electric city, somewhere I felt for the first time that I truly belonged.

I did move to London and have had many adventures along the way. But there have been very few shops that gave me the buzz that Biba did all those years ago. Much as I love shopping, these days the excitement is sadly lacking, as chain stores take over our high streets with their dull product ranges and uniform window displays. Everything looks the same, although there are some exceptions, of course, such as the Harrods food hall.

But now I’ve discovered a fashion store that gives me the same thrill I experienced when I entered Biba as a teenager.

A few weeks ago, I was told that I would be modelling at the Ideal Home Christmas Show and needed to be fitted at the Thomas Farthing http://www.thomasfarthing.co.uk/ store in Museum Street, right by the British Museum. So one chilly autumn evening, fellow model Frankie Holloway and I took ourselves off to Bloomsbury.

Entering Thomas Farthing is like going back in time to a more elegant era. From the penny farthing leaning against the shop window to the classy Edwardian interior, it has a magical feel, like entering the dream kingdom of Narnia and a world away from the depressing chain store experience.

It’s packed full of delights for the stylish man and has some lovely touches, from the quirky duck decked out in a bow-tie to a set of battered luggage you imagine might have accompanied a young man about town on his grand tour of Europe in a bygone century.

Frankie and I couldn’t wait to try on their amazing and unique designs, which are hand made to the highest quality and finish.

Run by Adam Skyner and his stunning fiancee, Jenna Louise Hardy, the shop has been open for a year. Judging by the eclectic clientele, including tourists seeking the Downton Abbey look, it’s going to be a huge success.

Jenna and Adam have a skilful eye and quickly dressed Frankie in a style that I can only describe as Downton Abbey meets Al Capone – the only thing missing was the violin case! But he looked amazing and loved the style.

It was my turn next and, being a 17 1/2 inch neck and 48 inch jacket, I am always a little nervous that I’ll look like a bulky bear if I have too many layers. That’s just how I felt on our first attempt at a fantastic winter tweed suit, but Jenna quickly jumped in as she realised I needed a more tailored look. She produced the most wonderful coat and Adam grabbed a shirt that fitted like a glove. It all came together and I just loved the finished look, which was topped off with a red bowler hat.

http://www.thomasfarthing.co.uk

Adam came from Stumper & Fielding in Portobello Road and he and Jenna clearly have a passion for what they do. Jenna even showed me how to wear my waistcoat with the last button undone, the traditional way it would have been worn by an Edwardian gentleman.

Needless to say, when we modelled Thomas Farthing’s clothes at the Christmas Ideal Home Exhibition for Angel Sinclair’s Models of Diversity http://www.modelsofdiversity.org/ the outfits had the audience applauding.

The store stocks classic Irish and UK designs, Loake, McGee, Gurteen, Peregrine, Hanan Fulton, as well as their own Thomas Farthing brand. 

Jack Eyers 

http://www.thomasfarthing.co.uk

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Heidi Gammon’s Christmas agony aunt column

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Happy Christmas, and it is cheer and  happiness for most but not for all. The festive season can raise the grinch and other family nightmares.

But do not fear! Good fairy agony aunt Heidi Gammon is waving her wand and will try to make it all better with her magical advice. 

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Hi Heidi,  

Happy Holidays. Can you help me? I have been seeing my boyfriend for a year now and we are in love. However, I have not introduced him to my family yet. One, he is very domineering (I like that) and never holds back on his opinions.  Two, he is covered in tattoos, hates dressing up and he is a drummer in rock band part time. My mum is super conservative and just about down with me being gay. She actually says that no one with tattoos are welcome in her home.   Mum rang the house, and he picked up and she invited him for Christmas! 

HELP please!!

Mike, Kingston.

Oh bless Mike, talk about being put between a rock and hard place. First of all, you should have dealt with this months ago if you care for boyfriend and mum. You say mum is just about ok with you being gay. Well, it sounds to me like she is making the right moves inviting your partner for Christmas.

If your partner loves you, it is time to sit down and tell him the issues about your mum. You say you like the fact he is dominant and opinionated. There is a difference between that and a narcissist. You let him be himself 364 days a year, but maybe he could think about you for one day, not be a different person but just tone it down a little. If he really cares about you and is not a narcissist he will understand. Until mum gets to know him, box clever and make this day about realising that you need some TLC in this area. Trust me, if he really cares he will work with you. If he can’t, I’ll tell you something he is not dominant, he is just not caring.

Next time you chat to mum, maybe give her a little pre-warning he might not be joining the conservative club any day soon. Just do some groundwork preparation before the big day. Remember: life is short and you need to be happy. Mike, those that say they love you should want the best for you, sometimes that means compromise. 

Happy Christmas my love, write and let me know how It goes. 


Dear Heidi, 

I like to party, but it is high days and low with me. Sheryl my fiancé loves it 24/7 but I am fine with that as she can go out with her gang, and I am not jealous or worried. We are having friends over for Christmas Day and we were going over the menu when she announced,  “I’ll get a few grams in for after”.  Honestly, I have had enough. The only White Christmas I want is on the ground. What do I say? 

Lisa, Chiswick.

Oh no Lisa, oh I have seen this so many times. The marching powder is no-one’s friend. Yes, there seems to be a honeymoon period for many who think it makes them invisible but like any false high, in the end there is always a price to pay. It destroys jobs, relationships and friendships,  not mention it robs your bank account. Once it gets its claws into you, for many there is no escape. Yes, there are those who partake on high and low days, who seem in control like yourself. But Sheryl sounds like she might be heading for a fall. You need to simply say no!  That’s not the Christmas you want. Make your views clear and it might give her a shock, or maybe she’s already hooked and this is the bit she is looking forward to on Christmas day. Then she may need help, but time to realise it’s a slippery slope, and you being an enabler won’t end well .


Hello Heidi, 

How are you, love the column. Now there is no excuse, but I kissed my best friend’s husband on a drunken outing when my bestie was away. It has been over six months I have not seen him or mentioned it to my friend. We are all spending Christmas together this year.  I have not seen my friend’s husband since. It is going to be super awkward. What should I do? Maybe call him and chat about what happened?

Dylan, Brighton. 

Sweetie, if it was just a kiss get over it. People are human and drink is horrible when it comes to making a fool of ourselves. Unless you’re not telling Heidi the whole story, move on and put it behind you. Or if the kiss meant more to you than you’re saying, maybe have word with yourself. He has not been in contact with you since the drunken kiss so perhaps he does not remember it. Take Heidi’s advice: do not do party postmortems and stop making a mountain out of a mole hill. Enjoy your Christmas xxx 

Happy Holidays, Heidi 


Dear Heidi,

My partner Alisha is just gorgeous and we’ve been together for six months. She came out as lesbian late in life, having been married for twenty years.  She has two teenage kids and they are coming for Christmas. Heidi I am terrified. I do not do kids and how do I act? They are very important to Alisha. 

Love Diana. 

Hi Diana, it is not a couple of hyenas coming for Christmas, it is two teenagers (perhaps more terrifying at times). No Diana, can I tell you how to handle it? Be yourself, treat them with respect and take an interest in them, listen and you will be surprised. Please have some basic structure of your expectations to staying in your home as you would with anyone coming to stay. But do not come over like a prison guard. Just try and have fun; they will be as worried as you! 

Love, Heidi


Heidi will be back in the New Year . You can also hear her on Gateway Radio https://www.gateway978.com/blogs/daytime/josie-gibson-reveals-the-most-mind-numbing-things-in-life Tuesday the 26th of November https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9UT6NDE0INI&t=4s and on Youtube.

You can find her on: https://www.counselling-foryou.co.uk/about-us

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Steven’s Viewz September column. 

Why I am with Esther Rantzen when it comes to euthanasia being allowed in the UK

Inspirational Esther Rantzen and the incredible Martin Annand

News of the controversial suicide pod being used for the first time in Switzerland really caught my attention. The device allows the person in it to take their own life by pressing a button. The concern, even in Switzerland where euthanasia is legal, is that the pod functions without medical assistance. 

It also triggered a memory of when I was asked to take a friend to Switzerland, and I nearly did…

It was a beautiful sunny day and my former partner, of twenty years and friend for twenty more Martin Annand and I were sitting in the leafy London Garden opposite where he lived. 

He squeezed my hand and said, 

“Steven, please take me to Switzerland, let’s arrange it today.” 

The wonderful Martin Annand RIP 20th Of February 1944 – 9th of August 2021

We had been up most of the night. Martin had been in agony; he was terminally ill with cancer that had moved into the spine. He had sailed through hormone treatment and apart from the odd hiccup, chemotherapy had been giving us hope that a miracle would happen or at least extended his life, but we had had some bad news, and the chemotherapy had stopped working. He had moved on to radiotherapy and that was a whole new ball game. The illness was turning him quickly into a shell of himself. 

Helping was a battle as his new partner was unreasonable, a bully and often hysterical. I was up against people who were all “experts. A distant relative thought running a ball up and down his spine and getting him to exercise was good, but would not look at the actual fact that it was the worst thing you could do for cancer in the spine.

All through his illness I was absolutely determined to stay stoic and a rock, not the hysterical mess I was in private. Too often I have seen people make their friend or partner’s illness be about them, with the poor soul consoling them. Now his current partner had taken two weeks holiday and reluctantly left me to look after him. It was an ideal time to take Martin to Switzerland.

However, it was hard at this point to hold back the tears. 

“Is that what you really want?” I asked him.

He had clearly done his homework and knew the price and exactly where to go. Pulling myself together and looking into his beautiful blue eyes I promised I would if he just gave it one more week. The doctors had said at the Royal Brompton that the night burns were quite a common side effect that should pass. 

Holding him in the shower and as he lay shaking in bed, I would have done anything to ease his pain. Assurances that this phase would pass, and that the treatment would allow him more time encouraged us to push on. 

To this day I am so sorry that I did not take him whilst he could still get on a plane. The horror that he endured no human being should go through. Why do we let a dog in distress die in dignity, yet our loves ones have to suffer? The religious right will tell you It is not God’s wish. Some God if he wants us to suffer.

“Suffer to come unto me “. Well, I cannot make sense of that.  It is time to allow those with no hope of living without excruciating pain to die on their own terms.

By the second week it was too painful for Martin to travel in a taxi let alone fly.  Then the current partner arrived back, and all was lost on the idea of euthanasia.

When there really is no hope, it is time to be kind and allow the terminally sick some release.  Next time someone I love asks me, I’ll do it on the spot.  I truly hope that if I were in that much pain with no chance of recovery that someone would do the same for me. 

https://www.dignityindying.org.uk/why-we-need-change/dignitas/

https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/

“Do not look back in anger” I can’t wait for Oasis to be back on!

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If there is one thing that bemuses me it’s being put in a box because of my sexuality. 

As a gay man I have heard it all over the years, including the presumption that I must be filled with excitement that Kylie is touring next year. No! I honestly would not cross the road to watch her, and I find “Padam Padam” one of the most irritating songs of all time.

Sure, she has a huge gay following. I remember two gay men jumping with excitement in the changing room of the gym exclaiming, “Oh my God we are seeing Kyle tonight, she’s such a survivor! ” And that was before the breast cancer. I have heard she is a lovely person, but she’s just not my taste in music. 

Later at the Troubadour café the waiter enquired if me and my partner were going to see Kylie. After replying definitely not, he smiled and said, “Good to hear it, have a drink on me!” 

Sure, I like Madonna; she is a true artist. Now Bowie, Lou Reed, Nina Simon or a night at the Royal Opera are my tastes in music. 

What I am excited about is Oasis coming back. Liam Gallagher is brightly funny and a night out with him would be way up on my list rather than the gay Divas of music. Oasis marks an era, and a generation of people want to celebrate the band and re- live that experience for just for one night.

Their music is original, and they are a dying breed of rock star. The Manchester lads may not be the wild boys of the past, but every time Liam pops up on a show, he makes me laugh and he is by far a much better interview than most. 

That’s what entertainment is all about. My friend Pam I know not to dare ring during the football or come to that rugby, cricket, darts season, tiddlywinks… If for a moment music, sport or something else can transport you to a happy place or bring a beautiful memory back to life for you, then whatever gives you that enjoyment is your business. 

I, of course, respect everyone who can’t get Kylie “out of their head”, but come on, Liam and Noel are really something to get excited about. 

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Autism’s Got Talent 

Yes, it is that time of year again so please come see me and 2shades columnist Dr Anna Kennedy OBE on 12th October at the Mermaid theatre. Gateways Radio Aston Avery will be one of the main presenters introducing some incredible acts.  

This star-studded spectacular show will showcase amazingly talented performances by adults and children with autism. The performers, which consist of singers, actors, musicians, magicians, poets and dance troupes, will fly the flag for autism and show what people with autism are capable of. Autism’s Got Talent provides a platform and fantastic opportunity to replace negative aspects with hope, fun, laughter and inclusion. This showcase is unique to any other project across the world.

Most of the acts have springboarded into exclusive opportunities. The audience feels a rare emotion of hope and belonging, part of a unique network, and understanding that anything is possible. Every year promises a showcase of a wide variety of performers. In previous years, there has been a stand-up performer, harpist, rapper, young author, acclaimed ballet dancer, opera singer.

The concept of Autism’s Got Talent is based solely on inclusion, and there needs to be more, which is why we have started roadshows. Autism’s Got Talent is an annual event that grows in popularity each year and has firmly cemented its status as a leading charity and autism event.

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE and me .

Supported in the past by celebrities including Kacey Ainsworth, Richard Mylan, Dame Esther Rantzen, Carrie and David Grant, Debbie Moore OBE, the late Ian Royce, Dr Pam Spurr, Mitch Winehouse, Loose Women Star Denise Welch, Caprice, Luke Friend, Tony Discipline (BBC Eastenders), and Emma Noble.

Autism’s Got Talent

Date: October 12th, 7:00-10:30PM

The Mermaid
2 Puddle Dock
London EC4V 3DB

Finally it is just wonderful to see that “Body Dysmorphia ” in reverse is alive and well.

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Heidi Gammon’s PRIDE Agony Aunt Column.

Heidi Gammon, 2Shades and Gateway Radio’s agony aunt, answers your questions this Pride month.

Dear Heidi 

I stumbled upon your column by accident. My daughter Is gay, and I have found it very hard to accept. First of all, I am catholic, and her lifestyle is not acceptable to my faith.

Trust me Heidi I love my daughter, but I am really struggling to accept her girlfriend who she has lived with for four years and won’t have her in the house. She looks like a man, and I find it embarrassing when people see her. My daughter says that they plan to have children and that breaks my heart. Now she says she won’t see me if I do not accept her life and partner. Having tried counselling already what can I do? Losing my daughter is not an option. 

Vicky, South End 

Dear Vicky 

This makes me very sad. Please be assured I have total respect for others’ beliefs. It is great you tried counselling but maybe you did not go the right one.  With all due respect, everything you are saying is homophobic. If you truly love your daughter, you will embrace her and love her as a mother should. Who cares what people think of the person who loves your daughter?  You need to respect who your daughter is.  Really, I understand your pain but it’s time to let go of that mindset. Who wants to be around someone who judges and discriminates against them, especially when it is a person that is supposed to love them? It may be an idea to try counselling as a family https://www.rainbow-project.org/family-support/

You will lose your daughter if you continue down this path.

All my best, Heidi


Dear Heidi  

Please help me, I did a terrible thing. My husband wanted to spice things up and bring another person into the bedroom. He did not want an open relationship so, with trepidation we went ahead with a guy we met online. It was fun and we saw him a few times. 

Really Heidi I thought that was it but having bumped into this guy in town, we started to see each other behind my husband’s back as he said he’s not really into him. He has asked me to go on holiday with him. Having agreed and telling my husband it is work related, now I am getting cold feet. What can I do?

Mike, Brighton 

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Oh, my dear Mike, what a mess. 

Really, I am all for those who want to try different things but boundaries must be in place after a lengthy conversation. Although it’s not for me, many couples have open relationship and experiment. When you invite another person into your relationship you are opening a pandora’s box. Be careful what you wish for I say. 

It sounded like you thought you were happy. Bringing someone else in could have unearthed that your relationship may not have been what you thought. The fact you’re even thinking of going on holiday behind your husband’s back tells me things are not right. It is time to ask yourself how you see your future. Time to sit down and talk to your husband, after all he opened the box leading you to want to deceive and break the trust. Without trust there is no relationship.   Sorry if that sounds harsh.

Love Heidi 


Dear Heidi, 

My gay brother is a hoot, but he won’t stop flirting with straight guys.Now he is flirting with my husband. Alex my husband thinks it is funny but it is annoying and embarrassing for me. Having put my foot down my brother is not speaking to me.  What can I do?

Kirsty, Essex  

You’re kidding me, Kirsty.  You’re quiet right, straight or gay, there is a limit to the flirting game and you have every right to be annoyed. It was right to share your feelings. 

It sounds like your brother is a bit of an exhibitionist and they can be fun. Exhibitionism can be a drug and you can get hooked. He needs to think of your feelings too. Trust me he will be back in touch. You sound like a great sister so just ignore him till he comes to you (and he will) . But stick to your guns when he does appear licking his wounds.

Love Heidi 


Dear Heidi 

Love the column, please can you help me?   I am so frightened to ask anyone out as my fear of rejection is so great. No-one asks me out and so my life has no one romantic in it. How can overcome my fear? 

Love 

Andy, Leeds  

Andy my love, my heart goes out to you. Ok I need you to shake yourself down. 

You can go to an lGBTQQ+ councillor https://pinktherapy.com or if you cannot afford that, the NHS offer free talking therapy sessions . I am taking it you have tried online dating; you do not have to go on GRINDER  or Facebook, and many other sites offer a softer approach to dating . Or why not join an lgbtqq+ group https://www.mesmac.co.uk/our-services/leeds/support-social-groups

Here is a selection in Leeds. It is a nice way to meet people in non-sexual way that could lead to romance. 

Happy Pride Andy, I hope love comes your way .

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