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2025 UK LGBT+ History Month Finale: Legendary Children [All of Them Queer]

Last week, I joined some of the legendary children from the original Pride at the Curzon Cinema Bloomsbury to watch the powerful documentary Legendary Children (All of Them Queer), directed by Rob Falconer.

The film had its highly anticipated London premiere, playing to a an enthusiastic audience. Serving as the closing event for LGBT+ History Month, the screening was followed by an engaging Q&A session featuring renowned human rights activist Peter Tatchell.

Tatchell expressed his hope that the film would serve as both a historical reflection and a call to action for new generations of activists.

“I hope this film demonstrates that real social change is possible and inspires others to take up activism,” Tatchell stated. “It’s a story of then and now. I always say, even if you can’t be on the front lines, you can still make an impact—just by amplifying the struggles and voices of LGBT+ people across the world.”

His remarks followed a strong statement from the International Committee for LGBTQ+ History Months, a coalition representing 16 such initiatives globally. The committee issued a scathing condemnation of the U.S. government’s recent efforts to systematically remove LGBTQIA+ resources, educational materials, and visibility from schools.

“The erasure of books, knowledge, historical records, and community groups has never led to anything positive,” they wrote, warning that “the actions of the Trump administration are emboldening other governments and institutions to follow suit.”

Filmed over two years, Legendary Children chronicles the lives and activism of the pioneers who helped establish the first UK Pride in 1972. Director Rob Falconer reflected on the film’s profound relevance, not only in light of the growing wave of anti-LGBTQIA+ sentiment in the United States but also due to the loss of many of the trailblazers featured in the documentary.

“We won’t see their like again,” Falconer said, acknowledging the passing of numerous activists who fought to carve out a space for LGBTQ+ rights in Britain and beyond. The film stands as both a tribute to their courage and a reminder of the ongoing fight for equality—one that remains as urgent today as it was five decades ago.

The second film, The Fragility of Freedom, follows an inspiring group of humanitarian secondary school students from Essex, Suffolk, and Vancouver, Canada, as they participate in The Dora Love Prize 2024.

Since its inception, The Dora Love Prize has engaged over 1,500 secondary school and college students in Essex, Suffolk, and beyond in a unique, youth-driven human rights initiative. Inspired by Holocaust survivor Dora Love, the project continues her lifelong mission to educate young people about the atrocities of the Nazi Holocaust. Dora’s goal was simple: to empower students with this knowledge so they could challenge identity-based prejudice, discrimination, marginalization, and violence in today’s world.

Founder Rainer Schulze explains, “The Dora Love Prize provides young people with knowledge beyond the school curriculum and the confidence to create positive change in the world around them. We invite you to ‘see the world differently.’”

Dora Love

I am not always on the same page as the wonder that is Peter Tatchell, but I am in awe of him and his work. His speech about stepping into other organizations and being a shining light is so important that 2Shades has decided to print it as a landmark speech.

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Peter Tatchell – March 5, 2025, Curzon Bloomsbury, London

*”To start with, I’d like to say that I had a very difficult choice tonight. I was also asked to speak at the U.S. Embassy in the solidarity protest with Ukraine and against Donald Trump’s withdrawal of aid from that country’s battle for self-determination.

What we are witnessing now is the rise of Russian and U.S. imperialism in alliance with each other to carve up Ukraine. Putin wants the territory; Trump wants the minerals. That is the new imperialism.

For LGBT+ Ukrainians, a Russian victory would be a devastating blow. It would mean the imposition of Russian-style laws on LGBT+ Ukrainians, never mind all the other civic and political repressions that would follow. The trade union movement in Ukraine would be dismantled, women’s rights campaigners would face severe repression, and so on. This is a critical moment where we must show the kind of international solidarity that the Gay Liberation Front demonstrated in the early 1970s. Back then, we stood with the people of Vietnam against U.S. aggression, with the people of Greece battling the Colonels’ junta, and with the people of Spain fighting the Franco dictatorship.

We saw our struggle as international, not just limited to LGBT+ rights but part of a broader democratic human rights movement.

So, to go back to your question—history shows that if you care about something, don’t just care, do something. Action equals life; silence equals death. We must get organized.

For young people who feel passionate, get involved with an organization that is making a difference. Many groups across Britain and around the world need financial support, online campaigners, and solidarity. Some young people I know make a point of attending Pride parades in repressive European countries like Georgia, Hungary, and Poland. They do this to show their support, and no one should underestimate the power of solidarity.

For people living under dictatorship or repression, knowing that others care is a massive morale boost. It’s psychologically uplifting.

The other thing I’d say is—don’t feel confined to LGBT+ movements. A lot of my work isn’t LGBT+ focused. I support the liberation movements in Indonesian-occupied West Papua, the Balochistan freedom struggle against Pakistan’s occupation, and the fight of the Arab Ahwazis in Iran against subjugation by Tehran. I don’t do this for LGBT+ reasons—I do it because they have a just freedom struggle, just like the people of Ukraine, Palestine, or anywhere else.

Because I’m openly gay, my support has forced many people in these communities to rethink their attitudes toward LGBT+ people.

Take Balochistan—it’s a very tribal, patriarchal, and, frankly, ‘backward’ society in terms of LGBT+ rights. But because I’ve been one of the champions of their freedom cause for the last two decades—getting them huge media coverage—I’m now well known there. Many people have told me, ‘I used to hate homosexuals. I believed all the propaganda. But you stood with us, and now I’m rethinking my attitude.’

That’s incredibly important.

The same applies across the board. I’ve been campaigning for 50 years in support of Palestine’s right to a homeland. Again, as an openly gay man, I’ve had countless Muslim people tell me, ‘I used to hate gays, but your support over the decades has changed my mind.’

So, if you’re young, get involved in these movements as an openly LGBT+ person. Show that we stand with them. At first, they may not stand with us, but if you persist, not only will you be supporting a just cause, but you’ll also be changing hearts and minds along the way.”*

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Spoiling It for the Others

Why “Dead Life” Will Seriously Affect Us All

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IyPhuLb4EZQ Peter Tatchell fights for us all to be who we are .

We are living in an era where serious fraud is celebrated, and the tale of The Emperor’s New Clothes feels more like reality than fiction. If you dare to point out the truth—that the emperor is, in fact, naked—you might find yourself in court. It’s an utterly unhinged world we live in.

I am at a lovely lunch in the heart of Essex, a place synonymous with spray tans, hair extensions, Botox, and outrageously long lashes. To say the least, I fit right in. My gorgeous companion has abandoned extensions yet looks stunning, appearing even fresher and more youthful than the rest. She is what I would call real. When she did go the false route, she never told tall tales or passed them off as her own. She is genuine—in fact, we once joked about the extensions needing food parcels. If she had lied, I wouldn’t trust her.

So, when I recently noticed a trans woman using what I find to be the most troubling and manipulative card of all—the “Dead Life” card—I was deeply concerned. And now, everyone is expected to either accept her version of events or face being sued. This isn’t a joke—it’s a serious issue.

For those unaware, the “Dead Life” concept allows individuals who have transitioned to rewrite their past. Not only can they change their pronouns (I am totally with)  but in some cases, they can craft entire fictional histories for themselves—transforming their previous existence into something entirely unrecognisable. A bit like The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, where a whole new world is created from imagination.

Now, let me be absolutely clear: I have had the privilege of knowing many incredible, talented, and brave trans women. They have undergone their journeys to become their authentic selves, and in my eyes, they are now—rightfully—women. Interestingly, none of them have resorted to the “Dead Life” tactic. Instead, they have spoken openly about their lives, their struggles, and their triumphs, offering guidance and inspiration to others. One such example is the incredibly lovely India Willoughby, newsreader and presenter.

Gorgeous and talented India Willoughby and asset to us all and role model for the trans community.

However, let’s consider a different scenario. Suppose I told you that, at 16, I was an astronaut and had a torrid affair with Madonna. That would be an outright lie (all but  an amusing one). At 16, I was, like many others, just a regular teenager experiencing life. But here’s the difference: if I were to publish a book claiming such fabrications as fact, people would rightfully call it out as nonsense.

Madonna called for you to “Express yourself ” not lie .

So why is it that a trans woman can write a memoir claiming that, at 17, she was a stunning young woman having an affair with a well-known pop star (now deceased)—when, in reality, at that time, she was a 17-year-old boy with acne? The claim that she auditioned for a well-known girl band when she would have needed a good shave for that is also questionable. But what’s really worrying is the superimposition of pictures of herself as a girl into family photos when, in fact, she was a boy.

How can publishers allow this and sell it to an unsuspecting public? It is deceitful. Should we sue?

Even newspapers are reporting such blatant fabrications as truth. It makes Trump’s propaganda look like child’s play. As a community are we not all up in arms about his lies ? 

Lies are not facts. Yet, we live in a time where, if The Emperor’s New Clothes were rewritten today, the boy who dared to shout, “He’s naked!” would be the one dragged into court. It’s insanity. Serious fraud is being rewarded, and if you speak out against it, you are painted as the villain.

Now, I am sure that many trans women who invoke the “Dead Life” narrative are simply living their lives quietly and not publishing books filled with fabricated stories. But as a community, we are in danger.

On 5 March, Legendary Children (All Of Them Queer) screened for the first time in London to a sold-out crowd. The screening marked the end of LGBT+ History Month and was followed by a Q&A with human rights campaigner, Peter Tatchell, who said he hopes the film inspires others towards activism.

Peter Tatchell made an incredibly insightful point. He doesn’t just work within LGBTQ+ charities; he also volunteers in a range of organizations, including those within religious communities that have historically been homophobic. By leading through example—by showing up, engaging, and being part of these spaces—he changes minds. That is real activism.

A humble hero Peter Thatchell

Many trans people do not wish to be part of the LGBTQ+ community, and that is their choice. However, for now, they remain within it. They are welcome. But honesty must remain at the core of any community. Without honesty, we lose trust, and once trust is broken, everything begins to crumble.

When a con artist exploits the “Dead Life” card to fabricate a fictional past and present it as fact, we all suffer. We need to hold individuals accountable. My hope is that someone exposes this person for who they truly are—so that they may serve as an example to others not to go down the same route,

Because, at the end of the day, she is spoiling it for the others.

The incredible Boy George and 2hades favourite David Hoyle a star .

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STEVEN LOOKS AT THE BRITS 2025

The legendary Charliexcx

WHY I JUST LOVED THE BRIT AWARDS THIS YEAR

Yes, the BRIT Awards can sometimes be a cringe-fest, and let’s be honest—Jack Whitehall is no Ricky Gervais, no matter how hard he tries. But, without a doubt, he’s a far better choice than some of the past hosts. One thing is certain: the BRITs always pack a punch.

Who could forget 1996, when Jarvis Cocker crashed the stage during Michael Jackson’s Earth Song? Jarvis, who was arrested for the stunt, is sadly remembered more for that moment than his music. And Michael? Well… let’s leave that discussion for another time. Then, of course, there was Madonna’s infamous tumble off the stage in 2015—proof that even the Queen of Pop isn’t immune to a high-fashion mishap or falling iff her high horse.( we all love her )

Jarvis Bares him bum at the Britts

But as I settled in to watch the 2025 BRIT Awards, it dawned on me just how much incredible talent we have in this country. How the hell do we not run away with the Eurovision crown every year? It took a Canadian to win last time, though, let’s be honest, the brilliant Sam Ryders  was robbed.

This year’s BRITs, however, were a whole new ball game. From start to finish, it was pure magic, and I realized just how out of touch I am with some of today’s hottest artists.

THE HIGHLIGHTS

JACK WHITEHALL—ACTUALLY FUNNY?

Two tea bags or three ? Jack Whitehall does a great job .you almost want to teabag him

Believe it or not, Jack Whitehall was actually hilarious this year. From start to finish, he nailed it. His monkey joke about snorting PG Tips? Priceless. And his parents on the red carpet? Pure comedy gold.

Equally amusing was Danny Dyer’s voice—so artificially butch you’d think he’d accidentally wandered into a gay orgy and slipped on the lube and was trying to convince everyone he was straight.

THE PERFORMANCES

The real magic, though, was in the performances. There wasn’t a single act I watched that didn’t blow me away—and I say that as someone with pretty eclectic taste in music.

The production was simply stunning. Kicking off with Sabrina Carpenter was a bold choice, even if she visually borrowed inspiration of 90% of her act from Madonna (who, let’s not forget, also did the kilted guards routine a while back).

Jade Thirlwall, after winning Best Pop Act, delivered an iconic performance of Angel of My Dreams. Though, who on earth thought turning her into Gemma Collins with a blonde wig was a good idea? It distracted from what was her first solo BRITs performance since stepping away from Little Mix.

Jade gives an iconic performance but ditch the blonde wig .

The undeniable star of the night was Charli XCX. I’ll admit, I only really knew of her because she’s engaged to George Daniel from The 1975 (don’t scream at me), but after doing some homework—wow. What an exciting and uniquely talented artist. Her album BRAT is already shaping up to be legendary. It’s a shame she didn’t perform, but honestly, watching her down espresso martinis, sip bubbly, and cuddle up to a hunk? A girl after my own heart.

An expresso martini and bubbly and a hunk on her arm my kind of gal Charliexcx

THE SHOW-STEALERS

Teddy Swims could wear his old bedding on stage, and I’d still be mesmerised by that voice. #Awesome. The award for humility, however, goes to Myles Smith—definitely one to watch.

Teddy Swims a mesmerising voice .

Stormzy who did not perform Ezra Collective delivered brilliant performance, proving yet again why they’re some of the best musicians out there. But guys, let’s dial down the God talk a bit—unless, of course, He can explain why Trump is still looming over the White House and why the world is in the state it’s in. A simple “ta” would suffice.

Sam Fender? What a Northern powerhouse. Pure talent, down-to-earth, and humble—just what we love to see. The Last Dinner Party also delivered an incredible performance, proving they are a force to be reckoned with.

And last, but certainly not least, a shoutout to the absolutely addictive Lola Young, who performed Messy—a song that will no doubt become an anthem for a generation. I truly cannot wait to see what she does next; she’s got me hooked.

A. Star is born Lola Young we are all addicted to you .

FINAL THOUGHTS

This year’s BRITs were, without a doubt, the best yet. A true celebration of the sheer amount of talent we have in this country. We are incredibly lucky to have these artists pushing the boundaries of music and performance.

Here’s to 2026!

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Saturn’s Return: Conversations with a Planet

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This eerie planet changed my life. But what does Saturn have to do with anything?
Is it true what they say about Saturn’s Return and the transformation it brings?

If you know anything about astrology or retrogrades, you may be familiar with where I’m taking this. But for now let’s address the elephant in our solar system, the enigmatic Saturn.

Saturn is THE planet that shapes us into who we truly are and plays a role in our conscience for character development. These lessons come in mysterious forms and it’s upto us to catch it and break a pattern for the greater good.

However, if you don’t care for astrology, open your mind to the possibility that this work of fiction makes me a better human everyday.

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My conversations with Saturn:

I asked Saturn with its countless moons and icy rings, why must you pierce through my emotions so profusely? There’s only so much I’m allowed to feel in this civilised world or they will think I’m mental. For thinking too much and living too less.

Saturn whispered to me, “And who are they? Who are these people who made you think before you could act? Who’s stopping you from living?”

I choked at first, I felt uneasy that a voice in me cared to question me rather than defeat me. I said to him that it was the opinions given to me over the years by family, friends and lovers. My family struggles to take my personality out of the crib and I sought refuge from the devastating state of my family in my friendships and relationships.

Saturn corrected me and said, “As a child you take. As a child you respect those who take care of you and learn how to behave. Tell me, are you a child now? Will you continue to give your inner child the stage, or will you take the stage as an adult and create your own audience?”

I shuddered as the lifestyle I’ve lived so far seemed to be crashing at my feet. The inner child is my imagination. Am I holding on to the miseries of my past to justify the lack of effort in the present moment? 

I ask Saturn if the voices that linger in my mind are there to deceive me. Could they possibly be voices of others that are used on themselves as false wisdom?

Saturn smiled and said, “Who knows? Is it something you wish to know? Or forgo?”

Moments in my life where I understand what Saturn means when it says, let go. We live in a miracle

I was lost, am I just confusing myself? What is the point of knowing and how will I ever know? It’s all a silly guessing game and time spent worrying about minds that I can never read.

I’ve met some brave people along the way who embody the sayings, “Don’t worry be happy” or “Live your life to the fullest”. I feel grateful for these encounters because they show me that the path I’ve readjusted to seems to be working. And that my conversations with Saturn are real. 

It makes me wonder how they seem to do everything so effortlessly. How are they so live-laugh-love? I ask Saturn, what’s their secret?

Saturn answers plainly, “Today you could live your life to the fullest, tomorrow could be the worst day of your life. Be grateful for the day a light from the outside has been shown to you. On days when darkness takes over your speech, a simple memory of that light will bring back your words.”

I was in awe of the wisdom this mystical planet was inducing in me. It never felt like a voice that was trying to break me down to feel worthless, it was breaking down the unnecessary clutter in my mind to acknowledge my worth. 

As a person who loves decoding thoughts and emotions, judgement comes knocking on my door as a regular guest. But the kind of judgement I fear most is the one I have towards myself.

I worry that self-judgement is a silent epidemic which harbours resentment within oneself and blinds the vision enough to look at another as an object of gratification. Gratification of the seven deadly sins as they say.

With a curious mind I asked Saturn, is it even possible to overcome judgement of all kinds? Or must we learn to live with it and not allow it to yield its weapons?

Saturn agreed for the first time and added, “Judgement towards another is judgement towards oneself. Why step on someone’s toes when you fully intend to kick them on the chest? Either way, a spirit has been harmed, theirs and yours. And in the spirit of humanity, you have lost your way again. You find yourself ten steps behind but remember, forgiveness never keeps count and always moves forward.”

The funny thing about wisdom or guidance through any source is how one perceives it and implements it in their own lives. The intention which I write this article will never be reflected the way I wish for it to; but it will resonate with some, one or maybe none.

But perhaps that’s the journey of self-discovery. And Saturn, with its nonchalant advice, comes to teach you that and more if you care to listen carefully.

Here’s a lovely song by international pop-star, SZA who talks about her journey with Saturn.

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Thomas Farthing

Thomas Farthing Simon Barnes pictures .


Men’s Fashion Secret Thomas Farthing 

When I had  just turned 13, my mother took me and my sister on a trip to London for the first time. What made this journey so magical, apart from the bustle and excitement of the big city, was entering the doors of Barbara Hulanicki’s Biba store. From its elegant black and gold art deco logo to its amazing layout and stunning fashions, Biba bowled me over.

The New York Dolls were performing that night in the Rainbow Rooms at the top of the shop. The food court was full of exotic delights I’d never heard of and my mum treated me to an apple strudel, with its deep apple and raisin filling sprinkled with cinamon and covered in in spiral pastry.

I got my first man bag and a trendy vest and I felt like a million dollars. I imagined I was Marc Bolan, and I counted the minutes I could escape dull Whitely Bay to live in this electric city, somewhere I felt for the first time that I truly belonged.

I did move to London and have had many adventures along the way. But there have been very few shops that gave me the buzz that Biba did all those years ago. Much as I love shopping, these days the excitement is sadly lacking, as chain stores take over our high streets with their dull product ranges and uniform window displays. Everything looks the same, although there are some exceptions, of course, such as the Harrods food hall.

But now I’ve discovered a fashion store that gives me the same thrill I experienced when I entered Biba as a teenager.

A few weeks ago, I was told that I would be modelling at the Ideal Home Christmas Show and needed to be fitted at the Thomas Farthing http://www.thomasfarthing.co.uk/ store in Museum Street, right by the British Museum. So one chilly autumn evening, fellow model Frankie Holloway and I took ourselves off to Bloomsbury.

Entering Thomas Farthing is like going back in time to a more elegant era. From the penny farthing leaning against the shop window to the classy Edwardian interior, it has a magical feel, like entering the dream kingdom of Narnia and a world away from the depressing chain store experience.

It’s packed full of delights for the stylish man and has some lovely touches, from the quirky duck decked out in a bow-tie to a set of battered luggage you imagine might have accompanied a young man about town on his grand tour of Europe in a bygone century.

Frankie and I couldn’t wait to try on their amazing and unique designs, which are hand made to the highest quality and finish.

Run by Adam Skyner and his stunning fiancee, Jenna Louise Hardy, the shop has been open for a year. Judging by the eclectic clientele, including tourists seeking the Downton Abbey look, it’s going to be a huge success.

Jenna and Adam have a skilful eye and quickly dressed Frankie in a style that I can only describe as Downton Abbey meets Al Capone – the only thing missing was the violin case! But he looked amazing and loved the style.

It was my turn next and, being a 17 1/2 inch neck and 48 inch jacket, I am always a little nervous that I’ll look like a bulky bear if I have too many layers. That’s just how I felt on our first attempt at a fantastic winter tweed suit, but Jenna quickly jumped in as she realised I needed a more tailored look. She produced the most wonderful coat and Adam grabbed a shirt that fitted like a glove. It all came together and I just loved the finished look, which was topped off with a red bowler hat.

http://www.thomasfarthing.co.uk

Adam came from Stumper & Fielding in Portobello Road and he and Jenna clearly have a passion for what they do. Jenna even showed me how to wear my waistcoat with the last button undone, the traditional way it would have been worn by an Edwardian gentleman.

Needless to say, when we modelled Thomas Farthing’s clothes at the Christmas Ideal Home Exhibition for Angel Sinclair’s Models of Diversity http://www.modelsofdiversity.org/ the outfits had the audience applauding.

The store stocks classic Irish and UK designs, Loake, McGee, Gurteen, Peregrine, Hanan Fulton, as well as their own Thomas Farthing brand. 

Jack Eyers 

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Happy New Year from Anna Kennedy

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Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE first Column of 2025

Happy New Year! Let’s hope 2025 is a great year for us all. I’m busy with my team, as always. Among the many things we have lined up is The Autism Hero Awards, being held at the Holiday Inn, Regent’s Park, London on the 15th of March. You can find information on how to get tickets and sponsorship details at the bottom of this column.

As always, we also have the amazing Autism’s Got Talent later this year—audition tapes are welcome now!

In other news, our autism ambassador, Kieron Lee, is launching a neurodiverse musical education platform as his final major project for his BA (Hons) degree in Popular Music.

We’re also thrilled to announce that our patron, Steven Smith, along with the incredible Annemarie Bickerton, will be hosting the first-ever Autism Art Show, featuring artists on the autism spectrum and supporters of the charity. Money raised will go directly to the charity. This event will be held at the sensational gallery, The Fire Pit (https://www.firepit.art), from May 22 to May 25, 2025.

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE with one of her patrons Steven Smith ,

Please keep your questions coming into 2Shades magazine. I’ve been thrilled to join such a diverse and exciting publication!

Dear Anna,
Trust you’re well. My family loves your column. We were wondering: What do you think are the most common myths about people living with autism?

Dawn, Essex.

Thank you, Dawn, for your kind comments. Sadly, there are still a lot of autism myths out there.

Here is five common ones

5 Myths and Facts About Autism

Myth 1: Autism is caused by vaccines.

Fact: There is no scientific evidence linking vaccines to autism. Numerous studies have thoroughly debunked this myth. Autism is believed to be influenced by a combination of genetic and environmental factors, but vaccines are not one of them.

Myth 2: People with autism lack empathy.

Fact: Many individuals with autism experience empathy deeply, but they may express it differently. Some may have difficulty recognizing social cues, but this does not mean they lack feelings or care for others.

Myth 3: Autism only affects children.

Fact: Autism is a lifelong condition. While symptoms might present differently as people age, autistic adults continue to experience challenges and strengths associated with autism throughout their lives.

Myth 4: Everyone with autism has the same abilities and challenges.

Fact: Autism is a spectrum, meaning it affects individuals differently. Some may have significant support needs, while others may live independently and excel in various fields. No two autistic people are alike.

Myth 5: Autism can be cured.

Fact: Autism is not a disease and does not need to be “cured.” The focus is on acceptance, support, and enabling autistic individuals to thrive by embracing their unique perspectives and abilities.

Would you like to dive deeper into any of these points?

Here is a link with more Myths and Facts on the Ambitious About Autism website:
https://www.ambitiousaboutautism.org.uk/what-we-do/awareness/autism-myths-and-facts

Hope this helps.

Dear Anna,
My daughter is being labelled disruptive at school. She’s been diagnosed with autism and severe learning difficulties. Despite discussing this with the headteacher, she’s suggested that Mary, my daughter, not return this term and instead find a school more suited to her needs. Anna, I feel lost—what can I do, or who can I turn to for help?

Diana, Essex

Dear Diana, I feel your frustration.

Please do contact our charity website using our contact form at http://www.annakennedyonline.com. We can discuss the possible way forward. In the meantime, do some research on schools that may meet your daughter’s needs within an hour’s drive of where you live.

You will then be in a more informed position on what is available in your area. You could visit a few schools to get a feel for the services and resources they offer.

Dear Anna,
How does someone become part of Autism’s Got Talent? My son is super talented at playing guitar. He’s a little shy and unsure about auditioning. He’s also worried about encountering a harsh judge.

David, Edinburgh

Hello David,
Autism’s Got Talent is now in its 14th year and one of the highlights of our charity year.

This is a showcase of talented individuals performing at The Mermaid Theatre, London. Autism’s Got Talent is not a competition.

Please do watch our highlight videos on our charity YouTube channel.

You could also come along to the show in October to experience the magic. Share the experience with the audience made up of parents, friends of the performers, and members of the public who are regular supporters. Feel the magic and be inspired. Then send a tape in of your son performing . love Anna

Autism’s Got Talent.

Dear Anna,
My son is 19 and wants to start dating. He’s a lovely young man but has a stammer and lives with autism. I’m worried about how he’ll handle rejection. Is there a webpage or group where he can meet like-minded people?

Brenda, Norwich

Hello Brenda,
There are many dating sites now for autistic individuals.

Here are a few:

https://www.undateables.co.uk

https://autism.disabledmate.com

A popular Netflix docuseries, Love on the Spectrum, showcases autistic individuals navigating the world of dating. One of our charity’s overseas ambassadors is featured in series one and two.

In this romantic docuseries, people on the autism spectrum look for love and navigate the world of dating and relationships.
https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/81338328

Good luck!

Dear Anna,
I love your dancing! I’m 17 and want to learn to dance seriously. Living with autism has always made it feel challenging, but I’d like to get more involved. How did you learn?

Love, Melanie, Brighton

Hello Melanie,
Dance is a great way to stay fit and boost your mood and well-being. I started tap dancing at age 6 and fell in love with dance then. It definitely keeps you feeling young.

Join a local dance class and discover which dance style suits you best. There are also many dance classes online if this makes you feel more comfortable at first, then gradually progress to a dance studio.

Good luck and enjoy!

Anna Kennedy with her former Dance Partner Robin Windsor
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Scouting Unique Artists in Bangalore: Ragini Chatterjee

Ever wondered about artists in Bangalore?
Ragini Chatterjee transcends one’s expectations and the universal need to put her art out for people, she lets her soul paint
Ragini Chatterjee

I’m always in search of unique art and now that I’m back in my home city, I wanted to explore the world of artists in Bangalore.

I found Ragini Chatterjee in the depths of an Instagram stalking session on a page that promotes young artists in the city.

I was blown away by her ability to not only make me wide-eyed at her work on first glance, but also draw me into the intricacies of her art.

Being away from home and in the UK for a couple of years sidetracked my memory of the rich talent that exists within my own people. I’m so glad my stalking, I mean, research skills led me to Ragini’s mind palace, one that seems to hypnotise me in an instant.

I still can’t stop looking; I had to know the heart behind this enigma. And so I asked her some questions to get know who she is for you and for me.

When did you first recognise your talent? What was your first ever painting?

I’m not sure if it was “talent” or simply my overactive imagination that led me to painting. I spent most of my classes doodling, but my first “proper” drawing, one I remember being proud of, was a sketch of Aang from The Last Airbender. I think I was around 9 years old.

What does your art mean to you?

Art is how I process the world around me. Whether it’s a book, series, or movie I’m captivated by, expressing my excitement through art brings me peace. On a deeper level, art allows me to visualise insights about life that resonate with me. Sharing these pieces is fascinating because others often interpret them in ways that reflect their own experiences, creating a unique dialogue between the viewer and the work.

If you could vouch for other artists, what would your message be to the world about the importance of self-expression?

To anyone who feels deeply—whether you’re an artist or not—self-expression is vital. Whether through art, music, fashion, or dance, it’s a natural outlet that should be embraced. Suppressing this instinct can feel overwhelming, and letting it out often creates something beautiful. In today’s fast-paced world, self-expression serves as a poignant reminder of our shared humanity.

A portrait called ‘Mommy’

There’s an abundance of extraordinary talent such as yourself in India. I’ve come across many who feel overwhelmed by the competition in the creative industry and settle into different industries to survive. What are your thoughts on this? Does survival overrule passion? Or does it depend on how one perceives it?

I feel fortunate to create for myself, but I’d be lying if I said recognition didn’t motivate me. However, I wouldn’t describe the creative industry as “competitive.” This perspective probably stems from my choice not to pursue art as a full-time career. By separating my livelihood from my art, I’ve been able to enjoy the process without the pressure of survival, allowing my passion to thrive independently.

Who or what has inspired you to create your pieces?

Life inspires me—everything from a captivating colour scheme to an idea I need to visualise. For example, I painted Behind the Kitten to challenge the misconception that cuteness equates to weakness. In college, I explored the myth of Icarus to reflect on self-discovery and freedom. During the pandemic, I delved into Pandora’s myth, and more recently, I created a piece about self-care inspired by the idea that you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Explain the creative process behind your work. Is it a cathartic journey? How does it make you feel?

My creative process begins with a need to express something—whether it’s an idea that’s been simmering for weeks or an immediate fascination with a book, movie, or series. Once I find a reference photo, I dive in, spending anywhere from half an hour to a week on the piece. While creating is cathartic, I’m often preoccupied with achieving aesthetic beauty, which makes it challenging to feel fully satisfied with my work.

What do you wish for people to experience through your work?

I hope my art evokes a sense of connection and invites viewers to appreciate its aesthetic qualities.

Tell us about a response you’ve received about your art that made you feel happy or seen.

There isn’t a single comment that stands out, as my satisfaction primarily comes from how I feel about a piece. However, I enjoy hearing reactions like, “Wow, that’s so pretty.” I also love when people share their interpretations of my work—it’s fascinating how their perspectives differ from my own.

You’re currently in Paris. Has the cultural shift played any role in the expansion of your vision? I believe life experiences can elevate one’s art. Tell us about your experience.

While my surroundings have changed, my art remains influenced by similar themes—my life experiences, books, movies, and shows. The cultural shift has enriched my perspective, but I wouldn’t say it has drastically changed the essence of my work.

How can someone find you, your work, and reach out to you?

I have a website where people can leave messages, but the easiest way to connect with me is through Instagram or email.

To reach out to Ragini, email her at raginichatterjee99@gmail.com

Follow the link to view her website https://insidethepaintbox.netlify.app/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaYbgVU2RrKp4XRHM-w8vq9OSBRCDhJUyi2Ep1Q7Q-mp8yMnyc1sRepMUFA_aem__fVFYF95PY6venhGW_kShA

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Understanding the Dual Nature of Friendships

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In George Khoury’s words…
Friendships hold deep bonds, sometimes as deep as family bonds
But are friendships always good? Or are they also damaging if you don’t know yourself?

People come and go into our lives on a daily basis. Some we see everyday and others are months and even years apart. There’s a special connection that can make us feel that time never passed. Inside, you know that this person will always be in your life, no matter how much time apart you have. This is the beautiful part of true friendship and companionship. 

But what brings people together?

A common ground, family, employment, education, or through coincidental events that lead people to form a relationship. Mutual memories and shared experiences create a narrative that only they know and can share.

When it’s tied to a historical significance, it seals a feeling of forever that can never be downplayed or recreated. A story of friendship and joint paths. That somehow the universe had this written and the belief that one can’t exist without the other. A sense of belonging in a period of time.

If independence, self-love and self-control are seen as essential qualities, then are these relationships set up to eventually fail?

Everyone has their own lives. We can’t always be there through all the highs and lows our friends experience. We all have our own paths. These paths are directed by our life choices and events. They stem from our natural development and a change in priorities. 

How do we know when that moment comes?

When the show is over for a bond that once was and people part ways. Some friendships or human relationships last as long as necessary. They allow you to move on to the next stage of your life. It feels like good-bye to the version of you that connected to a version of them. We mutually and subconsciously decide to let go of those versions of us. We do this when the forces of life challenge us to evolve.

Ultimately a relationship with anyone other than family is based on the setting that you meet them in. A work colleague you see more or less every day may leave suddenly. It’s sad, but life continues. New people start working with you and this brings change and new connections. The old work colleague eventually becomes a distant memory. You may meet for catch-ups and go to each other’s birthday parties, wedding, or perhaps meet for dinner and drinks.

The moment you know it’s fading…

Time with them includes reminiscing about shared past memories. It also involves sharing funny anecdotes, reflecting, and updating each other on how everyone is doing. Life has continued and a reminder of the past becomes the only bond that you have with these people. Until the point that social media and the odd messages are all that connects these friends. They lose their glue and the only link that is shared are mutual experiences in the past.

Can work friends, become long-term friends?

People at work we see more or less everyday. We build relationships and maintain friendships during work time. I always say that I spend more time with colleagues than I do with family and friends and even with myself. We are brought together through coincidence. Unless you recommend a friend who starts working with you, everyone there are people you met because you applied for a job with the same company.

I have been extremely lucky enough to meet a colleague at work through a complete coincidence and because of an incident that took place. This person has become a rock and solid foundation in my life. I was there for them through the tragic loss of their mother and reminded them of their strength to get through the heartbreak and absence of their best friend and reason to keep living.

Similarly, they are the reason I am still here. In my lowest of lows, they were there to simply listen to me, vent it all out and we held each other up. When one is deteriorating, the other holds a safety net to catch the other to disintegrate any anxiety or self-doubt. They see similar traits and personality characteristics between me and their mother and I see myself in them. They bring a glowing and shining light into the world and people’s lives but they also carry the shadows of insecurities and self doubt that the world and loss has cursed them with. We are part of each others lives and they are in my heart and always make sure I have whatever I need to be George. Despite this there are times we may not have contact temporarily but we will always reconnect.

From strangers to best friends in a minute…

Some brief encounters feel like you have known the person for years and you share things about yourself that are deep and personal. It’s a shame that most of these will inevitably end. A random meet up, an online date, a shop worker, the person on the train going to work, a customer in the queue, or a person at the bus stop. These people match your mood, energy, and humour but there is nothing else to bring you together. You remain strangers when you part ways until a day that you may see them again.

The overwhelming fear of losing friendships as we grow

I fear sometimes that life will separate me even more from the closest few in my life. The friends I grew up with have evolved on to different paths now. They have children and their lives have completely changed to nurture, care and love their children. I’m always in their thoughts, we speak and meet up on certain occasions but ultimately things could never be the same as before.

I often felt left behind because of my sexuality and lifestyle. During my growth I have realised that I am on my own path that starts with me. I am at a point where I can count my true friends, choose where I go and with whom I want to spend time with bearing no guilt or the need to feel validated or accepted by pleasing others. There have been events that I was not invited to because I have no children. While the people I grew up with can meet regularly to catch up and share memories. I’m not included in this because my lifestyle is different from theirs so I may be over looked, or there is an assumption I may not want to go because there are children there. The truth is I could not think of anything better than seeing my friend’s children grow and seeing my friends in a parental light and the love they share as a family.

But when is it time to make this decision before life does it for us?

Some of us hold onto friendships and relationships because of a history of connections when in reality these people are unsupportive, toxic, and self-centered. Although the initial connection was true and genuine, life has pulled them into a different direction or changed their priorities and they keep you in their lives because of what you supply them with. A support mechanism, a non-judgemental companion that will always be there to vent to, and pick up the pieces every time they continue to make the same mistakes over and over again despite the outcome being the same.

There are genuine times you are there for each other through a loss, support with life issues, or to have a good time. But the outcome will still result in a complete separation either because one will realise they are being used or the other may feel exhausted giving constant advice only to be met with backlash or resentment.

When I was at my worst, I was able to discern between those who were there for me because they actually care about my happiness and those who needed me in their lives because it was convenient for them. By the end of it, the truth always comes out and a painful yet relieving decision has to be made. You start putting yourself first.

What is the role of friendship in our lives?

A friend or companion should make you feel empowered, strong, encouraged, and valued. They will always find time to ask how you are despite the pain they might be going through in their own lives and you do the same for them. They will never intentionally let you down, take you for granted, or use you to vent their anger and blame you for their mistakes in order to validate their own decisions that are wrong or damaging.

Moreover, they will never throw anything back at you that you have confided or shared with them in confidence. And they teach you the value of our choices, they teach you to forgive and move on.

With their support, I have now developed the courage and forward thinking ability to decide who is no longer part of my life journey. I had some amazing and memorable moments with them where we laughed, cried, supported each other and flourished. However, a realisation eventually kicks in, that we’re different people and they’re not healthy or positive to be around for my mental health or well-being. With some people I will never look back and would rather not know them anymore. With others they will always have a place in my heart and I would never rule out reconnecting and sharing good times if life has that in store for us. But it will never be the same as it once was. 

George Khoury walking towards a successful life and leaving the past behind

How to co-exist with a sense of self and friendship?

In order to continue to grow, we need to cut loose people that are not ready to move to the next stage of our lives. When you change, this disrupts the use you have for them and you will be held back and reminded of the old you that you are detaching from, and may receive hurtful comments and accusations that prevent you from moving forward. You will be caught in a never ending wheel of toxicity and negativity.

But take a breath and look around you to decide who really inspires you, makes you glow, shine, forego self-doubt, value your self-worth and uniqueness. Put yourself first and remove the barriers stopping you from reaching your goals and life purpose. You will see the benefits this will have in your life before you know it. You’ll realise that this is your life and you have the choice despite memories or connections. You’ve got this. See you on the sweeter side. 

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2Shades reviews “The Business of Murder ” and get to chat to one of it’s stars Gary Webster

The Business of Murder by Richard Harris at the Theatre at The Tabard
Can a murder play be both funny and tense at the same time? Well, The Business of Murder delivers just that.
https://tabard.org.uk/whats-on/the-business-of-murder/

Set in the 1980s, even the set design conveys that you’re dealing with true professionals, setting the mood even before the show begins. (The Tabard Theatre is wonderfully intimate, though the sight of a modern-day Marlboro Light did make me itch to replace it with a Rothmans.)

The set, designed by Lily Minores and Rob McKinley, effectively transports you to an era when the TV was always on, often showing the horse racing.

Stone (played by Miles Gallant) invites local police detective Hallett (Gary Webster) over to discuss his troublesome son, who is nowhere to be found.

After Hallett leaves, promising to return later, Stone then invites true crime writer Dee (Charlotte Hunter) to meet his wife. Yet the audience knows that Stone’s wife is dead. So why the invitation?

Gary Webster as Hallet.
r Miles Gallant as Stone and Charlotte Hunter as Dee https://tabard.org.uk/whats-on/the-business-of-murder/

You need to let your imagination run wild in the first half and simply enjoy the craft on display—it’s a rare treat to see an actor like Gary Webster perform on such an intimate stage. His portrayal of Hallett blends humor and drama seamlessly, making his character’s self-righteousness both entertaining and believable.

The drama student sitting next to me was in awe, and for good reason. If you’re studying acting, this performance is practically a masterclass. Webster’s ability to deliver witty quips while guiding the audience through the twists and turns is exceptional.

His character is not only charming and funny but also unflinchingly unapologetic, with an underlying ugliness that adds depth.

Gary Webster as Hallet https://tabard.org.uk/whats-on/the-business-of-murder/

Charlotte Hunter (Dee) also brings incredible depth to her character, avoiding the trap of one-dimensionality. Similarly, Miles Gallant delivers a strong performance, holding his own alongside the other two leads.

The only minor flaw in my opinion is the pacing in the second half. While it’s never dull, it does feel longer than necessary, leaving you wishing it would get to the point a little quicker. Even with such talented actors, some trimming would have benefited the production.

Here Steven Smith gets to chat to acting legend Gary Webster.

Tell us about The Business of Murder and why you chose to appear in it.


The Business of Murder is a great whodunnit—or rather, a great whydunnit! It is written by the legendary film, TV, and theatrical writer Richard Harris, so when the chance came along to audition for the role of grizzled cop John Hallett, I jumped at it.

Fortunately, the director liked what I could bring to the role, and I was cast. It’s one of the best roles I’ve ever had the chance to play, and I’m very thankful the show has been such a success.

One of your sons, Freddie, has gone into acting. What advice did you give him?

Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy. Take the work very seriously, but try to keep all the outside noise about what is deemed as success or failure at a distance. In the end, we are here to entertain and, hopefully, in some small way, make people’s lives better. I encourage both my sons to find something in life they love doing, whatever it may be and wherever it may take them.

Would you like to see Minder come back?

It would be great fun to bring it back, with me in more of an Arthur role and a new Minder looking after Ray Daley. There are always rumors that plans are underway because it was, and still is, so loved. However, as with the Shane Richie version, I’m not sure the powers that be would include me in their thinking—which has always seemed a little strange to me—but nothing surprises me in our beloved profession!

You recently judged the Autism Hero Awards. What was that like?

As always, I am honored to be asked, and it is an inspiration to be part of the process. It really brings everything into sharp focus and perspective as to what is truly important in life. It’s lovely to be able, in a very small way, to honor those who do such fantastic and life-changing work.

Gary Webster with fellow judges Samantha Lee Howe 2Shades very own Steven Smith The man of the moment Heartstopper Bradley Richies and Dr Anna Kennedy OBE.

2Shades thinks you should run as an MP. Is that on the horizon?

I’m open to anything at my age! If I could change the country and the world for the better, and the only way to do that was by being an MP, I’d like to think I could give a voice to people who are struggling. Having gone through so much in my own life, I feel I can relate to their fight just to get through the day.

Your look in The Business of Murder is channeling either a ’70s football manager or the quintessential gay clone. We had quite a few gay men message us when your picture went online. Do you think attitudes have changed toward the LGBTQ+ community, and would you like to play a gay role?

I’d certainly like to think attitudes have changed. However, I’m also very aware that the fight for full equality for everyone is still not over. Given recent events in America, with a new administration bringing such archaic views towards the LGBTQ+ community, we must never be complacent. Everyone in the world has the right to identify as they wish and to demand the rights afforded to all without exception.

I can’t believe that in 2024 this is still a battle, but it is, and it will continue until full equality is achieved. I have no problem playing a character who is gay, straight, or bi. In fact, I’ve played characters such as William Tallon in A Princess Undone opposite Stephanie Beacham, where I portrayed the iconic “Backstairs Billy,” who worked for the Queen Mother for many years.

Stephanie Beacham in A princess undone .

A character’s sexuality—whether gay, straight, or bi—is just one aspect of them. In the end, we all experience love, heartbreak, passion, sadness, and joy in the same way. These are universal human experiences, regardless of sexual orientation, and it’s time the world fully recognized that.

What are you and your wife, Wendy, doing for Christmas?

Usually, we’d just stay at home, but as Wendy’s dad is now nearby in London, we’ll be at his flat, cooking a vegan Christmas dinner for us, the boys, and Brian. I adore Christmas—my dad did too. His legacy to me was huge in terms of the joy and magic of Christmas, so it’s a time of year I always try to enjoy. That said, I’m very much aware that, for many, Christmas is a difficult time. My thoughts are always with those who are struggling mentally, physically, or simply trying to find a place to live during this season.

Gary Webster and his wife Wendy Turner Webster .

What would you like for Christmas?

Good health for those I love, the coming together of people around the world to make it a safer place, and 9 points for Arsenal over the Christmas fixtures!

What does 2025 hold for you?

Good health, hopefully, happiness for my sons and wife in all they do, and maybe a lead role in a Marvel TV series. That way, when I’m old and infirm, I can still turn up to Sci-Fi and Comic-Con conferences as my character, earn a ton of money, and have a nice two-day getaway in Vegas—all expenses paid!

2Shades Steven Smith with Gary Webster . https://tabard.ticketsolve.com/ticketbooth/shows/1173651533/events/428615519
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2Shades meets creepy crawly expert Tasha Lewis

Yes,”I’m A Celebrity” is back on the 17th of November
2shades got together with animal expert Tasha from Living Things https://www.living-things.co.uk/our-team/ and got the low down on some of the things the celebrities might be comforting in ” The bush trucker trails ” https://www.itv.com/imacelebrity/articles/im-a-celebrity-unpacked-is-coming-to-your-screens-this-autumn and other useful tips for the season.
1. How scared should we be of spiders?

Most spiders are harmless to humans and even helpful by controlling insect populations. While it’s natural to be nervous around them, especially large or unusual ones, very few are dangerous. A healthy respect rather than fear is all that’s necessary, and keeping distance is usually enough if you come across one.

2. If you came across a tarantula among your bananas, what should you do?

First, try to keep calm. Tarantulas are not aggressive unless threatened. Avoid touching it, place a container over it if you can, and contact local animal control or a professional to safely handle and remove it.

3. Rats in the jungle or anywhere terrify me. But I hear they make good house pet?

Yes! Domestic rats can make affectionate, intelligent pets and bond well with their owners. They’re usually very social and enjoy interacting with people, which makes them a great choice for those who may be wary of other pets. Just remember, like any pet, they require time, proper care, and space. Really one of the cleanest pets you could have.

4. Are the witchy grubs and insects on “I’m a Celebrity” actually good for you?

Many insects are indeed edible and highly nutritious, often rich in protein, fiber, vitamins, and healthy fats. They’re also more sustainable than traditional livestock, so insect-based dishes are becoming popular in some restaurants. However, they’re still a unique experience for most people!

5. Would a meerkat make a great Christmas present?

Though meerkats may be cute, they are not suitable pets. They are social wild animals, requiring a complex environment and social structure that can’t be replicated at home. Instead, you could look into sponsoring a meerkat through a wildlife charity, so kids can learn about them responsibly.

6. What is the responsible way to introduce a pet to your child?

Start by teaching kids about gentle handling, respect, and boundaries with pets. Choosing a low-maintenance, child-friendly pet is ideal, and involve children in pet care tasks to build a bond gradually. It’s also good to emphasize that pets are family members, not toys, and need long-term commitment.

7. How do you protect pets from fireworks?

Fireworks can be stressful for pets. To protect them:

  • Create a safe space indoors with familiar bedding and toys.
  • Muffle sounds by closing windows and playing calming music.
  • Give pets extra comfort and stay with them if possible.
  • Consider pheromone diffusers or consult a vet for other calming solutions.
8. What are you doing for Christmas?

Planning your Christmas can involve festive meals, spending time with loved ones, or engaging in your favorite seasonal traditions! Many also choose to volunteer or donate to causes, spreading a little extra holiday cheer.

9.If your child is asking for a pet for Christmas, it’s wise to approach it thoughtfully. Here’s a balanced way to think about it

The holiday season can be a stressful time for a new pet. The excitement, extra visitors, and unpredictable schedules can be overwhelming for both the animal and the family. Instead, you could start by giving your child a book on caring for their desired pet and a stuffed animal version to symbolise the responsibility they’ll take on. This allows them time to learn about pet care, setting a foundation for responsible ownership.

Then, once things settle down after the holidays, you can bring the actual pet into the home with the focus and calm it deserves. This approach also lets you and your child research and prepare your home properly, ensuring a smooth transition and a happier experience for everyone—including the new pet!

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