“Pride” means self-esteem, self-respect, and the joy that comes from being who you are. It’s a celebration of identity and community—and it’s also a protest, because the fight for equality is far from over.
How far we’ve come. In the 1970s, the only LGBTQ+ publication I knew of was Gay News—a paper I used to smuggle into my family home as a teenager. Mainstream magazines rarely showed gay people in a positive light, and doing so could sink a publication. In the entertainment industry, being openly gay could mean career suicide. Even being suspected of homosexuality could get you thrown out of the armed forces.
GAY NEWS IN THE 70S
I came out at 15, creating scandal at school and chaos at home. When my mum discovered my hidden copy of Gay News, she screamed, “There’s no such thing as ‘Gay News’, only bad news.” While she’s now a proud LGBTQ+ ally, back then it was a different story. Only my 13-year-old sister offered comfort—squeezing my hand and saying, “I always knew. I love you.”
My parents, desperate to “understand,” took me to the Samaritans, where I was introduced to a man who had been in the merchant navy who “knew about gays.” I remember his pale-blue jumper and the awkwardness in his voice. He warned me that not all gay men looked like David Bowie or Marc Bolan—who, I pointed out, were bisexual. He added, “If you go to Portsmouth, there are big, hairy men on bikes looking for young lads.”
Once back in the car, I asked, “Where’s Portsmouth—and how do I get there?”
Coming out still shocks some families. I’ve seen parents devastated by something they must have known deep down. In It’s A Sin, Keeley Hawes’ character, Valerie Tozer, denies her son’s truth even as he dies of AIDS. Another mother asks her pointedly: “What were you looking at when he was six? Ten? Fifteen?”
Today, LGBTQ+ teens are still being thrown out of their homes. Others are allowed to stay—but endure silence, shame, or abuse. All for the “crime” of loving someone, or being themselves.
Meanwhile, the same parents hand their kids toy guns and cheer them on during war games—yet recoil at a same-sex kiss. The hypocrisy is astonishing.
I cried watching Heartstopper on Netflix. When Nick comes out to his mum, played with grace by Olivia Colman, she simply thanks him and checks he’s okay. That’s the world we need. Fewer traumas. More love.
Yes, things are better. But the LGBTQ+ community is still under attack. Survival requires strategy—and education is key. We need LGBTQ+ role models in schools. We need to support young people who don’t fit gender norms. We need to tell our stories and make space for others to tell theirs.
I recently had a woman say to me, “You don’t seem that gay. My hairdresser Eduardo is gay—he’s a scream! He does drag on Tuesdays.” I replied, “The Kray twins were gay.” She went quiet, then apologised. I wasn’t offended—but I had made her think.
Positive role models matter. Jake Daniels, the first openly gay footballer, recently made headlines. So have Gareth Thomas and Tom Daley. But the fact that coming out still makes headlines shows how far we’ve yet to go.
Jake Daniels super star ,
It was heartening to see David Beckham support Jake Daniels—but disappointing to see him promote the World Cup in Qatar, where homosexuality is punishable by death. Allies must not sit on the fence when human rights are at stake.
Let’s not forget: the gay community isn’t immune to internal bias. Flamboyant men are often sidelined. Some fear being labelled “camp” or “too much.” But icons like Quentin Crisp, Boy George, David Bowie, and Marc Bolan showed us that difference is not a weakness—it’s a strength.
Boy George daring to be different with Pride.
If an alien asked to meet a “typical gay person,” we couldn’t comply. There’s no such thing. Just like there’s no one image of a straight man—despite the stereotype of a pint-wielding football fan in a Union Jack tee.
People ask me, “Why do you need Pride? There’s no Straight Pride.” My answer: “Be grateful you don’t need one.”
There are also calls to give Pride Month over to Veterans’ Day. I believe veterans deserve honour every day—but not at the expense of Pride or any other group or organisation One doesn’t cancel the other.
We’re living in frightening times. In countries like Argentina and the U.S., governments are trading human rights for promises of prosperity. In the UK, I fear the rise of Reform UK. We must not just defend our rights—we must be louder, prouder, and more visible than ever.
Peter Tatchell we all have to admire ,
At the premiere of Legendary Children: All of Them Queer, activist Peter Tatchell said that change comes from entering non-LGBTQ+ spaces and being a shining example. I believe that. I hope one day I can hold my boyfriend’s hand in public without fear. I hope one day, every child who comes out is embraced by their parents, not shunned.
We’ve made progress. But we’re not there yet.
And if we don’t act now, we risk going back to the bad old days.
Dr Anna Kennedy with the legendary John Lee Bird Gallery owner Marcus Jake .
In a city as vast and ever-evolving as London, it’s becoming increasingly rare to stumble upon a space that immediately feels like you’ve entered somewhere truly special. Tucked away on the Greenwich Peninsula, just a stone’s throw from the O2 Arena, The Firepit Gallery isn’t just another art venue — it’s a living, breathing community. The moment you step inside, you are immersed in a kaleidoscope of colour, creativity, and character. It feels like a sanctuary, a hive of inspiration and warmth, especially for those with an eye for flair, originality, and a desire for genuine connection.
Recently, Firepit Gallery played host to the closing night of The Autism & Art Show, a vibrant and inclusive celebration of neurodiverse talent. The event brought together an eclectic mix of artists and creatives, showcasing a dynamic range of work that broke boundaries and challenged perceptions. On hand to mark the occasion were some of the most exciting and diverse voices in the art world. Spanish-born street artist Piluca, known for her bold murals and graffiti-inspired work, joined celebrated photographer and artist Annemarie Bickerton. Also exhibiting was Alistair Blaster Artz, whose bold, futuristic pieces drew crowds.
Dt Anna Kennedy OBE with the acting royalty Vicki Michelle
The legendary John Lee Bird made a much-anticipated appearance, arriving just in time to greet Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE, a champion of autism awareness and inclusion. It’s moments like these — the spontaneous meetings, the shared laughs, the applause and admiration — that make the Firepit feel like much more than just a gallery. It’s a place where emerging and established talents mingle with activists, celebrities, and visitors from all walks of life. A kind of creative salon, echoing the golden age of artistic gatherings in Paris and London, where art wasn’t just displayed — it was lived.
Firepit is a home for Annemarie Bickerton celebrity photographer and artist .
I once described The Firepit as “the Willy Wonka of the art world,” and the comparison still holds true. There’s a sense of wonder in every corner, from the ever-changing exhibitions to the vibrant murals, installations, and sculptures that inhabit the space. It’s a gallery, yes, but also a home — one with a full-stocked bar, laughter in the air, and a real sense of belonging. It feels like stepping into a dreamscape where the lines between artist, viewer, and friend gently blur.
At the heart of it all is Marcus Jake, the visionary behind The Firepit Gallery. Marcus isn’t just the founder — he’s the soul of the place. Equal parts curator, host, mentor, and mischief-maker, Marcus has created something rare: a truly inclusive, vibrant, and welcoming environment where everyone feels seen. Whether you’re a collector, a curious wanderer, or someone simply seeking a safe and inspiring space, Marcus will greet you with open arms and infectious enthusiasm.
Gallery owner Marcus Jake
His vision for Firepit goes far beyond traditional art world boundaries. The gallery regularly hosts workshops, talks, performances, and community events. It’s a beacon of light for the LGBTQ+ community, a space where self-expression isn’t just accepted — it’s celebrated. From drag evenings to life-drawing classes, from vinyl DJ nights to panel discussions about mental health and inclusion, Firepit’s calendar is as diverse and electric as its art.
One of the gallery’s standout features is its monthly wine-tasting and dinner evenings. These events are less about formality and more about connection. Attendees gather around a long communal table, sampling wines and sharing stories while surrounded by stunning artwork. The conversations flow freely, from art and culture to politics, identity, and everything in between. These evenings have become a cherished ritual for many — a time to pause, reflect, and feel part of something bigger.
There’s also something very special about the way the gallery bridges the gap between high art and community. Too often, galleries can feel cold or elitist, but Firepit is the opposite. Here, art is accessible, emotional, and rooted in lived experience. Visitors are encouraged to talk to the artists, share their responses, and engage with the work on a personal level. Whether you’re buying your first print or attending your tenth show, you’re treated as part of the Firepit family.
The gallery’s physical space mirrors this ethos. With its industrial-chic aesthetic, vivid lighting, and rotating displays, it feels ever-changing yet instantly familiar. The bar is often the social centre of the room, where Marcus and his team are on hand not only to pour drinks but also to engage in meaningful conversation. There’s a nostalgia to the place — a reminder of the old salons and cabarets of Paris and Soho, where people came not just for the art, but for the dialogue, the inspiration, and the community.
Hanging out at The Firepitt with artists and friends
As London changes and gentrification continues to reshape its cultural spaces, The Firepit stands as a powerful counterpoint — fiercely independent, passionately inclusive, and gloriously vibrant. It’s a place where stories are shared, identities are embraced, and creativity flows freely.
In many ways, The Firepit Gallery is more than just a hidden gem. It’s a movement. A space that proves that art still has the power to unite, to challenge, and to heal. Whether you’re attending an exhibition, joining a wine tasting, participating in a workshop, or simply popping in for a chat, you leave feeling uplifted, seen, and inspired.
And perhaps that’s the greatest magic of all — not just what you find at The Firepit, but what it awakens in you.
So next time you find yourself near the O2, take a detour. Step into this creative haven where art, community, and a touch of magic collide. You may just discover your new favourite place in London.
The Firepit Gallery No.2, Upper Riverside 10 Cutter Ln, Ground Floor Unit Greenwich Peninsula London SE10 0XX 📧 info@firepit.art 🌐 www.firepit.art
I couldn’t agree more with the divine Joan Collins—who, as a fellow Gemini, always knows how to speak her mind. Just last month she said, “It is rude to ask a lady her age.” And I say, absolutely right. While we’re at it, let’s extend that rule to men, too. Age should never be the first thing people bring up at the dinner table—or anywhere, really. Yet, for some strange reason, some people still haven’t got the memo.
Even the legendary Ms Collins never misses a moment to bring up age on her own terms, and good on her. The problem is when others decide it’s their business to discuss or dissect your age as if it’s a defining feature of who you are.
Trust me, being asked, “Guess how old I am?” is the social equivalent of stepping on a rake. It’s awkward, unnecessary, and usually driven by vanity or insecurity. Worse still, when someone asks you how old you are in front of a group—what exactly are they hoping to achieve? Shock? Admiration? Or a bit of good old-fashioned one-upmanship?
Pictures by Graham Martin
Personally, I’m incredibly proud of the age I’ve reached. I’m in great company—hello, Tom Cruise and Boy George! To be able to say I’ve lived a full and colourful life, packed with lessons, laughter, a few bruises and many blessings, is something I treasure. But that doesn’t mean I want to be constantly labelled by it.
is 60 the new 40 well George and I hit 64 and still partying
Still, I must admit, the age hang-up isn’t mine—it’s other people’s. I’ve been at parties where someone makes an entrance like a movie star arriving late on the red carpet. You know the type—deliberate delays, dramatic flair, sunglasses indoors, and a whole production just to let everyone marvel at how good they still look. And yes, they do look amazing, but does everything have to revolve around how young or “well-preserved” someone is?
I’ve even been in situations where my own friends—who happen to look much younger than their age—draw the same “oohs” and “aahs.” I once attended a dinner with a long-time friend who, despite being in his twenties, has the soul and intellect of someone in his seventies. We were seated with a man I didn’t know, and from the moment he sat down, the conversation steered toward age. He asked if we still went clubbing, commented on siestas as “old man naps,” and suggested that we must prefer quiet evenings now. I stopped him mid-flow and said, “Darling, I don’t do the age thing or put labels on people.”
That’s when it hit me: his obsession with age wasn’t about us—it was about him. My young friend whispered to me later, “He’s projecting his own fears onto you.” And he was right. So many people are battling their own discomfort with growing older, and instead of embracing it, they try to deflect that discomfort onto others. Sad, really.
But here’s the truth: age isn’t a limit or a barrier unless you make it one. I’ve always envisioned myself living with a bit of swagger—relaxed, charming, and totally unbothered. I’ve seen people in their 70s, 80s, and 90s absolutely raving—living their best lives, dancing under disco lights, refusing to be boxed in by the number on their birth certificate. And I say: why not?
Of course, your priorities change. These days, I enjoy good dinners, meaningful conversations, and yes, a nap if needed. But that doesn’t make me any less fun, adventurous, or alive. I just don’t have the patience for drama or superficiality anymore—and I count that as progress.
Teenager to now .. living life to the full
One thing I wish people would do more is just be. Enjoy where you are, who you’re with, and the life you’re living. Stop measuring your worth—or anyone else’s—by youth, appearance, or how “on trend” you are. Confidence, kindness, and curiosity will outlast collagen and hair dye any day
So yes, age is just a number, and we should all be proud of the years we’ve lived and the experiences they’ve brought us. But really—can we stop bringing it up every five minutes?
Sleep. It’s something most of us take for granted—until we can’t get any. For years, I struggled with sleepless nights, tossing and turning while my mind refused to switch off. That changed when I discovered that Michelle Langer, an old friend and wellbeing expert, was running a sleep workshop at Soho House in White City. What I experienced there genuinely transformed my approach to rest and relaxation.
I’ve known Michelle for over twenty years. One of my most unforgettable memories with her goes back to a holiday in Sitges. We’d hired a large pedalo and taken it out to sea. I was in charge of steering while Michelle and the late journalist Lester Middlehurst went for a swim. The Mediterranean was calm—until I spotted a giant Portuguese Man O’ War drifting nearby. I shouted a warning just in time, and what followed was pure chaos: a near-hysterical Lester trying to save himself by pushing Michelle underwater! Thankfully, no one was hurt, but the memory of that surreal moment has stayed with me ever since.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j26AqJKd-F4
Years later, I ran into Michelle again on the set of Dancing on Ice. We hadn’t seen each other in ages, but the reunion was lovely. A few of my friends in the show were clearly starstruck when they realised I knew her. “She’s the producer!” they whispered in awe. Yet Michelle was as grounded and unassuming as ever—no airs, no ego. As they say, never judge a book by its cover.
When I heard she was running a sleep workshop, I knew I had to go. I was amazed by how many people were there—each of us grappling with our own version of sleeplessness. Some shared personal stories, while Michelle delivered her guidance with grace, empathy, and deep insight. She offered a range of techniques, but one in particular completely changed the game for me. For the first time in ages, I began to feel like I’d actually slept. The workshop lasted just 55 minutes, but the results have been lasting.
Here’s a summary of some of Michelle’s top sleep strategies—simple yet powerful tools that can help you drift off with ease.
Breathing & Relaxation Techniques Try the 4-7-8 Breathing Method: inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7, exhale slowly for 8. It soothes the nervous system and helps you wind down. Box Breathing is another great option—inhale, hold, exhale, and pause for 4 seconds each. This helps calm anxious thoughts. Progressive Muscle Relaxation starts at your toes: tense each muscle group for a few seconds, then release as you breathe out, moving slowly up your body. Diaphragmatic (or belly) breathing, where you allow your stomach to rise and fall with each breath, helps trigger the body’s rest-and-digest response.
Behavioural & Environmental Sleep Aids Establish a gentle wind-down routine: dim the lights, read a book, take a warm bath, or journal. Stick to a consistent sleep schedule—even on weekends—to regulate your internal clock. Avoid screens for an hour before bed. Blue light suppresses melatonin and keeps the brain alert. Apps like Calm, Headspace, or Insight Timer offer guided meditations and sleep stories that help quiet the mind. Essential oils such as lavender or chamomile can be diffused or spritzed on your pillow for a natural calming effect. Finally, make your bedroom a haven: keep it cool, dark, quiet, and clutter-free for optimal rest.
Michelle’s background is as impressive as it is diverse. A Cambridge graduate with 30 years’ experience as a television executive, she understands pressure, deadlines, and public scrutiny better than most. She now channels that experience into her work as a Wellbeing Consultant and Executive Coach. Personally trained by Dr. Deepak Chopra at The Chopra Centre for Wellbeing, she’s spent over fifteen years teaching mindfulness, meditation, and stress reduction strategies to public figures, CEOs, and individuals worldwide.
Michelle is also an accredited member of the Association of Facilitators and works as a coach for Arianna Huffington’s Thrive Global. Her client list reads like a who’s who of corporate and entertainment powerhouses—Microsoft, Accenture, Pfizer, Mastercard, NFL, Channel 4, and many more. And if that weren’t enough, she co-founded Tranquillo, a unique experience that blends live cello by world-class musician Jane Oliver, guided meditation, and essential oils into deeply immersive wellbeing sessions for companies.
If you’ve ever struggled with sleep, I can’t recommend Michelle’s work highly enough. A short session may just make a lifetime of difference.
With his hotly anticipated new novel The Hacking on the horizon, author Steven Smith is showing no signs of slowing down. Always one to surprise, he’s taken an exciting detour into chilling new territory with his latest work — a darkly gripping short story titled Killer Queen. The tale features in the spine-tingling anthology Criminal Pursuits, edited by award-winning writer Samantha Lee Howe and created in support of the Pink Ribbon breast cancer charity.
Marking his first foray into the horror genre, Killer Queen promises suspense, social commentary, and a twist of the macabre. And if the glowing early reviews are anything to go by, this debut dip into horror certainly won’t be his last.
In this exclusive feature, 2Shades’ very own Queen of Conversations, Adishri Chengapa, sits down with Steven to talk twisted tales, creative risks, mental health, and what really scares him — beyond the page.
Adishri:Steven, what is Killer Queen about — without giving too much away?
Steven: In a nutshell, it’s a horror story, yes — but also a reflection on society and the illusionary nature of fame and show business. We live in a time where, if The Emperor’s New Clothes were written today, the boy shouting, “He’s naked!” would probably be sued or cancelled. The victims in Killer Queen see only what they want to see — and that’s ultimately their downfall.
Adishri:How did you get involved with Criminal Pursuits?
Steven: I was chatting with my great friend, Samantha Lee Howe — who is, quite frankly, the queen of horror stories — and she mentioned this anthology she was curating in support of the Pink Ribbon breast cancer charity. As soon as I heard about it, I jumped at the chance to be involved. I’d had the idea for Killer Queen bubbling in the back of my mind for a while, and Sam, as both an editor and an author, is incredibly encouraging. Once I got started, the hard part was actually keeping it short!
Adishri:Your first book, Powder Boy, was quite the shocker. Do people see you differently now?
Steven: People often ask me that. Powder Boy was about a womanising, coke-dealing charmer. Honestly, maybe because I’m a gay man, some people assumed I couldn’t have written it — particularly because it features a lot of heterosexual erotica. That’s almost insulting. One of my strengths as a writer is observing and listening. Many of my male friends are what they call straight, and I don’t find it difficult to see things from their perspective. Most of the “conquests” in Powder Boy are based on real stories I’ve been told! If people see me in a different light because of it, so be it. If they genuinely think I am that character — then they’re probably not the kind of people I need in my life anyway.
Steven: Always. I was writing little plays and short stories from a very young age. I’m slightly dyslexic, but no one really noticed. I have an O-level in English Literature and Oral English — but I failed English Language. I was labelled “careless” and “stupid,” and that kind of trauma kept me away from writing for years. In today’s world, the way I was treated to help with things like homework would probably be considered abusive.
I respond best to encouragement — being lifted up, not torn down. It was journalist Jane Moore who changed my life. She asked me to write a column, and I tried every excuse to get out of it, but she wouldn’t take no for an answer. Thanks to predictive text and writing tools, being dyslexic isn’t the barrier it once was. Jane gave me the push I needed, and it turns out I had a flair for writing and interviewing. Helen Galley, a brilliant teacher of journalism, taught me the technical side of freelance writing — and I’ve never looked back.
Adishri:You write often about mental health. Do you feel men are opening up more about how they feel?
Steven: Not enough. Society still expects men to be these stoic John Wayne types — never showing emotion, never being vulnerable. That attitude is changing slowly, but there’s still a long way to go. We need to teach kids from an early age that it’s okay not to be okay — and also equip them with the tools to cope with real life, including bullying and rejection. Especially if you’re creative or different in any way, you’re going to stand out — and be a target
“Big boys don’t cry” is one of the most harmful phrases ever invented. I know someone with severe anxiety who would rather say they had an incurable disease than admit what they were really struggling with. That’s tragic.
Steven: That makes it sound like I’m dying! [laughs] But yes, I’m 64. And sometimes when I look in the mirror, I still see that scared little boy looking back. Regret, to me, is a self-indulgent emotion. I’ve had some amazing experiences and opportunities, but I’ve also endured things that would make most people wonder how I’m still here. I treat them as life lessons. I move on.
Maybe I regret not pursuing certain relationships — a few people made offers I didn’t take up. But overall? I’m lucky to be me.
Steven: My sister Karen read Killer Queen and said it was “smart, dark, and totally captivating.” She’s not one for false praise — she’s very no-nonsense — and she thinks it would make a great full-length book. So that’s something I’m exploring.
I’m also putting the finishing touches on a very personal project — a book about my late partner, titled Annand and Me. And I’ll be launching a podcast later this year.
Quickfire Round
Sushi or steak? Sushi. I don’t eat red meat or pork.
Favourite films? Blade Runner, Breakfast at Tiffany’s, and All About My Mother.
Biggest turn-off? People who think it’s okay to fart in public. Honestly.
If you were mayor for a day? I’d fine people who walk while texting or staring at their phones. And I’d get to work immediately on helping the thousands of homeless people in London and across the UK.
What do you find romantic? I haven’t been on a date in ten years. Even my First Dates date cancelled on me! But to me, romance can be something simple — like walking through a park or sharing lunch with someone you love.
Madonna or Lady Gaga? Madonna — all the way. I know as a gay man I’m supposed to go wild for Kylie’s Padam Padam or Lady Ga Ga’s Abracadabra — but I find them irritating. I like Charlie XCX, but I’m more of a Lou Reed and Bowie fan at heart.
The stylish boutique White Coco at 227 Kings Road, SW3 5EJ, was abuzz with excitement on a recent spring evening as sisters Wendy Turner Webster and Anthea Turner celebrated the launch of their enchanting new children’s book, Finding Treasure in Kew Gardens. The glittering event, held in the heart of Chelsea, drew an eclectic crowd of fans, celebrities, and literary enthusiasts to mark the release of the third book in their imaginative series, Underneath The Underground.
Dr Anna Kennedy OBE joins Anthea and Wendy at the launch of their 3rd book ,
This latest title follows the ongoing adventures of two brave and curious mice, inspired by Wendy’s own rescue pets. The charming tale blends fantasy and nature, taking young readers beneath the iconic Kew Gardens to discover hidden worlds and environmental treasures. As with the previous instalments, the story is filled with heart, whimsy, and a deeper message about friendship, courage, and conservation.
Joining the sisters in celebrating this milestone were several notable guests, including Loose Women and I’m a Celebrity… Get Me Out of Here! star Jane Moore and actor Gary Webster, best known for his roles in Minder and EastEnders husband to Wendy . Their presence added an extra sparkle to the occasion, and both expressed admiration for the book’s themes and its accessibility for young readers. Jane Moore commented on how refreshing it was to see a story that mixes adventure with an environmental conscience and has a character named after her , while Gary Webster praised the blend of “nostalgia and novelty” in a children’s book series that also appeals to the adults reading along. Dr Anna Kennedy OBE was on hand and thought the books would appeal to children living on the spectrum.
Acting Legend Gary Webster and husband to Wendy was on fine form.
Wendy Turner Webster, known for her animal welfare work and as a former television presenter, spoke warmly about the origins of the book. “I was inspired by my own pet mice and their enormous personalities,” she said. “We wanted to create a world where the tiniest creatures are the biggest heroes. Finding Treasure in Kew Gardens is all about reminding children that magic and meaning often lie just beneath the surface—literally!”
Anthea Turner, TV presenter and lifestyle author, brought her usual charm and enthusiasm to the event. She shared how the sisterly bond has strengthened through the writing process. “Working with Wendy has been such a joy. We both bring different energies to the project, and I think that’s reflected in the depth of the story. Kew Gardens is a special place for both of us, and we wanted to celebrate its wonder while also encouraging a sense of adventure in our young readers.”
2Shades Steven Smith Joins Wendy Turner to celebrate the book launch ,
The boutique setting of White Coco was an inspired choice for the event. Known for its chic, curated collections and warm atmosphere, the store transformed into a literary lounge for the evening,
The Underneath The Underground series has already gained a loyal following, praised for its creativity and ecological awareness. Each book takes readers to a different iconic location beneath London, where talking animals, hidden societies, and thrilling quests unfold. The series subtly promotes values of kindness, courage, and respect for the environment—lessons seamlessly woven into exciting plots that keep children (and their parents) turning the pages.
Matt Goss with Anthea Turner and Lee Murray
The launch concluded with a book signing session, where both Wendy and Anthea took time to engage with readers and young fans, many of whom were keen to talk about their favourite animals and adventures. There was a shared sense of nostalgia among the adults present too, especially those who remember the Turners from their many appearances on British television over the decades.
Finding Treasure in Kew Gardens is now available on Amazon and in selected bookstores. As the third book in a growing series, it promises even more excitement for young adventurers. Wendy hinted that the next instalment may take readers beneath another iconic London landmark, though she remained tight-lipped about exactly where. “Let’s just say,” she smiled, “the mice are not done exploring yet.”
New Romantic King Rusty Egan with girl friend Georgina Ballie
For now, fans can delight in this latest chapter—a story that blends family, fantasy, and flora in one beautifully illustrated package. The Turners have struck gold once again—this time, underneath the green wonders of Kew Gardens.
“For people on the autism spectrum, art is a powerful medium that encourages self-expression.”
Anna Kennedy Online, in collaboration with the Firepit Art Gallery , is proud to present the first-ever “Autism & Art Show. “This exciting event showcases incredible artwork from autistic artists and their allies, with all profits supporting the charity Anna Kennedy Online. Art is more than just a passion—it serves as a therapeutic outlet, offering solace and joy to many individuals on the autism spectrum. With great enthusiasm, Anna Kennedy OBE, charity patron Steven Smith, and Firepit Art Gallery founder Markus Jake invite you to celebrate and support these talented artists. Ar) Event Location: Firepit Art Gallery CIC Firepit Gallery No.2, Upper Riverside, 10 Cutter Ln, Ground Floor Unit, Greenwich Peninsula London SE10 0XX Learn More & Support the Charity
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The Autism & Art Show — 22nd May 2025
Join us for a celebration of creativity, resilience, and neurodiverse voices at The Autism & Art Show, showcasing a rich tapestry of work by autistic artists from across the UK. Each participant brings a unique story and style, making this event a powerful tribute to the talents of individuals on the spectrum.
Featured Artists
Angelo Kennedy
Angelo, 32, is autistic and lives with significant sensory processing disorder. On display is a vibrant painting of sunflowers he created at just 10 years old. Angelo enjoys cooking, bowling, and continues to work hard on his independent living skills. His brother, Patrick, is also on the spectrum and works at Pinewood Studios.
£500 pounds by Angelo Kennedy for offers contact spman@btinternet 07969016222
Lana Mitchell
Lana, who lives with autism, once feared unfamiliar environments. In 2024, she began volunteering at Shelter Crystal Palace, where her uniqueness was embraced and her creativity blossomed. She now designs themed window displays and, to celebrate her one-year anniversary, created a striking punk-style denim jacket.
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Collette Sherriffs
Collette, 47, from Kincardine, Scotland, has loved art since childhood. Despite working hard to earn a place at art school, her dreams were crushed when her mother told her she was “too stupid” to succeed. Heartbroken, she gave up art—until recently. One of the pieces on display is from her original portfolio, which her mother once threw away but was fortunately saved. Now a devoted mum of two, Collette champions her children’s creativity with pride and encouragement.
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Niall Guite
Niall, 30, is an artist with autism, an intellectual disability, dyspraxia, and dyslexia. He gained international acclaim after raising funds for Special Olympics GB by selling his iconic stadium drawings. Niall has exhibited at the Royal Academy Summer Exhibition, delivered a TED Talk, and received an Honorary Doctorate from Sheffield Hallam University for his work promoting inclusion through art.
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Piluca Artist
Piluca: Artist. Muralist. Fashion Visionary. Street Art Queen. Born in Madrid and ignited by Brixton’s wild heart, Piluca is a published illustrator, muralist, fashion designer, and founder of I Am Here 2 Play, launching this May at Hypezeus, London. Her vibrant murals and street art light up London’s iconic venues, turning the city into an open-air gallery. A WinTrade Awards finalist, she moves effortlessly across fine art, fashion, and branding with fearless, raw style. Piluca’s creative impact extends deep into communities—leading workshops, festivals, and campaigns with purpose. From fashion to neuroscience illustration, her work defies boundaries—and London proudly wears her name.
Offers above £350
Chris Wild
Chris is an author, artist, actor, care home consultant, government advisor, youth advocate, and charity patron. A passionate voice for young people in care, Chris’s first book, Damaged, shares his personal story. His second, The State of It, challenges the systemic failures affecting vulnerable youth. Through art and writing, he continues to inspire change and awareness.
Chris Wild painting offers over £500
Artism by Jake
Jake, 20, finds joy in painting. As a young man on the autism spectrum, his artwork offers a distinct and captivating perspective. All profits from his prints are donated to charitable causes.
Offers over £150
Heidi Simm
At 17, Heidi is the creative mind behind Disco City, a fusion of Disney characters and her own original creations. With a strong, determined spirit, she uses her art to express herself, manage her mental health, and explore new techniques. Her inquisitive nature and unique imagination make her work stand out.
Fabulous fun £250 please inbox me at spman@btinternet.com
Dr. Ian Hale
Based in Bristol, Dr. Ian Hale is an author, poet, autism specialist, and certified Master of Photography. His book, Asperger’s, Autism and You: Is the Epidemic Real and Are Vaccines the Cause?, blends personal insight with clinical research. Ian, who is autistic himself, shares his journey through media, public speaking, and art. His photography — praised by brands like Chanel and Vogue — offers a profound glimpse into his neurodiverse worldview.
Offers over £200 please .
Loveartpix (Dez)
Loveartpix , a self-taught AudHD (Autism + ADHD) artist from Manchester, uses creativity as a vital outlet for mental health and self-expression. Diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, Autism, and ADHD, he began his art journey in 2018 as therapy. His vibrant work often reflects the spirit of Manchester and the experiences of neurodivergence.
Loveartpix with the wonderful art he will be showing offers over £1000 please .
Annemarie Bickerton
With over 30 years in photography and art, Annemarie specializes in editorial portraiture. As digital photography evolved, she pivoted toward headshot work, applying her skills to editorial, corporate, and artistic projects. Annemarie is also a proud mum to Sam, who lives with autism, and continues to champion neurodiverse creativity in all its forms.
£500 by Annemarie Bickerton
Sam Bickerton
Sam, diagnosed with ASD and dyslexia, demonstrates resilience in the face of social and emotional challenges. From early Lego builds to his love for origami, mask-making, and boxing, Sam’s creativity offers a safe space for self-expression and calm. His journey is one of strength and self-discovery through art.
an example of Sam work the will be. bigger one on the night offers from £150 message me spman@btinternet.com
Jenny Robinson
Jenny is a self-taught digital artist and graphic designer with a love for Freddie Mercury. Her standout piece is a digital portrait of Freddie in a custom outfit inspired by the I Want to Break Free video. Although not included in her solo exhibition, Jenny has pledged to donate 100% of the sale proceeds to the Anna Kennedy charity. Diagnosed with autism a year ago, she now explores digital art as a core part of her creative identity.
Jenny Robinson £250 inbox spman@btinternet.com
Marcus Mason-Williams
Marcus is a multi-talented autistic artist and entrepreneur. As a founding member of The Lilac Review — a government-backed campaign spotlighting disabled-led businesses — Marcus uses his business, CoolArt2021, to share wildlife-inspired storytelling and merchandise. “Art and performing set me free,” he says. “Through my stories and performances, I connect with others and the world around me.”
Offers over £250 message Steven Smith 079069106222
AlastairBlasterArtz
Alastair McEwen, also known as BlasterArtz, is a full-time carer for both his disabled parent and autistic son. Through art, he finds a way to manage emotions, connect with loved ones, and reflect on mental health. His heartfelt piece Blanky, created with friend and writer Steven Smith, has moved many and embodies the power of art as a lifeline.
BLANKY offers over £200
Eddie Wells
Eddie grew up in East London, navigating life with undiagnosed ADHD and dyslexia. Creativity was his refuge. Following his father’s death in 2013, he realized that art wasn’t just an outlet — it was his salvation. His work reflects the inner world of someone living on the spectrum and overcoming silent battles through creative expression.
Offers over £2000. e-mail spman@btinternet.com
Shayla Curtis
At just 18, Shayla is already a passionate advocate for children with autism and complex needs. Diagnosed with autism herself, she struggled in most subjects at school — except for art. Encouraged by a supportive GCSE teacher, Shayla flourished creatively and now uses her skills to design activities that help young people express themselves, build confidence, and develop life skills.
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Tally Nothey
This piece is deeply personal. As the mother of an autistic child, Tally has faced days that felt overwhelmingly heavy—marked by worry, exhaustion, and the deep ache of feeling misunderstood. Yet, through every challenge, it has been the support of close friends that has carried her forward. Each woman represented in this work symbolizes someone who has stood beside her, held space for her fears, celebrated the smallest victories, and reminded her of her own strength when she struggled to find it.
This image reflects that journey. It acknowledges that while friendship may not solve everything, it makes the burdens easier to bear. Together, they have cried, laughed, and lifted one another—and because of them, she never walks alone.
work in progress £500 .
Darren Chapman – Actor & Artist
Darren Charman – Visual Artist & Storyteller
Darren Charman is a British visual artist and actor, originally from Hastings in Sussex. His creative journey began in the world of performance, training in the Meisner technique at The Actors Temple in London, where he developed a deep sensitivity to emotion, narrative, and human expression—qualities that now echo powerfully through his artwork.
Drawing on his background in character-driven storytelling, Darren’s art is bold, imaginative, and often laced with wit. Each piece invites viewers into a world that balances humour with poignancy, reflecting the layered perspectives of someone equally at home on a stage or behind a canvas.
Darren has received recognition for his work in comedy film, winning two DAFTA awards for The Fetishman (The Irishman Parody) and Living Dead (Living Parody). These accolades underscore his instinctive grasp of character, timing, and satire—all of which now inform his artistic practice.
Stunning bracelets by Darren £100 or above .
Gemma Lees is a Romany Gypsy, disabled and autistic fine art installationist, performance poet, comedian, facilitator and journalist from Bury. Her practise focuses on protest, advocacy, inclusion and telling the stories that no one else is.
Last year she worked with: Arts and Homelessness International, Traveller’s Times, Headteacher Update, SEN Magazine, ACERT, Queer Britain, Turnpike, Cartwheel Arts, BBC Radio Manchester, Triple C, Warwickshire Libraries, CultureDale, WOW Fest, Factory International, CIJ and CRIPtic.
A qualified post-compulsory teacher, she is a passionate advocate for GTRSB and neurodiverse inclusion in schools and wider education.
Sadie King is a 16-year-old student currently studying for her GCSEs. She has a strong passion for character design and storytelling. Sadie hopes to build a career in creating her own animated series. Her work often explores original concepts and imaginative worlds. She is eager to share more of her art and ideas with others. Sadie welcomes feedback and is open to showing additional work
Offers over £200
John Lee Bird is a multi-disciplinary artist known for his global exhibitions of paintings, collages, and sculptural work. His DOLLS project features over 2,000 hand-sewn textile sculptures celebrating idols, friends, and queer culture. Inspired by film, drag, cult TV, and music, each 13-inch doll is crafted from felt, beads, buttons, and embellishments. The project began during lockdown as a therapeutic return to textiles, starting with 69 David Bowie dolls. It has since grown into a rich portrait series spanning pop culture icons and personal heroes. John’s work is driven by obsession, emotion, and a deep love of music and storytelling. He also creates sound and film, collaborating with artists such as Simon Fisher Turner and Xiu Xiu. John co-runs the queer club night KNICKERS with musician Jemma Freeman.
Posters £25
PATRICK STEELE-BODGER Patrick calls himself a “Media Wikipedia” and “the Sheldon of Media” – a nod to his incredible recall of screen and sound. From a young age, he’s expressed himself through TV, film, books and comics. He recreates the tiniest details, from split-second sound effects to hidden cameos. Patrick loves drawing characters, writing fan fiction, and exploring music from Louis Armstrong to Daft Punk. As the in-house artist for Meet The Pods, now becoming a toy range, his creativity shines. He also designs bespoke greeting cards – and if you ask his favourite word? It’s “EXCELSIOR!”
£100 each
The Autism & Art Show isn’t just an exhibition — it’s a statement. It’s about the strength of neurodivergent minds, the healing power of creativity, and the joy of self-expression. Come and be inspired by these extraordinary artists.
The story of BLANKY .
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Blanky
Art Alastair Blaster words Steven Smith
“We are all born as blank canvases; hate, racism, and a lack of understanding are learned.” How you choose to see the world and create the tapestry of your life is up to you. Blanky is here to “Make Earth Safe Again.”
In another universe, under a different sun, there was a planet much like Earth called Alacritas. It was a world of lush tropical forests, crystal-clear lakes, and unpolluted seas. The people of Alacritas lived in harmony, where kindness and tolerance were deeply ingrained in their way of life. Their homes were built to exist in perfect balance with nature, and even in their cities, the air remained clean and pure.
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The Alacritans were far more advanced than humans. Meditation and self-healing were essential practices, and their very beings were composed of energy molecules, allowing many to heal themselves from illness. Some possessed extraordinary abilities, such as telepathy and body transformations, harnessing the sun’s rays to bring goodness to their planet and others. While there were occasional exceptions, as the saying goes, “one bad apple”—but that is another story.
You could say it was a utopia—until they arrived.
The people of Olethros came claiming peace, seeking to live in harmony with the Alacritans. But the sun did not welcome them. Almost immediately, it burned their skin a bright orange, making them stand out. Rumours spread that their own planet had been devastated by pollution, war, and slavery.
It soon became clear that the orange ones had not come as friends but as conquerors. They sought to strip Alacritas of its rich minerals, enslave its people, and channel their energy into restoring their own dying world.
The peaceful Alacritans were unprepared for battle. Their civilization, built on unity and respect, was nearly wiped out. Only a few survived—those who could transform or scatter their molecules to avoid detection.
The Olethrans ravaged the planet like ants devouring sugar. Within a year, there was nothing left. In desperation, one Alacritan, Blanky, used his powers to escape. Transforming into pure energy, he fled into the cosmos in search of help. But as he left, Alacritas could take no more. The planet exploded, sending Blanky hurtling off course.
100 Years Later
Planet Earth
London, Waterloo
Patrick was fourteen, tall for his age, and loved playing basketball. From the window of his small ground floor apartment, he watched the other kids on the court, longing to join them. He knew he had the talent to be a star player. But his mother, protective as ever, rarely let him out alone. She feared he would be bullied or misunderstood because of his autism.
One Saturday afternoon, his mother had a friend over and asked them to watch Patrick while she ran errands in Stratford. With their eyes glued to The Real Housewives, they barely noticed Patrick, assuming he was immersed in his video game as usual.
But today was different. Quietly, Patrick put down the controller and crept toward the door. His apartment, on the ground floor, was only 200 yards from the basketball court. As he stepped outside, excitement surged through him. The sun’s rays warmed his face as he gently closed the door behind him and ran toward the court.
But then—he tripped.
As he hit the ground, something surrounded him, unlike anything he had ever seen. A strange, shifting cloud engulfed his body, sending tingles through his skin. As the mist dispersed, a small figure emerged.
Patrick couldn’t believe his eyes.
Before him stood a tiny being—completely blank, as if made of smooth, featureless clay. It pointed a stubby finger at Patrick’s baseball cap. Amused, Patrick handed it over. The moment the creature touched the fabric, the hat transformed into the same clay-like substance as its body.
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Then, to Patrick’s shock, the small figure spoke.
“I am Blanky. Your planet needs me, or it may suffer the same fate as mine.”
Patrick stared, wide-eyed.
“I need sunlight to regain my strength,” Blanky continued. “With your help, I can transform and protect those who are hated and discriminated against. I have chosen you, Patrick, because you are special. For now, my body is just a canvas. Put me in your pocket, and let’s go play ball.”
Patrick didn’t hesitate. He gently scooped up Blanky and tucked him into the pocket of his jacket.
“I’ll tell you more soon,” Blanky assured him.
Patrick knew he had just made a special friend—one he would have to keep secret for now.
What neither of them realised was that Blanky had maybe arrived years too late.
CLARE MC’SWEENEY IS BACK Clare’s monthly column will bring you expert advice, the latest beauty and aesthetics news, and, of course she answers your beauty questions.
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Hello everyone,
Firstly, a huge thank you for all your wonderful questions and messages! I absolutely love hearing from you all. Sadly, I can’t respond to every single one personally — it’s been a whirlwind lately — but I’ve answered as many as I can below, and I hope this information helps.
It’s been incredibly busy at the clinic these past few weeks. We’re right in the heart of “Botox season,” and so many of you have been coming in, especially looking to define and enhance your jawlines. It’s been amazing to see such fabulous transformations and to help people feel their absolute best!
We’ve also had an exciting new arrival that I just have to tell you about: The Fresh Face Pillow. This incredible innovation has been a huge hit with my clients! It’s designed to support the face during sleep, helping to maintain smoother skin and reducing the risk of sleep wrinkles. Beauty sleep just got a major upgrade — and honestly, I can’t recommend it enough!
On top of the busy clinic life, I’m also preparing for something very close to my heart — ballroom dancing! I’ll be heading up to Blackpool very soon to compete, and I couldn’t be more excited (and nervous!). Dancing is a huge passion of mine, and it feels wonderful to be able to throw myself into it alongside my professional work. Please keep everything crossed for me — your support means the world, and I’m hoping to bring home a trophy!
Thank you again for being part of this journey with me. Your trust, encouragement, and enthusiasm are what keep me inspired every single day.
Sending lots of love, Clare
1. Botox Woes: A Frozen Look and Droopy Eyes Danny Heat, Basildon
Q: I’m a huge fan of the column and I can’t wait to visit you My question is about Botox. I stopped getting it four years ago because my forehead is quite small and the treatment made my eyes droop. After about a month, it just gave me that dreaded frozen look. I’m now a blank canvas—what can I do to look younger and fresher without appearing frozen?
A: Dear Bonnie – Botox is indeed a powerful tool to reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. However, when not administered with precision, it can lead to exactly the issues you described.
The good news is that Botox can absolutely work for you again, especially with a more refined, tailored approach. For individuals with a smaller forehead, our experienced doctors use specific techniques to avoid heaviness or drooping. Most importantly, we can use a smaller dose to maintain natural movement and avoid the “frozen” effect. A personal consultation will allow us to determine the ideal dosage and placement to achieve a youthful, refreshed look—without compromising your natural expressions.
2. Winter Pounds: Help Me Lose the Weight Debbie Newcastle
Q: Like so many others, lockdown left me feeling like everything’s falling apart—especially when it comes to my weight. I’ve put on a lot, and I’m desperate for help. What miracles can you offer to help me lose it?
A: Dear Debbie – You’re definitely not alone in this. The pandemic has affected many of our clients in the same way. The good news? We can absolutely help you get back on track.
Here are some non-surgical interventions that can support your weight-loss journey—provided they’re paired with balanced nutrition:
High-Intensity Focused Ultrasound (HIFU): Targets larger areas of stubborn fat (e.g., abdomen and thighs) and works gradually over three months.
Fat Freezing (Cryolipolysis): Ideal for smaller, more stubborn fat pockets like love handles or lower belly fat.
Fat-Dissolving Injections: Suitable for relatively slim individuals with small, persistent pockets of fat that just won’t budge.
3. Recovering After winter bugs and flu Do Vitamin Drips Work? Stacey Moore, Southend
Q: My whole family has had virus, and we’re feeling completely wiped out. I’m 58, my husband’s 59, and our daughters are in their twenties. I’ve seen celebrities using vitamin drips—do they really work, and could they help us bounce back?
A: Dear Stacey – I’m so sorry to hear your family has been through such a tough time. You’re right: after any viral illness, the body experiences significant nutrient depletion—minerals, vitamins, amino acids, and proteins are all used to support your immune system. That’s why fatigue and weakness are common after recovery.
Intravenous (IV) vitamin therapy isn’t a cure, but it can be an excellent way to restore those lost nutrients quickly. These drips are classed as supplements rather than medicines, but many people find they help improve energy and speed up recovery.
4. Jawline Goals: Trial Before Commitment Sally Perkins Richmond Upon Thames
Q: Since lockdown, my fiancé has become really self-conscious about his appearance. He’s now obsessed with getting a jaw implant to square off his otherwise lovely face. Is there anything temporary he could try before committing to something permanent?
A: Dear Sally – It’s not unusual to become more appearance-focused in the age of social media, especially with the rise of the “perfect jawline” trend. While a defined, squared jaw is often seen as more masculine and attractive, surgery isn’t the only option.
Before considering a permanent implant, we strongly recommend trying Hyaluronic Acid (HA) filler, which can non-surgically contour the jawline. The results can last up to a year and are completely reversible, giving your fiancé the chance to see if the look is really for him—without the risks associated with surgery.
Clare Mc Sweeney
5 Sweating Struggles: A Fix for Underarm Sweat Ray King, Clapham, London
Q: I start sweating under my arms about 20 minutes after showering—even with deodorant and a fresh shirt. My boyfriend waxes and says it helps, but I’m a big guy and don’t think smooth armpits are for me. It’s becoming quite embarrassing. Any advice?
A: Dear Ray – You’re describing hyperhidrosis, a common condition that causes excessive sweating—and you’re definitely not alone.
A highly effective solution is Botox injections in the underarms. This medical treatment temporarily blocks the nerves that trigger sweat glands, dramatically reducing perspiration. The effects typically last between 3 to 6 months and can be life-changing for many clients.
No One Wins in This High Court Ruling By Steven Smith
This week’s High Court ruling has left many people reeling—disappointed, divided, and more confused than ever. But one thing is clear: no one truly wins in the aftermath of this decision. Whatever legal boundaries were reinforced or redrawn, they’ve done little to offer protection or peace to the people affected most. If anything, the result is further division, and the human cost is growing.
Let’s start with a blunt truth. If there is a god who allows a child to be born with bone cancer—or worse—then perhaps, just perhaps, that same god may have placed a soul in the wrong body. It’s a difficult thought, but one that challenges traditional notions of perfect design and invites empathy over judgment.
In this debate, one group’s rights cannot come at the expense of another’s safety. Women—especially those who’ve suffered trauma at the hands of men—deserve dignity, privacy, and protection in spaces like bathrooms, hospital wards, and shelters. These are not just physical places; they are emotional safe zones, where healing and recovery often begin. To ignore the fear and anxiety many women feel about sharing intimate spaces with anyone who presents as male—even if that person identifies as female—is to ignore real, lived experience. We must listen with compassion, not condescension.
This isn’t a rejection of transgender people. On the contrary, I’ve known incredible trans women since I was a teenager. These are brave, passionate human beings who have committed to a long, often painful journey to live authentically. They undergo extensive psychological evaluations, hormone therapy, and surgery. Some reintegrate into society quietly; others become public figures or advocates. All of them, in my eyes, are women.
Which is why this ruling cuts so deep. Many trans people who have taken every step available to become their true selves now find themselves swept up in a storm of legal and cultural backlash. Instead of being seen as individuals with complex stories, they’re being lumped in with others who have not taken the same path—or who may not even identify as trans in the same way.
Part of the problem is ignorance. When I first heard the term “trans,” my mind went straight to “transvestite” or flamboyant characters like Frank-N-Furter from The Rocky Horror Picture Show. And while I adore a good performance, let’s be clear: wearing a dress and heels doesn’t make someone a woman. There’s a vast difference between performance and identity. A man in a frock might enjoy the expression, the character, even the fantasy—but it doesn’t make him female.
True transition is not about fantasy. It’s about becoming. It involves sacrifice, struggle, and a level of self-awareness many of us never have to face. For those who take that journey, they earn a place in the world as their authentic selves—and they deserve respect, not suspicion.
Children, too, are part of this complex conversation. Some express gender discomfort from a young age. These feelings must be taken seriously—but also approached with caution. Many people I know went through periods of gender confusion in their youth, only to feel secure in their biological identity as adults. Others continued to struggle, and those individuals deserve full support. But irreversible medical decisions should, in most cases, wait until late adolescence, when a person’s sense of self has had more time to develop.
Still, it bears repeating: having a penis does not make someone a woman. That is not a statement of hate—it is a statement of biology. If someone is transitioning, that’s a journey we can honor and support. But biology does matter, especially when it intersects with the rights and safety of others.
What’s heartbreaking is that this ruling, intended perhaps to draw clearer lines, may only deepen misunderstanding. Trans women who have undergone surgery, therapy, and lived experience are now at greater risk of being misjudged, targeted, and excluded. The backlash is likely to hit the wrong people hardest. We risk punishing those who’ve made the most effort to live honestly.
The public discourse on transgender rights is failing everyone. The messaging is chaotic, the tone often cruel, and the nuance lost in a sea of outrage. Education is vital. We need thoughtful, well-informed conversations—conversations that recognize the humanity in everyone involved. The issue of gender identity has been reduced to a political football when it should be a human rights discussion rooted in compassion and science.
One of the most shameful chapters in this saga was when President Donald Trump banned transgender individuals from serving in the military. Anyone willing to risk their life for their country has my full respect, regardless of how they identify. That level of courage transcends gender—it defines character. In my eyes, that’s the truest identity of all: brave.
As society evolves, we must also evolve our understanding of gender. It may be time to acknowledge a third, even fourth category of sex or gender. The binary system doesn’t serve everyone, and clinging to it may be doing more harm than good. The law should reflect the complexity of human experience, not flatten it into rigid boxes.
Ultimately, this ruling doesn’t protect anyone—it creates more confusion, more pain, and more opportunities for discrimination. Women’s safety is still not fully addressed. Transgender individuals are now more vulnerable than ever. And society, caught in the middle, is left with more questions than answers.
No one has truly won this week. But if we learn anything from this moment, let it be this: the path forward must include better laws, deeper understanding, and above all, compassion for every human being trying to live their truth.
There is no doubt that Mickey Rourke has been the best thing to happen to Celebrity Big Brother this year. He is a fascinating mix of Victor Meldrew’s grumpy bluntness and Keith Richards’ wild, unpredictable charm. Arriving with no filter whatsoever and the wide-eyed confusion of Alice falling through the looking glass, he often seems unsure of exactly where he is. It’s not only comedy gold; it’s also a stark reminder of how hypersensitive our society has become — many ready to cry into their decaf almond milk lattes at the slightest provocation.
I had the pleasure of meeting Mr. Rourke many years ago at The Abbey Coffee Shop in West Hollywood, back when he was dating Carrie Otis. The Abbey, a famous LGBTQ+ venue, was buzzing as usual. Rourke, accompanied by his two beloved dogs, stopped me to ask about mine. We chatted briefly (I’ll admit I was a little starstruck — Angel Heart remains one of my all-time favourite films). My point is this: Mickey Rourke is not homophobic. He simply comes from a different time. The man is 72 years old. Perhaps, unlike some of the more publicity-hungry contestants, he doesn’t feel the need to self-censor or meticulously filter every word he utters.
My instinct tells me that JoJo might have handled the situation differently had she not been so consistently stunned — she often wore the look of a “rabbit in the headlights.” Fortunately, Chris Hughes, the charming and grounded contestant every parent would approve of, stepped in calmly to defend her. He restored order with dignity and compassion, providing a rare and refreshing moment of true humanity in a show increasingly dominated by outrage culture.
Chris Hughes the man you want your son or daughter to bring home
Let’s be honest: in the real world, prejudice and inappropriate comments are unfortunate realities many people will face. Mickey’s comments weren’t right, but they also didn’t merit his removal from the house. What’s needed is guidance and understanding, not instant condemnation and cancellation. We must be able to differentiate between malice and ignorance, between true harm and clumsy missteps.
Predictably, it wasn’t long before others saw an opportunity to capitalize on the situation. Donna Preston, a comedian by profession, was told by Rourke — while he lounged under an LED face mask — “You are what you eat.” Rather than respond with wit or humor, she ran crying to her team. For someone who makes a living out of comedy, it was a surprising reaction. Where was the banter, the quick retort that a seasoned performer should deliver with ease?
Donna Preston easily offended .
At this point, I began to feel genuinely sorry for Rourke. Things only deteriorated further when Patsy Palmer took offense at a mild comment about her cooking and ended up in tears. It begs the question: where has resilience gone? Life is full of difficult people who speak bluntly or unkindly. If we are reduced to tears by every offhand remark, how will we cope with the harsher realities that life inevitably throws our way?
Patsy non chewable broccoli leads to tears
As many know, I am a strong advocate for mental health awareness. I have faced my own battles with depression and anxiety. However, one of the most important lessons I have learned is the value of resilience. The only way to overcome bullies and unkind individuals is to develop inner strength. If we allow their words to break us, then they have won.
In my childhood, my imagination became my sanctuary. It helped me navigate bullying at both school and home, allowing me to rise above it rather than be crushed by it. Today, while mental health education is crucial, it is equally important that we teach children and young adults how to endure adversity. Bullying and cruelty will never disappear entirely. Learning how to manage, respond, and thrive despite them is essential.
Celebrity Big Brother has, perhaps unintentionally, become a mirror reflecting today’s cultural fragility. And frankly, it’s worrying.
We need a generation that can distinguish between genuine harm and an ill-judged comment. We need young people who can face challenges head-on, who can understand intent rather than automatically assuming the worst, and who can survive — and even thrive — in a world that will not always be kind.
Toughness doesn’t mean lacking empathy or kindness. It means having the inner strength to pick yourself up after a setback, to laugh off the jibes, and to rise above the noise. Without it, we risk raising a generation ill-equipped for real life.
Mickey Rourke’s stint on CBB might just end up being more than television entertainment. It might serve as a wake-up call about where we are heading — and a reminder of the resilience we so desperately need to reclaim.
Massive props to Danny Beard — he’s not just bringing the yeast to the bread, he’s practically baking a whole bakery at this point! As for Trisha… well, I’ll spare you the rant, but let’s just say Michael Fabricant and I are singing from the same hymn sheet.
Now, if Mikey manages to hang on much longer, he might just sneak a win — stranger things have happened! That said, my money’s still firmly on Chris or Danny to take the crown.
Danny Beard bringing the laughs to the CBB House .
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