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June’s Book Club with David Nailer

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Hello darlings! It’s time for David’s Book Club Reviews, and I’m absolutely thrilled to be joining the fabulous folks at 2SHADES this month. What a dazzling array of reads we’ve had!

From a sSmelly kid who defies the odds to become a number-one porn star and entrepreneur (yes, really!) to a stylish serial killer stalking London’s high society and showbiz darlings—this month’s selection did not disappoint. And let’s not forget the gripping Bleeding Fabulous: The Life of a Haemosexual—a memoir bursting with sequins, survival, and serious heart.

There’s also a gorgeously dark gothic horror set in Victorian London that sent shivers down my spine and had me clutching my feather boa in suspense. Plus, 13 other twisty, chilling, and utterly addictive short stories in Criminal Pursuits 2—each one more devious than the last.

Yes, my loves, they all get five stars from me. Call me generous if you will, but I had an absolutely fabulous time reading every single one. Drama, danger, glamour, grit—and always a twist in the tail. What more could a queen ask for?

If you’re looking for thrills, spills, and a few cheeky chills, these are the books to curl up with (preferably with a cocktail in hand).

Until next time,
Love, David 💋

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Review of Criminal Pursuits 2: This Is Me – 14 Dark Gems of Crime Fiction
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Criminal Pursuits 2: This Is Me is a superbly curated anthology of fourteen dark, twisted, and utterly engrossing short stories from some of the sharpest minds in contemporary crime fiction. As with the first volume, this second instalment delivers diverse voices and inventive plots, drawing readers into a variety of shadowy worlds where justice is murky, morality bends, and the human psyche is pushed to the brink.

Each story offers a unique lens into the criminal mind—ranging from psychological thrillers to revenge tales, noir romance, dystopian pacts, and unnerving hauntings. From the man teetering on the edge of a high building, to the woman whose inheritance turns deadly, the anthology brims with tension, clever twists, and haunting imagery. There’s a satisfying blend of styles, from hard-boiled grit to eerie suspense, that keeps the pacing lively and the reader guessing.

But the undeniable standout is Killer Queen by Steven Smith.
Stylish, razor-sharp, and steeped in a deliciously dark sense of camp, Killer Queen turns the serial killer trope on its head. Smith’s flair for the dramatic meets a gritty crime plot as he introduces a killer with charisma, vengeance, and unrelenting flair. The story pulses with queer energy and glittering menace, without ever losing sight of its emotional core. It’s daring, provocative, and gloriously subversive—exactly the kind of story crime fiction needs more of.

This powerful collection includes a heartfelt foreword by Lisa Allen, CEO of Pink Ribbon, who reminds us of the real-life battles many face every day. Fittingly, all profits from this anthology go to the breast cancer charity Pink Ribbon, making this both a gripping read and a meaningful cause.

An absolute must-read—for your bookshelf and your heart.

Review of Smelly Kid by Andy Lee 

Smelly Kid by Andy Lee (with Dave Taylor) is a raw, unflinching memoir that grips you from the first page and never lets go. With a title that hints at both humour and hardship, the book plunges readers into the unforgiving world of a poverty-stricken Dublin childhood, where abandonment, hunger, and homelessness were part of daily survival.

By the age of twelve, Andy had already experienced more loss than many do in a lifetime—left without parents and living on the margins of society. What makes Smelly Kid so compelling, however, is not just the depth of suffering, but the incredible resilience that rises from it. Through heartbreak, Andy never loses his fighting spirit, and his story becomes one of transformation and hope.

Lee’s voice is honest, gritty, and disarmingly humorous. He recounts harrowing moments with clarity and purpose, but also with surprising warmth. Whether it’s finding brief refuge in the kindness of a stranger or navigating the chaotic streets of inner-city Dublin, his story resonates with a raw authenticity. His later journey into the adult entertainment industry is told with the same candid honesty, showing how unexpected paths can lead to reinvention and, ultimately, self-empowerment.

Smelly Kid is not your typical rags-to-riches tale. It’s more than a memoir—it’s a testament to human endurance and the possibility of hope in even the bleakest circumstances. Gritty, heartbreaking, and ultimately inspiring, this is a story that lingers long after the final page.

For anyone who believes that the past defines the future, Andy Lee proves otherwise. Smelly Kid deserves its glowing 4.8-star rating—it’s bold, unforgettable, and deeply moving.

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The Soul Thief by S.L. Howe – 

Samantha Lee Howe’s The Soul Thief is a deliciously dark slice of gothic horror that plunges readers into the chilling depths of Victorian Manchester. A haunting and atmospheric tale, this novel is perfect for fans of Sarah Waters, Carly Reagon, and anyone who enjoys eerie mysteries by candlelight.

Set in 1888, the story follows the weary Dr. Warren Carter as he navigates long, gruelling nightshifts at a hospital cloaked in shadows. When the enigmatic and beautiful young nurse Rosie vanishes without a trace after a late-night drink, the unsettling tone is set. More disappearances follow, and soon, a private investigator is drawn into a web of creeping dread and escalating horror.

Howe masterfully conjures a fog-soaked world where danger flickers just beyond the reach of gaslight. The novel’s strength lies in its brooding atmosphere, tight pacing, and an undercurrent of psychological unease. From the moment Dr. Carter’s carefully ordered world begins to unravel, readers are drawn into a nightmare that feels both timeless and intensely personal.

The writing is richly evocative, and the characters are sharply drawn—each with secrets that deepen the mystery. The blend of supernatural elements with the harsh realism of Victorian medicine creates a visceral contrast that heightens the suspense. The twists are deftly delivered and genuinely surprising, with the final chapters veering into thrilling, pulse-pounding territory.

With glowing praise from readers and reviewers alike, The Soul Thief delivers on every gothic promise: a crumbling setting, spectral threats, and a slow-burn horror that lingers. This is a novel to savour on stormy nights, ideally with a flickering candle and a cup of something strong.

Dark, twisty, and utterly absorbing, The Soul Thief is Victorian horror at its finest.

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Review of Bleeding Fabulous by Mark Ward –

Bleeding Fabulous: The Life of a Haemosexual is a powerful and unapologetically bold memoir by Mark Ward—a man whose life defies the odds, the stigma, and the silence surrounding one of the darkest chapters in UK medical history. With extraordinary candour, wit, and resilience, Ward recounts his journey from an ordinary boy in Letchworth to becoming the world’s first LGBTQ+ Ambassador for Haemophilia.

Infected with blood-borne viruses through contaminated NHS blood products, Ward faced not one, but multiple death sentences. Yet, as he puts it, “Faced daily with my own mortality, I chose to live fabulously.” And live fabulously he does—feather boas and all—delivering a narrative that is as heartbreaking as it is uplifting.

Far more than a personal story, Bleeding Fabulous is a searing indictment of the Infected Blood Scandal, a tragedy that devastated thousands. Ward’s role in campaigning for justice, including his instrumental work toward securing the long-awaited public inquiry, demonstrates his tireless courage and commitment to others affected by bleeding disorders, regardless of their sexuality.

What sets this memoir apart is its fearless humour, warmth, and emotional honesty. Ward invites readers into the rawest parts of his life, without ever losing his sense of style or spirit. His writing is elegant, often funny, and always deeply human. With a foreword by Sam Stein KC and praise from leading legal and medical voices, this memoir is both a personal triumph and a vital historical record.

Bleeding Fabulous is, quite simply, remarkable—a testimony to survival, to living boldly, and to fighting for truth and dignity in the face of systemic injustice.

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A beautifully written, fiercely important, and undeniably fabulous read.

TATA FOR NOW . XXX David

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London’s Hidden Gem: The Firepit Gallery

Marcus Jake the man behind Firepit
Dr Anna Kennedy with the legendary John Lee Bird Gallery owner Marcus Jake .

In a city as vast and ever-evolving as London, it’s becoming increasingly rare to stumble upon a space that immediately feels like you’ve entered somewhere truly special. Tucked away on the Greenwich Peninsula, just a stone’s throw from the O2 Arena, The Firepit Gallery isn’t just another art venue — it’s a living, breathing community. The moment you step inside, you are immersed in a kaleidoscope of colour, creativity, and character. It feels like a sanctuary, a hive of inspiration and warmth, especially for those with an eye for flair, originality, and a desire for genuine connection.

Recently, Firepit Gallery played host to the closing night of The Autism & Art Show, a vibrant and inclusive celebration of neurodiverse talent. The event brought together an eclectic mix of artists and creatives, showcasing a dynamic range of work that broke boundaries and challenged perceptions. On hand to mark the occasion were some of the most exciting and diverse voices in the art world. Spanish-born street artist Piluca, known for her bold murals and graffiti-inspired work, joined celebrated photographer and artist Annemarie Bickerton. Also exhibiting was Alistair Blaster Artz, whose bold, futuristic pieces drew crowds.

Dt Anna Kennedy OBE with the acting royalty Vicki Michelle

The legendary John Lee Bird made a much-anticipated appearance, arriving just in time to greet Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE, a champion of autism awareness and inclusion. It’s moments like these — the spontaneous meetings, the shared laughs, the applause and admiration — that make the Firepit feel like much more than just a gallery. It’s a place where emerging and established talents mingle with activists, celebrities, and visitors from all walks of life. A kind of creative salon, echoing the golden age of artistic gatherings in Paris and London, where art wasn’t just displayed — it was lived.

Firepit is a home for Annemarie Bickerton celebrity photographer and artist .

I once described The Firepit as “the Willy Wonka of the art world,” and the comparison still holds true. There’s a sense of wonder in every corner, from the ever-changing exhibitions to the vibrant murals, installations, and sculptures that inhabit the space. It’s a gallery, yes, but also a home — one with a full-stocked bar, laughter in the air, and a real sense of belonging. It feels like stepping into a dreamscape where the lines between artist, viewer, and friend gently blur.

At the heart of it all is Marcus Jake, the visionary behind The Firepit Gallery. Marcus isn’t just the founder — he’s the soul of the place. Equal parts curator, host, mentor, and mischief-maker, Marcus has created something rare: a truly inclusive, vibrant, and welcoming environment where everyone feels seen. Whether you’re a collector, a curious wanderer, or someone simply seeking a safe and inspiring space, Marcus will greet you with open arms and infectious enthusiasm.

Gallery owner Marcus Jake

His vision for Firepit goes far beyond traditional art world boundaries. The gallery regularly hosts workshops, talks, performances, and community events. It’s a beacon of light for the LGBTQ+ community, a space where self-expression isn’t just accepted — it’s celebrated. From drag evenings to life-drawing classes, from vinyl DJ nights to panel discussions about mental health and inclusion, Firepit’s calendar is as diverse and electric as its art.

One of the gallery’s standout features is its monthly wine-tasting and dinner evenings. These events are less about formality and more about connection. Attendees gather around a long communal table, sampling wines and sharing stories while surrounded by stunning artwork. The conversations flow freely, from art and culture to politics, identity, and everything in between. These evenings have become a cherished ritual for many — a time to pause, reflect, and feel part of something bigger.

There’s also something very special about the way the gallery bridges the gap between high art and community. Too often, galleries can feel cold or elitist, but Firepit is the opposite. Here, art is accessible, emotional, and rooted in lived experience. Visitors are encouraged to talk to the artists, share their responses, and engage with the work on a personal level. Whether you’re buying your first print or attending your tenth show, you’re treated as part of the Firepit family.

The gallery’s physical space mirrors this ethos. With its industrial-chic aesthetic, vivid lighting, and rotating displays, it feels ever-changing yet instantly familiar. The bar is often the social centre of the room, where Marcus and his team are on hand not only to pour drinks but also to engage in meaningful conversation. There’s a nostalgia to the place — a reminder of the old salons and cabarets of Paris and Soho, where people came not just for the art, but for the dialogue, the inspiration, and the community.

Hanging out at The Firepitt with artists and friends

As London changes and gentrification continues to reshape its cultural spaces, The Firepit stands as a powerful counterpoint — fiercely independent, passionately inclusive, and gloriously vibrant. It’s a place where stories are shared, identities are embraced, and creativity flows freely.

In many ways, The Firepit Gallery is more than just a hidden gem. It’s a movement. A space that proves that art still has the power to unite, to challenge, and to heal. Whether you’re attending an exhibition, joining a wine tasting, participating in a workshop, or simply popping in for a chat, you leave feeling uplifted, seen, and inspired.

And perhaps that’s the greatest magic of all — not just what you find at The Firepit, but what it awakens in you.

So next time you find yourself near the O2, take a detour. Step into this creative haven where art, community, and a touch of magic collide. You may just discover your new favourite place in London.

The Firepit Gallery
No.2, Upper Riverside
10 Cutter Ln, Ground Floor Unit
Greenwich Peninsula
London SE10 0XX
📧 info@firepit.art
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Review: What It Feels Like for a Girl

https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/m002c6nx/what-it-feels-like-for-a-girl

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There is no doubt that What It Feels Like for a Girl is one of the bravest, boldest, and most emotionally charged dramas the BBC has aired in recent memory. Dark, funny, and deeply moving, it doesn’t pull punches — and nor should it. In today’s climate, where LGBTQ+ rights are often politicised and marginalised, this series dares to dig into the raw truth of what it can feel like to grow up queer, different, and determined in an often hostile world.

At the heart of the drama is Byron — a teenager who doesn’t so much come out as leap flamboyantly out of the closet in heels and an acrylic wig. It’s a bold characterisation, and one that instantly divides viewers between admiration and concern. Byron is played with remarkable energy and vulnerability by the talented Elis Howard, whose performance captures both the sass and sadness behind a young person trying to define themselves on their own terms. Byron is no victim — he’s fierce, intelligent, witty — but the world he moves through doesn’t always treat him with the same kindness or understanding.

The series is packed with dynamic performances, but none more compelling than Jake Dunn as the chilling and unpredictable Liam. Liam is, quite frankly, terrifying — a young man full of rage, confusion, and violence, embodying a dangerous masculinity that feels all too familiar. Dunn’s performance is nothing short of remarkable, tapping into a deep well of menace and vulnerability. It would not be surprising to see this role lead to awards recognition — it’s a BAFTA-worthy turn from a young actor in complete control of his craft.

Jake Dunn as Liam has to be up for BAFTA

Just as striking is Michael Socha as Byron’s dad, Steve. Socha — one of the UK’s brightest acting talents, known for his powerful work in Big Boys Don’t Cry — brings incredible depth and complexity to a role that could easily have slipped into cliché. Steve is a working-class father trying to love and protect his child while also wrestling with his own fears, prejudices, and sense of masculinity. He isn’t perfect, but he tries — and that attempt, that effort to understand, is what gives the performance its emotional weight. Socha makes Steve both gruff and tender, occasionally heartbreaking, and always utterly human.

One of the UK’s finest actors Michael Socha gives a brilliant dimensional performance as Steve https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/m002c6nx/what-it-feels-like-for-a-girl

The supporting cast is also excellent, rounding out a story that never feels one-note. Each character serves as a window into different facets of LGBTQ+ identity, family dynamics, and the brutal realities of adolescence. The script, while occasionally unflinching in its language and choices, never feels exploitative. Instead, it invites the viewer to sit in discomfort, to examine their assumptions, and to witness the daily negotiations and dangers that queer teens may face.

However, it would be dishonest to pretend the series is perfect — or without controversy.

In a time where LGBTQ+ and particularly trans communities are under increasing attack — in the media, in politics, and in public life — there is a growing call for stories that offer more balance, more hope, and more variation. While What It Feels Like for a Girl is undeniably powerful, it risks reinforcing some deeply damaging tropes. The depiction of young gay men becoming involved in sex work or aggressively pursuing unavailable straight men plays into harmful stereotypes that many activists and members of the LGBTQ+ community have spent decades working to dismantle.

There is a danger that a show like this, no matter how well-crafted, could be misinterpreted by those looking for ammunition to further vilify queer lives. It’s a delicate balance — representing the reality of some without suggesting it’s the reality for all. And in this case, that balance feels slightly off. Yes, some young people do struggle in these ways. But others do not. Some grow up in supportive families, thrive at school, fall in love safely, and live joyfully. Those stories matter too.

In many ways, this series is a reminder of the importance of representation — and the challenges that come with it. Authentic queer storytelling is vital, but so is diversity within that storytelling. Not every queer teen is a tragedy, and not every narrative needs to be soaked in trauma. What we need now, more than ever, is nuance. The right to be messy, yes — but also the right to be happy.

Despite these concerns, What It Feels Like for a Girl remains compelling, necessary viewing. The direction is confident and unflinching, the writing brutally honest, and the performances — particularly from Dunn, Howard, and Socha — are unforgettable. The series asks difficult questions and offers no easy answers. And perhaps that is its greatest strength.

This isn’t a show that ties everything up in a bow or gives us a neat resolution. It leaves viewers unsettled, maybe even angry. But it also invites conversation. It asks us to sit in the discomfort of the truth and to consider how we might do better — as parents, as friends, as a society.

In the end, What It Feels Like for a Girl doesn’t pretend to speak for everyone. It tells one version of the truth — raw, messy, painful, and defiant. It may not be the perfect flag-bearer for LGBTQ+ representation, but it doesn’t need to be. What it does do is open the door. It gets us talking. It reminds us that behind every label is a life — complicated, beautiful, and worthy of understanding.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/m002c6nx/what-it-feels-like-for-a-girl

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THE FAB 4 GET READY FOR SUMMER

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So let’s put a spring in our step and get summer ready with these Fab 4 things to brighten our appearance…

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1. Browned OFF Fake Tan – Watermans

From the people who brought you the hair loss shampoo, Matt and Gail Waterman have branched out with a luxurious self-tanning product. For me there is nothing more boring or dangerous than sunbathing, and I gave up acting like a rotisserie chicken years ago in favour of the fake tan.

I have tried all sorts and this is just love! Watermans Browned OFF is a great colour and it went on easily. It does not have an odour or dry out the skin. More importantly it did not transfer onto my clothes and dried quickly.

Spray tans certainly are the way forward; treat yourself to a self-tanning machine as great investment for great results. It is important to exfoliate before treatment. Matt allows for Emma (designs a brush) to warm tan tanning gloves or a brush will help you to apply product to yourself. Better still ask a friend to do your back and check how you have applied it properly!

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2. Get some colour in your hair with the ‘highlight queen’ – Hedi G

While many celebrity colourists bask in the glory of the clientele, others work quietly under the radar, creating iconic showbiz magic for those that don’t always make it to the glossy editorial spreads.

Hedi G. is a kick-ass stylist for celebrities. She has worked in some of the world’s best salons, leading career in over 25 years. She started her career in London and went on to work at a Vidal Sassoon where her highlights quickly gained attention.

Further education followed at the Sassoon’s in senior stylist role in the Sassoon branch in St. Christopher’s. It was there she worked with stars like Joshua Wood, the structuring of colour was so high clients included Madonna, Kylie, Peter Andre, and Jerry Hall.

Job became a real moment with Geri Halliwell who had a new look, weeks before her wedding in Kent. Hedi moved to Cornwall with her family and has since set up an in-home salon offering her services by appointment only. She has many stars seeking her services.

Hedi has a bespoke approach to each client, and if you’re lucky enough to get booked in (appointments fill up months in advance), you should be surprised who might be in the salon chair with you.

I won’t brush names, but I know Hedi is the best in business. With support and help of Tamara Beckwith and Aimee Lexxo just might be sitting next to you…

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3. Get in shape with the new celebrity must… Ice Therapy

So, Gemma Collins is among the devotees and Carol Vorderman swears by it – ice therapy, or more precisely submersion in an ice pod. The concept sounds brutal at first but offers serious benefits.

Asla, a former doctor and psychologist, is an expert in this. She created an ice pod in her back garden and now has a whole host of celebrity clients. It boosts the immune system, burns fat, and strengthens resilience.

There are many health benefits and she has made it accessible and informative, through her Ice Health online community.

I can highly recommend it – as it will hit the winter blues and get you summer ready.

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4. Get a vitamin drip…

Picture Graham Martin

It’s been a must-have for high-flying celebrities, notorious for ‘burning the candle at both ends’.

Many resort to having a moment to indulge in a bespoke vitamin drip. I have, more than likely, after all it was rumoured to be followed by the likes of Simon Cowell and Rihanna – has become not just a celebrity favourite, but with COVID and the flu rife, people are taking precautions by taking a vitamin drip to protect them, aid slimming and well-being.

IV vitamin drips inject vitamins, minerals and other substances, such as glutathione, directly into the bloodstream – bypassing the normal process of digestion and absorption through the gastrointestinal tract.

IV vitamin drips deliver a higher concentration of certain vitamins and minerals into your bloodstream, and at a much quicker rate than taking something orally – hence their reputation between the A-lister and jet-set.
They also make for a great, if not a little expensive, hangover cure.

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MobLand REVIEW

No smoking guns here as Mob land falls very flat .

Hardy delivers a master class in acting in this mediocre show .

Mob Land undoubtedly cements Tom Hardy as one of the greatest actors of our time. His commanding presence on screen is astounding, delivering a masterclass in acting that is, unfortunately, the only real highlight of Guy Ritchie’s Mob Land.

As a long-time admirer of Ritchie’s work, it’s difficult to understand what he was aiming for with this series . Mob Landbrings nothing particularly new to the table. It feels as though Ritchie watched Gangs of London and thought, “I should have done that.” Ironically, Gangs of London was likely influenced by Ritchie’s own early work, Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels and Snatch—films that helped define the modern British gangster genre. However, Mob Land lacks the freshness, wit, and compelling storytelling that made those earlier films so iconic.

Tom Hardy is the film’s saving grace, but even his powerful performance cannot elevate the series beyond mediocrity. The rest of the star-studded cast delivers disappointingly lackluster performances, making for an underwhelming experience. Pierce Brosnan, despite being Irish, sounds as though he is forcing his accent rather than naturally embodying it. He brings no depth or nuance to his role as Conrad Harrigan, the ruthless patriarch of the crime family, and at times, his attempts to instill fear in his character come across as unintentionally laughable.

Even more disappointing is the legendary Helen Mirren, who plays Maeve Harrigan. Her exaggerated accent seems to have been plucked straight from Father Ted’s Mrs. Doyle, and her chemistry with Brosnan is virtually nonexistent. The two share as much on-screen rapport as Donald Trump and Volodymyr Zelensky—awkward, strained, and completely unconvincing. The rest of the family members are equally miscast, leaving audiences struggling to form any emotional connection with them. Rather than being immersed in their struggles and conflicts, viewers are left wondering if the cast were simply Ritchie’s friends having a casual get-together rather than dedicated actors committed to their roles.

Helen Mirren and Piers Bronson as much chemistry as Trump and Zelensky

Set in the dark underworld of London’s criminal elite, Mob Land follows the Harrigan crime family, once a formidable empire now teetering on the brink of collapse. Conrad Harrigan (Pierce Brosnan), the aging patriarch, is desperate to maintain his grip on the city’s illicit activities while facing threats from younger, more ruthless up-and-comers. His wife, Maeve (Helen Mirren), is the matriarch who attempts to hold the family together through sheer force of will, though her influence is waning.

Their eldest son, Michael Harrigan, is expected to inherit the family business, but his lack of cunning and charisma makes him an unfit successor. Meanwhile, his younger brother, Sean (a brooding but ultimately forgettable presence), wrestles with the moral implications of the life he’s been born into. As internal family tensions rise, external threats loom ever closer.

Not much of as family affair as the cast fail to connect .

Enter Tom Hardy as James “Jimmy” Callahan, a former enforcer for the Harrigans who has spent the past decade trying to escape his violent past. Haunted by his past actions, Jimmy is reluctantly pulled back into the fray when his younger brother, Danny, finds himself in the crosshairs of both the Harrigans and a rival gang. Jimmy’s return sets off a chain of events that pits old loyalties against new betrayals, forcing him to navigate a treacherous landscape where trust is a commodity in short supply.

The series attempts to explore themes of legacy, loyalty, and redemption, but it never quite commits to any of them in a meaningful way. The narrative meanders through predictable plot points, offering nothing particularly innovative or engaging. The action sequences, while well-choreographed, feel like recycled versions of better-executed scenes from Ritchie’s earlier works. Mob Land lacks the sharp dialogue, snappy pacing, and dynamic storytelling that made films like Snatch and The Gentlemen so enjoyable.

Ultimately, Mob Land is a series that suffers from a lack of originality, uninspired performances (aside from Hardy), and a script that fails to live up to its potential. The story is neither gripping nor emotionally resonant, leaving viewers indifferent to the fates of its characters. What you find yourself longing for throughout the series is a return to Hardy’s scenes—because only then does Mob Land show any real spark of life.

In the end, Mob Land feels more like a missed opportunity than a worthy addition to Ritchie’s filmography. Fans of the director’s earlier work will likely walk away disappointed, wondering what could have been if the series had lived up to its promising premise.

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Anna Kennedy OBE At the Autism's Hero Awards

What a night! It is truly an honour to be the patron of Anna Kennedy Online. The team has become like family, and with great excitement, I stepped out on Saturday for the annual Autism Hero Awards.

All pictures by Terry Scott https://annakennedyonline.com

https://annakennedyonline.com Vicki Michelle with Anna Kennedy OBE

The Autism Hero Awards 2025: A Night of Celebration and Inspiration

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Red Carpet Ready GBNEWS Nana Akua and fiancé Stephen Gillian .

On March 15, 2025, the prestigious Autism Hero Awards, hosted by Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE, took place at the Holiday Inn Regents Park, London. Organized by the charity Anna Kennedy Online, this highly anticipated event honoured the remarkable achievements of individuals, organisations, and initiatives making a positive impact in the autism community. With inspiring award categories, special performances, and celebrity guests, the night was a spectacular celebration of talent, resilience, and advocacy.

Anna Kennedy surrounded by glitz and glamour towering above her Actor Matthew Blake and entrepreneur Richard Andrews

A Star-Studded Guest List

The event welcomed an impressive lineup of celebrities, including bestselling author Samantha Lee Howe, actress Vicki Michelle, actor Gary Webster, television personality Wendy Turner Webster.

Tiano’s Christopher Hamilton with Anna Kennedy OBE

Heartstopper star Bradley Riches, presenter Nana Akua, and fiancé author Stephen Gillian. 70 years In the business Frazer Hines danced till midnight . Olympic champion and patron Joe Luck was on hand ,

Award winning author and screen writer Samantha Lee Howe who judged the awards along with me Steven Smith

Adding to the glamour was singing sensation Tiano’s Christopher Hamilton. Actress and presenter Danielle Mason, Pink Ribbons’ Lisa Allen, and artist Piluca Camino Alcon also graced the event. The evening’s main hosts, award-winning presenter Aston Avery and youth theatre organiser Phillip Barnett, ensured the night flowed seamlessly with warmth and professionalism.

The man of the moments Brad Riches

Presenter Aston Avery and Phil Barnett with Anna https://annakennedyonline.com

Honouring the Autism Community’s Heroes

Model actress and presenter Danielle Mason joined the celebrities and crowd .

The Autism Hero Awards is more than just an event—it is a movement that recognises the incredible contributions of individuals and organisations within the autism community. Each category highlights a different aspect of support, advocacy, or achievement, celebrating efforts both big and small.

A night to remember

Award Winners and Highly Commended Recipients

Young Person of the Year Award
Winner: Lucy Lovett
Highly Commended: Jiya Rai, Chapman Shum

Outstanding Community Award
Winner: True Colours Theatre CIO Foundation
Highly Commended: Craig Henderson, Doncaster Autism Service

Terry Scott is ready to do his thing as Aston Avery presents and Nana Akua and Anna Kennedy present and award to True Colours .

Sibling of the Year Award
Winner: Brooke Scaysbrook-Smith
Highly Commended: Kayden Francis, Rosie Simmons

Parent/Carer of the Year Award
Winner: Nicole Simmons
Highly Commended: Amanda Inglis, Satia Rai

veteran acting royalty Frazer Hines .

The Lifetime Award
Winner: Elspeth Jones
Highly Commended: Annie Sands, Joely Williams

Leading Business Award
Winner: Skye Stack
Highly Commended: Pamela Capriglione, Hiyed CIC

People’s Autism Hero of the Year Award
Winner: Blaise Heywood
Highly Commended: Jenny Robinson, Rose Connelly

Two of the judges actor Gary Webster and presenter and author Wendy Turner

Outstanding Education Award
Winner: Hayley Morris
Highly Commended: Kassem Istanbouli, Margarita Mladenova

Creative Arts and Media Award
Winner: Curran Dobbs
Highly Commended: Libby Barrett, Amaya Edwards

Support Group of the Year Award
Winner: Kim Drake – Little Hero’s ASD Support Group

Personal Achievement Award
Winner: Thomas Howard
Highly Commended: Amaya Edwards, Kelsey McInearney

Online Social Network Award
Winner: Daniel Jones

The star of the night Vega

Human-Animal Bond Award
Winner: Philippa Jane Sjoberg & Scrumpy
Highly Commended: Sarah Allen & Patsy, Bobby Clark & Zeus

The judges Steven Smith Samantha Lee Howe Brad Riches , Gary Webster with Anna Kennedy OBE

A Night of Emotional Speeches and Performances

The night was filled with heartfelt speeches from winners and nominees, many sharing personal stories of perseverance and triumph. One of the most touching moments came from Thomas Howard, who received the Personal Achievement Award for his relentless advocacy in making neurodiversity training mandatory in higher education. His emotional speech moved the audience, reinforcing the importance of awareness and inclusivity.

On hand celebrity magician Angus
Baskerville entertained .

The Impact of the Autism Hero Awards

Events like these play a crucial role in breaking down barriers, fostering inclusion, and encouraging ongoing support for autistic individuals. Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE, the driving force behind the awards, delivered a passionate speech about the importance of community support, education, and advocacy. Her dedication continues to bring positive change and hope to countless individuals and families.

Looking Ahead

As the curtains closed on another successful Autism Hero Awards ceremony, attendees left inspired and determined. The event once again proved the importance of recognising and celebrating achievements within the autism community. With each passing year, the Autism Hero Awards grow stronger, touching more lives and expanding their reach.

Upcoming Event: Autism & Art Show

Anna Kennedy Online in Association with Firepit Art Gallery CIC Presents Their Inaugural
🎨 “AUTISM & ART SHOW” 🎨

VIP Red Carpet Launch: May 22nd, 2025
Exhibition Dates: May 22nd – May 27th, 2025

“For people on the autism spectrum, art is a powerful medium that encourages self-expression.”

Anna Kennedy Online, in collaboration with the Firepit Art Gallery, is proud to present the first-ever “Autism & Art Show.” This exciting event showcases incredible artwork from autistic artists and their allies, with all profits supporting the charity Anna Kennedy Online. Art is more than just a passion—it serves as a therapeutic outlet, offering solace and joy to many individuals on the autism spectrum.

Featured Artists Include:

Annemarie Bickerton | Piluca Camino Alcon | Chris Wild | Alastair Blaster

Are you an artist on the autism spectrum or an ally who wishes to contribute? Donations of artwork or a percentage of sales are welcomed to support this meaningful cause. Showcase your work at one of London’s most vibrant galleries!

📩 To donate art or get involved, contact:
Steven Smith – spman@btinternet.com

🎟 Get Your VIP Night Tickets Below!
https://bit.ly/42Jo4OA
(Other exhibition dates are free to attend, but donations to the charity are greatly appreciated.)

📍 Event Location:
Firepit Art Gallery CIC
Firepit Gallery
No.2, Upper Riverside,
10 Cutter Ln, Ground Floor Unit,
Greenwich Peninsula, London SE10 0XX

🔗 Learn More & Support the Charity

Chris Wilde one of the artist who work will be on show .
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Spoiling It for the Others

Why “Dead Life” Will Seriously Affect Us All

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IyPhuLb4EZQ Peter Tatchell fights for us all to be who we are .

We are living in an era where serious fraud is celebrated, and the tale of The Emperor’s New Clothes feels more like reality than fiction. If you dare to point out the truth—that the emperor is, in fact, naked—you might find yourself in court. It’s an utterly unhinged world we live in.

I am at a lovely lunch in the heart of Essex, a place synonymous with spray tans, hair extensions, Botox, and outrageously long lashes. To say the least, I fit right in. My gorgeous companion has abandoned extensions yet looks stunning, appearing even fresher and more youthful than the rest. She is what I would call real. When she did go the false route, she never told tall tales or passed them off as her own. She is genuine—in fact, we once joked about the extensions needing food parcels. If she had lied, I wouldn’t trust her.

So, when I recently noticed a trans woman using what I find to be the most troubling and manipulative card of all—the “Dead Life” card—I was deeply concerned. And now, everyone is expected to either accept her version of events or face being sued. This isn’t a joke—it’s a serious issue.

For those unaware, the “Dead Life” concept allows individuals who have transitioned to rewrite their past. Not only can they change their pronouns (I am totally with)  but in some cases, they can craft entire fictional histories for themselves—transforming their previous existence into something entirely unrecognisable. A bit like The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, where a whole new world is created from imagination.

Now, let me be absolutely clear: I have had the privilege of knowing many incredible, talented, and brave trans women. They have undergone their journeys to become their authentic selves, and in my eyes, they are now—rightfully—women. Interestingly, none of them have resorted to the “Dead Life” tactic. Instead, they have spoken openly about their lives, their struggles, and their triumphs, offering guidance and inspiration to others. One such example is the incredibly lovely India Willoughby, newsreader and presenter.

Gorgeous and talented India Willoughby and asset to us all and role model for the trans community.

However, let’s consider a different scenario. Suppose I told you that, at 16, I was an astronaut and had a torrid affair with Madonna. That would be an outright lie (all but  an amusing one). At 16, I was, like many others, just a regular teenager experiencing life. But here’s the difference: if I were to publish a book claiming such fabrications as fact, people would rightfully call it out as nonsense.

Madonna called for you to “Express yourself ” not lie .

So why is it that a trans woman can write a memoir claiming that, at 17, she was a stunning young woman having an affair with a well-known pop star (now deceased)—when, in reality, at that time, she was a 17-year-old boy with acne? The claim that she auditioned for a well-known girl band when she would have needed a good shave for that is also questionable. But what’s really worrying is the superimposition of pictures of herself as a girl into family photos when, in fact, she was a boy.

How can publishers allow this and sell it to an unsuspecting public? It is deceitful. Should we sue?

Even newspapers are reporting such blatant fabrications as truth. It makes Trump’s propaganda look like child’s play. As a community are we not all up in arms about his lies ? 

Lies are not facts. Yet, we live in a time where, if The Emperor’s New Clothes were rewritten today, the boy who dared to shout, “He’s naked!” would be the one dragged into court. It’s insanity. Serious fraud is being rewarded, and if you speak out against it, you are painted as the villain.

Now, I am sure that many trans women who invoke the “Dead Life” narrative are simply living their lives quietly and not publishing books filled with fabricated stories. But as a community, we are in danger.

On 5 March, Legendary Children (All Of Them Queer) screened for the first time in London to a sold-out crowd. The screening marked the end of LGBT+ History Month and was followed by a Q&A with human rights campaigner, Peter Tatchell, who said he hopes the film inspires others towards activism.

Peter Tatchell made an incredibly insightful point. He doesn’t just work within LGBTQ+ charities; he also volunteers in a range of organizations, including those within religious communities that have historically been homophobic. By leading through example—by showing up, engaging, and being part of these spaces—he changes minds. That is real activism.

A humble hero Peter Thatchell

Many trans people do not wish to be part of the LGBTQ+ community, and that is their choice. However, for now, they remain within it. They are welcome. But honesty must remain at the core of any community. Without honesty, we lose trust, and once trust is broken, everything begins to crumble.

When a con artist exploits the “Dead Life” card to fabricate a fictional past and present it as fact, we all suffer. We need to hold individuals accountable. My hope is that someone exposes this person for who they truly are—so that they may serve as an example to others not to go down the same route,

Because, at the end of the day, she is spoiling it for the others.

The incredible Boy George and 2hades favourite David Hoyle a star .

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“SMELLY KID “

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THE METEORIC RISE OF ADULT FILM STAR ANDY LEE https://bit.ly/3Qsxsie

Andy lee’s autobiography Smelly kid coming soon ,https://bit.ly/3Qsxsie

BY Steven Smith

If there is one thing that gets my back up, it’s when a gay man tells me, “I only sleep with straight men.” It’s such an oxymoron. It screams of homophobia. That being said, some of the most homophobic people I have met have, in some cases, been other gay men.

I have written a whole feature on the topic. The fantasy itself is great on paper—why not? Everyone has fantasies, and most sexual fantasies are harmless. In a safe relationship, when discussed, they can even add some sizzle to your love. life. https://2shadesmagazine.com/2024/06/18/trolls-trauma-straight-men/

Andy Warhol once said, “People’s fantasies are what give them problems. If you didn’t have fantasies, you wouldn’t have problems because you’d just take whatever was there.”

My big go-to has to be actor Colin Farrell. Even though he is straight, he regularly pops into my mind. Knowing someone identifies as straight means I personally would not try to date them, preferring instead for someone to reach out to me. We have some very sexy out actors such as Jonathan Bailey and Andrew Scott. Not so long ago, being an out actor was the kiss of death for a career, but Bailey and Scott have shattered that notion and become box office dynamite. Having met Scott at the gym, I can also say he is lovely.

Colin Farrell

With supply and demand, adult actor and entrepreneur Andy Lee has found a niche in the market, creating adult content that is arguably aimed at the gay market. He and most of his team of working men would identify as heterosexual. Andy is making a mint with his OnlyFans page, and without a doubt, with his cheeky grin and self-confidence, he is becoming the most recognizable face in UK adult porn.

Andy lee https://bit.ly/3Qsxsie

He is not without his critics—the hate mail comes fast, along with accusations that he is taking advantage of gay men. Personally, I have nothing but admiration for Andy and hope his haters watch him travel the world in style and drive fancy cars. The clever part is that he is simply supplying what people want—he’s not holding a gun to anyone’s head.

Andy lee https://bit.ly/3Qsxsie

This is a man who came from nothing, losing his mother at age 12, but climbed his way to the top. His new book, Smelly Kid, is well worth a read. His film, Only Andy, available on Amazon, was a hit. Don’t be afraid to watch it—it’s an interesting and well-crafted look at OnlyFans and a man you will likely end up liking. My prediction? Lee will take a few acting lessons and eventually transition into mainstream films.

Steven Smith meets Andy for six of the best.

1. How tough was it growing up in a terraced home in Dublin? Do you think it gave you the strength to succeed?

My childhood wasn’t easy. My father abandoned me, leaving me to be brought up by my single mother, who tragically died when I was just 12 years old, leaving me orphaned. By 15, I was living rough on the streets, just struggling to survive. What that taught me was that everything you have can be taken away from you, just like that! You asked if it gave me the strength to succeed? Damn right, it did. Having spent most of my childhood without enough to eat, I am determined never to be in that place again.

ANDY LEE https://bit.ly/3Qsxsie

2. You’re a skilled plumber—when did you decide to transition into the adult movie business?

Well, the reality is I did adult movie work before I was a plumber. However, it was just a casual affair—doing random shoots for different porn websites whenever I needed some extra cash. I didn’t decide to transition from plumbing to porn. My homophobic boss found out about my old work on gay websites and fired me. This was just at the beginning of lockdown. With no other obvious means to earn a living, I started OnlyFans. It wasn’t something I planned to do, but boy, am I glad I did!

3. Many struggle to make it in the industry, but you’ve turned it into a major success, inspiring others to follow. What advice would you give to those thinking about swapping their tools for the adult film industry?

The main advice I’d give anyone considering a career in adult movies is to seriously consider whether they could cope if their content got leaked—meaning all of their family and every potential employer could see it. People really need to realize that once something is put online, it’s nearly impossible to take it back.

Andy lee and team support London Pride https://bit.ly/3Qsxsie

4. The adult movie business is notorious for its impact on mental health. How do you protect your well-being and plan for the future?

Amazingly, my mental health is better now that I’m a full-time adult content creator than it’s ever been in any of my previous employment. The secret is to fully own what you do—don’t be ashamed of it. That way, it’s impossible for others to shame you. Also, I treat this like a proper business. That means I can go to work, give it my all, and then go home and switch off. I separate my work life from my regular life.

Andy Lee https://bit.ly/3Qsxsie

5. You’ve traveled extensively—what’s your favorite place?

I absolutely loved Japan. Everything was so efficient, and the food was amazing. I think I had my best-ever meal in Japan: a katsu curry, cooked to crispy perfection.

6. When you look at someone, what do you find sexiest?

Easy. I love a well-rounded rear!

Quick Fire Round

What advice would you give your 16-year-old self?

Hang on in there, kid—you will get through this, and it will be okay. Don’t listen to those who tell you you are nothing because you are amazing!

Favorite food?

Hot & spicy curry!

The most romantic place for a date?


Confession, I’m not hugely romantic. My perfect date would be a movie followed by a cheeky Nando’s.

END

Andy lee film out now

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Only-Andy-Lee/dp/B0D1JFVZGG/ref=nav_signin?crid=SPFU6P7A2CXF&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.G0IqB-4jijeT7kA_wbYt2cGkKyhnfwmGq7BNl7Wfx-vGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.z3zgS-TRcq0F4nwqbj1hFGQomOcCdqSatlS9QvpGKVU&dib_tag=se&keywords=only+andy+movie&qid=1739434591&sprefix=ONLY+ANDY+%2Caps%2C71&sr=8-1


FROM THE GRIM REALITIES OF A POVERTY-STRICKEN CHILDHOOD in Dublin’s inner city to an unexpected rise to fame, Smelly Kid is the raw and gripping memoir of Andy Lee. Abandoned by his father, orphaned by twelve, and left to navigate a world that seemed determined to cast him aside, Andy’s early years were a relentless struggle for survival. Homeless and hungry, he battled against the odds, finding solace in the rare kindness of strangers and the rebellious spirit that refused to let him sink.

But Andy’s story is not just one of hardship – it’s a tale of resilience, transformation, and unexpected success. With humour and unflinching honesty, he takes readers on a journey from the streets of Dublin to the bright lights of the adult entertainment industry, proving that no matter where you come from, you can carve out your own destiny. 

GRITTY, HEARTBREAKING, AND ULTIMATELY INSPIRING, SMELLY KID IS A STORY YOU WON’T FORGET.

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Happy New Year from Anna Kennedy

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Dr. Anna Kennedy OBE first Column of 2025

Happy New Year! Let’s hope 2025 is a great year for us all. I’m busy with my team, as always. Among the many things we have lined up is The Autism Hero Awards, being held at the Holiday Inn, Regent’s Park, London on the 15th of March. You can find information on how to get tickets and sponsorship details at the bottom of this column.

As always, we also have the amazing Autism’s Got Talent later this year—audition tapes are welcome now!

In other news, our autism ambassador, Kieron Lee, is launching a neurodiverse musical education platform as his final major project for his BA (Hons) degree in Popular Music.

We’re also thrilled to announce that our patron, Steven Smith, along with the incredible Annemarie Bickerton, will be hosting the first-ever Autism Art Show, featuring artists on the autism spectrum and supporters of the charity. Money raised will go directly to the charity. This event will be held at the sensational gallery, The Fire Pit (https://www.firepit.art), from May 22 to May 25, 2025.

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE with one of her patrons Steven Smith ,

Please keep your questions coming into 2Shades magazine. I’ve been thrilled to join such a diverse and exciting publication!

Dear Anna,
Trust you’re well. My family loves your column. We were wondering: What do you think are the most common myths about people living with autism?

Dawn, Essex.

Thank you, Dawn, for your kind comments. Sadly, there are still a lot of autism myths out there.

Here is five common ones

5 Myths and Facts About Autism

Myth 1: Autism is caused by vaccines.

Fact: There is no scientific evidence linking vaccines to autism. Numerous studies have thoroughly debunked this myth. Autism is believed to be influenced by a combination of genetic and environmental factors, but vaccines are not one of them.

Myth 2: People with autism lack empathy.

Fact: Many individuals with autism experience empathy deeply, but they may express it differently. Some may have difficulty recognizing social cues, but this does not mean they lack feelings or care for others.

Myth 3: Autism only affects children.

Fact: Autism is a lifelong condition. While symptoms might present differently as people age, autistic adults continue to experience challenges and strengths associated with autism throughout their lives.

Myth 4: Everyone with autism has the same abilities and challenges.

Fact: Autism is a spectrum, meaning it affects individuals differently. Some may have significant support needs, while others may live independently and excel in various fields. No two autistic people are alike.

Myth 5: Autism can be cured.

Fact: Autism is not a disease and does not need to be “cured.” The focus is on acceptance, support, and enabling autistic individuals to thrive by embracing their unique perspectives and abilities.

Would you like to dive deeper into any of these points?

Here is a link with more Myths and Facts on the Ambitious About Autism website:
https://www.ambitiousaboutautism.org.uk/what-we-do/awareness/autism-myths-and-facts

Hope this helps.

Dear Anna,
My daughter is being labelled disruptive at school. She’s been diagnosed with autism and severe learning difficulties. Despite discussing this with the headteacher, she’s suggested that Mary, my daughter, not return this term and instead find a school more suited to her needs. Anna, I feel lost—what can I do, or who can I turn to for help?

Diana, Essex

Dear Diana, I feel your frustration.

Please do contact our charity website using our contact form at http://www.annakennedyonline.com. We can discuss the possible way forward. In the meantime, do some research on schools that may meet your daughter’s needs within an hour’s drive of where you live.

You will then be in a more informed position on what is available in your area. You could visit a few schools to get a feel for the services and resources they offer.

Dear Anna,
How does someone become part of Autism’s Got Talent? My son is super talented at playing guitar. He’s a little shy and unsure about auditioning. He’s also worried about encountering a harsh judge.

David, Edinburgh

Hello David,
Autism’s Got Talent is now in its 14th year and one of the highlights of our charity year.

This is a showcase of talented individuals performing at The Mermaid Theatre, London. Autism’s Got Talent is not a competition.

Please do watch our highlight videos on our charity YouTube channel.

You could also come along to the show in October to experience the magic. Share the experience with the audience made up of parents, friends of the performers, and members of the public who are regular supporters. Feel the magic and be inspired. Then send a tape in of your son performing . love Anna

Autism’s Got Talent.

Dear Anna,
My son is 19 and wants to start dating. He’s a lovely young man but has a stammer and lives with autism. I’m worried about how he’ll handle rejection. Is there a webpage or group where he can meet like-minded people?

Brenda, Norwich

Hello Brenda,
There are many dating sites now for autistic individuals.

Here are a few:

https://www.undateables.co.uk

https://autism.disabledmate.com

A popular Netflix docuseries, Love on the Spectrum, showcases autistic individuals navigating the world of dating. One of our charity’s overseas ambassadors is featured in series one and two.

In this romantic docuseries, people on the autism spectrum look for love and navigate the world of dating and relationships.
https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/81338328

Good luck!

Dear Anna,
I love your dancing! I’m 17 and want to learn to dance seriously. Living with autism has always made it feel challenging, but I’d like to get more involved. How did you learn?

Love, Melanie, Brighton

Hello Melanie,
Dance is a great way to stay fit and boost your mood and well-being. I started tap dancing at age 6 and fell in love with dance then. It definitely keeps you feeling young.

Join a local dance class and discover which dance style suits you best. There are also many dance classes online if this makes you feel more comfortable at first, then gradually progress to a dance studio.

Good luck and enjoy!

Anna Kennedy with her former Dance Partner Robin Windsor
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Heidi Gammon’s Christmas agony aunt column

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Happy Christmas, and it is cheer and  happiness for most but not for all. The festive season can raise the grinch and other family nightmares.

But do not fear! Good fairy agony aunt Heidi Gammon is waving her wand and will try to make it all better with her magical advice. 

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Hi Heidi,  

Happy Holidays. Can you help me? I have been seeing my boyfriend for a year now and we are in love. However, I have not introduced him to my family yet. One, he is very domineering (I like that) and never holds back on his opinions.  Two, he is covered in tattoos, hates dressing up and he is a drummer in rock band part time. My mum is super conservative and just about down with me being gay. She actually says that no one with tattoos are welcome in her home.   Mum rang the house, and he picked up and she invited him for Christmas! 

HELP please!!

Mike, Kingston.

Oh bless Mike, talk about being put between a rock and hard place. First of all, you should have dealt with this months ago if you care for boyfriend and mum. You say mum is just about ok with you being gay. Well, it sounds to me like she is making the right moves inviting your partner for Christmas.

If your partner loves you, it is time to sit down and tell him the issues about your mum. You say you like the fact he is dominant and opinionated. There is a difference between that and a narcissist. You let him be himself 364 days a year, but maybe he could think about you for one day, not be a different person but just tone it down a little. If he really cares about you and is not a narcissist he will understand. Until mum gets to know him, box clever and make this day about realising that you need some TLC in this area. Trust me, if he really cares he will work with you. If he can’t, I’ll tell you something he is not dominant, he is just not caring.

Next time you chat to mum, maybe give her a little pre-warning he might not be joining the conservative club any day soon. Just do some groundwork preparation before the big day. Remember: life is short and you need to be happy. Mike, those that say they love you should want the best for you, sometimes that means compromise. 

Happy Christmas my love, write and let me know how It goes. 

Dear Heidi, 

I like to party, but it is high days and low with me. Sheryl my fiancé loves it 24/7 but I am fine with that as she can go out with her gang, and I am not jealous or worried. We are having friends over for Christmas Day and we were going over the menu when she announced,  “I’ll get a few grams in for after”.  Honestly, I have had enough. The only White Christmas I want is on the ground. What do I say? 

Lisa, Chiswick.

Oh no Lisa, oh I have seen this so many times. The marching powder is no-one’s friend. Yes, there seems to be a honeymoon period for many who think it makes them invisible but like any false high, in the end there is always a price to pay. It destroys jobs, relationships and friendships,  not mention it robs your bank account. Once it gets its claws into you, for many there is no escape. Yes, there are those who partake on high and low days, who seem in control like yourself. But Sheryl sounds like she might be heading for a fall. You need to simply say no!  That’s not the Christmas you want. Make your views clear and it might give her a shock, or maybe she’s already hooked and this is the bit she is looking forward to on Christmas day. Then she may need help, but time to realise it’s a slippery slope, and you being an enabler won’t end well .

Hello Heidi, 

How are you, love the column. Now there is no excuse, but I kissed my best friend’s husband on a drunken outing when my bestie was away. It has been over six months I have not seen him or mentioned it to my friend. We are all spending Christmas together this year.  I have not seen my friend’s husband since. It is going to be super awkward. What should I do? Maybe call him and chat about what happened?

Dylan, Brighton. 

Sweetie, if it was just a kiss get over it. People are human and drink is horrible when it comes to making a fool of ourselves. Unless you’re not telling Heidi the whole story, move on and put it behind you. Or if the kiss meant more to you than you’re saying, maybe have word with yourself. He has not been in contact with you since the drunken kiss so perhaps he does not remember it. Take Heidi’s advice: do not do party postmortems and stop making a mountain out of a mole hill. Enjoy your Christmas xxx 

Happy Holidays, Heidi 

Dear Heidi,

My partner Alisha is just gorgeous and we’ve been together for six months. She came out as lesbian late in life, having been married for twenty years.  She has two teenage kids and they are coming for Christmas. Heidi I am terrified. I do not do kids and how do I act? They are very important to Alisha. 

Love Diana. 

Hi Diana, it is not a couple of hyenas coming for Christmas, it is two teenagers (perhaps more terrifying at times). No Diana, can I tell you how to handle it? Be yourself, treat them with respect and take an interest in them, listen and you will be surprised. Please have some basic structure of your expectations to staying in your home as you would with anyone coming to stay. But do not come over like a prison guard. Just try and have fun; they will be as worried as you! 

Love, Heidi

Heidi will be back in the New Year . You can also hear her on Gateway Radio https://www.gateway978.com/blogs/daytime/josie-gibson-reveals-the-most-mind-numbing-things-in-life Tuesday the 26th of November https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9UT6NDE0INI&t=4s and on Youtube.

You can find her on: https://www.counselling-foryou.co.uk/about-us

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