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Steven’s Viewz A Christmas Message wishing for Empathy in 2026.

As we approach the end of another eventful year and step into the promise of 2026, I want to begin by wishing every one of you a very Happy Christmas. Whether you celebrate the season quietly, joyfully, or somewhere in between, I hope the coming weeks bring you warmth, connection, and moments of genuine peace. Christmas is a time of reflection as much as celebration, and for me, looking back over 2025 brings both change and gratitude.

One of the biggest changes this year was saying farewell—though never goodbye—to my gorgeous friend and co-founder of 2ShadesAdishiri Chengappa. Many of you will know her as the bright, compassionate, and fiercely driven woman who helped bring this magazine to life. Adishiri has returned to India to study counselling, and I have absolutely no doubt she will become a brilliant one. Her heart, her empathy, and her ability to really listen to people make her an extraordinary human being, and those are precisely the qualities that will make her excel in her new profession.

Although Adishiri is stepping down from the magazine to focus on her studies, she remains a lifelong friend—both to 2Shades and to me personally. Our bond is permanent, and her contribution to the magazine will always be part of its foundations. Behind the scenes, we are now in discussions with a new partner who will join the 2Shades family and help carry the torch forward.

For those of you who may be newer readers, let me say this clearly: 2Shades has never been “just” an LGBTQ+ magazine. From day one, we envisioned a vibrant, inclusive space—a place for everyone. A magazine that is joyful yet unafraid; stylish yet unfiltered; a platform for voices that deserve to be heard. We speak our minds, we cover subjects that others shy away from, and we stand firmly by our philosophy that representation and honesty matter.

Over the years, we’ve covered everything from fashion, art, and entertainment to some of the most difficult and deeply important topics affecting people today. We have reported on male rape, mental health, identity, domestic violence, addiction, grief, and more. The world is multifaceted, and so are the people in it; 2Shades aims to reflect that complexity.

A huge part of what makes this magazine special is our remarkable team of columnists. Our Agony Aunt, Heidi Gammon, continues to grow in popularity, offering advice with wit, warmth, and plain-spoken honesty. Dr Anna Kennedy OBE brings vital insight, advocacy, and compassion through her work in autism awareness and support. Our beauty expert Clare McSweeney adds glamour, empowerment, and the kind of practical advice that boosts confidence. And this year we welcomed Richard Andrews, who’s new “Money Matters” column is already proving invaluable to readers navigating finances during turbulent times.

Clare 2Shades columnist with Aston Avery she is on Gateway every month .

All of them are thriving on social media, and their readership continues to soar—a testament to the authenticity and relevance they bring.

What makes all of this even more remarkable is that the magazine still has no sponsors. I work entirely for free, as do many involved. And we do it because we believe in 2Shades, in its purpose, and in the community surrounding it. But as we look ahead to the future—and to the possibility of expanding globally—sponsors and advertisers will eventually be essential. If you’ve enjoyed the work we’ve done, if the magazine has informed, entertained, or supported you in any way, then please help us grow by spreading the word. Share the link, recommend us, tell people who we are and what we stand for. That simple act makes a world of difference.

And speaking of difference: there is something else I’d like to ask this Christmas.

If you feel moved to show appreciation for the magazine’s work this year, please consider donating to Anna Kennedy Online, a charity that means an incredible amount to me personally. Not only is Anna a dear friend, but I am honoured to have been a patron of her autism charity for nearly twelve years—something I remain immensely proud of. The work AKO does is life-changing for autistic children, adults, and families across the UK. If you would like to donate, the details are below; even the smallest contribution helps.

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE with me.

Looking ahead, my biggest hope is that 2026 will be the year 2Shadesbecomes a global success. A huge portion of our readership already comes from the United States and Australia, which shows that our message resonates far beyond the UK. We speak to universal experiences—identity, struggle, connection, joy, and truth. These things transcend borders.

And that brings me to my wish for 2026, a simple yet powerful one:
More empathy. More understanding. More respect.

We live in an increasingly polarised world, where disagreement is seen as a personal attack and differing opinions are met with hostility rather than curiosity. One of the wisest things I heard this year came from Peter Tatchell at the screening of “Legendary Children: All of Them Queer.” He said:

“By going into other places and organisations and being your authentic self, making a positive difference, people will start to change their views.”

That stayed with me, because it reminds us that real progress rarely comes from shouting or fighting—it comes from presence, compassion, and consistency.

Yet too often, respect is missing from the smallest everyday interactions. I’ll give you an example. I have not eaten red meat or pork for 49 years. It’s part of who I am. I don’t need to explain why; it doesn’t need to be debated. Yet more times than I can count, I’ve sat down to a meal only to be told, “Oh, just scrape it off,” as if my boundary were an inconvenience rather than something worthy of respect.

It’s such a small thing, but small things matter. Empathy shows itself in the details. Most people, of course, are thoughtful and considerate—but we all know others who refuse to see beyond their own beliefs. They hold strong opinions on everything yet become instantly outraged if you question theirs. They expect understanding but rarely offer it in return.

And then there are those who appear addicted to drama—who cannot be content unless they are creating conflict or turning an event into something about them. Rather than bringing joy, talent, or positive energy to a gathering, they bring chaos. It is, in my opinion, a kind of addiction in itself. A hunger for attention that stifles empathy and dims the light for everyone else. As such addiction is an illness and I have empathy there. However when an illness is contagious or has a knock on effect on your mental health you need to walk away in the end.

Imagine how different the world could be if empathy were something we practised as naturally as breathing. If instead of reacting, we paused. Instead of judging, we listened. Instead of assuming, we asked.
If 2026 could bring even a fraction more understanding into everyday life, what a transformation we would see.

So as we wrap presents, raise glasses, and welcome the new year, my message is this:
Celebrate with kindness. Speak with honesty. Live authentically. Respect differences—not just the ones that are easy, but the ones that challenge you. And above all, look for ways to make someone else’s world a little better.

To every reader, supporter, contributor, and friend of 2Shades: thank you for being part of this journey. Here’s to a beautiful Christmas, a hopeful New Year, and a 2026 filled with courage, connection, and compassion.

With love and gratitude,
Steven

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Dr Anna Kennedy OBE Column

Anna Kennedy here, wishing all 2Shades readers a Happy Holiday, a wonderful Christmas, and a brilliant start to 2026.

As we head into one of the most magical—and often most demanding—times of the year for families of autistic children and adults, it’s important to remember that the festive season can bring unique challenges. While Christmas is filled with lights, music, gatherings, and excitement, these same elements can also create sensory overload, anxiety, and feelings of being overwhelmed. With a little planning, understanding, and flexibility, it’s possible to create a festive period that feels joyful, calm, and inclusive for everyone.

Here are my top seven tips to help ensure the Christmas season goes smoothly for autistic children and adults, as well as their family and friends:

Keep routines where possible.
Routines offer predictability and comfort, especially during a time of year when everything else seems to change. Try to keep familiar daily patterns in place — this can include mealtimes, bedtimes, and regular activities. Even small, consistent moments can help anchor the day and reduce stress. My son Angelo thrives on routine and planning, as things can become quite overwhelming for him.

Create a quiet, safe space.
Christmas often means a busier house, louder environments, and extra stimulation. Setting up a quiet area in the home — such as a bedroom, a corner of the living room, or a cosy den — can allow someone to step away and regroup when needed. You know your child or adult best, so place comforting, familiar items such as soft blankets, favourite toys, calming music, or noise-cancelling headphones.

Prepare for changes in advance.
Many autistic people feel more comfortable when they know what to expect. Talk through upcoming events such as school plays, family visits, or trips to busy shops. Visual schedules, countdown calendars, or simple checklists can all help. This preparation reduces anxiety and provides a sense of control.

Introduce decorations gradually.
The sudden arrival of bright lights, strong scents, and sparkly decorations can be overwhelming. Instead of transforming the house overnight, add decorations slowly over several days. This gentle approach allows the sensory environment to shift at a manageable pace and gives everyone time to adjust. This really helps my son, as changes in familiar surroundings can be upsetting for him.

Be mindful of sensory overload.
Christmas comes with many sensory triggers, such as flashing lights, loud music, unfamiliar foods, and busy gatherings. Think about the sensory needs of your loved one and tailor celebrations accordingly. You might dim lights, lower music volume, offer familiar snacks, or plan shorter visits. It’s all about creating comfort, not pressure.

Manage expectations.
Not everyone wants a busy, noisy Christmas — as I know well with my own family — and that’s absolutely okay. Traditions may need to be adapted. Smaller gatherings, shorter activities, or celebrating at home rather than travelling may be more suitable. Focus on what feels right for your family rather than what is expected.

Allow time for rest and recovery.
Even enjoyable events can be draining. Build in downtime before and after activities. Gentle routines, quiet mornings, or restful evenings can help everyone recharge and enjoy the season more fully.

And don’t forget to allow time for yourself as parents and carers. Take five minutes whenever you can to recharge your batteries — I know it’s not always easy.

I’m really excited that in 2026 we have so much happening at Anna Kennedy Online. We’re kicking off the year with the fantastic, award-winning author Samantha Lee’s book launch on 28th February at the Firepit Gallery, with all profits from the night being donated to the charity. It will also be the 15th year of Autism’s Got Talent. Plus, booking for our gala ball — the Autism Hero Awards in May — is now open. Then there is the Autism & Art Show in July, and so much more.

My head is spinning just thinking about it with excitement! Sending positive vibes, and see you all next year!

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Why Israel Should Be Included in the Eurovision Song Contest

Keep Israel in the Eurovision contest .


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We hear it time and time again: “The Eurovision Song Contest is not political.” And while we all know that the voting patterns can sometimes be… entertaining, to say the least, at its heart Eurovision remains a celebration of music, creativity, and community. It has long been affectionately referred to as the “Gay New Year,” bringing joy, glamour, and unapologetic self-expression to millions around the world. For many viewers, it is more than a show — it is a moment of unity.

The spirit of Eurovision has always been about artists coming together to share their talent, culture, and stories. It was never intended to be a platform for political punishment, nor a place where artists are excluded because of the actions of their governments.

When I interviewed Peter Tatchell this year, he said something that resonated deeply with me: the way forward for the LGBTQ+ community is to keep being a shining beacon across all platforms. I couldn’t agree more. Visibility, inclusion, and dialogue are how progress is made — not through shutting doors.

Madonna in Israel at the Eurovision Song Contest .

I don’t live in some insulated “gay bubble,” nor would I want to. Real change happens when we remain open to conversation, even with those whose governments or policies we may profoundly disagree with. Excluding countries from Eurovision is not a solution; it brings nothing constructive to the table. In fact, it risks undermining the very principles Eurovision claims to stand for: openness, inclusivity, and the celebration of cultural diversity.

Israel, in particular, has a long and meaningful relationship with the contest. It is a country where LGBTQ+ people are welcomed, recognised, and celebrated — a fact often overlooked in broader political debates. Eurovision itself has benefited enormously from Israel’s participation. It gave us Dana International, the first (known) transgender winner, whose victory in 1998 was a landmark moment for queer visibility worldwide. Beyond Dana, Israel has consistently showcased diverse performers and daring artistic vision, enriching the contest’s legacy.

Rather than silencing or excluding, Eurovision should remain a platform where artists from all backgrounds, beliefs, and nations can share their voice. Music has always had the power to connect people beyond politics, beyond borders, and beyond conflict. Using your voice to send a message is a beautiful and powerful thing — but using silence as a form of punishment rarely fosters understanding or change.

When we welcome artists from countries whose governments we may disagree with, we create the possibility for conversation, empathy, and cultural exchange. When we block them, we lose that opportunity. Eurovision should not become a battleground of boycotts and bans; it should remain what it was created to be: a stage that celebrates unity in diversity.

Let’s not allow hatred, division, or political pressure to turn Eurovision into something it was never meant to be. Let’s welcome all who bring music to the stage — and keep the contest a place where voices are heard, not silenced.

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Steven’s Out and About .

At David J Howe’s London book launch ” Who me ” https://bedfordsquarepublishers.co.uk/book/who-me/

Steven’s Out and About
At David J. Howe’s book launch “Who Me” — in conversation with Samantha Lee Howe — at the Firepit Gallery, London, in aid of the autism charity Anna Kennedy Online

Dr Anna Kennedy OBE with David J Howe and Samatha Lee Howe .

Tucked away at the end of the North Greenwich Peninsula, just a short stroll from the iconic O2, the Firepit Gallery is fast becoming one of my favourite places in London. It’s not just the remarkable art on display that draws me back time and again, but the warm, creative energy that fills the space. The gallery, lovingly nurtured by its owner Marcus Jake, has quickly become a safe and welcoming haven where artists, writers, performers, and makers gather, collaborate, and feel part of a family. Marcus’s gift is creating an atmosphere where everyone feels seen, valued, and entirely at home.

It’s no surprise, then, that the venue is becoming known not only for its artistic endeavours but also for hosting an eclectic range of diverse, exciting events. On the 28th of November, it was a delight — not only for die-hard Doctor Who fans but for many others — to attend the London launch of David J. Howe’s new book Who Me. Despite the cold, wet evening, fans gathered enthusiastically, queueing in excellent spirits for the chance to have their books signed. A percentage of the proceeds was generously donated to the autism charity Anna Kennedy Online.

Me with the wonderful Samantha Lee Howe , the legend that is Pam Sharrock and the man of the hour David J Howe .

Anna Kennedy OBE herself was present, radiating her trademark warmth and energy as she introduced both David and the evening’s interviewer. David’s wife — the ever-glamorous and always engaging Samantha Lee Howe — brought her own sparkle to the occasion. Guests enjoyed a glass of prosecco while mingling before taking their seats for Samantha’s conversation with David.

with ” Who Me ” writer David J Howe .

An award-winning author and screenwriter, Samantha guided David through a fascinating reflection on his lifelong journey with Doctor Who: from childhood fan to acclaimed writer, historian, and one of the most recognisable voices in the Whovian world. The audience, which included fellow Doctor Who writer Robert Shearman, listened intently as David shared insights, anecdotes, and the unexpected twists that shaped both his career and his deep connection to the Doctor’s universe.

David J Howe with gallery owner Marcus Jake , celebrity photographer Annemarie Bickerton , Artist Piluca .

The evening also featured a lively charity raffle, with all funds raised going to Anna Kennedy Online. Dr Anna Kennedy, PR. Pamela Sharrock, QVC’s Beverley Cressman, and David himself picked the winning tickets. The raffle table was a treasure trove, thanks to generous donations from celebrity aesthetics expert and singer Sue Moxley; Aston Martin; celebrity make-up artist Ayesha Baig; Iryna Stewart, Director of Imagine You; and the team behind the innovative “Recovery Pillow.”

Samantha Lee Howe with the donated Recovery Pillow .https://therecoverypillow.com

As if that weren’t enough, guests were treated to a Doctor Who-themed cake — and thankfully, no one was exterminated in the process! The atmosphere was joyful, warm, and celebratory, marking another memorable night at the Firepit Gallery.

Let them eat cake ,

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Clare McSweeney Christmas beauty and aesthetic’s column .

Yes, Clare McSweeney is back with her beauty and aesthetic advice for your Christmas and New Year glow. Here are her top seasonal tips, woven together with your most-asked beauty dilemmas.

Diana from Basildon writes:
“My 14-year-old daughter is make-up mad. I try to limit when she wears it, and I’ve taught her how to apply it properly. All she wants for Christmas is make-up or beauty products. What should I buy her that won’t break the bank?”

Clare replies:
For a 14-year-old, focus on fun, gentle and budget-friendly products. Teen skin is delicate, so avoid anything too active. Lovely options include a lightweight tinted moisturiser, a cream blush, a neutral eyeshadow palette, a clear or lightly tinted gloss, and a gentle cleanser. Brands like e.l.f., Revolution, Catrice and NYX offer brilliant quality without stretching your budget. She’ll feel spoiled without you overspending.

Clare is also often asked for her top festive glow tips. Here are her five Christmas skin commandments:

  1. Hydrate with hyaluronic acid under your moisturiser.
  2. Exfoliate gently twice a week.
  3. Use a radiance-boosting primer for that candlelit finish.
  4. Brighten mornings with vitamin C.
  5. And yes — always SPF, even in winter.

Nicky from Basildon asks:
“My bestie is sun-mad — if she’s not on the sunbed, she’s applying fake tan. She’s starting to look a bit orange. I’m thinking of buying her a salon spray tan for Christmas, but what’s the best way to apply tan so it looks natural?”

Clare answers:
The secret is prep, patience and blending. Exfoliate the day before (never just before!), moisturise dry spots like elbows and ankles, and apply self-tan in light layers with a tanning mitt. Build slowly, blend wrists and ankles with a fluffy brush, and she’ll go from tangerine to tasteful glow.

And because you asked — Clare’s top three self-tanning products:

  1. Bondi Sands Aero
  2. St. Tropez Classic Mousse
  3. Tan-Luxe The Gradual

Sally from Southend writes:
“I’m thinking of getting Botox before a school reunion on the 18th. I’m in my 30s — how soon should I have it done so it looks natural?”

Clare replies:
Botox takes 10–14 days to settle fully, so book in around the 4th–6th. That’s the sweet spot for subtle, smooth and natural-looking results. And always choose a qualified medical practitioner — skill matters just as much as timing.

Clare’s top five tips for anyone considering aesthetic treatments:

  1. Research your practitioner thoroughly.
  2. Always have a consultation beforehand.
  3. Avoid party treatments — aesthetics need a clinical environment.
  4. Follow professional aftercare advice.
  5. Start with less — refinement beats over-correction every time.

Finally, May from Raleigh asks:
“My friends and I are having a Christmas sleepover party with masks and a pedicurist. Now someone has arranged for a practitioner to do Botox for us. I could do with having it done… but is this safe during a party?”

Clare responds:
Botox at a party is a festive no, darling. Aesthetics require proper lighting, hygiene, medical history, consent and concentration — not bubbles and nibbles. Enjoy the masks and pampering, then book your Botox separately in a proper clinical setting. Your face will thank you.

To finish, Clare’s three must-have beauty masks for the season:

  1. Garnier Moisture Bomb Sheet Masks
  2. Origins Drink Up Intensive
  3. The Ordinary Salicylic Acid 2% Mask (avoid if very sensitive)

Love Clare  have a great Festive season. 

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Denise Welch is the ultimate hun, LGBTQ+ queen, and rightful heir to the 2025 Christmas Number One crown with Slayyy Bells.

If there is one woman capable of shaking up the Christmas charts, unseating the usual pop titans, and bringing pure chaotic joy to the holiday season, it’s Denise Welch. With Slayyy Bells, she hasn’t just released a festive single — she’s unleashed a cultural moment. A glittery, high-camp, tongue-in-cheek masterpiece that captures everything the British public secretly craves at Christmas: humour, heart, a bit of mischief, and a full-throttle, unapologetic “hun energy.”

Denise has long been adored for her honesty, her warmth, and her refusal to take herself too seriously. That’s why the LGBTQ+ community has embraced her with open arms. She doesn’t perform camp — she embodies it. Whether it’s fiery daytime TV realness, chaotic comic timing, or her glamorous, self-deprecating sparkle, Denise is the kind of icon who walks into a room and immediately becomes everyone’s mum, best friend, and backstage confidante. She is the definition of a British hun: fierce, funny, fabulous, and fearlessly herself.

Slayyy Bells captures that spirit perfectly. It’s a sugary cocktail of festive beats, wink-wink lyrics, and nightclub-ready chaos — the kind of song that would make even the Grinch put on a sequinned jumpsuit. In a chart landscape dominated by perfectly polished megastars like Taylor Swift, Dua Lipa, or Ed Sheeran, Denise offers something the others can’t: pure personality. She’s not trying to be slick, she’s trying to be fun — and that’s exactly what people cling to at Christmas.

Let’s be honest: the UK loves an underdog, and Denise is the ultimate comeback queen. She’s lived a life, she’s told her story, and she has emerged with more charisma than half the industry put together. When she releases a Christmas single, it isn’t just music — it’s a movement. It’s the collective national desire for something joyful, camp, inclusive, and proudly silly.

The LGBTQ+ community in particular knows a gay icon when it sees one. Denise is outspoken, loyal, emotionally open, and effortlessly dramatic. She’s relatable yet glamorous; chaotic yet wise; messy yet magnificent. She’s the woman who will cry with you, dance with you, and drag you out to karaoke at 2 a.m. — the Patron Saint of Huns.

This is why Slayyy Bells deserves to beat the global juggernauts. Christmas Number One shouldn’t always go to the most streamed, the most marketed, or the most algorithmically optimised. Sometimes it should go to the artist who brings the most joy. The one who makes people laugh, sing, and feel part of something bigger.

Denise Welch is that artist. She’s the people’s diva, the hun-in-chief, the LGBTQ+ fairy godmother of festive chaos — and Slayyy Bells is the anthem worthy of her crown.

This Christmas, let’s make history. Let’s give the Number One to the woman who would celebrate it harder than anyone else: Queen Denise Welch.

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Dr Anna Kennedy OBE Inspires at the Hampton Hub Counselling and Coaching Group


2Shades Heidi Gammon and Dr Anna Kennedy OBE with Steven Smith at the Hampton Hub

Heidi Gammon presents Dr Anna Kennedy OBE.

The Hampton Hub was buzzing with energy on Friday 20th November as esteemed autism ambassador Dr Anna Kennedy OBE took to the stage as the special guest speaker for the Counselling and Coaching Group. The event was proudly hosted by Heidi Gammon2Shades Magazine columnist and Gateway Radio agony aunt, who introduced Dr Kennedy to an enthusiastic and engaged audience.

Dr Kennedy, one of the UK’s most recognised voices in autism advocacy, immediately captivated the room with her warmth, humour, and honesty. She shared her remarkable journey: from a determined mother fighting for the right support for her two autistic sons, Patrick and Angelo, to becoming a national campaigner, charity founder, and distinguished OBE recipient for her services to autism.

Her story began with what she described as “a battle fought with love and necessity.” With limited educational options available for her boys, she took matters into her own hands—eventually helping establish specialist provision and launching her highly influential charity, Anna Kennedy Online, which now supports thousands of autistic individuals and their families across the UK and beyond.

The audience listened intently as she spoke about the evolution of her work, including the hugely popular Autism Hero Awards, which celebrate outstanding individuals who make a positive difference within the autism community. She also discussed her long-running digital platform, Anna Kennedy Online, which provides education, advocacy, and outreach.

A highlight of the evening was her reflection on appearing on ITV’s Lorraine, where she was honoured as a finalist for Woman of the Year—a moment she described as both surreal and deeply meaningful.

The event also shone a spotlight on important collaborative projects. Dr Kennedy spoke about Born Anxious, the anti-bullying campaign that raises awareness of the struggles many autistic children and adults face. As part of the session, the group viewed a touching dance performance video by Freya Prince, whose emotional and expressive choreography moved the room.

Adding festive cheer, former Autism’s Got Talent performer Ty Williams delighted the audience via video with a heartfelt rendition of “Driving Home for Christmas,” receiving warm applause from attendees.

There was also a special appearance by Steven Smith, a former celebrity hairdresser turned author and presenter, who is one of the patrons of Anna Kennedy Online. He shared his personal story of becoming part of the charity’s growing family and spoke passionately about the power of creativity and community in supporting individuals on the autism spectrum. He also highlighted the creation of Autism and Art, an inclusive exhibition held at the Firepit Gallery in London that celebrates neurodiverse artists and their unique perspectives.

The Hampton Hub Counselling and Coaching Group, led by Heidi Gammon and her dedicated team, provided a warm and supportive atmosphere, bringing together people from all walks of life who share a commitment to understanding, compassion, and positive action.

Attendees left energised and inspired, with many commenting on the emotional resonance and practical insight Dr Kennedy brought to the conversation. Her message was clear: with determination, community, and unwavering belief, real change is possible.

The event not only highlighted the vital work being done across the UK for autistic individuals, but also showcased the power of storytelling, advocacy, and human connection.

For more information on the organisations and initiatives mentioned, visit:

• Anna Kennedy Online: https://annakennedyonline.com
• Born Anxious: https://bornanxious.co.uk
• The Firepit Gallery: https://www.firepit.art
• Hampton Hub: https://www.hamptonhubclub.com
• Counselling For You (Heidi Gammon): https://www.counselling-foryou.co.uk/about-us

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Money Matters with Richard Andrews

Richard Antony coach .


Money Matters at Christmas

With Richard Andrews

  • 2Shades introduces Richard Andrews new column ” Money Matters ” He’s not a financial adviser — but with more than a decade in banking, years of coaching executives, and hands-on experience running his own business, Richard Andrews knows a thing or two about money. As households prepare for one of the most expensive seasons of the year, Richard shares his no-nonsense advice on spending smart, avoiding debt, and keeping Christmas joyful without breaking the bank.

“Finance expert is very kind… but let’s clarify that first!”

Q: Richard, you’ve been described as a finance expert. Is that fair?
A: “‘Finance expert’ is very kind, but I’m not a financial adviser. I did spend over ten years working for a high street bank, including as a business manager supporting small businesses. Today, I run my own company and coach executives and individuals to help them achieve the outcomes they want. All of that gives me plenty of real-world insight to share with your audience.”


The Cost of Christmas

Q: Why is Christmas such an important time to talk about money?
A: “Because we spend a lot of it. The average UK household will spend around £1,626 on Christmas this year. That includes £350 on food and drink and £181 on presents. But the biggest spend comes from the hidden extras — entertainment, wrapping paper, cards, batteries — all those little things that add up fast. If you’re not careful, the consequences can follow you well into January.”

Teaching children about the value of this is important even at Christmas .

Rule Number One: Don’t Spend What You Don’t Have

Q: What’s your core message for managing Christmas spending?
A: “Don’t spend money you can’t afford. I’m not suggesting a gloomy, ‘bah humbug’ Christmas — just decide what you can realistically spend and stick to it. Overspending without a plan leads straight to a miserable January.”


The Credit Card Trap

Q: Many people rely on credit cards at Christmas. What’s the danger?
A: “Most of us use them, but the issue is that people often add £250–£500 to their debt at Christmas. That £250 gadget can become £500+ once interest kicks in if you’re not paying it off quickly. Some instalment services like Klarna can help if you can afford them — but remember, they’re not free money.”


Black Friday: Bargain or Illusion?

Q: Are Black Friday deals worth it?
A: “Often they’re not. Some retailers raise prices beforehand to make the ‘discounts’ look dramatic. The best thing you can do is track the prices of items you genuinely want. Don’t fall for impulse buys — that’s dead money.”


Cost of Living vs Christmas Spirit

Q: In a cost-of-living crisis, how can people avoid overspending?
A: “Plan and budget. The UK will throw away almost £450 million worth of food over Christmas. Don’t get into debt buying food you’re going to bin. Freeze leftovers, plan meals properly, and remember that the real gift is time with loved ones. Debt in January is the fastest way to ruin the joy of Christmas.”


Managing Children’s Expectations

Q: How should parents handle kids’ wish-lists?
A: “Kids are smart and constantly targeted by influencers. Be honest, don’t promise what you can’t deliver, and don’t go into debt to keep up with the Joneses — that’s a race you can never win. Set realistic budgets, talk openly, and consider refurbished or discounted-return tech. ‘New to them’ is just as good.”


Short-Term Loans: A Firm No

Q: Are short-term loans ever a good idea during the holidays?
A: “Never. A £500 loan over six months can cost you £640 or more. These loans spiral quickly and trap people in a cycle of borrowing. No Christmas is worth that risk.”


Planning Ahead for Christmas 2026

Q: What’s the best strategy for next year?
A: “Start in January. Put aside whatever you can each month into a savings account. Christmas Club schemes can help, but make sure you’re not stuck with a single retailer. Buy gifts throughout the year if you spot a good deal and remember that adults don’t need expensive presents — thoughtful tokens count.”


The Real Gift

Q: Any final advice for a calmer Christmas?
A: “Christmas is stressful enough without money worries. Don’t add pressure you don’t need. Focus on an affordable, joyful Christmas with the people you love — because that is the true gift.”


Connect with Richard

You can find him on LinkedIn, or email him at:
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Heidi is back, and she’s here to help you get through and enjoy the holiday period.

Heidi is back, and she’s here to help you get through and enjoy the holiday period.Hear her on Gateway Radio on the Aston Avery Show and on YouTube.Please write to her at 2Shades: spman@btinternet.com if you have a problem.Heidi can only answer so many, but she will try her best. Heidi is back, and she’s here to help you get through and enjoy the holiday period.spman@btinternet.com if you have a problem.Heidi can only answer so many, but she will try her best.

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Dear Heidi
Hope you are well. My son is coming with his girlfriend for Christmas. She is a lovely girl, but she’s not really my kind of person — though she makes my son happy. Lunch is going to be a problem: she is vegan and we are all meat eaters. Making it worse, she talks about animal cruelty while we’re eating. Now my son has decided he’s vegan too. I will make a nut roast and vegetables for them, but is it acceptable to tell them I don’t want to hear about animals and cruelty while we eat?
Diana, Uxbridge

Heidi replies:
You’re being considerate by preparing vegan options, and it’s perfectly reasonable to set boundaries at the table. Explain kindly that you respect their choices, but mealtimes need to stay pleasant for everyone. A gentle, “Let’s save the debate for later,” is enough. Mutual respect works both ways. Maybe try having a coffee with her before Christmas, go over the menu, and then explain your boundaries so it doesn’t become a big issue on the day.

Dear Heidi
My boyfriend and I like to party and occasionally take drugs. I feel it’s under control on my end — high days and low days, that kind of thing — but I am a traditionalist when it comes to Christmas. He wants to invite two friends over and seems more interested in getting drugs in for after lunch than the food or the day itself. What can I do? I want a white Christmas — not that kind of white one.
Mike, Bournemouth

Heidi replies:
You deserve a Christmas that feels safe and joyful. Tell your boyfriend clearly that you want a drug-free day and that you aren’t comfortable hosting a gathering that revolves around substances. If he can’t respect that boundary, it’s a sign something needs addressing in the relationship — and perhaps in your habits as a couple. A peaceful Christmas requires mutual respect. Any regular drug use is not only illegal but a sign of addiction; once it’s in your life, it has a habit of resurfacing.

Dear Heidi
Can you please help me? My mother is a total control freak and she runs Christmas like a military operation. This year I want to go to my friends’ in Cornwall. I am 19, at college, and have a part-time job. How do I break the news? I hinted at the idea and she brushed it off. How do I tell her?
Malcolm, Newcastle

Heidi replies:
You’re an adult now, and part of growing up is making your own plans. Be direct, calm and kind: “Mum, I love Christmas here, but this year I’m spending it with friends.” She may protest, but stick to your decision. Set the boundary with respect, not guilt, and give her time to adjust. The sooner you tell her, the better — and be aware she may not stop being controlling, so learning to stand firm now will help.

Dear Heidi
Please help. We are going to my fiancé’s for Christmas. His mum is nice, but his dad is awful — he constantly makes crude comments and flirts with me when no one is looking. What can I do? Do I tell my fiancé or just put up with it since we don’t go that often?
Tiffany, Leeds

Heidi replies:
You should not put up with inappropriate behaviour, no matter how infrequent the visits. Tell your fiancé privately and calmly what has been happening. He needs to know, and the two of you can decide together how to handle it — whether that’s him speaking to his father or setting clearer boundaries. You deserve to feel safe and respected.

Dear Heidi
I am going home for Christmas. This summer I came out at university. My parents are religious and it is going to be a shock to them. Should I go down sooner to tell them? I don’t want to ruin Christmas.
Paul, Cardiff

Heidi replies:
If you feel emotionally ready, telling them before Christmas may ease some of the pressure on the day itself. It gives them time to process without the intensity and expectations of the holiday. Choose a calm moment, be honest, and remember: their reaction is about their adjustment, not your worth. You deserve to be loved and accepted as you are.

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Mike’s Tips for Great Men’s Hairstyles This Christmas

Expert barber Mike Edde

The festive season is calling — champagne receptions, late-night parties, and the kind of photos that live online forever. Whether you’re raising a glass at the office do, wrapping up warm for the Christmas markets, or stepping into the New Year in style, your hair deserves to look the part. Here’s how to stay sharp, confident, and camera-ready with seven expert tips from your barber.

✂️ 1. Get Your Christmas Cut Early
December is crunch time for barbers — and the best styles belong to the men who plan ahead. Get in early and give yourself room for a final tidy-up before the big night. A fresh fade or refined shape-up is the difference between “I just rolled out of bed” and “leading man energy.”

Style it up and look more James Bond than Brooke Bond

💈 2. Refresh Your Style for the Season
The holidays are the perfect excuse to evolve your look. Try a modern textured cropclassic side part, or sleek pompadour — timeless, confident, and effortlessly photogenic. Ask your barber to tighten the fade, add volume on top, or sharpen the outline. A small change can transform your entire presence.

Love Island Star drops into get that clean cut look with Mike ,,

🪮 3. Keep It Clean and Conditioned
Cold weather is brutal on hair. Upgrade your routine with a hydrating shampoo and rich conditioner to combat dryness and static. A touch of argan oil or leave-in conditioner keeps everything smooth, polished, and party-ready. Healthy hair always styles better — no exceptions.

💨 4. Master the Blow-Dry
Great hair doesn’t just happen — it’s styled. Use a blow-dryer to add lift and structure before applying product. Always direct the air in the direction you want your hair to fall. It’s a small move that separates the men who “have good hair” from the men who know how to use it.

Champion make over by Mike ready for the holidays

🧴 5. Choose the Right Product
Your summer styling cream won’t cut it in December. Cold air, central heating, and long nights call for matte clays, pomades, or grooming creams with extra hold. Go matte for natural texture or add a hint of shine for an evening edge. Either way, make sure your product works as hard as you do.

🧔 6. Don’t Neglect the Beard
A well-kept beard is the ultimate accessory to a strong haircut. Keep it shaped, hydrated, and defined. Use beard oil for softness and a subtle, masculine scent — the kind people notice without quite knowing why. Precision is everything.

🥂 7. Style It Up for the Big Nights
The calendar’s closing parties call for extra polish. Add a little shine, slick it back, or go bold with volume — whatever gives you confidence. Remember: a great cut isn’t just about the hair. It’s about the energy you walk into the room with.

Final Word: Confidence is the best product in your grooming kit. A sharp cut, clean lines, and effortless style tell the world you’ve got it together — no matter how late the night runs.\

Michael’s Barber Shop, located at 54c Kenway Road, London SW5 0RA. It is a long-established barber shop known for its experienced staff and quality cuts at reasonable prices. You can contact them at 020 7370 6983

  • Address: 54c Kenway Road, London SW5 0RA
  • Phone: 020 7370 6983
  • Reputation: Known for being a leading barber in Earl’s Court with experienced and personable barbers
  • Details: The shop has a quaint feel and offers quality haircuts at reasonable prices